Umntu omthandayo, mhlawumbi umzali osele ekhulile, ebelele ebhedini ixesha elide egula kakhulu, engazi mntu okanye ethetha nabani na. Kodwa ngequbuliso, loo mntu uvula amehlo akhe, athethe igama lakho ngokucacileyo, aze athi, "Ndingathanda iti." Ubungacinga ntoni? Kuqhelekile ukuziva uvuya kwelinye icala, kodwa uzive wothukile kwaye uloyiko kwelinye. La mava amangalisayo, kodwa aneemvakalelo kakhulu yiloo nto siyibiza ngokuba yi "Terminal Lucidity" kwezonyango.
Yintoni i-Terminal Lucidity?
Ngamafutshane, i-Terminal Lucidity kukulahlekelwa ngequbuliso kwengqondo, amandla, kunye nokukwazi ukuthetha, okufunyanwa ngumntu ogulayo ngaphambi nje kokuba afe. Ingakumbi xa umntu enesifo sengqondo esibangelwa ziimeko ze-neurodegenerative ezifana nesifo sika-Alzheimer , amandla akhe engqondo ayalahleka ngokungenakuphikiswa. Yinto ebuhlungu kakhulu ukuba abantu abathandayo bayibukele.
Kodwa le Terminal Lucidity yindlela emangalisayo yokukhulula loo meko ibuhlungu okwexeshana. Ngelo xesha, sibona ukuba umntu uziphatha ngokungathi "ungumntu wakhe omdala" kwakhona. Kodwa, oko kwenzeka kwixesha elifutshane kakhulu. Njengoko igama lisitsho, le meko idla ngokuba luphawu lokuba ukufa kusondele kakhulu.
Olu ayiloxilongo oluvunyiweyo ngokusesikweni. Kwaye ayinguye wonke umntu ofayo onamava anjalo. Kwanoogqirha kunye nabongikazi abasebenza nezigulane ezifayo bazibona ezi ziganeko izihlandlo ezimbalwa kuphela kwimisebenzi yabo. Kodwa kuye nabani na obona oku, yinkumbulo angasoze ayilibale.
Zithini iimpawu zale mvukelo ingaqhelekanga?
Xa oku kusenzeka, umntu uqala ukwenza izinto ebengakwazi ukuzenza ngenxa yokugula kwakhe. Oku kuhlala kuthatha imizuzu embalwa ukuya kwiiyure ezimbalwa. Ngeli xesha, uya kuziva ngathi umntu omthandayo ubuyele kubuntu bakhe bakudala. Unokufumana ithuba lokunxibelelana naye ngendlela ongazange uyicinge, ukuze uthethe ilizwi lothando.
| Uphawu olubonakalayo | Ithetha ntoni le nto? |
|---|---|
| Ukuphendula kubantu obathandayo | Nangona bendingamazi umntu ngaphambili kwaye ndiziva ndishiywe ndedwa kwihlabathi, ngequbuliso ndijonga abantu endibathandayo, ndithethe nabo, ndize ndincume. |
| Ukuthetha ngokucacileyo | Umntu owayengakwazi ukuthetha ngaphambili uqala ukuthetha ngokucacileyo nangamazwi ahambelanayo. |
| Ukuveza iimfuno zomntu | Bacela izinto abazifunayo, njengokuthi "Ndiphe amanzi" okanye "Ndifuna ukutya oko kutya." |
| Ukuchonga izinto ezilibalekileyo | Amalungu osapho kunye nabahlobo obukade ubalibale ngaphambili, mhlawumbi ude ubabone emva kokubona ifoto endala. |
| Ukuvusa iinkumbulo ezindala | Iinkumbulo ezindala zibuya kum kwaye ndiqala ukuxelela abanye ngazo ngomdla omkhulu. |
| Ukuzibandakanya kumsebenzi owuthandayo | Ukwenza into obuyithanda ngaphambili, mhlawumbi ukucula ingoma, okanye ukudlala isixhobo somculo ongazange usichukumise kangangeminyaka. |
Ingaba le meko iza kuhlala ixesha elingakanani? Ngaba ukufa kuza kwenzeka kungekudala?
Kumntu onesifo sengqondo esixhalabisayo, olu hlobo lokuqonda okucacileyo ludla ngokuba sisilumkiso sokuba ukufa kusondele. Kodwa akukho mntu unokuqikelela inani elichanekileyo leentsuku okanye iiveki. Ngokwesiqhelo, oogqirha babona ezi ziganeko njengezenzeka kwiintsuku okanye kwiiveki zokugqibela zobomi.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukufa akwenzeki kwangoko emva kokuvuka. Kunokwenzeka emva kweentsuku, iiveki, okanye iinyanga. Oku kuyadida kancinci, kodwa into ebalulekileyo ekufuneka uyiqonde kukuba ukufa ngokuqinisekileyo kulindeleke emva kwesi siganeko.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukusebenzisa kakuhle eli xesha lifutshane sinalo nomntu esimthandayo.
Kutheni oku kusenzeka? Ngaba ikho ingcaciso yesayensi?
Inyaniso kukuba, neengcali zonyango azikakwazi ukufumana unobangela ochanekileyo woku. Kodwa kukholelwa ukuba oku kunxulumene notshintsho oluthile oluvela engqondweni. Uphando malunga nokusebenza kwengqondo xa sele ifile lubonisa ukuba xa ingqondo ingenayo ioksijini, iindawo ezithile zengqondo zisebenza ngakumbi ngequbuliso. Oku kusebenza kunokusivumela ukuba siphinde sifumane ezinye zezakhono zengqondo ebezilahlekile ngaphambili.
Umzekelo, ezinye izifundo zibonise ukuba amava okusondela ekufeni, njengokuma kwentliziyo, anokubangela ukwanda ngequbuliso komsebenzi wobuchopho kumaza e-gamma, anxulunyaniswa nokuphaphama kunye nenkumbulo.
Kodwa olu phando lusekwinqanaba lokuqala. Kukho okungakumbi esingakwaziyo malunga nokucaca okungapheliyo kunokuba sikwaziyo.
Ukuba ubona oku, ngaba kufuneka utshintshe unyango lwakho?
Eli linqaku elibaluleke kakhulu. Xa umntu omthandayo ebonakala ngathi uyachacha ngequbuliso, kuqhelekile ukucinga, 'Owu, ngoku uza kuchacha,' nokuzama ukutshintsha unyango ukuze uzame ukumchacha. Mhlawumbi usapho lucinga ukuba isigulana asisekho zingqondweni ngenxa yemithi yokuthomalalisa esiyinikwayo, kwaye ukuba bayayeka ukusebenzisa amayeza, baya kukwazi ukuhlala bephaphile.
Kodwa nceda uqonde. Nangona oku kungabonakala ngathi ngummangaliso, oku akubonisi ukuba uyachacha.
Musa ukuyeka ukuthatha amayeza okudambisa iintlungu okanye amanye amayeza okuthuthuzela achazwe ngugqirha wakho nangasiphi na isizathu . La mayeza asetyenziselwa kuphela ukulawula iintlungu zakho. Olu luvo lokukhululeka lolwexeshana. Oku kuthetha ukuba isifo siya sibi kakhulu. Ke ngoko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukulandela isicwangciso sonyango sikagqirha wakho ngokuchanekileyo .
Ndingamnyamekela njani umntu endimthandayo ngeli xesha?
- Yiba khona ngenxa yabo: Banike uthando nobubele ababudingayo ngelo xesha. Bavumele bathethe ngezinto ekufuneka bathethe ngazo. Mamela oko bakuthethayo.
- Yenza kube lula: Gcina incoko ilula kakhulu kwaye ingacinezelwa. Zama ukungathethi ngezinto ezibenza bazive belusizi okanye bexinezelekile.
- Yenza eli xesha libe lolona likhethekileyo: Thetha into elula efana nokuthi “Ndiyakuthanda kakhulu,” okanye into ethuthuzelayo ovakalelwa kukuba kufuneka uyithethe ngaphambi kokuba bahambe. Oku kuya kunivuyisa nobabini.
Ndingazinyamekela njani?
- Zixolele: Kuqhelekile ukungazi ukuba wenze ntoni okanye ucinge ntoni ngeli xesha. Musa ukuziva kakubi ngayo. Akukho nto ilungileyo okanye ingalunganga apha.
- Usizi maluhlale luhleli:Ukulila ngomntu onesifo sengqondo esixhalabisayo kunzima kakhulu. Kuba siyamkhumbula esaphila. Xa ebuyela ngequbuliso kwiindlela zakhe zakudala aze aphinde anyamalale, intlungu iba nkulu ngakumbi. Zinike ixesha lokujongana nezi mvakalelo.
- Yamkela uvuyo: Musa ukuvumela olu sizi lukuthintele uvuyo lokuthetha nabo kwakhona. Ezi nkumbulo ziya kuba namandla amakhulu kuwe nasemva kokuba uvalelise.
- Fumana uncedo kwabanye: Thetha nomhlobo othembekileyo okanye ilungu losapho ngale nto. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, cela uncedo kumcebisi.
Uyafuna ukuthetha nogqirha?
Ewe. Ukuba umntu omthandayo unamava alolu hlobo lwenkumbulo, qiniseka ukuba wazisa ugqirha okanye abasebenzi bonyango abamnyamekelayo.
Oku akubonisi ukuba bayachacha. Kodwa musa ukuyithatha njengento "eyenzekileyo nje." Iqela lezonyango liyazazi ezi meko, ezibizwa ngokuba yiTerminal Lucidity. Banokukunceda ujongane nale meko. Nangona kunokuvakala ngathi yinguquko yekamva, akuyonto imangalisayo. Kuba kukunika ithuba lokudibana nomntu omthandayo okokugqibela, ithuba obucinga ukuba awusayi kuphinda ulifumane. Nangona kunokuba buhlungu, kunokuba sisipho esixabisekileyo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukucaca kwesiphelo kukuqonda okwethutyana kunye namandla afunyanwa sisigulana ngequbuliso ngaphambi kokuba sife.
- Oku akuthethi ukuba isigulana siya sichacha. Amaxesha amaninzi, olu luphawu lokuba ukufa kusondele.
- Ukuba ubona eli thuba, ungaze uyeke ukuthatha amayeza okudambisa iintlungu okanye ezinye iindlela zonyango ezithuthuzelayo ezichazwe ngugqirha wakho.
- Yenza eli xesha lifutshane libe lithuba elixabisekileyo lokutshintshiselana amazwi othando nomntu omthandayo, ninxibelelane okokugqibela.
- Olu lwazi lunokuba lunzima kakhulu kuwe ngokweemvakalelo. Lumka ngeemvakalelo zakho kwaye ucele uncedo kwabanye ukuba kuyimfuneko.
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