Wake waphawula ukuthi ingane yakho ihlale ithukuthele noma idangele futhi izibuza, "Ingabe lokhu kumane kuwukushintshashintsha kwemizwa noma kungokunye okwengeziwe?" Empeleni kuvamile kakhulu ukuthi izingane zizwe zidabukile zisencane. Akumangazi ukuthi imizwa yazo ingashintshashintsha kakhulu ngezinguquko zamahomoni ezihambisana naleyo minyaka. Kodwa-ke, ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi cishe oyedwa kwabayisishiyagalombili abasha unokucindezeleka. Into engcono kakhulu ukuthi kungelashwa. Ngakho-ke uma ukudabuka kwengane yakho kuhlala isikhathi esingaphezu kwamasonto amabili futhi ikhombisa nezinye izimpawu zokucindezeleka, kungase kube yisikhathi sokubona udokotela ukuze uthole usizo.
Kungani izingane ezincane zicindezeleka?
Kungaba nezizathu ezingaphezu kwesisodwa zokuthi umuntu osemusha angase acindezeleke. Isibonelo, ingane ingase izizwe ingenamsebenzi noma ingakwazi ngenxa yamamaki aphansi esikoleni. Ngaphezu kwalokho, izinto ezifana nokucindezela kontanga, ukuthambekela kocansi, nezinkinga zomndeni konke kungaba nomthelela omkhulu engqondweni yengane. Ngezinye izikhathi, ukucindezeleka kungabangelwa ukucindezeleka kwemvelo.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yisiphi isizathu, uma usizi kanye nesizungu sengane kungasuki ngisho nangemva kokuchitha isikhathi nabangani noma umndeni, noma ukwenza izinto ezivame ukuzijabulela, kungenzeka ukuthi kungaba ukucindezeleka.
Ziyini izimpawu zalokhu?
Ngokuvamile, izingane ezinesifo sokucindezeleka zibonisa izinguquko ezinkulu ekucabangeni nasekuziphatheni kwazo. Uphawu oluyinhloko ukuthi zizizwa zidabukile ngaso sonke isikhathi ngaphandle kwesizathu . Zingase zilahlekelwe yisithakazelo kunoma yini, zihoxe emphakathini, futhi zihlale ekamelweni lazo amahora amaningi ngemva kwesikole.
Ake sikuqonde lokhu ngokucacile kusukela kuthebula elingezansi.
| Uhlobo oluyisici | Izinto okufanele uzibone |
|---|---|
| Izinguquko zengqondo nezokuziphatha | Ukunganaki, ukuzizwa udabukile, ukhathazekile, noma ungenathemba ngaso sonke isikhathi, ukuzihlukanisa nabangane, ukucabanga ngokufa ngaso sonke isikhathi, ukuba wedwa, ukuzizwa unecala ngokungadingekile, nokwenza izinto ngendlela ehlukile. |
| Izici zomzimba | Ubuhlungu bomzimba obuvamile (ikhanda elibuhlungu, isisu esibuhlungu, ubuhlungu bomhlane), ukukhathala okuqhubekayo, izinguquko emikhubeni yokudla (ukulahlekelwa isifiso sokudla noma ukudla ngokweqile), ukwehla noma ukukhuluphala kwesisindo, kanye nezinguquko ebuthongweni (ukuhlala uphapheme ebusuku nokulala emini). |
| Izinkinga ezihlobene nokufunda | Ubunzima bokugxilisa ingqondo, ubunzima bokwenza izinqumo, ukulahlekelwa yinkumbulo, ukwehla kwamaphuzu ezivivinyo ngokuzumayo, ukweqa isikole. |
| Ukuziphatha okuyingozi | Ukusebenzisa utshwala noma izidakamizwa, ukuziphatha kocansi okuyingozi. |
Ingabe ukucindezeleka kungaba yifa eliyifa?
Yebo, kungenzeka. Lesi sifo, esivame ukuqala phakathi kweminyaka eyi-15 nengama-30, ngezinye izikhathi singaba yifa. Eqinisweni, uma othile emndenini wake waba nokucindezeleka ngaphambilini, ingane encane isengozini enkulu yokuba nakho.
Udokotela uhlonza kanjani ngokunembile ukucindezeleka?
Akukho ukuhlolwa kwegazi okuqondile noma ukuskena ukuze kutholakale ukucindezeleka. Udokotela uhlola lokhu ngokukhuluma nengane, umndeni, othisha, kanye nokwenza izivivinyo zengqondo.
Ulwazi olutholakale kule ngxoxo lusetshenziselwa ukuthola ubukhulu bokucindezeleka kanye nengozi yokuzibulala. Udokotela uphinde ahlole ukuthi ingane inezinye izifo zengqondo, njengokukhathazeka, ukusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa, noma isifo sengqondo esishintshashintshayo.
Yiziphi izindlela zokwelapha ukucindezeleka?
Kunezindlela eziningana zokwelapha ukucindezeleka. Imithi kanye nokwelashwa kwengqondo yizona zindlela eziyinhloko. Uma ukucindezeleka kwengane kukhuliswa yizingxabano zomndeni, ukwelashwa komndeni kungaba usizo kakhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ingane idinga ukwesekwa ngumndeni nothisha ukuze ixazulule izinkinga esikoleni noma nabangani. Kwezinye izimo ezinzima, ukwelashwa kungadingeka egunjini labagula ngengqondo esibhedlela.
Okubalulekile: I-FDA ixwayisa ngokuthi eminye imithi yokucindezeleka ingase, ezimweni ezingavamile, yandise ingozi yokucabanga ngokuzibulala. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuhlala useduze nodokotela wakho futhi uqaphe ingane yakho eduze lapho uqala le mithi.Uma unemibuzo noma ukukhathazeka, khuluma nodokotela wakho ngakho.
Ingabe umuthi uyasebenza ngempela?
Yebo. Izifundo eziningi zikhombisile ukuthi imithi yokucindezeleka ingasiza ekunciphiseni izimpawu. Ucwaningo olukhulu lwamuva nje lubheke izindlela ezintathu zokwelapha izingane ezincane ezinokucindezeleka okumaphakathi kuya kokubi kakhulu:
- Indlela yokuqala: ukusebenzisa umuthi. Isibonelo, umuthi obizwa ngokuthi `(Prozac)`.
- Indlela yesibili: `(Cognitive Behavioral Therapy)` noma ukwelashwa kwe-CBT. Kalula nje, lokhu kuhilela ukuhlonza amaphethini emicabango emibi engqondweni yengane nokuyisiza ukuthi iyishintshe.
- Indlela yesithathu: ukunikeza kokubili imithi kanye nokwelashwa kwe-CBT ndawonye.
Ngemva kwamasonto ayi-12, abacwaningi bathole ukuthi izingxenye ezintathu kwezine zezingane ezathola imithi kanye nokwelashwa kwengqondo zenze intuthuko enkulu . Lokhu kukhombisa ukuthi ukuhlanganiswa kwalezi zindlela zombili zokwelapha kusebenza kahle kangakanani.
Yiziphi izimpawu eziyisixwayiso zokuzibulala?
Lokhu kuyinto okudingeka siyithathe ngokungathi sína kakhulu. Ukuzibulala usemncane kuyinhlekelele enkulu. Izinkinga zomndeni, ukulahlekelwa othandekayo, ukwehluleka kwezemfundo noma ubudlelwano kungabangela ubuhlungu obungabekezeleleki enhliziyweni yengane. Ukucindezeleka kungenza lezi zinkinga zibonakale nakakhulu.
Izimpawu eziyisixwayiso zokuzibulala zingabandakanya:
- Ukukhuluma ngekusasa ngendlela engenathemba.
- Ukuzidela ngokusho izinto ezinjengokuthi "akekho ongikhathalelayo."
- Ukunikeza abanye izinto zakho ozithandayo, ubhala izincwadi zokuvalelisa.
- Ukuqala ukusebenzisa izidakamizwa noma utshwala ukuze uthole impumuzo engqondweni noma ukuze ulale.
- Ukuziphatha okunobudlova.
- Ukusongela ngokuzibulala.
Uma ingane yakho ibonisa noma yiziphi zalezi zimpawu, funa usizo kuchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo ngokushesha. Uma kwenzeka isimo esiphuthumayo, yiyise e-Emergency Treatment Unit (ETU) yesibhedlela esiseduze.
Yini esingayenza njengabazali?
Ukukhulisa izingane ezincane kuyinselele, kodwa kunezindlela eziningana esingasiza ngazo ekunciphiseni ukucindezeleka.
- Dumisa izinto ezinhle esikhundleni sokujezisa: Ukujezisa nokuhlazisa ingane kungayenza izizwe ingelutho. Kunalokho, sabela kahle ezintweni ezinhle ezenzayo.
- Bavumele benze amaphutha: Uma sihlala sizama ukubavikela, bangase balahlekelwe ukuzethemba emakhonweni abo.
- Nika ingane yakho inkululeko: Ungalindeli ukuthi yenze konke okushoyo.
- Ungaphoqeleli amaphupho akho enganeni yakho:Ungazami ukuphoqa ingane yakho ukuba ihambe ngendlela ongeke uyithathe.
- Lalela ingane yakho: Uma usola ukuthi ingane yakho icindezelekile, lalela ngokucophelela lokho ekushoyo. Ngisho noma inkinga ibonakala incane kuwe, ingaba yinkinga enkulu enganeni.
- Gcina imizila yokuxhumana ivulekile: Ngisho noma ingane yakho izama ukuziqhelelanisa nawe, ungayeki ukukhuluma. Esikhundleni sokuyala ukuthi "yenza lokhu," uma ulalela ngokucophelela, uzokwazi ukuthola imbangela yenkinga.
Ngeke yini lokhu kube ngcono ngaphandle kokwelashwa?
Ukucindezeleka yisimo esingaphinde sibuye. Uma sekwenzekile, kungenzeka sibuye sibuye ngezinye izikhathi empilweni. Ngakho-ke, imiphumela yokungakwelaphi ingaba yingozi kakhulu, ize ibulale. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukunikeza ukwelashwa okufanele.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukucindezeleka kwentsha akuyona nje into eshintshashintshayo, kuyisimo sezokwelapha esidinga ukwelashwa.
- Naka izinguquko ekuziphatheni kwengane yakho, ekulaleni kwayo, ekudleni kwayo, nasemsebenzini wayo wesikole.
- Ungalokothi unqikaze ukufuna iseluleko sezokwelapha. Ukufuna usizo kusenesikhathi kuzothuthukisa imiphumela.
- Ukuhlanganisa imithi kanye nokwelashwa kwengqondo kungaletha imiphumela ephumelela kakhulu.
- Thatha noma yikuphi ukukhuluma ngokuzibulala ngokungathi sína futhi uthathe isinyathelo ngokushesha.
- Kunokuba ujezise ingane yakho, yiba umzali oyilalelayo futhi oyisekelayo.
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