Azikho izindaba ezijabulisa kakhulu kunezindaba zokuthi uzoba umama. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, kufika amathemba amaningi amahle engqondweni. Kodwa lesi sikhathi asifani kuwo wonke umuntu. Kwabanye, lesi sikhathi singaba yinto ecindezelayo nedabukisayo ngendlela engenakucatshangwa. Yilokho esizokhuluma ngakho namuhla. Ngoba lesi yisihloko esingathi sína esingenakunakwa futhi esingadlala ngezimpilo.
Kuyini ukucindezeleka okuhlobene nokukhulelwa?
Kalula nje, kwezokwelapha, sibiza ukucindezeleka kwangaphambi kokubeletha ngokuthi isimo sokucindezeleka okwenzeka kumama ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa noma phakathi nonyaka wokuqala ngemva kokubeletha.
Lesi yisimo esibi kakhulu kune-'baby blues', esidabukisayo kancane futhi siphele ezinsukwini ezimbalwa. Usizi, ukukhathazeka, kanye nokuphelelwa yithemba okuzwayo kungahlala amasonto noma izinyanga. Kungathinta impilo yakho kuze kube yilapho ungakwazi ngisho nokwenza imisebenzi yakho yansuku zonke ngendlela efanele. Uma udokotela ekuxilonga futhi ekuxilonga ukuthi unesifo sokucindezeleka, noma ekunike imithi yokukwelapha, yilokho esikubiza ngokuthi ''Perinatal Depression''.
Khumbula, lokhu akulona iphutha lakho, futhi akulona ubuthakathaka enhliziyweni yakho. Kuyisimo sezokwelapha esidinga ukwelashwa futhi sibangelwa izinguquko zamahomoni emzimbeni, ingcindezi yomphakathi, nezinye izinto eziningi.
Iqiniso elidabukisayo elivezwe ucwaningo lwakamuva
Izifundo ezimbili zamuva nje ezenziwe eqenjini elikhulu lomama eSweden zembule amaqiniso ashaqisayo ngalokhu. Le mibiko yocwaningo yaze yanyatheliswa ngisho nasemaphephabhukwini ezokwelapha ahlonishwa kakhulu emhlabeni, i-"JAMA Network Open" kanye ne-"BMJ".
Lezo zifundo zibonisa ukuthi omama abanalesi simo, "Ukucindezeleka Kwangaphambi Kokuzalwa," cishe banamathuba aphindwe kathathu okuba nemicabango yokuzibulala nokuzibulala kunomama abangenaso lesi simo. Cabanga ukuthi lokho kuyingozi kangakanani.
Futhi, enye into eyesabekayo etholwe yilolu cwaningo ukuthi le ngozi ayipheli ngokushesha ngemva kokuthola umntwana. Bathole ukuthi ingozi ihlala iphezulu isikhathi eside, njengeminyaka eyi-18 .
Iyini ingozi? Ake sibone.
Ungawuqonda kahle lo mehluko wengozi kusukela kuthebula elingezansi.
| Ingozi | Umama onesifo sokucindezeleka ngesikhathi sokubeletha | Umama ongenakho ukucindezeleka kokubeletha |
|---|---|---|
| Ukufa ngokuzibulala | Ingozi ephezulu ngokuphindwe kasithupha (6x) | Ingozi evamile |
| Ukuziphatha kokuzibulala, okuhlanganisa nokuzama ukuzibulala | Ingozi ephezulu ngokuphindwe kathathu (kathathu) | Ingozi evamile |
| Ukufa engozini | Ingozi ephezulu ngokuphindwe kathathu (kathathu) | Ingozi evamile |
Kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Ingabe kuyizakhi zofuzo?
Abantu abaningi bangase bacabange, "O... banezifo zengqondo ezinjalo emndenini wabo" noma "Kumelwe ukuba babenalezi zinkinga ngaphambi kokuba bakhulelwe." Kodwa into emangazayo ukuthi lezi zifundo zibonise ngokucacile ukuthi ukuxhumana komndeni akuyona yodwa imbangela yale ngozi ekhulayo. Futhi, ingozi yalesi simo 'sokucindezeleka kokubeletha' iyanda ngokwehlukana nangokuzimela, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwakukhona isifo sengqondo ngaphambi kokukhulelwa noma cha.
Lokhu kusho ukuthi noma ungakaze ube nezinkinga zempilo yengqondo ngaphambili, futhi akekho emndenini wakho onomlando wezinkinga ezinjalo, lesi simo kanye nezingozi ezihlobene naso zingase zivele ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa.
Ngakho-ke senzani? Singaphunyuka kanjani kulokhu?
Lokhu kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu. Nakuba lesi simo sibucayi, singalawulwa futhi selapheke ngokuphelele . Nazi izinto okumelwe sizenze nakanjani.
1. Ungafihli imizwa yakho, khuluma ngayo.
Uma uzizwa udangele, unesizungu, ucindezelekile, noma ungenathemba, sicela ungakugcini kuwe. Khuluma nomyeni wakho, umama wakho, ubaba wakho, umngane wakho omkhulu, noma ubani omethembayo. Futhi, qiniseka ukuthi ukhuluma nombelethisi wakho wezeMpilo yoMndeni, ikakhulukazi udokotela wakho.
2. Ukusekelwa komndeni kubalulekile
Uma unomyeni noma ilungu lomndeni elifunda lokhu, lokhu kungokwakho. Uma umkakho, indodakazi, noma udadewenu esho into efana nale, ungakunaki ngokuthi, "Kunjalo nje," "Ungakhathazeki ngokuba nomntwana," noma "Qina." Kunalokho, mlalele . Zama ukumqonda. Msize athole iseluleko sezokwelapha. Ukusekela kwakho kungamandla akhe amakhulu.
3. Ungaphuthelwa ukuhlolwa kwezokwelapha kanye nokwelashwa
Abacwaningi bagcizelela kakhulu ukubaluleka kokuhlolwa kwempilo yengqondo ngaphambi nangemva kokukhulelwa. Uma udokotela wakho ekubuza ngalokhu, khuluma iqiniso futhi ungafihli imizwa yakho yangempela.
Kubaluleke kakhulu: Uma uke wanikezwa imithi yokucindezeleka noma esinye isifo sengqondo ngaphambili, ungayeki ukuyithatha ngaphandle kokubonisana nodokotela wakho nganoma yisiphi isizathu , ngoba lokhu kungaba yingozi kakhulu. Njalo khuluma nodokotela wakho kuqala ngaphambi kokuthatha noma yimuphi umuthi bese ulandela iseluleko sakhe.
Esimweni esiphuthumayo, okungukuthi, uma imicabango yokuzibulala ikucindezela, iya eMnyangweni Wezimo Eziphuthumayo (ETU) wesibhedlela esiseduze ngokushesha noma utshele umuntu omethembayo.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukucindezeleka kokubeletha akusona isifo sengqondo, kuyisimo esibucayi esidinga ukwelashwa.
- Lesi simo sandisa kakhulu ingozi yokuzibulala, futhi leyo ngozi ingaqhubeka iminyaka eminingi.
- Khuluma ngokukhululekile ngemizwa yakho. Ungamfihli lutho, ikakhulukazi kudokotela wakho.
- Ungalokothi uyeke ukuthatha imithi ebhalwe ngudokotela noma ushintshe umthamo ngaphandle kokubonisana nodokotela.
- Ukusekelwa, ukuqonda, kanye nokulalela amalungu omndeni kubalulekile ukuze kunqotshwe lesi simo.
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