Nusiwo ŋu vidada kple vifofo geɖe tsi dzi ɖo vevie dometɔ ɖekae nye be wo vi suea tsi megbe vie le nuƒoƒo me ne wotsɔe sɔ kple ɖevi bubu siwo le eƒe ƒeme. Ɣeaɖewoɣi la, ne etsɔe sɔ kple ɖevi bubu siwo le ƒomea me, kple nɔviaŋutsu tsitsitɔ alo nɔvianyɔnu gɔ̃ hã la, vɔvɔ̃ ɖonɛ ŋutɔ, eye wòbiaa eɖokui be, "Nukatae vinyeŋutsu/vinyenyɔnu koe nye amesi le alea?" Ðe esia sɔ nyateƒea? Alo ɖe wòle be míatsi dzi ɖe esia ŋua? Egbea, mina míaƒo nu tso nuƒoƒo ƒe megbetsitsi sia ŋu vie, alo `(Gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe Heheɖemegbe)`.

Ðe vidzĩwo katã sɔa? Nuƒoƒo ƒe didime "si sɔ".

Gbã la, nu vevitɔ si gɔme wòle be mí katã míase ye nye be menye vidzĩwo katãe le ɖeka o. Abe alesi míaƒe asibidɛ atɔ̃awo mesɔ o ene. Alesi wotsina kabakabae, ɣeyiɣi si wodzea nuƒoƒo gɔme, ɣeyiɣi si wodzea azɔlizɔzɔ gɔme, nu siawo katã ate ŋu ato vovo kura tso wo nɔewo gbɔ. Bu eŋu kpɔ, le nɔvi siwo le ƒome ɖeka me gɔ̃ hã dome la, míate ŋu akpɔ vovototo sia nyuie, alo? Ame aɖewo ƒoa nu kaba, ame aɖewo ƒoa nu emegbe vie. Eyata nya "normal" ƒe didime lolo ŋutɔ, vevietɔ ne eɖo gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe ŋgɔyiyi dzi.

Ke hã, esia mefia be mele be míaku nu me le naneke ŋu le mía vi ŋu o. Abe dzilawo ene la, ne ɖikeke alo vɔvɔ̃ suetɔ kekeake gɔ̃ hã le mía me le afɔɖeɖe ɖesiaɖe si míaɖe le mía vi suea ƒe tsitsi me ŋu la, ele vevie ŋutɔ be míaku eme. Mɔfiame sue aɖewo li siwo ate ŋu akpe ɖe mía ŋu míade dzesii ne mía vi ƒe nuƒoƒo tsi megbe, si nye `(Gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe Heheɖemegbe)`. Esiawo menye se siwo sɔ pɛpɛpɛ o, gake zi geɖe la, wonye nusiwo woate ŋu akpɔ mɔ na tso ɖeviwo gbɔ le ƒe sia me.

Ƒe eve viwo - nukae wòle be míakpɔ mɔ na?

Azɔ mina míalé ŋku ɖe nusi míate ŋu akpɔ mɔ na tso vidzĩ si le zɔzɔm ƒe nuƒoƒo ƒe tsitsi me le eƒe ƒe eve lɔƒo ŋu. Mègavɔ̃ na nusiawo o, esiawo nye dzidzenu siwo le mama dedie nu ko.

• Nya eve ƒe nyagbewo: Ðe wòle be viwò suea nadze nya eve ƒe nyagbe bɔbɔewo abe "Medi tsi," "Medi bli," "Dada le yiyim," kple "Tsɔ bɔl la vɛ" ene gbɔgblɔ gɔme hafi.
• Mɔfiame bɔbɔewo gɔmesese: Ele be wòate ŋu ase afɔɖeɖe eve ƒe mɔfiame bɔbɔewo gɔme ahawɔ ɖe wo dzi, abe "Tsɔ fefenuvi la vɛ, emegbe nàtsɔ zikpui la aɖo edzi."
• Nu bɔbɔewo yɔyɔ: Ele be nàte ŋu ayɔ gbesiagbe nu bɔbɔewo abe "bɔl", "kplu", "avũ", "avũ".
• Nyawo: Ele be nya 50 ya teti nanɔ eƒe nyagbewo me. Ðewohĩ esi wu nenema gɔ̃ hã.
• Gɔmesese na Dzilawo: Ele be vidadaa kple vifofoa siaa nase nya siwo ɖevia le gbɔgblɔm ƒe afã (50%) ya teti gɔme. Ðewohĩ gotagometɔ, tɔgbui kple mama, mase nu geɖe gɔme nenema o, gake ele be vidadaa kple fofoa nase nya si wo vi le agbagba dzem be yeagblɔ la gɔme.

Esiawoe nye nu vevi siwo wokpɔa mɔ na zi geɖe tso ɖevi si xɔ ƒe eve gbɔ.

Ne ètso ƒe eve va ɖo etɔ̃ - ŋgɔyiyi bubu!

Ne viwò suea xɔ tso ƒe eve va ɖo ƒe etɔ̃ la, eƒe nyagbɔgblɔwo tsina kabakaba wu, eye woƒe nugɔmesese ƒe ŋutetewo nyona ɖe edzi ŋutɔ. Kaka woaxɔ abe ƒe etɔ̃ ene la, ele be míakpɔ mɔ na nusiwo le abe esia ene:

• Nya etɔ̃ ƒe nyagbewo: Ele be nàte ŋu agblɔ nya etɔ̃ ƒe nyagbewo abe "Dada le bli ɖum", "Mele fefem", kple "Medi bɔl gã aɖe".
• Nyagbɔgblɔ gbogbo aɖe: Ele be nya siwo wu 200 nanɔ esi! Kpuie ko la, ele be wòanya nya geɖe wu alesi nàte ŋu axlẽe ahazã wo.
• Ame akpa gãtɔ ƒe gɔmesese: Fifia, menye dada kple papa ɖeɖeko o, ke boŋ ele be ame bubu siwo wodoa goe enuenu hã (le kpɔɖeŋu me, tɔgbuiwo kple mamawo, ƒometɔ kplikplikpliwo) nase nya siwo wogblɔna ƒe akpa si ade 75%, alo abe akpa etɔ̃ le ene me ene gɔme.
• Nyagbewo gɔmesese: Esea ŋgɔdonyawo gɔme, abe nyawo abe "dzi", "anyi", "eme", "gota". Le kpɔɖeŋu me, ne ègblɔ be ‘tsɔ fefenua da ɖe kplɔ̃ dzi’ alo ‘ɖe bɔl la tso aba te’ la, ele be wòase egɔme eye wòate ŋu awɔe nenema.
• Ŋkɔnyawo zazã: Edzea ŋkɔteƒenɔnyawo zazã gɔme, si nye nyawo abe ‘Nye’, ‘wò’, ‘eya’, ‘eya’, kple bubuawo, le eƒe nuƒoƒo me.

Ne èse le ɖokuiwò me be viwò suea meɖo dzidzenu siawo gbɔ o la, anyo wu be nàƒo nu tso eŋu na ɖɔkta.

Nukatae ɖevi aɖewo tsi megbe le nuƒoƒo me? (Nu Siwo Ate Ŋu Ahe Gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe Heheɖemegbe)

Enyo, fifia ɖewohĩ èle eŋu bum be, "Nukatae nusia le dzɔdzɔm ɖe vinyea ɖeɖeko dzi?" alo "Nukae le esia hem vɛ?" Susu geɖewo li siwo ate ŋu ana gbegbɔgblɔ nahe ɖe megbe. Mègatsi dzi o, menye susu siawo katãe aku ɖe viwòa ŋu o, gake ele vevie be nànya wo.

• Tosese ƒe kuxiwo: Zi geɖe la, esiae nye nu gbãtɔ si wòle be woadi. Ðevi suewo ate ŋu akpɔ kuxiwo le tosese me. Le kpɔɖeŋu me, glue ear, si nye nɔnɔme si me tsi ƒoa ƒu ɖe tomeka me, ate ŋu ana nyawo sese nasesẽ na wo. Bu eŋu kpɔ, aleke woawɔ asrɔ̃ nuƒoƒo ne womete ŋu sea nyawo nyuie o, alo?
• Tsitsi ƒe nɔnɔmewo: Tsitsi ƒe nɔnɔme aɖewo, abe autism spectrum disorder (ASD) ene hã ate ŋu ana nuƒoƒo nahe ɖe megbe. Gake ɖo ŋku edzi be menye nɔnɔme sesẽ aɖe gbɔe nuƒoƒo ƒe heheɖemegbe katã tso o. Ðɔkta koe ate ŋu akpɔe ɖa godoo. Eyata mègati kpo aƒo nya ta o.
• Nutoa me ƒe ʋuʋu dzi ɖe kpɔtɔ: Esia ate ŋu adzɔ zi geɖe ne ɖevia ƒe aƒeme nɔnɔme meʋãna o, abe nuƒoƒo kplii, fefe kplii, kple agbalẽwo xexlẽ ene. Ðevi srɔ̃a gbe to toɖoɖo kple esɔsrɔ̃ me.
• Nu me ƒe dɔwɔwɔ ƒe nyawo: Gbɔdzɔgbɔdzɔ alo kuxi siwo le nu, aɖe, kple nuyi ƒe lãmekawo ŋu ate ŋu ana wòasesẽ be woayɔ nyawo nyuie.
• Nuƒola Siwo Tsi Megbe:Ðevi aɖewo li siwo togbɔ be wole tsitsim nyuie le go bubuwo katã, abe azɔlizɔzɔ, fefewɔwɔ, kple nuwo gɔmesese ene me hã la, wotsia megbe vie le nuƒoƒo me. Woyɔa amesiawo be ``Nuƒola siwo tsi megbe''. Ke hã, ɖevi siawo dometɔ akpa gãtɔ va doa go ɖevi bubuwo le ɣeyiɣi aɖe megbe.
• Ƒome ŋutinya: Ɣeaɖewoɣi la, ne ƒomea me tɔ aɖe tsi megbe le nuƒoƒo me le eƒe ɖevime la, ema hã ate ŋu akpɔ ŋusẽ ɖe edzi.

Ɣekaɣie wòle be míabu esia ŋu geɖe wu? Nukae wòle be míawɔ?

Eyata ne èse le ɖokuiwò me be viwò suea tsi megbe vie le ƒexɔxɔ ta ƒe nu vevi siwo míeyɔ ɖe etame la, taflatse mègatsi dzi ɖe eŋu fũ o, ke boŋ ƒo nu kple wò ƒomea ƒe ɖɔkta alo ɖeviwo ƒe dɔdala godoo. Esiae nye afɔɖeɖe nyuitɔ kekeake kple vevitɔ kekeake si nàte ŋu aɖe.

Ðɔktaa aɖo to nya si nàgblɔ nyuie eye wòado ɖevia kpɔ.

Woate ŋu alé ŋku ɖe ɖevia ƒe to ŋu akpɔe ɖa be tosese ƒe kuxi aɖe le eŋu hã. Ne ehiã la, woate ŋu abia be woado tosese kpɔ.

Tsɔ kpe ɖe eŋu la, ne ehiã la, woate ŋu aɖo aɖaŋu na wò be nàyi nuƒoƒo kple gbegbɔgblɔ ŋuti dɔdala gbɔ. Nuƒoƒodɔdala siawo nye amesiwo wona hehee koŋ be woakpe ɖe ɖevi siwo ŋu nuƒoƒo, gbegɔmesese, kple dzeɖoɖo ƒe kuxiwo le ŋu. Woate ŋu akpe ɖe viwòa ŋu le mɔ si asɔ na wo nu.

Ðo ŋku edzi be ne wokpɔ nane si le abe esia ene kaba eye wona kpekpeɖeŋu si hiã la, emetsonuwo anyo wu sã. Eyata mègatsi dzodzodzoe alo ahe ɖe megbe to gbɔgblɔ be, "Mina míalala vie," eye nàdi atikewɔlawo ƒe aɖaŋuɖoɖo kaba ale si nàte ŋui o.

Nusiwo dzilawo ate ŋu awɔ le aƒeme

Tsɔ kpe ɖe atikewɔlawo ƒe aɖaŋuɖoɖowo kple ne ehiã la, atikewɔwɔ ƒe dɔwɔƒewo ŋu la, nu bɔbɔe geɖe li siwo nàte ŋu awɔ le aƒeme atsɔ akpe ɖe viwò suea ŋu wòatu eƒe nuƒoƒo ƒe ŋutete ɖo.

• Ðo dze kple viwòa zi geɖe: Esiae nye nu vevitɔ kekeake. Gblɔ nusianu si nèwɔna eye nèkpɔnɛ na viwòa le nya bɔbɔe siwo gɔme wòate ŋu ase me. Nuwo abe "Dada le notsi wɔm na wò fifia", "Kpɔ seƒoƒo dzeani sia si le amadede vovovowo me ɖa", "Mina míayi aɖale tsi fifia". Mehiã be wòaɖo eŋu o, megadzudzɔ nuƒoƒo o.
• Xlẽ agbalẽwo, fia nɔnɔmetatawo: Ƒle agbalẽ siwo me nɔnɔmetata gã siwo le amadede vovovowo me le eye nàƒo nu tso nusiwo le wo me ŋu na viwòa. Le kpɔɖeŋu me, "Avu aɖee nye esi, kpɔ avu si le 'buh buh' gbeɖiɖiwo wɔm ɖa." Mehiã be nàxlẽ agbalẽ ɖeka zi geɖe gbesiagbe o, ɖevi suewo lɔ̃nɛ, eye wònana wònɔa bɔbɔe be woaɖo ŋku nyawo dzi.
• Dzi ha, dzi ɖeviwo ƒe hadzidziwo: Woɖoa to kple ɖetsɔleme gã aɖe ne èdzi nuwo abe ɖeviwo ƒe hadzidziwo kple hadzidziwo ɖe ɣeyiɣi ƒe didime nu. Eye nyawo tsia woƒe ta me.
• Se nya si wole agbagba dzem be yewoagblɔ la nyuie: Ne viwò le agbagba dzem be yeagblɔ nya aɖe la, lé to ɖe eŋu nyuie. Ne wogblɔ nya aɖe vodadatɔe hã la, mègaƒo fi de wo to gbɔgblɔ be, "Esia mesɔ o, aleae wòle."Ke boŋ ele be nàgblɔ nya la nyuie eye nàɖee afia be yese nya si dim wòle be yeagblɔ la gɔme. Le kpɔɖeŋu me, ne viwòa gblɔ be "tata" eye wòbia tsi la, ele be nàgblɔ be, "Hey, vinye, tsi dim nèlea? Tsie nye esi."
• Bia nyawo, gake mègazi ŋuɖoɖowo dzi o: Ɣeaɖewoɣi la, enyo wu be wò ŋutɔ nàyɔ nuwo tsɔ wu be nànɔ biabiam be, "Nukae nye esia?" Abe, "Ʋu dzĩ gã aɖee nye esia." Aɖo eŋu ne esu te.
• Keke nusi wògblɔ ɖe enu: Ne viwòa gblɔ be "ʋu" la, àte ŋu atsɔ nya bubuwo akpe ɖe nya si wògblɔ ŋu, abe "Ẽ, ʋu dzĩ gã aɖee nye ema, alo? Ele yiyim kabakaba," eye nàgblɔe le nyagbe didi aɖe me. Woyɔa esia be `(Kekeɖenudɔwɔwɔ)`.
• Na viwòa nate ɖa tso screenwo abe TV, telefon, kple tablɛt ene gbɔ: Vevietɔ le ɖevi siwo mexɔ ƒe eve haɖe o gome la, ekpɔkpɔ ɖe screen siawo dzi ate ŋu anye mɔxenu gã aɖe na woƒe gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe tsitsi. Ne wole nusiawo kpɔm la, ɣeyiɣi xɔasi si woatsɔ aƒo nu, afe, ahawɔ nu kple ame bubuwo la buna. Ke boŋ asixɔxɔ le eŋu wu sã be nàƒo nu kpli wo tẽ ahafe ɖekae.
• Fefe: Fefe kple viwò suewo ate ŋu akpe ɖe wo ŋu woatu woƒe gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe ŋutete ɖo. Wɔ nuwo abe nuƒoƒo kple fefewɔviwo, lãwo ƒe gbeɖiɖiwo wɔwɔ, kple nuƒoƒo tso nuwo tutu kple xɔtunuwo ŋu ene.

Nu vevitɔ kekeake si wòle be wòanɔ susu me na wò (Take-Home Message) .

Mlɔeba la, ele nam be magblɔ nya sia na mi. Ðevi ɖesiaɖe tsina le eƒe ablaɖeɖe kple eƒe mɔ nu. Eya ta mègatsi dzimaɖi madzemadzee to wo tsɔtsɔ sɔ kple ɖevi bubuwo me o. Gake, abe vidada alo vifofo ene la, ne ɖikeke alo vɔvɔ̃ vi aɖe le wò dzi me, hele gbɔgblɔm be, "Edze abe vinyea ƒe nuƒoƒo tsi megbe vie ene, alo?", taflatse mègaŋe aɖaba ƒu edzi o.

Nu nyuitɔ si nàwɔe nye be nàƒo nu kple wò ƒomea ƒe ɖɔkta alo ɖeviwo ƒe dɔdala tso ɖikeke sue ma si le mewò ŋu. Woafia mɔ wò pɛpɛpɛ.

Ne èna kpekpeɖeŋu kple mɔfiame si hiã le gɔmedzedzea me la, àte ŋu aʋu mɔ na viwò suea be wòaƒo nu wòanya kpɔ eye eme nakɔ. Mègatsi dzi o, menye wò ɖeka koe le mɔzɔzɔ sia me o! Nuteƒekpɔkpɔ mawo tɔgbe dzea ŋgɔ dzila geɖe. Nu vevitɔe nye be nànyae le ɣeyiɣi nyuitɔ dzi eye nàɖe afɔ siwo hiã.

Gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe Heheɖemegbe, ɖevi si le zɔzɔm ƒe nuƒoƒo, nuƒoƒo ƒe megbetsitsi, ɖeviwo ƒe gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe tsitsi, ɖevi si xɔ ƒe eve, ɖevi si xɔ ƒe etɔ̃, Nuƒoƒo ƒe Dɔdamɔnufiala