Ðe nèvɔ̃na hã be yeate ɖe ame aɖe ŋu ahadze ƒomedodo gɔmea? Mina míaƒo nu tso Gamophobia ŋu!

Ðe nèsena le ɖokuiwò me alea ɣeaɖewoɣia? Ðe vɔvɔ̃ kple dziɖeleameƒo koe nèsena le ɖokuiwò me ne ame aɖe dze agbagba be yeate ɖe ŋuwò akpa, alo ne ƒomedodo aɖe yi ŋgɔ viea? Alo ɖe wòtsia dzimaɖi vie ne èse be xɔ̃wò aɖe do ŋugbe na yea? Ne nusiawo bɔ ɖe dziwò la, ke ɖewohĩ nɔnɔme sia le fu ɖem na wò evɔ mènya gɔ̃ hã o.

Nukae nye Gamophobia?

Kpuie ko la, Gamophobia nye vɔvɔ̃ si gbɔ eme na ɖokuitsɔtsɔna. Vɔvɔ̃ sia nu sẽ ale gbegbe be ɣeaɖewoɣi la, ate ŋu anye nusi womate ŋu abu be amesiwo ŋu nɔnɔme sia le nanɔ ƒomedodo si anɔ anyi eteƒe nadidi me o. ‘Gamos’ nye Helagbe me nya si wozãna na ‘srɔ̃ɖeɖe’. ‘Phobos’ gɔmee nye ‘vɔvɔ̃’. Eyata ne ame eve siawo va kpe ta la, Gamophobia dzɔna.

Ke hã, ame aɖewo vɔ̃na be yewoatsɔ yewo ɖokui ana ɖe ɖoɖo siwo woawɔ ɣeyiɣi didi, abe yunivɛsiti, dɔ, alo teƒe si yewoanɔ tiatia ene. Gake vɔvɔ̃ sia to vovo na gamophobia, si nye vɔvɔ̃ na ame ŋutɔ ƒe ƒomedodowo.

Nu kawo ƒomevie ate ŋu adzɔ ɖe amesi ŋu Gamophobia le dzi?

Azɔ kpɔe ɖa be dzesi siawo dometɔ aɖe le ŋuwò hã. Ame si ŋu Gamophobia le ate ŋu ato nusiwo gbɔna me:

• Womete ŋu ɖoa lɔlɔ̃ ƒe ƒomedodo deto siwo anɔ anyi ɖaa o. Wodzea agbagba ɣesiaɣi be yewoalé ƒomedodo siwo le gotagome me ɖe asi.
• Ne èle ƒomedodo me , ètsia dzimaɖi geɖe. Ènɔa eŋu bum ɣesiaɣi be, ‘Ɣekaɣie esia agbã?’, ‘Ðe wòagblẽm ɖia?’
• Ne mekpɔ atsu kple asi kpɔdzidzɔ siwo tsɔ wo ɖokui na gɔ̃ hã la, mesena le ɖokuinye me be nye dzi gbãna eye nye dzi dzea eme le mɔ wɔnuku aɖe nu.
• Wotutua ame siwo dome le kplikplikpli la ɖa, alo wova wua ƒomedodowo nu kasia. Ɣeaɖewoɣi le susu aɖeke ta kura o.

Nukae nye Vɔvɔ̃?

Ðeko míeƒo nu tso Gamophobia ŋu. Eyata nukae nya ‘Vɔvɔ̃’ fia? Vɔvɔ̃ nye dzimaɖitsitsidɔ ƒomevi aɖe si bɔ ŋutɔ . Le esia me la, vɔvɔ̃ alo vɔvɔ̃ si gbɔ eme na wò ɖe nusiwo megblẽa nu le ame ŋu ŋutɔŋutɔ o ŋu. Gamophobia hã nye vɔvɔ̃ ƒe dɔléle aɖe koŋ . Ema fia be èle vɔvɔ̃m na nɔnɔme aɖe koŋ: srɔ̃ɖeɖe alo ƒomedodo aɖe.

Aleke gbegbee Gamophobia bɔe?

Esesẽ be woagblɔ ame agbɔsɔsɔme si tututu vɔvɔ̃ tɔxɛ aɖe abe gamophobia ene le. Ame geɖe ɣlaa vɔvɔ̃ sia ɖe wo ɖokui si, alo womenya gɔ̃ hã be ele yewo si o. Gake numekuku siwo wowɔ le United States ɖee fia be ame tsitsi ɖeka le 10 ɖesiaɖe me kple sɔhɛ ɖeka le 5 ɖesiaɖe me akpɔ vɔvɔ̃ sia koŋ le woƒe agbemeŋkeke aɖe me.

Amekawoe le afɔku gã me be woaxɔ Gamophobia?

Anɔ bɔbɔe be dɔléle sia nadze ame aɖewo dzi. Le kpɔɖeŋu me, amesiwo ŋu amenyenye ƒe kuxiwo abe Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) ene le ate ŋu aƒo asa na ƒomedodowo le vɔvɔ̃ vevie be woagblẽ ye ɖi kple gbegbe ta. Ate ŋu asesẽ na wo hã be woaka ɖe ame bubuwo dzi.

Afɔku bubu geɖewo li:

• Ƒome ŋutinya: Ne vɔvɔ̃ alo dzimaɖitsitsi ƒe dɔléle aɖe nɔ dziwòlawo dometɔ ɖeka alo ame aɖe si nèlɔ̃ la ŋu la, ɖewohĩ vɔvɔ̃ na nu ma ke hã anɔ ŋuwò. Abe ale si ko ɖeviwo nyia dɔléle aɖewo dome tso wo dzilawo gbɔ ene.
• Ŋutsu alo nyɔnu nyenye: Wokpɔe be nyɔnuwo te ŋu xɔa vɔvɔ̃ tɔxɛ aɖewo wu ŋutsuwo.
• Domenyiŋusẽfianu si gbɔ wòtso: Numekuku gbãtɔwo ɖee fia be domenyiŋusẽfianu ƒe tɔtrɔ aɖe le ame aɖewo ŋu si wɔnɛ be dzimaɖitsitsi alo vɔvɔ̃ nadze wo dzi. Esia fia be ate ŋu anye nane si le du dzi le wò domenyiŋusẽfianuwo me.

Vɔvɔ̃ bubu kawoe do ƒome kple vɔvɔ̃ na ɖokuitsɔtsɔna?

Zi geɖe la, vɔvɔ̃ ate ŋu anɔ ame ŋu wu zi ɖeka. Zi geɖe la, nane le vɔvɔ̃ siawo me si sɔ kple wo nɔewo. Le kpɔɖeŋu me, vɔvɔ̃ bubuwo hã ate ŋu anɔ ame aɖe si vɔ̃na be yeatsɔ ye ɖokui ana abe:

• Xexemenunya: Efia vɔvɔ̃ na lɔlɔ̃.
• Pistanthrophobia: Vɔvɔ̃ be yeaka ɖe ame bubuwo dzi alo be ame aɖe si nèlɔ̃ la awɔ nuvevi ye.
• Ameƒomevi aɖewo ƒe fuléle: Vɔvɔ̃ na gbɔdɔdɔ alo gbɔdɔdɔ kplikplikpli.
• Vɔvɔ̃ be woagblẽ ye ɖi: Vɔvɔ̃ ɣesiaɣi be ame aɖe agblẽ ye ɖi.

Nukatae mevɔ̃na na ɖokuitsɔtsɔna alea gbegbe? Nukawoe nye susu siwo tae?

Ame geɖe gblɔna be nuteƒekpɔkpɔ dziŋɔ siwo yewoto va yi gbɔe yewovɔ̃na na ɖokuitsɔtsɔna, alo srɔ̃ɖeɖe. Le nyateƒe me la, gamovebia ate ŋu anye ametakpɔnu si wò susu to vɛ be wòakpɔ tawò. Bu eŋu kpɔ, ne mètsɔ ɖokuiwò na ƒomedodo si anɔ anyi eteƒe nadidi o la, màse vevesesea gɔ̃ hã o.

Nu bubu aɖewo siwo ate ŋu ahe Gamophobia vɛ lae nye esi:

• Dzilawo dome masɔmasɔ: Ðevi siwo kpɔ wo dzilawo ƒe nyahehe, dzrewɔwɔ, alo srɔ̃gbegbe si me vevesese le teƒe la ate ŋu avɔ̃ be yewoage ɖe ƒomedodo si ahe kuxiwo vɛ ne yewole tsitsim la me. Le kpɔɖeŋu me, Nilanthi kpɔ edzilawo wonɔ dzre wɔm ɣesiaɣi esime wònye ɖevi. Mlɔeba la, wo dome klã. Fifia, ne ame aɖe dze agbagba be yeate ɖe Nilanthi ŋu gɔ̃ hã la, evɔ̃na, eye wòbiaa eɖokui be, ‘Ðe nye agbe anɔ abe Dada tɔ enea?’
• Dziveve si do ŋgɔ:Ame tsitsi siwo ƒe kaklã, srɔ̃gbegbe, alo nuteƒemawɔmawɔ gblẽ nu le wo ŋu la ate ŋu anɔ vɔvɔ̃m be yewoagava nɔ anyi ɖekae. Le ɣeyiɣi aɖe megbe la, tiatia sia ate ŋu ava zu vɔvɔ̃. Bu eŋu kpɔ be Kasun ƒe lɔlɔ̃ gbãtɔ te ɖe edzi vevie. Emegbe etso nya me be yemagate ɖe ame aɖeke ŋu nenema gbegbe akpɔ gbeɖe o. Fifia enye vɔvɔ̃ nɛ.
• Vɔvɔ̃ be yeato eme (FOMO): Ame aɖewo vɔ̃na be, "Ne metsɔ ɖokuinye na ame sia la, ɖe mato ame aɖe si nyo wu didi mea?" Esia tae wometsɔa wo ɖokui nana ame aɖeke o.
• Dekɔnuwo alo mawusubɔsubɔ ƒe ŋusẽkpɔɖeamedziwo: Dekɔnu aɖewo doa srɔ̃ɖeɖe siwo ŋu ɖoɖo le ɖe ŋgɔ lɔlɔ̃ alo seselelãmewo ŋu mabumabui. Ne mète ŋu tia srɔ̃wò o la, àte ŋu avɔ̃ be yeatsɔ ye ɖokui ana bliboe ɖe ƒomedodoa me. Azɔ hã, ne ènye LGBTQ+ habɔbɔa me tɔ la, àte ŋu avɔ̃ be yeaɖe srɔ̃ ne wò subɔsubɔha alo dekɔnu tsi tre ɖe ɖekawɔwɔ ma tɔgbe ŋu.

Nukae nye Gamophobia ƒe dzesiwo?

Ne gamophobia le ŋuwò la, àte ŋu akpɔ ŋutilã me dzesi siawo tɔgbe ne èbu gbɔdɔdɔ kple ame aɖe ŋu:

• Sese le ɖokuiwò me be yeƒe ŋutilã le vuvɔ wɔm (Chills).
• Taɖuame kple taɖuame.
• Fifia fũu akpa (Hyperhidrosis).
• Dzi ƒe tsotso. Ewɔna nam abe ɖe wò akɔta le ƒoƒom ene.
• Xeɖeɖe.
• Yagbɔgbɔ sesẽ (Dyspnea).
• Ʋuʋudedi alo ʋuʋu.
• Dɔgbo ƒe vevesese alo nuɖuɖumadzroame (Dyspepsia).

Aleke woawɔ ade dzesi Gamophobia?

Ðɔktawo zãa susu ƒe lãmesẽ ŋuti numekuku tsɔ dea dzesi gamophobia. Dodokpɔ aɖeke koŋ meli na esia o. Wò ɖɔkta abia wò tso wò dzesiwo, wò susu ƒe lãmesẽ ŋutinya, kple ne vɔvɔ̃ bubuwo le ŋuwò hã ŋu. Woate ŋu aɖo wò ɖe susumedɔdala aɖe si bi ɖe vɔvɔ̃ kple dzimaɖitsitsidɔwo me hã gbɔ.

Aleke woawɔ aɖu vɔvɔ̃ na ɖokuitsɔtsɔna dzi? Nukawoe nye atikewɔmɔnuawo?

Esiae nye nu vevitɔ kekeake. Mɔ aɖewo li siwo dzi míato aɖu vɔvɔ̃ sia dzi. Ame geɖe kpɔe be susumedɔdada ƒomevi aɖe si woyɔna be Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) kpena ɖe yewo ŋu yewoɖua vɔvɔ̃ na ɖokuitsɔtsɔna dzi. CBT wɔa dɔ to dzesidede nusiwo gbɔ wò vɔvɔ̃ na ɖokuitsɔtsɔna tsona kple tɔtrɔ susu mawo me. Atikewɔla ate ŋu akpe ɖe ŋuwò nàtrɔ nukpɔsusu gbegblẽ siawo woazu nukpɔsusu nyuiwo le ɖokuitsɔtsɔna kple srɔ̃ɖeɖe ŋu. Àte ŋu asrɔ̃ alesi nàƒo nu tso vɔvɔ̃ sia ŋu na wò lɔlɔ̃tɔwo hã.

"Ðo ŋku edzi be CBT le abe xɔ̃wò si dea dzesi tamebubu ƒe ɖoɖo siwo me zitɔtɔ le le wò susu me eye wòkpena ɖe ŋuwò nèwɔa ɖoɖo ɖe wo ŋu ene."

Atikewɔwɔmɔnu bubue nye Systemic Desensitization Therapy . Esia nye atike si wozãna tsɔ kpɔa ame ƒe nɔnɔmewo gbɔe ƒomevi aɖe . Wokpɔe be ekpena ɖe ame geɖe ŋu woɖua vɔvɔ̃ tɔxɛ aɖewo dzi.

Atikewɔwɔ si wotsɔna dzroa nu me:

• Woafia wò be nàzã ɖiɖiɖememɔnu abe gbɔgbɔ deto ƒe kamedede kple ŋugbledede ene atsɔ akpɔ wò dzesiwo gbɔ.
• Vivivi la, kadodo aɖe ɖoɖo ƒe susua va nɔa ŋuwò vivivi. Ema fia be womebia tso asiwò be nàwɔ nu gã aɖe zi ɖeka o, ke boŋ èdzea egɔme kple afɔɖeɖe suewo.
• Woana dɔ siwo le xexeame ŋutɔŋutɔ wò be woakpe ɖe ŋuwò nàɖu vɔvɔ̃ si le asiwò be yeatsɔ ye ɖokui ana ƒomedodo si anɔ anyi ɣeyiɣi didi la dzi.

Nukawoe nye kuxi siwo ate ŋu ado tso Gamophobia me?

Ne èɖe ɖokuiwò ɖa tso ame siwo nèlɔ̃ gbɔ ɣesiaɣi eye nèƒo asa na ƒomedodowo ate ŋu akpɔ ŋusẽ gbegblẽ ɖe wò ŋutilã kple susu ƒe lãmesẽ dzi. Àte ŋu ato nɔnɔme siawo tɔgbe me:

• Blanuiléle kple ameɖokuiwuwu ƒe susuwo.
• Tsitretsitsi ƒe dɔmawɔmawɔ nyuie (na ŋutsuwo) .
• Dzimaɖitsitsi kple vɔvɔ̃ ƒe amedzidzedze.
• Atikewo zazã ƒe kuxi. Ame aɖewo trɔna ɖe mɔ gbegblẽwo ŋu be yewoasi le vɔvɔ̃ sia nu.

Ɣekaɣie wòle be makpɔ ɖɔkta?

Ne èto nusiawo dometɔ aɖe me la, yi ɖɔkta gbɔ godoo:

• Ne vɔvɔ̃ ƒe amedzidzedzewo dzɔ.
• Ne dzimaɖitsitsi atraɖii si doa kplamatse gbesiagbegbenɔnɔ alo alɔ̃dɔdɔ le ŋuwò.
• Ne blanuiléle alo atike muamewo zazã ƒe kuxiwo ƒe dzesiwo li .

Nya kawoe wòle be mabia nye ɖɔkta?

Ne èyi ɖɔkta gbɔ la, anyo be nàbia nya siawo tɔgbe:

• Nukae na vɔvɔ̃ sia le ŋunye?
• Nukae nye atikewɔwɔ nyuitɔ kekeake nam?
• Ðe wòle be madi susumedɔdadaa?
• Ɣeyiɣi didi kae wòahiã be mawɔ atike nam?
• Ðe wòle be matsi dzi ɖe kuxi siwo ado mo ɖa ŋua?

Mlɔeba la, ɖo ŋku esia dzi (Take-Home Message) .

Enye nusi sɔ be ɖikeke kple heheɖemegbe vi aɖe nanɔ mí katã me (si woyɔna hã be ‘afɔ fafɛ’) ne míege ɖe ƒomedodo aɖe me. Gake le amesi ŋu ŋutsu kple nyɔnu ƒe gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe fuléle le gome la, vɔvɔ̃ sia ate ŋu asẽ ale gbegbe be ate ŋu ana woazu lãmetututɔ. Esia fia be vɔvɔ̃a xea mɔ na wo be woagatsɔ ƒomedodo aɖe ayi ŋgɔe ahaɖo kadodo deto kple ame bubuwo o.

Ne nuvevi wɔwɔ wò kpɔ la, gamovebia ate ŋu anye mɔ si dzi nàto akpɔ ɖokuiwò ta be màgato vevesese ma ke me ake o. Gake ɖo ŋku edzi be woate ŋu aɖu edzi. Atikewɔla bibi ate ŋu akpe ɖe ŋuwò nàɖu vɔvɔ̃ sia dzi. Le ɣeyiɣi aɖe megbe la, wò hã àte ŋu anɔ ƒomedodo si me dzidzɔ le eye wòali ke la me. Mègavɔ̃ gbeɖe be yeabia kpekpeɖeŋu o. Menye wò ɖeka koe o.

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