Ingabe umngane wakho noma ilungu lomndeni wakho ligqoka izingubo ezinemikhono emide ngaphandle kwesizathu? Uke waphawula amanxeba noma amabala emzimbeni wakhe? Mhlawumbe lowo muntu uyazilimaza. Lesi yisihloko esibucayi kakhulu futhi kunzima ukukhuluma ngaso. Kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhuluma ngaso nokusiqaphela. Ngoba indlela engcono kakhulu yokusiza umuntu ohlushwa yilesi simo ukuqonda kahle isimo.
Kuyini ngempela "Ukuzilimaza"?
Kalula nje, ukuzilimaza kuwukuzilimaza ngamabomu emzimbeni wakho . Lokhu kuvame ukuholela ekuqhekekeni kwesikhumba noma ekulimaleni kwezicubu. Umuntu owenza lokhu uvame ukwenza lokhu eyedwa, ngasese kwabanye. Uzama futhi konke okusemandleni akhe ukufihla ukuziphatha kwakhe kwabanye.
Lokhu kuziphatha kungafika ngezindlela eziningi. Isibonelo:
- Ukusika isikhumba ngento ebukhali.
- Ukusha okuvela ezintweni ezishisayo.
- Ukuklwebha nokuhlikihla amanxeba esikhumba ngokuphindaphindiwe, ukuze angapholi.
- Ukudonsa izinwele (lokhu kubizwa nangokuthi "i-Trichotillomania" ngokwezokwelapha).
- Ukushayisa ikhanda lakho odongeni noma kwezinye izinto.
- Ukuhlasela wena.
- Izenzo zobudlova njengokuphula amathambo.
Ubani othinteka kakhulu yilesi simo?
Lesi simo singavela kunoma ubani wanoma yimuphi ubudala, ubulili, noma uhlanga. Imfundo, isimo senhlalo, noma inkolo akubalulekile kulokhu. Kodwa-ke, kunezici ezithile ezivamile ezingabonakala kubantu abathambekele kakhulu kulezi zindlela zokuziphatha. Ake sibone ukuthi ziyini.
| Isici Sengozi | Incazelo elula |
|---|---|
| Amantombazane amancane | Lesi simo sivame kakhulu phakathi kwamantombazane asakhula. |
| Labo abahlukunyezwa beseyizingane | Le ngozi iphakeme kulabo abahlukunyezwa ngokomzimba, ngokwengqondo, noma ngokocansi beseyizingane. |
| Abantu abanezinye izinkinga zengqondo | Lesi simo singase senzeke nakubantu abanezinye izinkinga ezifana nokusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa, i-obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), kanye nezinkinga zokudla. |
| Labo ababengavunyelwe ukuveza imizwa yabo | Kulabo abakhulele emindenini lapho kwakudingeka bagcine khona imizwa efana nentukuthelo nokudabuka kusukela ebuntwaneni futhi babengavunyelwe ukuyikhipha. |
| Abantu abanokuxhumana okuphansi nabantu | Kulabo abangazi ukuthi bangayiveza kanjani imizwa yabo ngamazwi, bazizwa sengathi akekho ongabasiza, futhi abanalo inethiwekhi yabangane abahle. |
Kungani umuntu ezilimaza?
Lokhu kuyinto enzima ukuyiqonda kumuntu obheka ngaphandle. Ungase ucabange, "Kungani uzilimaza?" Kodwa ngemuva kwalowo mkhuba kukhona ubuhlungu obujulile obungabekezeleleki engqondweni. Cabanga ngebhakede eligcwele amanzi. Uma lichichima futhi ungasakwazi ukufaka amanye amanzi, yileyo ndlela ubuhlungu obuzwakala ngayo. Abanye abantu benza lokhu njengendlela yokukhulula lobo buhlungu obusele.
Kungase kube nezizathu eziningana zalokhu:
- Njengendlela yokunciphisa okwesikhashana imizwa ekhungathekisayo, ukucindezeleka, nokukhathazeka .
- Qiniseka ukuthi 'uyaphila' futhi 'uzizwa' okuthile.
- Lawula isifiso sokulimaza omunye umuntu, bese uzilimaza wena.
- Ukukhetha ukuzwa ubuhlungu bomzimba kunobuhlungu obungokomzwelo.
- Ukudala ubuhlungu ongabulawula (ngokungafani nobuhlungu obungalawuleki, njengokuhlukunyezwa kwasebuntwaneni).
- Phula ukungabi namizwa.
- Njengendlela engaqondile yokucela usizo . Thola ukunakwa okudingayo.
- Ukuze uzame ukukhohlisa abanye, ukubenza bazizwe benecala, noma ukubagcina bekude.
Abantu abaningi badidanisa lokhu nokuziphatha kokuzibulala. Kodwa-ke , ukuzilimaza akuvamile ukwenziwa ngenhloso yokuzibulala. Kuyindlela engalungile yokubhekana nobuhlungu bengqondo obungabekezeleleki. Kodwa-ke, uma lesi simo siba sibi kakhulu, amathuba okulimaza impilo awakwazi ukukhishwa ngaphandle.
Yiziphi izimpawu eziyisixwayiso?
Uma usola ukuthi umngane wakho kungenzeka ukuthi unalesi simo, qaphela lezi zimpawu.
| Isibonakaliso sesixwayiso | Lokho ozokubona |
|---|---|
| Izici Eziyinhloko Zokuziphatha Nezomzimba | |
| Ukulimala okungachazeki | Lapho ebuzwa ngamanxeba nokusha emzimbeni wakhe, akaniki impendulo ecacile. |
| Ukumboza umzimba ngezingubo | Ngisho nangezinsuku ezishisa kakhulu, ngigqoka izingubo ezinemikhono emide kanye namabhulukwe amade (ukuze ngivale amabala). |
| Ukuba nezinto ezingavamile | Izinto ezibukhali/ezishisayo njengezinsika, izinsika, nezibani zokukhanyisa zitholakala ngokungazelelwe phakathi kwezinto zomuntu. |
| Izici zengqondo nezenhlalo | |
| Ukuzenyeza | Bakhuluma kabi ngabo futhi bacabanga ukuthi abafaneleki. |
| Ubunzima bokulawula imizwa | Kunzima ukubhekana nemizwa, uthukuthela kalula, futhi uzizwa udangele. |
| Izinkinga ebudlelwaneni | Ubudlelwano nabangani nomndeni buvame ukuba yinkinga. |
| Ukuphazamiseka kwemisebenzi yansuku zonke | Awukwazi ukwenza imisebenzi yakho kahle emsebenzini, esikoleni, noma ekhaya. |
Kuphathwa kanjani lokhu?
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuqonda ukuthi lokhu akuyona into ongayixazulula wedwa. Kubalulekile impela ukubona udokotela, ikakhulukazi udokotela wezifo zengqondo noma umeluleki. Asikho isizathu sokuba namahloni noma sokwesaba.
Udokotela uzoqala akhulume nawe ukuze anqume ukuthi yini ebangela lesi simo nokuthi ingabe kuyisibonakaliso sesinye isifo sengqondo. Isibonelo, kungaba uphawu lwesinye sezimo ezilandelayo:
- Izinkinga zobuntu (ikakhulukazi 'i-Borderline Personality Disorder')
- Isifo se-Bipolar
- Ukucindezeleka Okukhulu
- Izinkinga Zokukhathazeka I-Schizophrenia-ngokomzwelo `(Schizophrenia)`
Okulandelayo kusetshenziswa kakhulu njengokwelashwa:
Izindlela zokwelapha eziyinhloko
- Ukwelapha Ngengqondo: Lolu uhlobo oluyinhloko lokwelashwa. Uzofundiswa ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nemizwa yakho ngendlela enempilo ngokukhuluma ngalokho okusengqondweni yakho, izizathu zokuziphatha kwakho, kanye nendlela yokubhekana nemizwa yakho ngendlela enempilo.
- Izindlela zokwelapha ezithile: Izindlela zokwelapha ezifana ne-`CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy)` zikusiza ukuthi uqaphele le mizwa lapho iphakama futhi ufunde ukubhekana nayo ngendlela ehlukile. I-`DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy)` nayo iyindlela yokwelapha ephumelela kakhulu.
- Ukwelashwa Kwamaqembu: Ukukhuluma nabanye abanezinkinga ezifanayo nezakho kunganciphisa amahloni kanye nesizungu, futhi kunikeze ukwesekwa kwabanye.
- Ukwelashwa Komndeni: Ukubandakanya amalungu omndeni, ukubasiza baqonde isimo futhi baxhumane kangcono.
- Imithi: Ngezinye izikhathi, udokotela wakho angase akunike imithi yokucindezeleka noma eminye imithi ukusiza ekulawuleni izimo eziyisisekelo njengokucindezeleka nokukhathazeka. Ucwaningo luthole nokuthi imithi efana ne-Naltrexone ingasiza abanye abantu.
- Ezinye izindlela: Amasu okuphumula njenge-hypnosis angasiza ekunciphiseni ukucindezeleka kwengqondo okwenzeka ngaphambi kwalokhu.
Ngokwelashwa okufanele, ungalulama ngokuphelele kulesi simo. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthola imbangela yengqondo ngemuva kwalokhu kuziphatha bese uyelapha. Ngakho-ke, isinyathelo sokuqala nesibaluleke kakhulu ukucela usizo ngaphandle kokuba namahloni noma ukwesaba.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukuzilimaza akuyona imizamo yokuzibulala. Kuwumzamo odukile wokubhekana nobuhlungu obungokomzwelo obungabekezeleleki.
- Uma umuntu ehlushwa yilesi simo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukumlalela ngomusa nangokuqonda, ngaphandle kokumgweba.
- Qaphela izimpawu eziyisixwayiso, njengokugqoka izingubo ezinde ngisho nangezinsuku ezishisayo nokuba nezibazi ezingachazeki emzimbeni wakho.
- Lokhu akuyona into engaxazululwa wedwa. Kubalulekile ukufuna iseluleko kudokotela ofanelekayo noma kudokotela wezifo zengqondo ngokushesha.
- Ngokwelashwa okufanele kanye nokusekelwa, ungalulama ngokugcwele kulesi simo futhi uphile impilo enempilo.
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