Ngaba ukhathazekile ngomntwana wakho? Ngaba ubonakala elusizi kwaye enesizungu ngalo lonke ixesha? Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana abancinci bazive belusizi kwaye benesizungu. Kodwa ukuba le meko iyaqhubeka, ichaphazela ubudlelwane babo nabahlobo kunye nemisebenzi yemihla ngemihla, isenokuba sisifo sengqondo esibizwa ngokuba yiChildhood Depression . Esi sisifo esinzulu esifuna ingcebiso nonyango lwezonyango. Ngoko masithethe ngale nto ngokweenkcukacha namhlanje.
Yintoni umahluko phakathi kosizi oluqhelekileyo kunye nokudakumba?
Ukuziva ulusizi, unomsindo, kunye nokuba wedwa ziimvakalelo eziqhelekileyo kumntwana njengoko ekhula. Oku akuthethi ukuba umntwana unesifo sokudakumba ngenxa nje yokuba wayelusizi.
Kodwa ukudandatheka kobuntwana yinto eyahlukileyo. Ngamafutshane, lusizi olunzulu noluhlala luhleli . Xa oku kusenzeka, umntwana uziva eyedwa, engenathemba, engenakuzinceda, kwaye engento yanto. Ukuba olu sizi luyaqhubeka, lunokuchaphazela yonke into ebomini bomntwana. Imihla ngemihla, umsebenzi wesikolo, kunye nolwalamano nabahlobo bonke luqala ukuwohloka. Oku kunokuchaphazela kungekuphela nje umntwana, kodwa nosapho lonke.
Eyona nto ingcono kukuba ukudakumba kwabantwana kunokuchongwa ngokuchanekileyo kwaye kunyangwe ngempumelelo ngamayeza kunye nonyango lwengqondo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ayinyangwa, le yimeko embi kakhulu enokukhokelela nasekuzibulaleni.
Kutheni abantwana bexinezeleka?
Isizathu esichanekileyo sokudakumba kwabantwana asikafunyanwa. Nangona kunjalo, kukho izinto ezininzi ezicingelwa ukuba zibangela oku. Ezi zinto zisebenza kunye ukubangela esi sifo.
- Iingxaki zempilo yomzimba
- Iziganeko zobomi ezibuhlungu (umz., ukufa kwelungu losapho, ukwahlukana kwabazali)
- Ukuba nembali yosapho lwakho yokudakumba (ufuzo oluxhomekeke kwimikhwa)
- Iimpembelelo zokusingqongileyo (umz., ukuxhaphaza esikolweni, iingxabano zosapho)
- Ubuthathaka kwi-genetic
- Ukuphazamiseka kweBiochemical
Zithini iimpawu zokudakumba kwabantwana?
Ezi mpawu zinokwahluka kumntwana ngamnye. Ngamanye amaxesha, ezi zinokungahoywa njengeenguqu eziqhelekileyo zeemvakalelo ezenzeka njengoko umntwana ekhula. Kungoko ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzazi ezi mpawu.
| Udidi lweempawu | Ingcaciso |
|---|---|
| Utshintsho kwiimvakalelo | Ukuziva ulusizi okanye ungenathemba ngalo lonke ixesha. Ukucaphuka lula, ukucaphuka. Ukuziva ungento yanto, unetyala. Ukoyika ukwaliwa ngabanye abantu. Ukukhala okanye ukukhwaza rhoqo. |
| Utshintsho kwimikhwa nokuziphatha | Utshintsho ekutyeni (nokuba kukutya kakhulu okanye kancinci). Utshintsho ekulaleni (ukungalali okanye ukulala kakhulu). Ukuzikhupha eluntwini, ukukhetha ukuba wedwa. Ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kwizinto obukade uzonwabela (izinto ozithandayo, ezemidlalo). |
| Iingxaki zokucinga nokufunda | Ubunzima bokugxila. Ukungakwazi ukucinga kakuhle. Ukungasebenzi kakuhle emsebenzini wesikolo, kwizinto ozithandayo, nakwimisebenzi yasekhaya. |
| Iimpawu zomzimba | Ukudinwa rhoqo kunye nokungabi namandla. Iintlungu zomzimba ezingaphenduliyo kunyango (umz. iintlungu zesisu, intloko ebuhlungu). |
| Iimpawu ezinzulu | Ukucinga okanye ukuthetha ngokufa okanye ukuzibulala. |
Ngaba zonke ezi mpawu ziyenzeka kumntwana ngamnye?
Hayi. Asinguye wonke umntwana oza kubonisa zonke ezi mpawu. Enyanisweni, nomntwana omnye unokubonisa iimpawu ezahlukeneyo ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo nakwiimeko ezahlukeneyo.
Abanye abantwana, ingakumbi kwindawo ehlelekileyo (umz., isikolo), banokubonakala beqhelekile, kodwa banokubonisa utshintsho olukhulu kwimisebenzi yabo yentlalo , ukuphelelwa ngumdla kumsebenzi wesikolo, amanqaku aphantsi, okanye ukungazikhathaleli iinkangeleko zabo. Abantwana, ingakumbi abo baneminyaka engaphezu kwe-12 ubudala, banokuguqukela kwiziyobisi okanye utywala.
Ziziphi izinto ezibangela uxinezeleko?
Uphando lubonisa ukuba le meko ixhaphake kakhulu kubafana abangaphantsi kweminyaka eli-10 ubudala, kwaye ixhaphake kakhulu phakathi kwamantombazana xa eneminyaka eli-16 ubudala. Kukho izinto ezininzi ezibangela ukuba umntwana abe sengozini yokuba noxinzelelo:
- Imbali yosapho: Ukuba abazali bakhe baba noxinzelelo, ingakumbi ebuntwaneni, umntwana usengozini enkulu yokuba noxinzelelo.
- Imeko yentsapho: Abantwana abakhulela kwindawo yentsapho exakekileyo eneengxabano ezihlala zisenzeka basengozini enkulu.
- Ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi: Abantwana abasebenzisa utywala neziyobisi nabo basengozini enkulu.
Ngamanye amaxesha iimpawu zoxinzelelo zinokuhamba nemeko ebizwa ngokuba yi -bipolar disorder . Oku kuxhaphake kakhulu kubantwana abancinci. Abantwana abanesifo se-bipolar banokuba nezinye iimeko, ezifana ne-attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) , i-obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) , okanye i-conduct disorder (CD) .
Ugqirha uyixilonga njani le nto?
Ukuba umntwana wakho uneempawu zokudakumba esizixubushileyo ngaphambili kwaye ziyaqhubeka ubuncinane iiveki ezimbini , ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka umse kugqirha. Oku kuya kunceda ekuqinisekiseni ukuba kukho esinye isizathu esibangela ezi mpawu kwaye kunike umntwana unyango olufanelekileyo.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukubona ugqirha, ingakumbi lowo ugxile kwimpilo yengqondo yomntwana.
Ugqirha uza kuthetha nawe nomntwana wakho ngokwahlukeneyo xa efumanisa ukuba kukho ingxaki. Ulwazi oluvela kootitshala nakubahlobo lunokubaluleka, njengoko lunokunceda ekuqinisekiseni ukuba ukuziphatha komntwana wakho kuyatshintsha na kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo.
Akukho vavanyo lwezonyango oluthile (njengovavanyo lwegazi) olubonisa oku ngokucacileyo, kodwa ngemibuzo kunye nolwazi oluneenkcukacha olufunyenwe ngugqirha, kunokufikelelwa kwisigqibo esichanekileyo sokuxilongwa.
Iphathwa njani ingcinezelo yobuntwana?
Iindlela zonyango lokudakumba kwabantwana ziyafana nezo zabantu abadala. Kukho iindlela ezimbini eziphambili:
1. Unyango lwengqondo: Ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zomntwana, iingcinga, neengxaki zakhe nokubanceda bazilawule.
2. Amayeza: Ukunika amayeza okudakumba.
Ngokwesiqhelo, ugqirha uza kuqala akuthumele kwingcebiso yengqondo, kwaye ukuba iimpawu zinzima okanye ukuba ingcebiso yodwa ayincedi, kunokongezwa amayeza. Uphando lubonise ukuba ukusebenzisa zombini ezi ndlela kunye kuvelisa iziphumo ezingcono kakhulu.
Kubalulekile: Kukho isilumkiso sokuba ezinye iziyobisi zokudakumba zinokunyusa kancinci umngcipheko weengcinga zokuzibulala kunye nokuziphatha ebantwaneni nakubantu abancinci. Ngoko ke vuleleka ngoku nogqirha wakho kwaye uxoxe ngazo naziphi na izinto ezikuxhalabisayo.
Ziziphi iimpawu ezilumkisayo zomngcipheko wokuzibulala ezihambisana nokudakumba?
Njengabazali, kufuneka siqaphele kakhulu ezi mpawu zilumkisayo ezibonisa ukuba umntwana onesifo soxinzelelo usemngciphekweni wokuzibulala.
| Iimpawu zesilumkiso ekufuneka uziqaphele |
|---|
| Ukuthetha rhoqo ngokufa, ukuzibulala, okanye ukuphelelwa lithemba. |
| Ukunika abanye izinto ozithandayo. |
| Ukuhlukaniswa ngokupheleleyo noluntu nokuba wedwa. |
| Ukuzibandakanya ekuziphatheni okuyingozi. |
| Ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi okanye utywala. |
| Utshintsho olukhulu ekutyeni, ekulaleni, nakwimisebenzi. |
| Iingozi ezixhaphakileyo. |
Ukuba ubona naziphi na kwezi mpawu, ungaze uzityeshele. Bonana nogqirha ngoko nangoko. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, thatha umntwana wakho umse kwiYunithi yoNyango oluNgxamisekileyo (ETU) yesibhedlele esikufutshane xa kukho imeko engxamisekileyo.
Ngaba oku kuya kuba ngcono ngaphandle konyango?
Uxinzelelo lobuntwana yimeko efika idlule. Ngamanye amaxesha kunokubonakala ngathi luyaphola ngokwalo ngaphandle konyango. Nangona kunjalo, xa umntwana efumene uxinzelelo lomzimba, kusenokwenzeka ukuba aphinde alufumane. Ukuba alunyangwa, iziphumo zoxinzelelo zinokuba yingozi kakhulu, zide zibeke ubomi esichengeni. Ke ngoko, ukufunyaniswa kwangoko kunye nonyango kubalulekile.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana bazive belusizi, kodwa ukudakumba okuqhubekayo kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba kunokuba luphawu lokudakumba.
- Yiba nexhala xa ubona utshintsho olucacileyo kwindlela umntwana wakho aziphethe ngayo, alala ngayo, atya ngayo, umsebenzi wesikolo, okanye indlela asebenzisana ngayo nabanye abantu.
- Ukuba unamathandabuzo ngale meko, qiniseka ukuba ubona ugqirha ukuze akunike ingcebiso. Oku akumele ube neentloni ngako.
- Ukudakumba kwabantwana kunokulawulwa ngempumelelo ngonyango olufanelekileyo, kubandakanya unyango lwengqondo, kwaye ukuba kuyimfuneko, amayeza.
- Ukuba umntu uthetha ngokuzibulala okanye ubonisa iimpawu zokuzibulala, musa ukungayinaki loo nto. Funa ingcebiso kagqirha ngoko nangoko.
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