Kuyini Ukuthomba? Ake sixoxe ngalesi sikhathi esibalulekile enganeni yakho!

Njengoba ingane yakho ikhula, idlula ezinguqukweni eziningi, ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo, akunjalo? Yilesi sikhathi lapho sibiza khona ukuthomba. Lesi yisikhathi semvelo nesibalulekile empilweni yengane ngayinye. Ngakho-ke, ake sixoxe ngakho ngokuningiliziwe. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, wena nengane yakho ningabhekana nezinkinga eziningi. Ungakhathazeki, ake sikuchaze konke ngamagama alula.

Kusho ukuthini ngempela ukuthomba?

Kalula nje, ukuthomba kubhekisela ezinguqukweni zomzimba neze-hormone umzimba wengane yakho odlula kuzo njengoba ishintsha isuka ebuntwaneni iye ekuvuthweni ngokocansi. Kufana nesibonakaliso semvelo kuwe, "Manje usukulungele ukuba umuntu omdala." Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, umzimba wengane yakho awugcini nje ngokudlula ezinguqukweni ezinkulu, kodwa futhi udlula ezinguqukweni ezinkulu engqondweni nasemizweni yayo. Isikhathi lapho lezi zinguquko ziqala futhi ziphela khona enganeni ngayinye singahluka kancane kuye ngobulili bayo, uhlanga, kanye nezici zemvelo.

Kulesi sihloko, sibhekisela 'kumfana' njengengane enama-testicles akhule futhi akhiqiza i-hormone ebizwa ngokuthi 'i-Testosterone'. 'Intombazane' ingane enama-ovari akhule futhi akhiqiza i-hormone ebizwa ngokuthi 'i-Estrogen'. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ezinye izingane zingase zibe nezinguquko eziningi emzimbeni uma zithatha imithi yokuvimbela ukuthomba noma ukwelashwa ngama-hormone okubangela izici zabesifazane/abesilisa.

Iyini injongo yokuba umuntu omdala?

Ukuthomba kuyinqubo yemvelo umzimba wengane yakho oguquka ngayo ube umuntu omdala. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, izitho zomzimba nezinhlelo zomzimba zengane yakho ziyavuthwa, futhi umzimba wayo ulungiselela ukuzala ngokocansi . Ingane yakho izokhula kakhulu hhayi ngokomzimba kuphela, kodwa nangokwengqondo nangokomzwelo.

Kodwa into eyodwa okufanele uyikhumbule ukuthi noma ingane iba umuntu omdala ngokomzimba kuze kube yilapho ithomba, ukukhula kobuchopho bayo akupheli kuze kube yilapho iseminyakeni yayo yamashumi amabili kuya kweyokugcina . Yingakho isiqondiso sethu, uthando, nokuqonda kubaluleke kangaka kuyo phakathi nalesi sikhathi.

Ukuthomba kuqala kanjani?

Lena indaba yesayensi kancane, kodwa ngizoyichaza kalula ukuze uqonde. Kukhona ingxenye ekhethekile yobuchopho bengane yakho ebizwa ngokuthi "i-Hypothalamus." Ukuthomba kuqala lapho le "Hypothalamus" iqala ukukhiqiza i-hormone ebizwa ngokuthi "i-Gonadotropin-releasing hormone" noma "i-GnRH".

Ngemuva kwalokho, i-`(Hypothalamus)` ithumela i-`(GnRH)` hormone kwenye ingxenye ebalulekile yobuchopho, i-`(Pituitary gland).` Ngemuva kwalokho, i-`(Pituitary gland)` ikhipha amanye ama-hormone amabili, i-`(Luteinizing hormone)` (`LH`) kanye ne-`(Follicle-stimulating hormone)` (`FSH`).

Lawa ma-hormone aya futhi avuselele ama-gonad - ama-ovari emantombazaneni kanye nama-testes kubafana. Yilapho lezo zindlala ziqala khona ukukhulula ama-hormone ocansi - ikakhulukazi i-estrogen emantombazaneni kanye ne-testosterone kubafana. Lawo ma-hormone yiwona abangela izinguquko zomzimba nezengqondo esizibonayo ngesikhathi sokuthomba. Akuyona yini indlela emangalisayo leyo?

Amantombazane aqala nini ukuthomba?

Iningi lamantombazane (lawo anama-ovari) aqala ukuthomba phakathi kweminyaka engu-8 no-13. Lokhu kuvame ukuba yiminyaka emibili ngaphambi kwabafana. Ezinye izifundo zibonise ukuthi amantombazane amnyama namaHispanic angase aqale ukuthomba ngaphambi kwesikhathi kunamantombazane amhlophe (cishe aneminyaka engu-7 1/2 ubudala). Ngakho-ke ungakhathazeki uma abangane bendodakazi yakho benomehluko omncane.

Abafana baqala nini ukuthomba?

Abafana (labo abanamasende) bavame ukuqala ukuthomba phakathi kweminyaka engu-9 no-14. Lokho kungemuva kweminyaka emibili kunamantombazane. Kodwa-ke, kungaba khona umehluko wobuhlanga lapha futhi. Abafana abamnyama nabaseSpain nabo banamathuba amaningi okuqala ukuthomba ngaphambi kwesikhathi kunabafana abamhlophe.

Yiziphi lezi ezibizwa ngokuthi "Izigaba Zokushaqeka" noma izigaba zokuvuthwa ngokocansi?

I-Tanner Staging, noma i-Sexual Maturity Rating (SMR), iyindlela esetshenziswa odokotela ukurekhoda nokuqapha ukuthuthukiswa kwezici zocansi zesibili ezinganeni ngesikhathi sokuthomba. Kalula nje, iyisiqondiso sokuthi yiziphi izigaba zokuthomba ingane yakho okungenzeka idlule kuzo nokuthi zizokwenzeka nini.

Kodwa lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu : Kunobubanzi balokho okubhekwa 'njengokujwayelekile' uma kukhulunywa ngesikhathi sokuthomba nezigaba. Ingane ngayinye ikhula ngesivinini sayo. Lokhu "Kuhlela iTanner" kumane kuyisiqondiso esijwayelekile, akuyona umthetho oqinile okufanele uwulandele. Ngakho-ke ungaqhathanisi intuthuko yengane yakho nezinye izingane, kulungile?

Kwenzeka kanjani ukuthi izigaba ze-Tanner zamantombazane zenzeke?

Kunezigaba ezahlukene ze-Tanner zokushintsha kwamabele nokukhula kwezinwele zesitho sangasese emantombazaneni. Kukhona nezinye izinguquko zomzimba ezenzekayo. Lezi zigaba ze-Tanner ziyisiqondiso esihle sezinguquko ongazilindela emzimbeni wendodakazi yakho. Kunezigaba ezinhlanu zokuthomba emantombazaneni.

• Isigaba 1: Lesi yisigaba sangaphambi kokuthomba. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, amantombazane awahlukile ngokusobala. Kodwa-ke, izindlala zawo ze-adrenal ziyavuthwa futhi ama-ovari awo ayakhula.
• Isigaba 2: Yilapho kuqala khona izinguquko zomzimba. Ngokuvamile, phakathi kweminyaka engu-8 no-13, amantombazane aqala ukuzwa okulandelayo:
• Amabele aqala ukuhluma, futhi izindawo ezimnyama ezizungeze izingono (ama-areola) ziba zinkulu.
• Izinwele zesitho sangasese ziqala ukukhula kahle kakhulu ezinhlangothini zombili ze-labia.
• Ukuphakama kukhuphuka ngamasentimitha angu-2 3/4 (cishe amasentimitha angu-7) ngonyaka.
• I-clitoris iba nkulu kancane.
• Isibeletho siyakhula.
• Ungase unuke umjuluko. Ukusebenzisa i-deodorant kuzosiza.
• Isigaba 3: Izinguquko zomzimba ziyashesha phakathi nalesi sikhathi. Phakathi kweminyaka engu-9 no-14:
• Amabele ayaqhubeka nokukhula.
• Izinwele ezisemahlombe ziqala ukuvela, futhi izinwele zesitho sangasese ziyaqhubeka nokukhula. Izinwele zesitho sangasese seziqinile, zigobile, futhi zimile njengonxantathu obheke phansi.
• Ukuphakama kukhula ngokushesha, ngaphezu kwamasentimitha angu-3 (cishe amasentimitha angu-8) ngonyaka.
• Induna ingenzeka ngoba isikhumba siba namafutha.
• Isigaba 4: Yilapho ukuthomba sekufinyelele esicongweni. Phakathi kweminyaka eyi-10 neyi-15:
• Amabele ayaqhubeka nokukhula. Indawo emnyama ezungeze ingono (i-areola) iyahlukana nezicubu zebele futhi ivele njengeqhubu elihlukile.
• Izinwele ezisendaweni yangasese zisesesimweni sikanxantathu, futhi manje kunezinwele eziningi kakhulu kangangokuthi angikwazi ngisho nokuzibala.
• Ukuphakama kungaqhubeka nokukhula ngamasentimitha angu-2 3/4 (cishe amasentimitha angu-7) ngonyaka.
• Induna ingase iqhubeke.

Lesi yisigaba sesine lapho amantombazane amaningi eqala khona umjikelezo wawo wokuya esikhathini, noma ukuya esikhathini. Ngokuvamile kuqala cishe eminyakeni eyi-12 (ngokuvamile cishe eminyakeni efanayo nonina nodadewabo). Amanye amantombazane angaqala kusenesikhathi noma kamuva. Ukuya esikhathini kuvame ukuqala cishe eminyakeni emibili ngemva kokuba amabele eqale ukukhula kanye nezinwele zesitho sangasese ziqale. Uma ungakaqali ukuya esikhathini eminyakeni emithathu ngemva kokuthomba, bona udokotela.

• Isigaba 5: Lesi yisigaba sokugcina. Ukukhula kuvame ukuphela kulesi sigaba. Amantombazane afinyelela ebudaleni ngokomzimba. Izinwele zasesithweni zingase zehle ziye emathangeni, kanti amanye amantombazane angase abe nomugqa wezinwele ofika ezinqeni. Iningi lamantombazane lifinyelela ukuphakama kwawo okuphezulu lapho eneminyaka engu-16, kodwa amanye angase angafinyeleli ukuphakama kwawo okuphelele aze abe neminyaka engu-20. Amanye amantombazane angase angafinyeleli kulesi sigaba sesihlanu sezinwele zasesithweni; lokhu kungaba isimo sawo 'esivamile'.

Kwenzeka kanjani ukuthi izigaba zabafana ze-Tanner Stages zenzeka?

Kunezigaba ezahlukene ze-Tanner zezinguquko zesitho sangasese sowesilisa kanye nokukhula kwezinwele zesitho sangasese. Kukhona nezinye izinguquko zomzimba. Kubazali, lezi zigaba ze-Tanner ziyisiqondiso esihle sezinguquko ongazilindela emzimbeni wendodana yakho. Kunezigaba ezinhlanu zokuthomba kubafana.

• Isigaba 1:Lesi futhi yisigaba sangaphambi kokuthomba. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, abafana ababukeki behlukile, kodwa izindlala zabo ze-adrenal ziyavuthwa.
• Isigaba 2: Yilapho izinguquko zomzimba ziqala khona. Ngokuvamile, phakathi kweminyaka engu-9 no-14, abafana baqala ukuzwa okulandelayo:
• Ukuthuthukiswa kwezitho zangasese (amasende kanye ne-scrotum kuba kukhulu).
• Izinwele ezinhle ziqala ukuvela nxazonke kwepenisi nangaphansi kwamakhwapha.
• Ukuphakama kuyanda (ngokuvamile phakathi kwamasentimitha angu-2 kuya kwangu-2 1/2 (cishe amasentimitha angu-5-6) ngonyaka), okungabangela ubuhlungu bokukhula.
• Ngokushintsha kokwakheka komzimba, inani lezicubu zamafutha emzimbeni liyancipha.
• Ungase unuke umjuluko, futhi ungase udinge i-deodorant.
• Isigaba 3: Izinguquko zomzimba ziyashesha. Phakathi kweminyaka eyi-10 neyi-16, abafana babhekana nalokhu:
• Ipenisi namasende kuyaqhubeka nokukhula. Kungase kwenzeke ukusha kwesisu ebusuku (amaphupho amanzi).
• Uboya be-pubic endaweni yesitho sangasese buba mnyama, bube buqinile, futhi bukhula bube sesimweni sikanxantathu.
• Ukuphakama kuyaqhubeka nokukhula (kusukela kumasentimitha angu-2 3/4 (cishe amasentimitha angu-7) ngonyaka kuya kumasentimitha angaphezudlwana kwangu-3 (cishe amasentimitha angu-8)).
• Ukujuluka kuyanda, okungaholela ekwandeni kwephunga lomzimba.
• Izwi liyashintsha (ngenkathi izwi liphuka (Liyaqhekeka)).
• Ukuqina kwemisipha kuyanda.

Phakathi nalesi sigaba sesithathu, abanye abafana (cishe amaphesenti angu-50) bangase bakhule amabele, isimo esibizwa ngokuthi "i-Gynecomastia". Kodwa-ke, lokhu kuvame ukuphela ekupheleni kokuthomba. Lokhu kuvame kakhulu phakathi kweminyaka engu-11 no-15. Uma lokhu kubangela izinkinga zomzimba noma zokuxhumana nabantu, kufanele ukhulume nodokotela wengane yakho.

• Isigaba 4: Isikhathi lapho ukuthomba sekufinyelele esicongweni. Phakathi kweminyaka eyi-11 neyi-16, abafana:
• Ubukhulu bepenisi buyanda, isikhumba se-scrotum kanye nama-testicles amnyama. Imibimbi ebomvu ebizwa ngokuthi i-rugae iqala ukwakheka ema-testicles.
• Izinwele zomzimba zikhula zize zibe sezingeni lobudala. Izinwele endaweni yangasese ziqinile futhi zingunxantathu.
• Ukuphakama kukhula ngokushesha, ngokuvamile ngamasentimitha angu-4 (cishe amasentimitha ayi-10) ngonyaka.
• Kuvela induna.
• Izwi liyaqhubeka nokuphuka.
• Isigaba 5: Lesi yisigaba sokugcina. Ukuthomba kuphela kulesi sigaba. Abafana baqeda ukukhula kwabo kanye nokukhula ngokomzimba.
• Kungase kube kulesi sigaba lapho abantu abaningi beqala khona ukuhluma izinwele ebusweni.
• Uboya besitho sangasese bungafinyelela emathangeni, kanti abanye abafana bangase babe nomugqa wezinwele ofinyelela embotsheni.
• Iningi labafana liyayeka ukukhula libe lide lapho lineminyaka engu-17, kodwa abanye bangaqhubeka nokukhula baze bafike eminyakeni engamashumi amabili.

Ukuthomba kuyithinta kanjani imizwa?

Njengoba ingane yakho ingena ekuthombeni, ungase uqaphele noma ungaluboni ushintsho olukhulu emizweni yayo. Ukwanda okungazelelwe kwama-hormone ocansi kanye nokucindezela okuvela emphakathini kungabangela ingane ukuba ibe nokushintshashintsha kwemizwelo, intukuthelo engazelelwe, kanye nezingxabano namalungu omndeni. Cabanga ukuthi kungakanani okwenzekayo ngaphakathi nangaphandle kwemizimba yayo!

Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, ingane yakho idlula ezinguqukweni ezinkulu ekuzibonakaliseni kwayo kanye nokuphila kwayo emphakathini. Ingase ibhekane nemizwa ehlukahlukene, okuhlanganisa ukuzethemba okuphansi, isifiso, ukudideka, kanye nokwesaba ngocansi lwayo. Ngakho-ke ukubekezela nokuqonda kwakho kubaluleke kakhulu phakathi nalesi sikhathi.

Kodwa-ke, uma kuvela izinkinga ezinkulu ngokomzwelo noma zokuziphatha – njengokukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka, ukushintshashintsha kwemizwelo ngokweqile, noma ulaka – kubalulekile ukubona udokotela wengane yakho. Ingane yakho ingazuza ngokwelashwa kwengqondo, okuwukwelashwa ngokukhuluma, kanye, uma kudingeka, ngemithi.

Kuphela nini ukuthomba?

Kumantombazane, ukuthomba kuvame ukuphela phakathi kweminyaka eyi-15 neyi-17. Kubafana, kuvame ukuphela phakathi kweminyaka eyi-16 neyi-17. Futhi, ingane ngayinye ihlukile, ngakho-ke lezi zigaba zeminyaka zingahluka.

Kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukufinyelela ekuthombeni?

Ukuthomba kuvame ukuthatha iminyaka emibili kuya kwemihlanu ukuqeda. Kodwa ingane ngayinye ihlukile, ngakho-ke kunzima ukusho ukuthi kuzothatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuthomba. Kunzima ukwazi ukuthi kuzothatha isikhathi esingakanani ngempela. Kodwa khumbula, umzimba wengane yakho udlula esigabeni semvelo empilweni.

Yimaphi ama-hormone ahilelekile ekuthombeni?

Kukhona ama-hormone abalulekile ahilelekile ekuthombeni, esesikhulume ngawo kancane ngaphambili, akunjalo?

• I-Gonadotropin-releasing hormone (GnRH): Yilokhu okuqala ukuthomba kuyo yonke ingane.
• I-Luteinizing hormone (LH): Le hormone ivuselela amangqamuzana kuma-ovari abesifazane ukuthi akhiqize ama-hormone ahlobene ne-estrogen, futhi ivuselela amangqamuzana emasendeni amadoda ukuthi akhiqize i-testosterone.
• I-Follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH): Le hormone ivuselela ukukhiqizwa kwe-estrogen emaqanda, futhi ivuselela namaseli emigudwini ekhiqiza isidoda samasende ukuze isize ekukhiqizeni isidoda.
• I-Testosterone: Lena yi-hormone yocansi eyinhloko kubafana. Ngesikhathi sokuthomba, ukwanda kwe-testosterone kubangela izinguquko eziningi, okuhlanganisa ukukhuphuka kobude, ukukhula kwezinwele emzimbeni nasezithweni zangasese, ukwandiswa kwepenis, amasende, kanye ne-prostate gland, kanye nokwanda kwesifiso sobulili.
• I-estrogen:Lena yi-hormone yocansi eyinhloko emantombazaneni. Ngesikhathi sokuthomba, ukwanda kwe-estrogen kubangela izici zocansi zesibili njengokukhula kwamabele kanye noshintsho esimweni somzimba (ukugoba). Kuphinde kuthinte ukuya esikhathini, kanye namanye ama-hormone.
• I-progesterone: Lena enye i-hormone yocansi yabesifazane. Inegalelo ekushintsheni kwamabele ngesikhathi sokuthomba, futhi ibalulekile nasekuya esikhathini nasekukhulelweni okunempilo.

Izindlala ze-adrenal zengane yakho zikhiqiza olunye uhlobo lwe-hormone olubizwa ngokuthi ama-androgens. Lawa ma-hormone yiwona abangela izici zobulili zesibili - ikakhulukazi ukukhula kwezinwele ze-pubic kanye nezingalweni (adrenarche). Nakuba lokhu (adrenarche) kwenzeka ngokwanda kwama-hormone obulili ngesikhathi sokuthomba, izindlala ze-adrenal zingakhiqiza futhi (androgens) ezithinta izinwele ze-pubic. Intombazane eyodwa kwabane izoba nayo (adrenarche) ngaphambi kokuba ikhule amabele (thelarche).

Yiziphi izinkinga ezingavela ngesikhathi sokuthomba?

Kunezinkinga ezimbili eziyinhloko ezingaba khona ngesikhathi sokuthomba: ukuthomba ngaphambi kwesikhathi kanye nokuthomba okulibazisekile . Lezi zimo zingabangela:

• Ukushoda kokudla okunempilo, okungukuthi, izinkinga zokudla.
• Ukuchayeka kuma-hormone avela endaweni ezungezile.
• Izimila ezithinta ukukhiqizwa kwama-hormone.
• Izimo zofuzo.

Ngezinye izikhathi kungase kungenzeki ukuthola isizathu salokhu.

Kuyini ukuthomba ngaphambi kwesikhathi?

Odokotela babheka ukuthomba kwangaphambi kwesikhathi njengokuqala lapho izici zobulili zesibili ziqala ngaphambi kweminyaka engu-8 yamantombazane kanye nangaphambi kweminyaka engu-9 yabafana (iSigaba sesi-2 se-Tanner), kanti ezinye izigaba zokuthomba zenzeka ngokushesha ngemva kwalokho.

Kuyini ukuthomba okubambezelekile?

Odokotela babheka ukuthi ukuthomba okulibazisekile okulandelayo:

• Uma intombazane ineminyaka engu-13 ubudala futhi ingakaqali ukukhula kwamabele (Isigaba sesi-2 se-Tanner).
• Uma umfana eneminyaka eyi-14 ubudala futhi izitho zakhe zangasese zingakaqali ukukhula (Isigaba se-Tanner) 2.

Futhi, uma intombazane ingakaqali ukuya esikhathini eminyakeni emithathu yeSigaba sesi-2 se-Tanner, noma eneminyaka engu-15, odokotela bangase bakubize ngokuthi yi-primary amenorrhea. Ezimweni ezinjalo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukufuna iseluleko sezokwelapha.

Kufanele ngikhulume nini nodokotela mayelana nokuthomba kwengane yami?

Uma ingane yakho inanoma iyiphi yalezi zinto, kufanele ubonane nodokotela:

• Induna enzima engeke iphele.
• Ubuhlungu obungabekezeleleki obuvela uma ukhuphuka intaba.
• Izimpawu zokucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, noma esinye isimo sempilo yengqondo.
• Ukuya esikhathini okungajwayelekile ngisho nangemva konyaka wokuqala wokuya esikhathini.
• Ubuhlungu obungaphezu kokuvamile bokuya esikhathini kanye nobuhlungu bomhlane.

Futhi, tshela udokotela wakho ngalezi zinto:

• Uma indodana yakho ibonisa izimpawu zokuthomba ngaphambi kokuba ifinyelele eminyakeni engu-9 .
• Uma indodana yakho ineminyaka engu-15 ubudala futhi ingakabonisi zimpawu zokuthomba.
• Uma indodakazi yakho ibonisa izimpawu zokuthomba ngaphambi kokuba ifinyelele eminyakeni engu-8 .
• Uma indodakazi yakho ineminyaka engu-13 ubudala futhi ingabonisi zimpawu zokuthomba.

Uma ubona izinto ezinjengalezi, kungcono ungesabi bese ukhuluma nodokotela.

Ngingamsiza kanjani ingane yami phakathi nalesi sikhathi sokuthomba?

Ukuthomba yisikhathi sezinguquko ezinkulu kuwe nakumntwana wakho. Nansi indlela ongasiza ngayo ingane yakho:

• Bazise ngezinguquko ezenzeka emizimbeni yabo . Khuluma ngokukhululekile futhi ungabi namahloni.
• Bafundise ngokuzala ngokocansi, ukubaluleka kwemvume, kanye nemikhuba yocansi ephephile .
• Banike isiqinisekiso nesibindi lapho bezwa ukwesaba, ukudideka, noma eminye imizwa eyinkimbinkimbi mayelana nokuthomba.
• Yiba yisibonelo esihle kubo mayelana nokwamukelwa komzimba kanye nendlela yokuphila enempilo.
• Hlonipha isidingo sabo sobumfihlo obuningi kanye nokuzimela.
• Ngenela lapho kunezinkinga zokuphepha bese ubeka imingcele efanele.

Ukuthomba kungaba isikhathi esijabulisayo, kodwa esiyinselele, empilweni yengane yakho, kanye nasempilweni yomndeni wakho. Kanye nezinguquko zomzimba, ingane yakho ingase ibhekane nezinguquko eziningi ezingokomzwelo. Khumbula, udokotela wengane yakho ukhona ukukusiza wena kanye nayo nganoma yimiphi imibuzo noma ukukhathazeka. Bangayihlola ingane yakho futhi banqume ukuthi iyakhula njengoba kulindelekile.

Yini ebaluleke kakhulu esifuna ukuyithatha ekhaya kule ndaba?

Kulungile, ngakho-ke lezi yizinto eziyinhloko okudingeka uzikhumbule kulokho esikhulume ngakho. Ukuthomba kuyingxenye yemvelo yokuphila kwengane ngayinye. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, kunezinguquko eziningi ezinkulu, kokubili ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.

• Ingane ngayinye ihlukile: Indlela ingane eyodwa efinyelela ngayo ekuthombeni, kanye nesikhathi esithathayo ukwenza kanjalo, kungase kuhluke kwenye. Lokho kuvamile. Ungaziqhathanisi nabanye.
• Khuluma ngokukhululekile: Kubalulekile ukukhuluma ngokukhululekile nengane yakho ngalezi zinguquko kanye nendlela ezizwa ngayo. Lalela imibuzo yayo.
• Iseluleko sikadokotela: Uma unemibuzo noma ukungabaza, ikakhulukazi uma unomuzwa wokuthi ukuthomba kuqala kusenesikhathi noma sekwephuzile kakhulu, ungangabazi ukufuna iseluleko kudokotela.
• Uthando lwakho nokuqonda kwakho: Ngalesi sikhathi, ingane yakho idinga uthando lwakho, ukwesekwa kwakho, nokuqonda kwakho kunanini ngaphambili. Mnike umuzwa wokulondeka nomuzwa wokuba yingxenye yeqembu.

Ngisho noma lesi yisikhathi esinzima, ungaba umthombo wamandla enganeni yakho kulolu hambo oluhle lokuba yindoda/uwesifazane omkhulu! Uma ufuna ukwazi okwengeziwe ngalokhu, vele ubuze.

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