Wake wambona umuntu emgwaqweni, ebhasini, noma ehhovisi wabe usuthatha isinqumo engqondweni ngaye? Mhlawumbe ubuke indlela agqoke ngayo, indlela akhuluma ngayo, indlela asebenzisa ngayo ifoni yakhe , wabe usucabanga ukuthi, "O... lo muntu kumele abe kanje." Lokhu akukhona nje kithi, kuyinto evamile kithi sonke. Namuhla sizokhuluma ngale nto emangalisayo ecashe ezinhliziyweni zethu futhi ethonya izinqumo zethu.
Kuyini lokhu kubandlulula okungazi lutho?
Kalula nje, elithi 'Unconscious Bias' libhekisela ezimweni zengqondo, ezinkolelweni, kanye nemibono egcinwe engqondweni yethu engaphansi kokuqonda, esikhetha ngaphandle kokuthi sikuqaphele. Lokhu kubizwa nangokuthi '(Implicit Bias)'. Cabanga ngobuchopho bethu njengegumbi elikhulu lamafayela. Konke esikubonayo, esikuzwayo, nesikubonayo empilweni yethu yonke kugcinwa kumafayela akuleli gumbi. Konke esikuzwile ngomuntu, uhlanga, inkolo, umsebenzi, lokho esikubonile ku-TV, konke obekusemakhanda ethu kusukela ebuntwaneni kukula mafayela.
Uma sihlangana nomuntu omusha, noma sibhekene nesimo, ubuchopho bethu buya ngokushesha kuleli gumbi lamafayela, bufune ulwazi olufanele, bese benza isinqumo esisheshayo ngemizuzwana embalwa ngaphandle kokuthi siqaphele. Yileyo ndlela imicabango efana nokuthi "Lo muntu unje," "Le nto ayilungile," efika ngayo engqondweni.
Akuzona zonke lezi zindlela zokuthambekela (bi AS ) ezimbi. Isibonelo, cabanga ukuthi uzithanda ngempela izinja ezimhlophe, ezinoboya obukhulu. Nomaphi lapho ubona khona inja enjalo, uzizwa ngokuzenzakalelayo umuzwa wothando enhliziyweni yakho. Lokho futhi kuwukuthambekela okuhle engqondweni engaphansi kokuqonda.
Kodwa-ke, lokhu kubandlulula esikwakhayo ezingqondweni zethu ngokusekelwe ezintweni ezifana nohlanga lwabantu, ubudala, ubulili, inkolo, noma umsebenzi kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu. Ngezinye izikhathi lokhu kusekelwe olwazini oluphelelwe yisikhathi, olungalungile, noma olujwayelekile ngokweqile (ama-stereotypes). Ngezinye izikhathi ezinjengalezi, ukusabela kwethu cishe kungaba kubi. Uma ukhetha umuntu emsebenzini, lapho uhlangana nabantu abasha emphakathini, nasemisebenzini yansuku zonke, lokhu kubandlulula okungazi kungaholela ekwenzeni izinqumo ezingalungile ngisho nokulimaza abantu.
Ingabe nami nginemibono ebandlulula kanje?
Empeleni, yebo. Sonke sinazo lezi zinto. Ngenxa yokuthi zijulile engqondweni yethu, akulula ngathi ukuzibona. Asikwazi ukucabanga nje bese sibuza, "Hmm... yiziphi izinkanuko zami?"
Into ebalulekile ukuthi ukuba nale micabango engqondweni yakho engaphansi kokuqonda akusho ukuthi ubandlulula ngamabomu noma ungumuntu omubi. Kumane kuyingxenye yendlela evamile ubuchopho bomuntu obucubungula ngayo ulwazi .
Cabanga nje, wena ngokwazi, ngengqondo yakho ephapheme, ukholelwa ngokuqinile ukuthi wonke umuntu kufanele aphathwe ngokulinganayo. Kodwa uma usebhasini, bese othile egqoke kabi kancane eza ezohlala eduze kwakho, ungase uzizwe uthukuthele kancane ngokungazi. Yileyo ndlela ukukhetha okungaphansi kokuqonda okusebenza ngayo. Kungase kube nokungqubuzana phakathi komcabango wakho ophapheme kanye nempendulo yakho engaphansi kokuqonda.
Izindaba ezinhle ukuthi le mibono engaphansi kokuqonda ayisekelwe entweni. Ingashintsha ngokuhlangenwe nakho okusha nolwazi olusha.
Ngakho-ke ushintsha kanjani le micabango engaphansi kokuqonda?
Lokhu kudinga umzamo nesikhathi. Kodwa kungenzeka ngempela. Ochwepheshe bathole izindlela eziningana zokwenza lokhu. Ake sibone ukuthi ziyini.
| Indlela okufanele uyilandele | Kalula nje... |
|---|---|
| Funa abantu abaphula imibono ephambene. | Naka abalingiswa nezibonelo eziphikisana nemibono esiyicabangayo. Isibonelo, uma unenkolelo ejulile yokuthi "abesifazane abakwazi ukushayela kahle," bheka ngqo abesifazane abashayela kahle emgwaqweni. Qaphela abalingiswa abanjalo kumadrama e-TV nasemaphephandabeni. |
| Hlangana nabantu abasha. | Ukuhlangana nokukhuluma nabantu abavela ezizindeni ezahlukene kungashintsha imibono yethu esinayo. Esikhundleni sokuhleka nokuhleka nje, kungcono kakhulu ukusebenza ndawonye ukuze uthole umgomo ofanayo endaweni efana nehhovisi. Khona-ke ungaqonda ngempela amakhono abo kanye nezici zabo. |
| Qaphela lokhu. | Ukwazi ukuthi into efana nale ikhona kuyisinyathelo esikhulu. Ukufunda kwakho lesi sihloko kuyingxenye yaleso sinyathelo. Uma sesiqaphela lokhu, kuba lula ngathi ukubona imicabango emincane ebandlululayo ephakama ezingqondweni zethu njalo ngomzuzwana. |
| Cabanga ngozwela. | Ngaphambi kokuba wenze isinqumo ngomuntu ngokusekelwe emcabangweni wokuqala ofika engqondweni, yima isikhashana ucabange, "Kuthiwani ukube bengisesimweni sakhe?" Ngaphambi kokuba uthukuthelele umuntu omemezayo futhi ekhuluma ocingweni ebhasini, ungashintsha isimo sakho sengqondo sokuqala ngokucabanga, "Mhlawumbe basanda kuthola izindaba eziphuthumayo ezivela ekhaya." |
| Zijwayeze ukuqaphela. | Ukuqaphela kuyindlela yokuzindla. Kusho ukuqaphela nje imizwa nemicabango efika engqondweni ngaleso sikhathi ngaphandle kokwahlulela (ngaphandle kokuyibiza ngokuthi mihle noma mibi). Ngale ndlela, asinciki kakhulu ezimpendulweni ezizenzakalelayo ezivela ezingqondweni zethu futhi sikwazi ukuphendula ngokuqaphela. |
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukucwasa okungazelelwe kuvamile kithi sonke. Kwakhelwe kokuhlangenwe nakho nolwazi oluqoqwe empilweni yethu yonke.
- Ukuba nale micabango akusho ukuthi ungumuntu omubi. Kumane kuyingxenye yendlela ubuchopho bomuntu obusebenza ngayo.
- Lezi akuzona izinto ezingenakuguqulwa. Ngokuqwashisa, umzamo, kanye nokubekezela, singashintsha lezi zindlela zokuzivumelanisa nezimo.
- Into ebalulekile ukuthi uthathe isikhashana uphumule ngaphambi kokuthatha isinyathelo ngokusabela kwakho kokuqala komuntu noma isimo. Zibuze , "Ingabe lokhu kungumqondo wami wokuqala onengqondo ngempela? Ingabe yile ndlela okufanele ngenze ngayo?" Lokhu kuzovumela ingqondo yakho ephapheme ukuthi yenze isinqumo esinembile nesinengqondo.
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