Ingabe nawe uthembele kwabanye kukho konke? Ake sixoxe nge-Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD)!

Ingabe kufanele ucele abanye abantu ukuthi benze ngisho nezinqumo ezincane kakhulu zosuku lwakho, njengokuthi uzogqokani ekuseni noma uzodlani? Ingabe uzizwa ungenamandla kangangokuthi awukwazi ukwenza lutho ngaphandle kombono wabo kanye nokuqinisekiswa? Uma kunjalo, kungenzeka ukuthi unesifo sengqondo esibizwa ngokuthi "Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD)". Ake sixoxe ngalokhu namuhla, kulungile?

Iyini le Nkinga Yobuntu Obuxhomeke Kumuntu (i-DPD)?

Kalula nje, i-Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD) iyisimo sempilo yengqondo. Sibonakala ngokuthembela ngokweqile kwabanye ukuze kuhlangatshezwane nezidingo zakho, ikakhulukazi ngokomzwelo (izinto ezingqondweni) kanye nezomzimba (izinto ezisemzimbeni). Cabanga ngakho njengengane encane elindele konke kubazali bayo, kodwa lokhu kungathinta nabantu abadala. Abanye bangase bakubheke njengomuntu "onamathelayo" noma "oswele."

Abantu abane-DPD bakholelwa ukuthi abakwazi ukwenza lutho ngokwabo noma ukuzinakekela. Badinga imibono kanye nokuvunyelwa abanye ukuze benze ngisho nezinqumo ezincane zansuku zonke , njengokuthi bazogqokani noma bazodlani. Ngokuvamile, abazi ukuthi le micabango kanye nokuziphatha kuyinkinga.

I-DPD iyilungu lezinkinga zobuntu ze- "Cluster C". Njengezinye izinkinga kuleli qembu, ukukhathazeka nokwesaba nakho kuyaphawuleka. Izinkinga zobuntu ziyizindlela zokuziphatha zesikhathi eside eziphikisana nalokho umphakathi okulindele ukuba sikwenze (imikhuba yamasiko). Ngokuvamile ziqala ngaphambi kokuba umuntu abe mdala, ebuntwaneni noma ebusheni. Lezi zinkinga zobuntu zingabangela ukucindezeleka nokucindezeleka kumuntu nakubantu abaseduze naye. Ngaphansi kuka-1% wabantu abadala e-United States bahlangabezana nezindinganiso ze-DPD.

Uyini umehluko phakathi kwe-DPD ne-BPD?

Nakuba kokubili i-Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD) kanye ne-Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) zinobunzima ebudlelwaneni bomuntu siqu kanye nokwesaba ukushiywa, ziyizinkinga ezimbili zobuntu ezihlukile.

I-BPD ibonakala ngokushintshashintsha okukhulu kwemizwelo , ukungazinzi ebudlelwaneni, kanye nokungacabangi kahle. Abantu abane-BPD banokwesaba okukhulu kokushiywa futhi banenkinga yokulawula imizwa yabo, ikakhulukazi intukuthelo.

Kodwa i-DPD ayivamile ukuba nokushintshashintsha okukhulu ngokomzwelo noma ukuziphatha okungahleliwe. Abantu abane-DPD bavame ukuthula nokuzithoba , ngoba abafuni ukubangela ukungezwani ebudlelwaneni babo.

Ziyini izimpawu ze-DPD?

Umuntu onesifo sokucindezeleka kobuntu angabonisa izici eziningana zokuziphatha ezifana nalezi:

• Ukudinga ukucela iseluleko nokuqinisekiswa njalo kwabanye, ngisho nalapho wenza izinqumo ezincane zansuku zonke, njengokuthi uzogqokani noma uzodlani .
• Kunzima ukuqala ibhizinisi wedwa ngoba awunalo ithemba ngamakhono akho.
• Ukuzizwa wesaba kakhulu ukungakwazi ukuzinakekela.
• Ukuzinikela ukwenza izinto ezingathandeki noma ezinzima ngoba befuna ukuthola ukwesekwa, uthando, kanye nokuvikelwa kwabanye. Isibonelo, ukwenza umsebenzi womunye umuntu yize kunzima ngabo ukwenza kanjalo, ukubagcina beseduze nabo.
• Ukunikeza abanye umthwalo wemfanelo wokwenza izinqumo ezibalulekile ezicini ezahlukene zokuphila komuntu.
• Ukugwema izingxabano nokungabonisi ukungathandi noma ukuphikisa komuntu ngenxa yokwesaba ukulahlekelwa ubudlelwano noma ukushiywa abanye.
• Akumnandi futhi akusizi ngalutho ukuzizwa unesizungu.
• Ukwesaba ukushiywa kanye nomuzwa wokungabi namandla okukhulu kanye nokuphuka lapho ubuhlobo obuseduze buphela.

Abantu abane-DPD bavame ukukhuluma nokuxhumana nabantu abambalwa abathembele kubo kuphela, futhi banamathuba amaningi okubekezelela ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba, ngokocansi, noma ngokomzwelo ngenxa yokwesaba ukulahlekelwa ubudlelwano.

Kungani le DPD yenzeka? Ziyini izimbangela?

Izinkinga zobuntu, okuhlanganisa ne-DPD, ziphakathi kwezimo zempilo yengqondo ezingaqondwa kahle, okusho ukuthi zisesesigabeni socwaningo. Kodwa-ke, abacwaningi bakholelwa ukuthi izici eziningana zingase zibe nomthelela ekuthuthukisweni kwe-DPD:

• Ukuhlukumeza: Abantu abasebudlelwaneni abavame ukuhlukumeza basengozini enkulu yokuthola i-DPD.
• Ukuhlukumezeka ebuntwaneni: I-DPD ingabangelwa ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba noma ngokomzwelo (kufaka phakathi ukuhlukunyezwa ngamazwi) noma ukunganakwa ngesikhathi sobuntwana. Kungathinta nabantu abaye bahlushwa ukugula okubi kakhulu, okusongela ukuphila ngesikhathi sobuntwana. Cabanga nje, lapho kufanele uthembele kwabanye kukho konke kusukela usemncane, kungaba umkhuba futhi kube yingxenye yobuntu bakho.
• Izakhi zofuzo: Uma othile emndenini wakho ene-DPD noma esinye isifo sokukhathazeka, kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi ube ne-DPD. Lokhu kusho ukuthi kungase kube nokuthambekela kwezakhi zofuzo.
• Amasiko athile amasiko, enkolo, noma omndeni: Kwezinye izizinda zamasiko, zenkolo, noma zomndeni, abantu bafundiswa ukuzithoba nokuncika njalo kubantu abanegunya (isib. abazali, abadala, abaholi benkolo), okungaba negalelo ku-DPD. Ukufundiswa ukulalela yonke into nokungavezi imibono yakho nakho kungaba nomthelela kulokhu.

Lesi simo se-DPD sitholakala kanjani ?

Ubuntu buyinto eqhubeka nokuguquka phakathi nobuntwana kanye nokuthomba, okungukuthi, yinto ebunjwayo. Ngakho-ke, abahlinzeki bezempilo, okungukuthi, odokotela, ngokuvamile kuphela ngemva kweminyaka engu-18.Umuntu utholakala ene-DPD ngoba lezi zindlela zokuziphatha kufanele zihlale isikhathi eside futhi azishintshanga kakhulu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

Izinkinga zobuntu, okuhlanganisa ne-DPD, kungaba nzima kakhulu ukuzixilonga ngoba abantu abaningi abanalezi zimo abacabangi ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle ngokuziphatha kwabo noma ngendlela abacabanga ngayo. Kubo, kuyinto evamile nje.

Uma befika bezofuna usizo, kungenxa yezimo ezinjengokukhathazeka noma ukucindezeleka okuza njengomphumela we-DPD, noma ngenxa yezinkinga zobudlelwano noma izinkinga emsebenzini.

Uma umeluleki wezempilo yengqondo , njengodokotela wengqondo noma wezifo zengqondo, esola ukuthi othile angase abe ne-DPD, ngokuvamile ubuza imibuzo ebanzi nejwayelekile ukuze azame ukuthola isithombe esicacile salokhu okulandelayo:

• Umlando odlule.
• Ubudlelwano.
• Imininingwane yomlando womsebenzi wangaphambilini.
• Ukuhlolwa kwamaqiniso, okungukuthi, indlela esibona ngayo umhlaba wangempela.

Umuntu osolwa ngokuba ne-DPD angase angabi nalwazi ngokuziphatha kwakhe kanye nezindlela zakhe zokucabanga. Ngakho-ke, ochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo bavame ukukhuluma nomndeni nabangane bomuntu ukuze baqoqe ulwazi olwengeziwe ngokuziphatha kwakhe kanye nesikhathi sakhe esidlule.

Izindlela ze-DSM-5 zokuxilonga i-DPD

Abahlinzeki bezempilo yengqondo baxilonga i-Dependent Personality Disorder ngokusekelwe ezindinganisweni eziku-American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5).

Ngokwezindlela zokuxilonga ze-DPD, okungenani izindlela ezinhlanu zokuziphatha ezilandelayo kumele zibhekwe ngendlela eqhubekayo:

• Ubunzima bokwenza izinqumo zansuku zonke ngaphandle kweseluleko esiningi kanye nokuqinisekiswa abanye.
• Isidingo sokunikeza abanye umthwalo wemfanelo wezinto eziningi ezibalulekile empilweni.
• Ubunzima bokuveza ukungavumelani ngenxa yokwesaba ukulahlekelwa ukwesekwa noma ukuvunyelwa abanye.
• Ubunzima bokuqala amaphrojekthi wedwa ngenxa yokungazethembi emakhonweni akho nasekwahluleleni kwakho.
• Isifiso sokwenza noma yini (ngisho nezinto ongazithandi) ukuze uthole ukwesekwa kwabanye.
• Ukuzizwa ungakhululekile noma ungenalusizo lapho ungedwa, ngenxa yokwesaba ukungakwazi ukuzinakekela.
• Uma ubuhlobo obuseduze buphela, kunesidingo esikhulu sokwakha ngokushesha ubuhlobo obusha nomuntu ozokunikeza ukunakekelwa nokusekelwa.
• Ukukhathazeka ngokungadingekile futhi ngaphandle kwesisekelo, ucabanga ukuthi ngeke ube nomuntu ozokunakekela, ukuthi uzoba wedwa.

Yiziphi izindlela zokwelapha lokhu?

Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu kunzima kakhulu ukwelapha ngoba abantu abanalezi zimo banezindlela ezijulile ezingqondweni zabo nasekuziphatheni kwabo osekuyiminyaka eminingi.

Lapho kwelashwa abantu abane-DPD, ukwesekwa kanye nokubandakanyeka kwabathandekayo babo kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukwelashwa kuvame ukuhlanganisa ukwelashwa kwengqondo kanye nemithi ngezinye izikhathi.

Ukwelashwa kwengqondo kwe-DPD

Ukwelashwa kwengqondo, okwaziwa nangokuthi ukwelashwa ngenkulumo, kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokwelapha izinkinga zobuntu. Umgomo oyinhloko ukukusiza ukuthi ubone izisusa kanye nokwesaba okuyisisekelo okusemuva kwemicabango nokuziphatha kwakho. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungafunda ukuxhumana nabanye ngendlela eyakhayo nenempilo.

Izindlela ezimbili eziqondile zokwelashwa kwengqondo ezingasiza abantu abane-DPD yilezi:

• Ukwelashwa nge-Psychodynamic: Lolu hlobo lokwelashwa lugxila ezimpandeni zengqondo zokucindezeleka ngokomzwelo. Ngokuzicabangela , ubheka ngokujulile ubudlelwano obunezinkinga kanye nezindlela zokuziphatha empilweni yakho. Lokhu kukusiza ukuthi uziqonde kangcono. Kukusiza futhi ukuthi ushintshe indlela oxhumana ngayo nabanye kanye nendawo okuyo.
• Ukwelashwa Kokuziphatha Kokuqonda (i-CBT): Lokhu kuyindlela yokwelapha ehlelekile, egxile emigomweni. Udokotela wengqondo noma isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kukusiza ukuthi ubheke imicabango nemizwa yakho eduze. Ungaqonda ukuthi imicabango yakho ithinta kanjani izenzo zakho. Nge-CBT, ungayeka imicabango nemikhuba emibi . Ufunda nokuthuthukisa amaphethini nemikhuba yokucabanga enempilo. Ukwelashwa kwe-DPD kungabhekana ngqo nokwesaba kwakho ukuzimela nobunzima ngokuzikhandla .

Imithi ye-DPD

Okwamanje, ayikho imithi ethile engelapha izinkinga zobuntu. Kodwa-ke, kunemithi engelapha izimo ezifana nokucindezeleka nokukhathazeka okungenzeka ngesikhathi esisodwa kubantu abane-DPD. Ukwelapha lezi zimo kungasiza futhi ekwelapheni i-DPD.

Kodwa-ke, ukuze uthole imiphumela emihle kakhulu, udinga ukuhlanganisa imithi nokwelashwa kwengqondo .

Kwenzekani uma ingelashwa? Iyini inhloso?

Umbono wesifo sokuxhomekeka kumuntu, okungukuthi, umphumela, uncike ekutheni siyelashwa noma cha.

Uma ingelashwa, i-DPD ingabangela okulandelayo:

• Ukuvela kwezinye izimo zempilo yengqondo, njengokucindezeleka kanye nezinkinga zokusebenzisa izidakamizwa .
• Izinkinga ebudlelwaneni kanye nokungakwazi ukuzilondoloza.
• Ingozi eyengeziwe yokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba, ngokomzwelo, noma ngokocansi.

Abantu abane-DPD banezinga eliphezulu lemibono yokuzibulala kanye nokuzama ukuzibulala. > Uma wena noma othile omaziyo ebhekene nemicabango yokuzibulala, sicela ufune iseluleko sezokwelapha ngokushesha, noma utshele umuntu omethembayo. Khumbula ukuthi kuhlale kukhona umuntu ozokusiza.

Ingabe i-DPD ingavinjelwa?

Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu obuxhomeke kumuntu akunakuvinjelwa. Kodwa-ke, ukwelashwa kunganciphisa izinkinga ezikubangelayo. Ukufuna usizo ngokushesha nje lapho izimpawu zivela kungasiza ekunciphiseni ukuphazamiseka empilweni yomuntu, emndenini wakhe kanye nasebunganeni bakhe.

Into ebaluleke kakhulu okufanele uyikhumbule ukuthi i-DPD iyisimo sempilo yengqondo. Njenganoma yisiphi isimo sempilo yengqondo, ukufuna usizo ngokushesha nje lapho izimpawu zivela kungasiza ekunciphiseni ukuphazamiseka empilweni yakho. Ochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo bangakunikeza izinhlelo zokwelapha ukukusiza ukuthi uphathe imicabango yakho nokuziphatha kwakho.

Izihlobo zabantu abane-DPD nazo zingase zibhekane nokucindezeleka, ukucindezeleka, kanye nokuzihlukanisa . Kubalulekile ukunakekela impilo yakho yengqondo nokufuna usizo uma uhlangabezana nalezi zimpawu.

Okokugcina, into ebaluleke kakhulu okudingeka uyikhumbule...

Ngakho-ke, ungabona ukuthi i-DPD ayilula, kodwa kukhona usizo . Uma ubhekene nento efana nale, awuwedwa.

• Ukuqaphela kuyisinyathelo sokuqala: Uma uzizwa unalezi zimpawu, kubaluleke kakhulu ukufuna iseluleko sochwepheshe.
• Ukwelashwa kungasiza: Ukwelashwa kwengqondo, ikakhulukazi izindlela ezifana ne-CBT kanye nokwelashwa kwengqondo, kungakusiza ukuthi ushintshe ukuziphatha kwakho okubangela umlutha kanye nemicabango.
• Kungcono ukufuna usizo kusenesikhathi: Ukufuna usizo ngokushesha nje lapho uqaphela ukuthi kunenkinga kungavimbela isimo ukuba sibe sibi kakhulu.
• Abathandekayo bakho nabo badinga ukwesekwa: Ukuhlala nomuntu one-DPD kungaba yinselele. Bakhuthaze ukuba bacabange nangempilo yabo yengqondo.

Khumbula, unelungelo lokuba namandla okuzenzela konke wedwa. Akulona uphawu lobuthakathaka ukucela usizo kulolo hambo.

Isifo Sobuntu Esixhomeke Kubo, i-DPD, Impilo Yengqondo, Izinkinga Zobuntu, Ukukhathazeka, Ukwelashwa Ngengqondo, Ukwelashwa Kokuziphatha