Ngaba nawe uyoyika kakhulu ukuzala? Masithethe nge-tokophobia!

Uyazi, abanye abantu baziva besoyika kakhulu xa becinga ngokuzala. Asikokuxhalaba nje okuqhelekileyo, kodwa luloyiko olunzulu, ngamanye amaxesha olusongela ubomi. Namhlanje siza kuthetha ngemeko ebizwa ngokuba yi -tokophobia . Ukuba uvakalelwa ngolu hlobo, khumbula ukuba awuwedwa.

Yintoni kanye kanye iTokophobia?

Ngamafutshane, i-tokophobia luloyiko olugqithisileyo nolungalawulekiyo lokuzala. Ihlala ichaphazela abafazi, kodwa okumangalisayo kukuba, amanye amadoda anokuhlangabezana nale meko. Oogqirha bayibiza ngokuba luloyiko oluthile, okanye uloyiko oluthile lwento ethile (kule meko, ukuzala).

Cinga nje, abanye abantu bayoyika izinto ezifana nezigcawu kunye nokuphakama. Kunjalo ke ngale. Kodwa kule meko, bayoyika ukuzala.

Kukho iintlobo ezimbini ze-tokophobia, akunjalo?

Ewe, uvile kakuhle. I-Tokophobia inokwahlulwahlulwa ibe ziintlobo ezimbini eziphambili:

1. I-Primary Tokophobia: Oku kwenzeka kumntu ongazange akhulelwe . Kusenokuba kungenxa yezinto azivileyo okanye azibonileyo ukususela ebuntwaneni.

2. I-Secondary Tokophobia: Oku kwenzeka emva kwesiganeko esibi kakhulu, esibuhlungu ngexesha lokukhulelwa okanye ukuzala kwangaphambili. Umzekelo, ukuzala okunzima kakhulu, ukuzala umntwana oswelekileyo, njl.

Ngaba olu loyiko lunokunxulunyaniswa nezinye izinto eziluloyiko?

Enyanisweni, ewe. Ngamanye amaxesha olu loyiko lwe-tokophobia lunokunxulunyaniswa nezinye izinto ezoyikisayo. Cinga ngako, izinto ezinje:

• Ukoyika iintlungu: Abanye abantu baziva besoyika kakhulu nangona becinga ngentlungu yokuzala.
• Ukoyika oogqirha okanye izibhedlele: Abanye abantu bayoyika ukubona oogqirha okanye nokuya esibhedlele. Basenokuba neengxaki ezibizwa ngokuba yi-`(Iatrophobia)` okanye `(Nosocomephobia)`.
• Ukoyika ukuchukunyiswa: Oku kunokuba nefuthe ngakumbi ngexesha lovavanyo.
• Ukoyika iinaliti: Olu loyiko lukwaphenjelelwa yi-"Trypanophobia", njengoko kunikwa iinaliti ngexesha lokukhulelwa.
• Ukoyika ukufa (Thanatophobia): Ukoyika kakhulu ukuzala, ukholelwa ukuba sisiganeko esisongela ubomi.

Ezinye izinto ezininzi ezinje ngolu zinokubangela oku.

Ngaba i-phobia yahlukile kuloyiko oluqhelekileyo?

Lo ngumbuzo obaluleke kakhulu. Kuqhelekile ukuba noloyiko okanye uxhalabe ngezinto ezibonakala ziyingozi okanye ezingakhululekanga. Abantu abaninzi baziva bexhalabile xa becinga ngokukhulelwa nokuzala. Oko kungokwemvelo. Kodwa iingcinga ezinjalo azinampembelelo ingako kwimisebenzi yemihla ngemihla.

KodwaI-phobia luloyiko olunzima kakhulu nolungalawulekiyo. Olu loyiko lunokukhokelela ekuphepheni izinto ezithile. Usenokuba neengcinga ezingaqhelekanga kunye neendlela zokuziphatha ezinzima ukuzilawula. Ngamanye amaxesha, namaphupha obomi, njengokuba nomntwana okanye ukuqala usapho, anokuthintelwa lolu loyiko.

Ndingayazi njani ukuba ndine-tokophobia?

Abantu abaninzi banexhala malunga nokuzala. Yinto eqhelekileyo leyo. Kodwa abanye abafazi abane-tokophobia bayakuphepha ukukhulelwa kwaphela. Ukuba bakhulelwa ngengozi, abanelisekanga yiyo loo nto, kwaye bazama ukufihla isisu sabo esikhulayo kwabanye.

Ukuba uziva ezi mvakalelo, akukho sizathu sokuba neentloni okanye ukubandezeleka wedwa. Ukuthetha nogqirha wakho ngale nto linyathelo lokuqala nelibalulekileyo ekulweni nale meko. Unyango lunokwenza ukukhulelwa kunye nokulungiselela ukuzala kungabi naxinzelelo kangako.

Kutheni kuvela olu loyiko luqatha? Zithini izizathu?

I-Tokophobia inokubangelwa zizinto ezininzi. Ezinye zezizathu eziphambili zezi:

• Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo okanye ukudlwengulwa kwixesha elidlulileyo: Amava anjalo anokubangela iintloni kunye nokucaphuka malunga nokukhulelwa.
• Uxinzelelo lokuzala umntwana ngendlela eqhelekileyo (ngaphandle kwesini) ngaphandle kweengxaki: Ngamanye amaxesha, olu hlobo loxinzelelo oluvela kusapho nakuluntu luyandisa uloyiko.
• Ukuva ngamava amabi abanye abantu abawavayo ngexesha lokubeleka: Abantu abasingqongileyo ngamanye amaxesha babalisa amabali othusayo anje ngala, "Owu, oku kwenzeke komnye umntu, oko kwenzeke komnye umntu." Ukuva oku rhoqo kunokwandisa olu loyiko.
• Ukuziva uneentloni kwaye ungakhululekanga malunga nokuba oogqirha bachukumisa ilungu lobufazi ngexesha lokubeleka.
• Ukungaqondi ukuba amathuba okuba neengxaki ngexesha lokubeleka akaphezulu njengoko kubonakala: Abanye abantu bayoyika ngokungeyomfuneko iingozi.
• Ukulindela utshintsho kwindlela ophila ngayo: Ukoyika ukuba ukuba nomntwana kuthetha ukulahlekelwa lulawulo lweshedyuli yakho kunye nokulahlekelwa yinkululeko yakho.

Zithini iimpawu zeTokophobia?

I-Tokophobia ichaphazela iingcinga zakho kunye nokuziphatha kwakho. Abantu abaninzi abanale meko banokuba neengxaki zempilo yengqondo, ezinje ngokudakumba. Banamathuba amaninzi okuba neziphumo ezibi ngexesha lokukhulelwa.

Iingcinga kunye nokuziphatha

Olu loyiko olukhulu lokuzala lunokukhokelela ekubeni wenze izinto ezifana nezi:

• Ukuphepha ukulalana ngesondo.
• Andiziva ndinxibelelene ngokweemvakalelo nomntwana okhula esibelekweni sam.
• Andiziva ndonwabile ngokukhulelwa.
• Bazama ukufihla into yokuba bakhulelwe kwabanye.
• Ukuziva unesizungu kwaye unesizungu, kude neqabane lakho okanye abantu obathandayo.

Iziphumo ezinokubakho ngexesha lokukhulelwa

Abafazi abanoloyiko olukhulu lokubeleka banamathuba amaninzi okuhlangabezana nezi zinto zilandelayo:

• Nangona kunokwenzeka ukuzala umntwana ngokukhuselekileyo, kukho izicelo zokuzala umntwana ngotyando (C-section).
• Ukuba ukhulelwe, unokulingeka ukuba ukhuphe isisu.
• Emva kokuba nomntwana, ucinga ngokumnika omnye umntu ukuba amkhulise umntwana.

Oogqirha bayibona njani le meko?

Oogqirha badla ngokuxilonga i-tokophobia xa undwendwela ugqirha ngesinye isizathu.

• Abafazi abangakhange bakhulelwe: Xa usiya kuvavanyo lwakho lonyaka, ugqirha wakho uhlala ebuza malunga nocwangciso losapho kunye nokuba nabantwana. Elo lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuthetha ngoloyiko lwakho kunye nokuxhalaba malunga nokuzala.
• Abafazi abakhulelweyo: Ngexesha lovavanyo lwakho lokukhulelwa, uza kubuzwa imibuzo malunga nempilo yakho yengqondo. Ukuphendula le mibuzo ngokunyaniseka kuya kunceda oogqirha ukuba baxilonge i-tokophobia.

Ziziphi iindlela zonyango lwe-tokophobia?

Enye yezona ndlela ziphambili nezisebenzayo zonyango lwe-tokophobia yi -cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). I-CBT ikunceda uchonge izinto ezithile ezibangela uloyiko lwakho lokuzala. Ungasebenza nomcebisi wezempilo yengqondo ukuze ufunde iindlela eziphilileyo zokujongana nolu loyiko.

Ngamafutshane, oku kutshintsha iindlela zakho zokucinga ezimbi kwaye kukunika isibindi sokujongana noloyiko lwakho.

Ngaba zikho ezinye iindlela zonyango zokuphila ngempumelelo nolu loyiko?

Ukongeza kwi-CBT, kukho ezinye iindlela ezininzi ezinokunceda ukoyisa i-tokophobia:

• Amayeza okudakumba: Ukuba uxinezelekile, la mayeza anokunceda. Asebenza ngokulinganisela iikhemikhali ezisebuchotsheni (ezibizwa ngokuba zii-neurotransmitters) ezilawula imeko yengqondo. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka zithathwe kuphela phantsi kweliso likagqirha.
• Unyango lwe-Hypnotherapy: Oku kuquka ukukubeka kwimeko ekhethekileyo yokuphumla nokukunceda uhlolisise iingcinga zakho ezingaphantsi kwengqondo ezibangela olu loyiko. Oku kufanele kwenziwe nanguchwephesha oqeqeshiweyo.
• Ukunciphisa uxinzelelo: Izinto ezifana neyoga kunye nokucamngca zinokukunceda uphumle ingqondo yakho. Oku kunokukunceda uzive uqinisekile ngakumbi ngokuzala.

Ngaba ikho indlela yokuthintela i-tokophobia ekukhuleni?

Kunzima ukutsho ukuba i-tokophobia inokuthintelwa ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa kukho izinto onokuzenza ukunciphisa impembelelo enayo ebomini bakho. Kuqhelekile ukuba uzive usoyika kwaye unexhala malunga nokuzala. Kodwa ungavumeli ukuba iphazamise amaphupha akho okuqala nokukhulisa usapho. Ukuba uziva uxhalabile ngolu hlobo, thetha nogqirha wakho ngayo ngokukhawuleza.

Kwakhona, zama ukuphepha ukumamela amabali angalunganga nayintsomi malunga nokuzala abantwana abawabaliswa ngabanye. Ukuba nje izinto azihambanga ngendlela ebezicwangcisiwe ngabanye akuthethi ukuba ziya kuhamba ngendlela ebezicwangcisiwe ngayo kuwe.

Ngaba le meko inganyangeka ngokupheleleyo?

Ukuba unyango luphumelele, uxinzelelo olukhulu kunye noloyiko lokubeleka lunokuncipha kakhulu. Usenokuziva uxhalabile kancinci. Kodwa ukufunda iindlela zokuzola ingqondo yakho kunokunceda ukuthintela ezo mvakalelo ukuba zingabi namandla kakhulu ukuba zingalawuleki.

Ezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka uzazi xa ujongene ne-tokophobia

Kubalulekile ukuba nenethiwekhi yenkxaso elungileyo xa ujongene ne-tokophobia. Chonga abahlobo kunye nosapho abanempembelelo entle ebomini bakho. Aba bantu basenokuba abazange bakhulelwe, kodwa banokukunika ilizwi elimnandi kwaye bakukhuthaze.

Kwakhona, ungenza oku kulandelayo ukuze ube nolwazi ngakumbi ngokuzala:

• Yiya kwiiklasi zangaphambi kokukhulelwa: Ezi klasi ziya kukufundisa ngezinto onokuzilindela ngexesha lokubeleka nokubeleka. Ezi klasi zihlala ziqhutywa ngasekupheleni kokukhulelwa.
• Iiklasi zokukhulelwa kwangethuba: Ezi klasi ziluncedo kwabo bakwinqanaba lokuqala lokukhulelwa okanye abo banethemba lokukhulelwa.
• Ndwendwela isibhedlele okanye iziko lokubeleka: Iindawo ezininzi zibonelela ngohambo olukhokelwayo olufana nolu, kwaye uya kuba nethuba lokubuza imibuzo.
• Joyina iqela lenkxaso: Kukho iiforam ezininzi kwi-intanethi zabasetyhini abakhulelweyo, kunye nezinye iindlela zokukhetha kwabo bakhulelweyo. Isibhedlele sakho sinokuququzelela amaqela anjalo.

Okokugqibela, kufuneka ndithi... (Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya)

I-Tokophobia luloyiko olukhulu lokuzala. Kungokwemvelo ukuziva uxhalabile ngezinto ezininzi ezingaziwayo eziza nomntwana. Kodwa musa ukuzivumela ukuba zikuthintele ekulandeleni amaphupha akho okuqala nokukhulisa usapho. Thetha nogqirha wakho malunga neenkxalabo zakho. Zininzi iindlela zokukunceda woyise olu loyiko. Ngokwenza njalo, ungonwabela ukukhulelwa kwakho kwaye wamkele umntwana wakho omtsha. Awuwedwa, kwaye ungoyiki ukucela uncedo.

I- Tokophobia, uloyiko lokuzala, ukukhulelwa, impilo yengqondo, i-phobia, impilo yabasetyhini, iintlungu zokubeleka