So wo nso wote nka sɛ womfata eyi? Momma yɛnka Imposter Syndrome ho asɛm!

So woate nka pɛn, sɛ́ anka w'ani begye nea woatumi ayɛ no ho, suro a wubebisa wo ho sɛ, "Oo, so mefata eyi ampa? So menyɛ papa sɛnea afoforo susuw sɛ meyɛ no?" Sɛ wonya nkɔanim wɔ adwumam, wotwa sɔhwɛ mu, anaasɛ obi kamfo wo a, so wote nka sɛ woreka akyerɛ wo ho sɛ, "Memfata eyi, da bi obiara behu onipa ko a meyɛ ankasa"? Wɔfrɛ saa atenka yi kɛkɛ `(Imposter Syndrome)`.

Dɛn ankasa ne Imposter Syndrome?

Sɛ yɛbɛka no tiawa a, `Imposter Syndrome` ne bere a wugye w’ankasa wo tumi ne nkonimdi ho kyim . Ɛwom mpo sɛ afoforo susuw sɛ woyɛ onyansafo na woyɛ nneɛma yiye de, nanso wote nka wɔ wo komam tɔnn sɛ wonyɛ onyansafo saa, sɛ wote sɛ ɔdaadaafo. Wosuro daa sɛ da bi wɔbɛkyere saa atosɛm yi.

Ɛwom sɛ wɔmfa eyi nhyɛ aban mu sɛ ɛyɛ adwenemyare ho nhwehwɛmu de, nanso saa nkate yi betumi anya w’asetra mu nneɛma pii so nkɛntɛnso kɛse, a adwuma, nhomasua, ne abusuabɔ mpo ka ho. Nnipa binom nso frɛ no `imposter phenomenon` anaa `fraud syndrome`.

Eyi te sɛ kyinhyia (The Imposter Cycle) .

Nnipa pii a wɔwɔ `Imposter Syndrome` hu nhwɛsoɔ bi wɔ wɔn suban mu, biribi te sɛ kyinhyia. Fa no sɛ wowɔ ɔkasa kɛse bi a wode bɛma wɔ adwumayɛbea hɔ. Sɛ wowɔ saa atenka yi a, wufi ase haw wo ho dodo wɔ ho, na wufi ase haw wo ho sɛ, "So medi nkogu?" Nneɛma abien na ebetumi asi wɔ tebea yi mu:

1. Twentwɛn wo nan ase kosi simma a etwa to: Wotwentwɛn wo nan ase a wunfi ase mpo. Afei wode adwennwen ne dadwen pii wie adwuma no wɔ simma a etwa to no mu. Sɛ adwuma no di yiye mpo a, wususuw sɛ, "Oh, m'ani gyei sɛ eyi yɛɛ yiye."

2. Adwumaden dodo: Woyɛ adwumaden sen sɛnea ɛho hia, awia ne anadwo, na wobɔ mmɔden sɛ wobɛyɛ biribiara pɛpɛɛpɛ. Nanso sɛ wudi nkonim a, wunnye ho anuonyam . Wodwene sɛ, "Obi a onim nyansa sen me anka ɔbɛyɛ eyi a ɛho nhia sɛ ɔyɛ adwumaden saa."

Ɔkwan biara so no, anigye a wubenya bere a woadu wo botae no ho akyi no ntra hɔ nkyɛ. Efisɛ wuntumi mma saa nkonimdi no "ntra mu." Mmom no, wufi ase suro ade kɛse a edi hɔ no. Wofi ase gye akyinnye, woyɛ adwuma boro so, anaasɛ wotwentwɛn wo nan ase bio. Na enti kyinhyia no kɔ so.

Hena na onya saa atenka yi?

Nokwarem no, obiara betumi anya saa atenka yi. Wɔ 1978 mu no, adwene ho animdefo baanu, Suzanne Imes ne Pauline Rose Clance, dii kan huu sɛ ɛwɔ mmea a wɔatumi ayɛ nneɛma pii mu. Nanso mprempren nhwehwɛmu ada no adi sɛ ɛtaa ba nnipa pii mu, ɛmfa ho sɛ wɔyɛ ɔbarima anaa ɔbea, wɔ nnwuma ahorow mu.

Mpɛn pii no, saa nkate yi betumi asɔre bere a wote nka sɛ ɛsono w’atipɛnfo anaa wo mfɛfo adwumayɛfo no. Sɛ nhwɛso no, sɛ́ wobɛyɛ ɔbea a ɔyɛ adwuma wɔ afuw bi a mmarima na wɔdɔɔso mu. Ɛtaa ba nso ma wɔn a wɔte nka sɛ wɔwɔ nnipa kakraa bi mu wɔ nhomasua anaa adwuma mu.

So wususuw sɛ wowɔ Imposter Syndrome? Hwɛ saa sɛnkyerɛnne ahorow yi

Sɛ wopɛ sɛ wuhu sɛ wowɔ saa atenka yi a, hwɛ sɛ su horow a edidi so yi taa yɛ wo de anaa:

• Adwene a wubesusuw sɛ obiara nim pii sen wo.
• Bere nyinaa a wubesusuw sɛ wonyɛ onyansafo sɛnea afoforo susuw sɛ woyɛ no.
• Sɛ wususuw sɛ nea woatumi ayɛ no fi "anigye", "nnipa a wunim wɔn", anaa afoforo gyinaesi bɔne.
• Sɛ wote nka sɛ "imposter cycle" a yɛadi kan aka ho asɛm no resan ayɛ ne ho bio wɔ w'asetra mu.
• Suro a ɛne sɛ wonyɛ baabi a wowɔ (wɔ adwuma/sukuu) no muni na afoforo behu da bi.
• Sɛ́ wobɛte nka sɛ bere nyinaa ɛsɛ sɛ wɔyɛ biribiara sɛnea obetumi anaasɛ wɔyɛ no yiye sen sɛnea wɔhwɛɛ kwan.
• Sɛ obi kamfo wo a, sɛ wo ho nyɛ wo dɛ.
• Wo na wosiw wo kwan sɛ wubedu wo botae ahorow ho .
• Suro a wusuro sɛ wobɛma afoforo abam abu.
• Wo werɛ rentumi mfi mfomso ketewaa bi mpo a wudii na wokɔ so susuw ho.
• Adwene sɛ, "Sɛ meyɛ onyansafo, meyɛ onyansafo a, anka merennya saa adwenem naayɛ ahorow yi."
• Afoforo anim dom a wubenya no ho hia wo paa.

Dɛn na ebetumi ama tebea yi aba?

Nneɛma pii betumi ama yɛanya saa atenka yi.

• Nipasu su ahorow: Su horow te sɛ dadwen kɛse, obu a obi nni ma ne ho a ɛba fam, ne pɛyɛ ho pɛ na ɛbata eyi ho.
• Tete a atwa yɛn ho ahyia: Ɛtɔ mmere bi a, tebea yi betumi aba wɔn a wonyin wɔ mmusua a wɔasi nkɔso ne nkonimdi so dua bere nyinaa mu no mu. Ebetumi nso afi nkrasɛm a ɛbɔ abira a wonya fi awofo hɔ, te sɛ nkamfo a ɛboro so wɔ mmere bi mu ne ɔkasatia a emu yɛ den wɔ mmere foforo mu no so.
• Sɛ wote nka sɛ obi a ofi abɔnten: Sɛ nhwɛso no, sɛ wonyɛ obi a wo ne no si akan wɔ awosu mu wɔ adwumayɛbea a akansi kɛse wɔ hɔ a, ebia wobɛte nka sɛ "Minfata ha." Afei nso, sɛ wote nka sɛ woyɛ soronko wɔ afoforo ho esiane wo abusuakuw, mfe a woadi, wo bɔbeasu, anaa sikasɛm tebea nti no betumi ama woanya `Imposter Syndrome.'
• Social Media: Sɛ wuhu afoforo asetra "a ɛyɛ pɛ" ho mfonini a, ɛda adi sɛ wode wo ho bɛtoto wɔn ho na woate nka sɛ "Me nnɔɔso."

Dɛn na wobetumi ayɛ na wɔakwati eyi?

Ɛyɛ den sɛ wo nkutoo wobɛko atia saa nsusuwii a ɛhaw adwene yi, enti ɛho hia sɛ wunya mmoa fi afoforo hɔ.

Aduruyɛ mu afotu ne ayaresa

• Ɔkasa mu Ayaresa: Sɛ wo ne ɔfotufo anaa ɔyaresafo bi kasa a, ebetumi aboa wo ma woate baabi a saa nsusuwii ahorow yi fi ne sɛnea ɛka w’asetra ase. Afei, wubetumi asua sɛnea wubedi wɔn ho dwuma bere a wɔaba no.
• Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT): Eyi yɛ ayaresa kwan a ɛkyerɛkyerɛ wo sɛ wubehu wo gyidi bɔne na wode nsusuwii a ɛyɛ nokware kɛse asi ananmu.
• Kuw Ayaresa: Ɛbɛtumi nso aboa sɛ wo ne afoforo a wɔwɔ `Imposter Syndrome` te sɛ wo bɛka kuw nhyiamu ho. Sɛ wote afoforo suahu a, ebetumi aboa wo ma woante nka sɛ ankonam. Wo nsusuwii a wobɛka akyerɛ afoforo nso betumi aboa wo ma woanya adwene foforo.

Sɛ wote nka sɛ saa nkate ahorow yi ahyɛ wo so a, ɛho hia yiye sɛ wo ne w’abusua oduruyɛfo (GP) kasa . Obetumi ama wo akwankyerɛ a wuhia.

Nneɛma a w’ankasa wubetumi ayɛ

• Kae nea woatumi ayɛ: Kyerɛw nneɛma a woayɛ yiye, nneɛma a wode hoahoa wo ho. Sie email, nsɛm a wɔakyerɛw, ne nea ɛkeka ho a afoforo kamfo wɔ. Hwɛ eyinom akyi bere a wote nka sɛ "Meyɛ ɔdaadaafo."
• Tetew nkate ne nokwasɛm ahorow mu: Bere foforo a wubehu sɛ w’adwene mu yɛ wo naa no, kae wo ho sɛ ɛyɛ nkate ara kwa, na ɛnyɛ nokwasɛm.
• Da ayamye adi kyerɛ wo ho: Sɛ w’adamfo no te nka saa a, dɛn na wobɛka? "Woyɛ onyansafo, na wowɔ hokwan sɛ wudi mfomso," ɛnte saa? Ka asɛm koro no ara kyerɛ wo ho.
• Fa yɛ wo su sɛ wubegye nkamfo atom: Sɛ obi ka sɛ "wɔayɛ no fɛfɛɛfɛ," sɛ́ anka wobɛkwati no denam "Aseda, nanso..." so no, fa yɛ wo su sɛ wobɛka kɛkɛ sɛ "Meda wo ase pii."
• Mfa wo ho ntoto afoforo ho: Obiara de nea obetumi biara to sohyial media so nkutoo. Enti gyae wo ho a wode bɛtoto wɔn ho. Mmom no, bɔ mmɔden sɛ wobɛma nnɛ ayɛ papa asen wo nnɛra de no. Obiara nni hɔ a ɔyɛ pɛ.
• Twa w'adwene ho mpoa: Sɛ wususuw sɛ, "Minyaa adwuma yi efisɛ obiara mpɛ a," twa saa adwene no mpoa na susuw ho yiye, "Minyaa adwuma yi efisɛ meyɛ adwumaden na me mfɛfo adwumayɛfo te sɛ me."
• Te aseɛ: Nsisifoɔ ankasa nnya `Imposter Syndrome`. Nokwasɛm a ɛyɛ sɛ wote nka saa no da no adi sɛ wonyɛ ɔdaadaafo!