Ukutholwa: Amaqiniso Abalulekile Ezokwelapha Okufanele Uwazi | Nirogi Lanka

Ingabe ucabanga ngokuthatha ingane, noma mhlawumbe umane nje ufuna ukwazi ngale nqubo? Noma kunjalo, kuyisibopho esihle kakhulu nesibalulekile. Kodwa-ke, kunesici esibalulekile sezokwelapha kulolu hambo esidinga ukunakwa kwakho ngokucophelela. Kalula nje, ukuthathwa kwengane kuyinqubo yezenhlalo, yemizwa, neyomthetho evumela ingane engenakukhuliswa abazali bayo bokuzalwa ukuba ibe yilungu lomndeni omusha, imnikeze uthando nokuvikeleka okufanele.

Kunezindlela eziningi zokuthatha ingane. Isibonelo, kukhona "ukuthathwa kwengane okuvulekile," lapho uxhumana khona nabazali bokuzalwa, kanye "nokuthathwa kwengane okuvaliwe," lapho kungekho lwazi oluhlanganyelwa khona. Ungase uthathe ingane eyodwa noma iqembu labafowabo nodadewabo; empeleni, akukho ukuthathwa kwengane okubili okufanayo. ESri Lanka, uvame ukulandela ukuthathwa kwengane ngoMnyango Wezokuhlola Nokunakekelwa Kwezingane noma ngenqubo yenkantolo. Kwezinye izimo, ingane ingathathwa yilungu lomndeni elaziwayo, elaziwa ngokuthi "ukuthathwa kwengane ngokomndeni."

Uma uhlela ukuthatha ingane, uzosebenzisana eduze nochwepheshe abahlukahlukene kulo lonke inqubo, okuhlanganisa:

• Abameli bezomthetho (njengabameli bokutholwa kwengane).
• Izinhlangano zezenhlalakahle zezingane noma zokutholwa (njengoMnyango Wokuhlola eSri Lanka).
• Izisebenzi zezenhlalakahle.
• Odokotela bezingane.

Phakathi kwalaba, odokotela bezingane bangabalingani ababalulekile abasiza imindeni ukubhekana nezidingo ezithile zezokwelapha zezingane ezithathwayo, bebhekana nempilo yazo engokomzimba, yentuthuko, neyemizwa.

Kungani kufanele unake kakhulu impilo yezingane ezitholwe?

Ungase uzibuze, "Kungani kugcizelelwa uhlangothi lwezokwelapha lwezingane ezithathwe izingane?" Nakuba zonke izingane zingabhekana nezinselele zempilo, ezinye izifundo zibonisa ukuthi izingane ezithathwe izingane zingase zibe nengozi enkulu yezinkinga ezithile zomzimba, zokukhula, nezengqondo uma kuqhathaniswa nontanga yazo.

Nakuba lezi zingozi zingokoqobo, uthando, izinsiza kanye nokusekelwa okunikezayo kungasiza ingane yakho ukuba ichume futhi ichume, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi inolwazi olunjani lwezokwelapha.

Kungani ingozi yezinkinga zempilo iphezulu kwabanye abantwana abatholwe?

Kunezizathu eziningana zalokhu. Cabanga ukuthi ezinye izingane kungenzeka azizange zikwazi ukuthola ukunakekelwa okwanele ngesikhathi zisencane—kungakhathaliseki ukuthi zisesibelethweni noma zisencane—njengalezi:

• Ukunakekelwa kwempilo kwangaphambi kokubeletha kanye nangemuva kokubeletha.
• Ukudla okufanele.
• Izidingo zomzimba noma ezingokomzwelo (ukukhuthazwa kokukhula).
• Ukuvikelwa ebuthi noma izifo ezithathelwanayo (isib. izifo ezithathelwanayo ) ngaphambi noma ngemva kokuzalwa.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, izingane eziningi kungenzeka ukuthi zike zabhekana nokulimala ebuntwaneni, okwaziwa ngokuthi yi-Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) . Lezi yizigameko ezicindezelayo kakhulu ezingathinta impilo yengqondo neyomzimba yengane yesikhathi eside. Izibonelo ze-ACE zifaka:

• Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba, ngokomzwelo, noma ngokocansi kanye nokunganakwa.
• Ukuchayeka odlameni lwasekhaya noma lomphakathi.
• Ukungabi nakhaya, ukufuduka njalo, noma indawo yasekhaya engazinzile.
• Abanakekeli abangaguquguquki, ukuba nabanakekeli abaningi, noma ukuhlukana kwabazali noma isehlukaniso.
• Ukuphila phakathi kwezinhlekelele zemvelo.
• Ukushona kwelungu lomndeni noma umuntu oseduze.
• Ukuhlukunyezwa .

Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi lezi zenzakalo ezibuhlungu zakuqala zingaba nemiphumela ehlala njalo ekukhuleni kobuchopho, futhi ukucindezeleka okungapheli okubangelwa yilokhu kungathinta nempilo yomzimba yesikhathi eside.

Izinselele zempilo ezingaba khona ezinganeni ezithathwe

Ake sibheke izinselele ezahlukene zempilo lezi zingane ezingase zibhekane nazo.

Izimo zempilo yomzimba

Phakathi kuka-30% no-80% wezingane ezinakekelwa izingane ezingezona ezabo zinesimo sempilo okungenani esisodwa, kanti cishe u-33% uphila nesimo sempilo esingamahlalakhona. Izinkinga ezivamile zezempilo zomzimba zifaka:

• Ukubambezeleka kokukhula kanye nokuntuleka kokudla okunempilo .
• Isifuba somoya .
• Ukukhuluphala ngokweqile .
• Izinkinga zokubona.
• Ukukhubazeka kokuzwa.
• Izimo ze-neurological .
• Izifo Ezithathelwana Ngocansi (ama-STI) .
• Izimo ezingamahlalakhona eziyinkimbinkimbi.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma bekukhona ukungondleki kahle ngaphambilini, ingane yakho ingase ibe nokuntuleka kwe-iron, i-calcium, kanye ne-vitamin D. Kutholakale nokuthi cishe ama-20% ezingane ezinakekelwa izingane ezingezona ezazo zinezinkinga ezinkulu zamazinyo.

Izinkinga ezingokomzwelo

Ukuhlukanisa ingane nomndeni wayo wokuqala nendawo eyijwayele kuyadabukisa kakhulu. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi ezinganeni ezinakekelwa izingane ezingase zibe nezinguquko ezivamile kubanakekeli nasezindaweni ezizungezile. Njengoba ingane yakho ihlangana nekhaya lakho, ukuqonda lezi zinselele ezingokomzwelo kubalulekile.

Ingane yakho ingabonisa:

• Ukuzihlukanisa nabantu noma ukuzihlukanisa.
• Ukucasuka okungazelelwe noma ukuqhuma kwemizwelo.
• Ukuziphatha okunolaka noma okudelelayo.
• Ukukhala okungaduduzeki.
• Ukuhlehla kwamakhono afundwe ngaphambilini (isb., ukuzondla noma ukuhlanza).
• Ukuphazamiseka kokulala.
• Ukulahlekelwa isithakazelo emisebenzini eyayijatshulelwa ngaphambilini.

Nakuba ukuzivumelanisa nezimo kuthatha isikhathi, khumbula ukuthi izingane eziningi ziyalila ngenxa yokulahlekelwa abanakekeli bangaphambilini, abangane, kanye nekhaya lazo elijwayelekile. Hlala unolwazi lokuthi ungayisekela kanjani ingane yakho phakathi nalolu shintsho. Isineke sibaluleke kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, uma lezi zinselele ezingokomzwelo zinzima noma ziqhubeka, ungangabazi ukufuna isiqondiso kudokotela wezingane noma kumeluleki wezempilo yengqondo .

Izimo zempilo yengqondo

Izingane eziningi eziye zakhuliswa ngabazali bazo ziye zabhekana nokulimala okukhulu kwengqondo, okwandisa ingozi yazo yezimo zempilo yengqondo, njenge:

• Izinkinga zokukhathazeka.
• Izinkinga zokudla.
• Izinkinga zemizwa, njengokucindezeleka kwengqondo kanye nokuhlanya.
• Isifo sokucindezeleka ngemva kokucindezeleka (PTSD).

Ngaphezu kwalokho, intsha ebilokhu inakekelwa izingane ezingabazali bayo isengozini enkulu yokufuna ukuzibulala kanye nezinkinga zokusebenzisa izidakamizwa uma kuqhathaniswa nontanga yayo abangazange babe kulolo hlelo.

Izimo zokuziphatha

Cishe u-50% kuya ku-75% wezingane ezinakekelwa izingane ezingabazali bazo zibhekana nezinselele zokuziphatha noma amakhono okuxhumana nabantu ezidinga ukwesekwa kochwepheshe bezokwelapha. Izimo ezivame ukubonwa zifaka phakathi i-oppositional deficient disorder (ODD) kanye ne-conduct disorder.

Ukulimala kwasebuntwaneni, okuhlangenwe nakho okubi, kanye nokucindezeleka okunobuthi okungapheli kungabonakala ngezindlela ezilandelayo:

• Ubunzima bokulawula imizwa.
• Ukuziphatha okunolaka.
• Ukungakhathali.
• Ukunganaki.
• Ukungacabangi.

Lezi zici zandisa kakhulu ingozi yengane yezinselele zokuziphatha eziqhubekayo.

Izimo Zokuthuthukiswa

Phakathi kuka-46% no-60% wezingane ezinakekelwa izingane ezingaphansi kweminyaka eyisithupha ubudala zibhekene nohlobo oluthile lokukhubazeka kokukhula. Lokhu kungafaka:

• Ukulibaziseka kwenkulumo.
• Ukulibaziseka kwemisipha emincane (isib., ubunzima bokubopha ama-shirt noma ukubamba ipensela).
• Ukulibaziseka okukhulu kwemisipha (isib., izinselele zokugijima, ukugxuma, noma ukubamba ibhola).
• Ukukhubazeka kokufunda noma ukukhubazeka kwengqondo.
• Ukuphazamiseka kokuziphatha kahle kwezenhlalo nemizwa.

Lezi zimo zivame ukuvela ngesikhathi sokukhula kwasekuqaleni futhi zingathinta ukusebenza kwansuku zonke, ngezinye izikhathi ziqhubeke impilo yonke yengane.

Ukulibaziseka kwenkulumo nokuthuthukiswa kolimi kuvame kakhulu, njengokuthi:

• Inkinga yokucubungula izindlebe (APD): Ubunzima bokuhumusha imisindo.
• I-Aphasia: Izinselele zokusebenzisa noma ukuqonda ulimi.
• I-apraxia yenkulumo yasebuntwaneni: Ubunzima bokuhlela ukunyakaza komzimba obuthinta imisipha edingekayo ukuze kukhulunywe.
• I-Dysarthria: Ukukhubazeka kokukhuluma okubangelwa ubuthakathaka bemisipha, okuholela ekungacacini kahle kokuxhumana.

Isifo sokungakwazi ukunaka/sokungasebenzi kahle (ADHD) siphinde sibe yisimo esivame ukutholakala sokuthuthukiswa kwemizwa phakathi kwezingane ezinakekelwa izingane ezingabazali bazo.

Izinto Ezicatshangelwayo Ngezokwelapha Zokutholwa Kwabantwana Kwamanye Amazwe

Uma ufuna ukutholwa yizingane emhlabeni jikelele, qaphela ukuthi izingane zingase zibhekane namathuba aphezulu okuba nezinkinga zempilo yomzimba kanye nokubambezeleka kokukhula. Izifo ezithelelanayo kanye nokuntuleka kokudla okunempilo ngokuvamile kuyizinto eziyinhloko ezibhekwa odokotela uma ingane ifika. Cishe zonke izingane ezithathwe kwamanye amazwe zithola okungenani ukubambezeleka kokukhula okukodwa, kanti cishe ingxenye yazo ibonisa ukubambezeleka kokukhula emhlabeni jikelele.

Ukuthola amarekhodi ezokwelapha kwamanye amazwe kungaba yinselele, njengoba amadokhumenti engase angaphelele noma anganembile. Njengoba amazwe amaningi elandela amashejuli okugoma ahlukene, kubalulekile ukubukeza la marekhodi nodokotela wezingane ukuze kutholakale ukuthi kukhona yini ukugoma okungekho. Uma uhlela ukwamukelwa kwamanye amazwe, xhumana nochwepheshe mayelana nezidingo ezithile zezempilo kanye nezingozi ezihlobene nezwe lengane elivela kulo ukuze ukwazi ukulungiselela ngokufanele.

Ukucabangela Inhlalakahle Yomndeni

Njengoba wamukela ilungu elisha ekhaya lakho, cabanga ngempilo kanye nenhlalakahle yomndeni wakho osuvele unayo. Khuluma nochwepheshe bokutholwa mayelana nendlela yokusiza umndeni wakho ukuthi uvumelane kahle. Buza ngezimpawu zombango noma umona phakathi kwabafowethu nodadewethu bese uqinisekisa ukuthi unikela isikhathi sakho somuntu ngamunye kubantwana bakho.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, njengoba uqhubeka nenqubo yokutholwa, ungase ubhekane nokukhathala komnakekeli —ukukhathala ngokomzimba, ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo okwenzeka lapho unikela amandla akho empilweni nasekuphepheni kwabanye. Ukuze usize umndeni wakho ubhekane nalolu shintsho, cabanga ngokujoyina iqembu lokusekela noma ukukhuluma nomeluleki wezempilo yengqondo . Unganqikazi ukuthembela kubathandekayo bakho othembekile ukuze bakusekele.

Yini Okufanele Uyazi Ngempilo Yomntwana Ngaphambi Kokutholwa?

Ngaphambi—noma ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka ngemva—kokwamukela, zama ukuqoqa ulwazi lwezokwelapha oluningi ngangokunokwenzeka. Kungadingeka ukuthi uxhumane nalokhu okulandelayo:

• Inhlangano yakho yokutholwa noma uhlelo lokunakekelwa kwengane engeyomzali.
• Ummeli wakho wokutholwa kwengane.
• Abazali bomntwana noma umndeni wakhe (uma kungenzeka).
• Izinhlelo zesibhedlela kanye nabahlinzeki bezempilo bangaphambilini noma bamanje bengane.
• Isikole ingane efunda kuso njengamanje noma esidlule.

Ulwazi olubalulekile okufanele ulufune luhlanganisa:

• Izimo zamanje noma zangaphambilini zomzimba, zengqondo, zokukhula, noma zokuziphatha, okuhlanganisa ukulaliswa esibhedlela kanye nokuhlinzwa.
• Amarekhodi okuzalwa, njengobudala bokukhulelwa, isisindo sokuzalwa, ukuphakama, ukujikeleza kwekhanda, kanye nanoma yiziphi izinkinga ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa noma sokuzalwa.
• Amashadi okukhula (isisindo, ukuphakama, umjikelezo wekhanda).
• Ukubhalwa kwemininingwane yezinyathelo ezibalulekile zentuthuko.
• Ukungezwani komzimba okwaziwayo.
• Imithi yamanje.
• Amarekhodi okugoma.
• Ukuchayeka ezifweni ezithelelanayo.
• Amarekhodi ombono namazinyo.
• Umlando wokungondleki kahle noma ubunzima bokudla.
• Imiphumela yokuhlolwa kwezokwelapha (isib. ukuhlolwa kwezithombe, ukuhlolwa kwegazi).
• Imibiko ephathelene nanoma yimuphi umlando wokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba, ngokocansi, noma ngokomzwelo, noma ukunganakwa.
• Umlando wesikole kanye nokusebenza kahle kwezemfundo.
• Umlando wobudlelwano, okuhlanganisa izibopho ezibalulekile eziqhubekayo noma ukulahlekelwa yizibopho ezibalulekile.
• Umlando wezokwelapha wezihlobo zengane.
• Izimo zofuzo emndenini wemvelo.

Uma uthatha usana noma ingane encane, ukuthola umlando wokuzalwa kwabo kanye nolwazi mayelana nokukhulelwa kuzuzisa kakhulu, okuhlanganisa:

• Ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa ngumama, njengotshwala, ugwayi, insangu, noma ama-opioid.
• Ukusetshenziswa kwemithi kadokotela noma etholakala ngaphandle kwemvume kadokotela ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa.
• Ukuba khona kwezifo ezithathelwana ngocansi (ama-STI) noma ezinye izifo ezithelelanayo ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa.
• Izinkinga ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, ukubeletha, noma ukubeletha.

Kuye ngezimo, ungathola olunye lwalolu lwazi kuphela, noma kwezinye izimo, luncane kakhulu. Zama njalo ukuthola izimpendulo eziningi ngangokunokwenzeka.

Okungcono kakhulu, nikeza lolu lwazi kudokotela wezingane ngaphambi kokuba ingane ijoyine umndeni wakho ukuze uthole isiqondiso sochwepheshe. Udokotela wakho angakwazisa ngokunakekelwa ingane engase ikudinge futhi akuqondise ngalokho okufanele ukulindele. Bangakunikeza nokudluliselwa kochwepheshe noma izinsizakalo zokusekela umphakathi ukuze kube lula ukushintsha komndeni wakho. Uma ungakwazi ukubonisana nodokotela ngaphambi kokutholwa, hlela i-aphoyintimenti ngokushesha nje lapho ingane ifika ekhaya.

Iyini Indima Yodokotela Bezingane Enqubweni Yokutholwa?

Odokotela bezingane badlala indima ebalulekile nesekelayo enkambisweni yokutholwa kwengane. Basebenzisana nawe ukuze bathole izidingo zempilo ezihlukile zengane yakho ngenkathi benikeza ukwesekwa okungokomzwelo okudingwa yimindeni ehamba ohambweni lokutholwa kwengane.

Ukwelashwa kokutholwa kanye nokunakekelwa kwabantwana abangebona abazali kuyinkambu ekhethekile, eshintshayo ngaphakathi kwezokwelapha zezingane. Ungacela isisebenzi sakho sezenhlalakahle noma udokotela oyinhloko ukuthi akuthumelele kudokotela wezingane onolwazi oluthile ekunakekelweni kwezokwelapha okuhlobene nokutholwa kwabantwana.

Imisebenzi ebalulekile yodokotela wezingane zakho ihlanganisa:

• Ukusiza ekuqoqeni nasekuchazeni amarekhodi ezokwelapha kanye nomlando wengane yakho.
• Ukunikeza ukuhlolwa okuphelele kwezokwelapha, ukunakekelwa kwengane ephilile, kanye nokuvakasha kokulandelela okudingekayo.
• Ukuqinisekisa ukunakekelwa okuqhubekayo nokuhlelekile okulungiselelwe izidingo zempilo yengane yakho.
• Ukusiza ukudluliselwa kochwepheshe bezokwelapha, njengodokotela bezengqondo zezingane, odokotela benhliziyo bezingane, noma odokotela bezifo zolimi lokukhuluma.
• Ukuncoma izinsiza zesikhathi eside zokusekela ingane yakho nomndeni wakho.
• Ukunikeza isiqondiso ngezinselele zokulungisa ezingase zivele ngemva kokutholwa.
• Ukuncoma amasu okuthuthukisa ukunamathelana okuqinile, okunempilo, nokuvikelekile emndenini wakho.
• Ukusiza ngemibhalo yoHlelo Lwezemfundo Oluzimele (i-IEP) noma Uhlelo lwe-504 lwesikole sengane yakho, uma kudingeka.

Okufanele Ukulindele Ekuvakasheni Kwezokwelapha Kokuqala Kwengane Yakho

Uma ingane yakho isijoyine umndeni wakho, kunconywa ukuthi ithole ukuhlolwa okuphelele kwezempilo zingakapheli izinsuku ezingu-30. Lokhu kuhlolwa kukuvumela ukuthi uqale ukubhekana nezinkinga zempilo ezaziwayo futhi uthole noma yiziphi izinkinga ezingakatholakalanga ngaphambilini. Lokhu kuhlolwa kokuqala kunemininingwane eminingi kakhulu kunokuhlolwa kwempilo yengane okuvamile.

Sicela unikeze udokotela wakho wezingane umlando wezokwelapha wengane ngangokunokwenzeka. Kuye ngeminyaka yengane yakho kanye nempilo yayo iyonke, udokotela wakho angenza lokhu kuhlola ngokuvakashela kanye noma ancome uchungechunge lwama-aphoyintimenti ukuze aqedele ukuhlolwa okugcwele.

Lokhu kuhlola kuvame ukufaka:

• Ukuqinisekiswa kanye nencazelo yokuxilongwa kwezokwelapha okukhona.
• Ukuhlolwa ngokomzimba okuphelele.
• Ukuhlolwa kwezinzwa.
• Ukuhlolwa okufanele ubudala, njengokuhlolwa kwezinsana ezisanda kuzalwa, ukuhlolwa kokuzwa, kokubona, kwamazinyo, kanye nokuhlolwa kokuziphatha noma kokukhula.
• Ukuhlolwa kwezinkinga zezokwelapha ezingakaze zitholakale ngaphambilini.
• Izingxoxo mayelana nanoma yiziphi izinkinga zokukhula noma zokuziphatha.
• Ukubuyekezwa kwesimo sokugonywa kwengane yakho.
• Ukudluliselwa kwabanye abahlinzeki bezempilo kanye nochwepheshe uma kudingeka.

Ukuhlolwa

Ngokusekelwe ekuhlolweni kwabo kokuqala, udokotela wakho wezingane angancoma ukuhlolwa okuqondile kokuxilonga. Lokhu kungafaka phakathi ukuhlolwa kwegazi, ukuhlolwa komchamo, noma izifundo zezithombe. Udokotela wakho angaphinde acele ukuhlolwa kwegazi ukuqinisekisa amazinga okuzivikela komzimba wengane yakho noma ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ihambisana nemigomo edingekayo.

Ukuhlolwa Kwempilo Yengqondo

Ochwepheshe batusa ukuthi izingane ezinakekelwa izingane ezingakhuliswanga zihlolwe impilo yengqondo zingakapheli izinsuku ezingu-30 zingenile ekhaya lakho. Okungcono kakhulu, lokhu kufanele kwenziwe uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo yengane oqeqeshwe ngokukhethekile ekunakekelweni okusekelwe ekuhlukumezekeni.

Ulungiselela Kanjani Ukutholwa?

Inqubo yokutholwa ihilela ukulungiselela okubanzi kanye nezinyathelo eziningana. Ngaphambi kokunquma ukuthatha ingane, kubalulekile ukuqonda iqiniso lokuletha ingane emndenini wakho, ikakhulukazi mayelana nempilo kanye nenhlalakahle ehilelekile.

Cabanga ngokuzibuza le mibuzo ebalulekile:

• Yiziphi izisusa zakho zokuthatha ingane? Ingabe usukulungele ngempela lokhu kuzibophezela impilo yakho yonke?
• Ungakwazi yini ukunikeza ingane indawo enothando, enakekelayo, nezinzile?
• Ingabe uyakwazi ukufinyelela izinsizakalo zokusekela ezidingekayo kanye nezinhlelo zokunakekelwa kwempilo?
• Ingabe usukulungele ukumela impilo nenhlalakahle yengane yakho ezindaweni ezahlukene, njengezikole noma izinhlelo zokunakekelwa kwempilo?
• Ingabe wena nomndeni wakho nizimisele ukufunda ngezidingo ezithile zomzimba, zengqondo, kanye nentuthuko yengane yakho?
• Ingabe unesistimu yokusekela eqinile yabangane nomndeni ongathembela kuyo?

Njenganoma yini empilweni, awukwazi ukubikezela ikusasa noma ukwazi kahle ukuthi impilo izokwenzeka kanjani nelungu elisha lomndeni. Kodwa-ke, ngokulondoloza amathemba angokoqobo nokulungiselela kahle ngangokunokwenzeka, ungaphatha ngempumelelo ushintsho lwakho futhi wakhe indawo ephephile nesekelayo yomndeni wakho.

Ukutholwa komntwana kuyindlela eyinkimbinkimbi, yomuntu siqu, futhi ethinta imizwa yawo wonke umuntu ohilelekile. Ingxenye ebalulekile yale nqubo ukwamukela nokulungiselela izidingo zempilo ezihlukile zelungu lomndeni wakho elisha. Khumbula ukuthi udokotela wezingane wengane yakho uyisisekelo sethimba lakho lokusekela ukutholwa komntwana, futhi bakhona ukukusiza ukuthi unikeze ukunakekelwa okungcono kakhulu kwengane yakho—kanye nawe.

Izinto Ezibalulekile Okufanele Uzicabangele

Ukuthatha ingane kuyisibopho esihle nesijulile. Ukubeka impilo yengane yakho phambili kuyingxenye ebalulekile yalokhu kuzibophezela.

• Hlala unolwazi: Funda ngezinkinga ezithile zempilo, ingqondo, ukuziphatha, kanye nokukhula ezingathinta izingane ezithathwe ngabanye.
• Qoqa ulwazi: Qoqa ulwazi oluningi ngangokunokwenzeka mayelana nomlando wezokwelapha nowomndeni wengane yakho.
• Sebenzisa ukwesekwa kodokotela bezingane: Yakha ubuhlobo nodokotela wezingane onekhono nonolwazi kusukela ekuqaleni; bazoba ngomunye wabameli bakho abakhulu.
• Ukubekezela nothando: Nika ingane yakho isikhathi sokujwayela indawo yayo entsha nomndeni wayo. Khonza ngesineke, ngothando, nangokuqonda.
• Zinakekele: Impilo yakho yomzimba neyengqondo ibalulekile phakathi nalolu hambo. Funa usizo noma nini lapho uludinga.

Khumbula, uthando, ukunakekelwa, kanye nokusekelwa okunikezayo kuyisisekelo lapho ikusasa lengane yakho kanye nokuphulukiswa kwakhe kwakhiwe khona.

INirogi Lanka: ukutholwa, impilo yengane, ulwazi lwezokwelapha, ukunakekelwa kwezingane, impilo yengqondo, izinkinga zokukhula