Uma udokotela wakho ekutshela ukuthi unesifo sokucindezeleka, izinto eziningi zingase zifike engqondweni yakho. Ungase uzizwe sengathi umthwalo omkhulu ususiwe emahlombe akho. Abanye bangase bazizwe bedabukile noma bethukuthele. Abanye bangase bazizwe bekhululekile kancane, becabanga ukuthi, "O, ngiyajabula ukuthi ngithole ukuthi kwenzekani." Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lo muzwa uyini, kuvamile. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuqonda ukuthi awuwedwa kulolu hambo. Ake sixoxe ngalokhu ngemininingwane eyengeziwe .
Kungani lokhu kutholakala kwesifo kuyinkimbinkimbi kangaka?
Abantu basabela ngendlela ehlukile kulokhu kuxilongwa. Kufana nezinhlangothi ezimbili zohlamvu lwemali olufanayo.
Impumuzo eyazwiwa abanye
Kwabanye abantu, lokhu kuyimpumuzo enkulu. Cabanga ngokuthola impendulo yenkinga obungakwazi ukuthola isizathu sayo isikhathi eside. Ucabanga ukuthi, "O... bengilokhu ngihlushwa yilokhu isikhathi eside ngenxa yokugula, akulona iphutha lami." Uma uthola ukuthi lesi yisimo sezokwelapha esingelapheka, uzizwa unethemba elincane ngekusasa. Kuwumuzwa onengqondo kakhulu.
Ihlazo nokwesaba abanye abakuzwayo
Kodwa-ke, abantu abaningi bayalwa nalesi sifo. Imibuzo efana nokuthi, "Ingabe ngicindezelekile? Ingabe lokho kusho ukuthi ngibuthakathaka? Ingabe kukhona okungahambi kahle ngobuntu bami?" igcwalisa izingqondo zabo.
Umphakathi wethu usabheka izinkinga zempilo yengqondo ngendlela ehlukile kancane. Kungenzeka ukuthi uke wezwa izinto ezinjengokuthi, "Kumane kuyisifo sengqondo," "Cabanga kanzima," nokuthi "Ungabi yisivila wenze okuthile." Ngezinye izikhathi, abantu abadala nabazali ekhaya abafuni ukwamukela lokhu njengezifo. Bangase bathi, "Besingenazo lezi zifo esikhathini sethu, futhi uma usebenza kanzima futhi usebenza kanzima, zizothuthuka." Ngakho-ke, akumangazi ukuthi abantu bazizwa benamahloni, benecala, futhi benesizungu lapho bezwa ukuthi banesifo sengqondo.
Ukucindezeleka akusona ubuthakathaka, kuyisimo sezokwelapha!
Into ebaluleke kakhulu okufanele uyikhumbule ukuthi ukucindezeleka akusikho ubuthakathaka ebuntwini bakho, ebuntwini bakho, noma ekuhlakanipheni kwakho. Kuyisimo sempilo ngokuphelele .
Ukuze kube sobala, lokhu kuhlobene nezinguquko ezithile kumakhemikhali e-neurotransmitter ebuchosheni bethu. Njengesifo sikashukela kanye nomfutho wegazi ophakeme. Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukukwazi lokhu ngendlela efanele.
Ungakhuluma nodokotela wakho ngalokhu. Futhi, wandise ulwazi lwakho ngokufunda ngalokhu kumawebhusayithi anolwazi lwezokwelapha oluthembekile. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi ususe izinganekwane kanye nezimo zengqondo ezingalungile ezikhona kulowo mphakathi. Uma usukwazi lokhu, ungachazela nabathandekayo bakho ngalokhu.
Ngicela usizo kubani?
Akukuhle ukuba wedwa lapho ulwa nokucindezeleka. Sidinga ukwesekwa okuqinile, ukuxhumana okuhle nabantu. Ngakho-ke, ake sibheke ezinye izindawo lapho ungacela khona usizo.
| Izindlela zokuthola ukwesekwa | Lokho okutholayo nokuthi yini okufanele uyenze |
|---|---|
| Umndeni nabangani | Ukuba nomndeni nabangane abaqonda isimo sakho kuyinzuzo enkulu. Batshele ukuthi ubhekene nani. Mhlawumbe ukucindezeleka kwakho kukwenza uzizwe uthukuthele futhi ukhungathekile. Uma ubatshela isizathu sangempela, bazokwazi ukukuqonda futhi bakusize ngokwelashwa kwakho. |
| Yiba oqondile lapho ucela usizo. | Esikhundleni sokuthi "Ngidinga usizo" ngokuvamile, khuluma ngokuqondile ngalokho okudingayo. Isibonelo, yithi, "Kungaba kuhle ukube ubungangilalela nje lapho ngikhuluma, kunokuba uhlale ungishayela ucingo ungibuze ukuthi nginjani." Noma, cela usizo oluthile, njengokuthi, "Angifuni ukupheka kulezi zinsuku, ungangenzela ukudla usuku olulodwa noma ezimbili?" |
| Amaqembu Okusekela | Lena indawo enhle yokuhlangana nabantu abaye baba nokuhlangenwe nakho okufanayo nawe. Kuyinjabulo ukwazi ukuthi awuwedwa. Ukuzwa ngendlela abanye abaye banqoba ngayo lesi simo kungakunika imibono emisha nethemba. |
| Izindawo zenkolo nabaholi bomphakathi | Uma ungumuntu okholwayo, ungacela induduzo nesiqondiso endaweni yakho yenkolo nakubaholi bayo. Ezinye izikhungo zenkolo zinikeza ngisho nezinsizakalo zokweluleka. |
Kodwa-ke, uma umndeni wakho noma abangani bakho bengabantu abahlekisa noma abangazinaki izinto ezinjalo, ungazama ukubafundisa. Kodwa-ke, uma kukwenza uzizwe ucindezeleke kakhulu, kuwukuhlakanipha ukungalindeli ukwesekwa okukhulu kubo bese ucela usizo kwenye indawo.
Izinto ongazenza wena
Ngaphezu kokusiza abanye, kunezinto eziningi ongazenzela zona ezizoba usizo olukhulu ohambweni lwakho lokululama.
Zibandakanye entweni enenjongo.
Ukuzibandakanya entweni ekunika umqondo nenhloso, njengokuzithandela , kungaba yinzuzo enkulu enhlalakahleni yakho. Ukusiza abanye nokuhlangana nabantu abasha kungasiza ekunciphiseni ezinye zezimpawu zokucindezeleka.
Zivocavoce ngokomzimba.
Ukuzivocavoca umzimba kungenye yezindlela zemvelo ezinamandla kakhulu zokuqeda ukucindezeleka. Ukuhamba ibanga elifushane, ukugijima, noma ukuya ejimini nsuku zonke kungaba yindlela enhle yokuthuthukisa isimo sakho sengqondo nomzimba. Uma uzivocavoca, umzimba wakho ukhipha amakhemikhali akwenza uzizwe kahle. Futhi, ijimu noma iqembu lezemidlalo liyindawo enhle yokwenza ukuxhumana nabantu okusha.
Sebenza eduze nodokotela wakho.
Ngaphezu kwakho konke, kubalulekile ukuhlala uxhumana nodokotela wakho njalo . Mbuze ukuthi yiziphi izindlela zokwelapha ezifanele wena nokuthi yiziphi izinguquko okudingeka uzenze endleleni yakho yokuphila.
- Phuza imithi yakho oyinikezwe udokotela njengoba nje uyalelwe, ngesikhathi esifanele.
- Uma uhlangabezana nanoma yimiphi imiphumela emibi, yazisa udokotela wakho.
- Khuluma ngokukhululekile ngezinguquko esimweni sakho sengqondo.
Khumbula, kunezimbangela eziningi zokucindezeleka. Lokho kusho ukuthi kunezindlela eziningi ezahlukene zokukwelapha. Udokotela wakho uzokwazi ukukusiza ukuthola ukwelashwa okukusebenzela kahle.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukucindezeleka akulona iphutha lakho noma ubuthakathaka. Kuyisifo esingelapheka.
- Uma ufunda ngalokhu, ungase uzizwe udabukile, unamahloni, uthukuthele, ngisho nokukhululeka. Yonke le mizwa ivamile.
- Khuluma nomndeni nabangane abakuqondayo ngalokhu. Bacele usizo oluqondile oludingayo.
- Amaqembu okusekelana, umsebenzi wokuzithandela, kanye nokuzivocavoca umzimba kungaba usizo olukhulu ohambweni lwakho lokululama.
- Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukusebenzisana eduze nodokotela wakho futhi ulandele ngqo ukwelashwa okunikezwe ngudokotela. Awuwedwa kule mpi.
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