Nusi dzi dzila geɖe tsi dzi ɖo zi geɖee nye nenye be wo vi suea le nu ƒom megbe vie wu wo hatiwo. Ɣeaɖewoɣi la, viwòa tsɔtsɔ sɔ kple nɔviwò tsitsi alo tɔɖiayɔviwo ate ŋu ahe dzimaɖitsitsi ɖedzesi aɖe vɛ: “Nukatae vinye ɖeka koe le avu wɔm?” Ðe esia sɔ nyateƒea, alo ɖe wònye nusi ŋu wòle be nàtsi dzi ɖoa? Mina míadzro Gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe Heheɖemegbe ƒe tanya me ɖekae le Nirogi Lanka afisia.
Ðe ɖeviwo katã sɔa? Nuƒoƒo ƒe didime "si sɔ".
Gbãtɔ kple vevitɔ la, ele vevie ŋutɔ be míase egɔme be menye ɖevi ɖesiaɖee nye ɖeka o . Abe alesi asibidɛ eve aɖeke mesɔna o ene la, alesi ɖeviwo ɖoa tsitsi ƒe nu veviwo gbɔ—abe nuƒoƒo alo azɔlizɔzɔ ene—toa vovo ŋutɔ tso ɖevi ɖeka gbɔ yi bubu gbɔ. Àte ŋu ade dzesi vovototo siawo nyuie le viwòwo gɔ̃ hã dome. Togbɔ be ame aɖewo ƒoa nu kaba hã la, bubuwo ya xɔa ɣeyiɣi didi vie. Eyata nya “si sɔ” ku ɖe nu geɖe ŋu, vevietɔ ne míeƒo nu tso gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe ŋgɔyiyi ŋu.
Ke hã, esia mefia be nàŋe aɖaba aƒu wò dzimaɖitsitsiwo dzi o. Abe dzila ene la, ne èse le ɖokuiwò me be yetsi dzi vie gɔ̃ hã ɖe viwò ƒe ŋgɔyiyi ŋu la, enye nuwɔna nyui ɣesiaɣi be nàdi dɔnyala ƒe mɔfiame. Togbɔ be mɔfiame siwo gbɔna menye se sesẽwo o hã la, wonyea dzesi siwo kpena ɖe ame ŋu na nusiwo wokpɔ mɔ na zi geɖe le ƒe vovovowo me be woakpe ɖe ŋuwò nàde dzesi Gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe Heheɖemegbe si ate ŋu adzɔ .
Ƒe eve vi la – Nukae wòle be nàkpɔ mɔ na?
Mina míalé ŋku ɖe nusi míekpɔa mɔ na zi geɖe tso ƒe eve vi gbɔ le gbegbɔgblɔ gome ŋu. Taflatse mègase le ɖokuiwò me be yevɔ̃ o; esiawo nye ŋgɔyiyi ƒe dzidzenu siwo wozãna ɖaa ko.
- Nya eve ƒe nyagbewo: Ele be viwò suea nadze nyagbe eve ƒe nyagbe bɔbɔewo wɔwɔ gɔme, abe “di tsi,” “di bli,” “Dada nayi,” alo “tsɔ bɔl vɛ.”
- Mɔfiame bɔbɔewo gɔmesese: Ele be woate ŋu awɔ ɖe mɔfiame bɔbɔe siwo me afɔɖeɖe eve le, abe “Fɔ fefenuvi la nàtsɔe aɖo zikpui dzi” ene dzi.
- Nu tsɛwo yɔyɔ: Ele be woate ŋu ayɔ gbesiagbenu siwo bɔ abe “bɔl,” “kplu,” “avũ,” alo “avũ” ene ŋkɔ.
- Nyawo: Ele be nya 50 ya teti nanɔ woƒe nyagbewo me, togbɔ be ate ŋu asɔ gbɔ wu gɔ̃ hã.
- Gɔmesese: Ele be nya siwo viwòa agblɔ ƒe afã (50%) ya teti nase egɔme na wò, wo dzila. Togbɔ be amedzro alo tɔgbui kple mama gɔ̃ hã ate ŋu aʋli vevie be yease wo gɔme hã la, ele be wò dzila nate ŋu ase viwòa ƒe tameɖoɖo gɔme.
Esiawoe nye tsitsi ƒe nu vevi siwo wokpɔ mɔ na tso ƒe eve vi si.
Tso ƒe eve va ɖo etɔ̃ – Ŋgɔyiyi geɖe wu!
Le ƒe eve va ɖo ƒe etɔ̃ dome la, viwòa ƒe nyagbɔgblɔwo adzi ɖe edzi kabakaba, eye woƒe nukpɔsusuwo gɔmesese ƒe ŋutete anyo ɖe edzi ŋutɔ. Kaka míaxɔ ƒe etɔ̃ la, zi geɖe la, míekpɔa mɔ be míakpɔ nu siwo gbɔna:
- Nya etɔ̃ ƒe nyagbewo: Ele be woate ŋu aƒo nu le nya etɔ̃ me nyagbewo abe “Dada le nu ɖum,” “Mele fefem,” alo “di bɔl gã.”
- Nyagbɔgblɔ gãwo: Ele be nyagbɔgblɔ si wu 200 nanɔ wo si! Kpuie ko la, ele be woanɔ nya geɖe zãm ahanya wo ale gbegbe be wòasesẽ na wò be nàyi edzi anɔ wo xlẽm.
- Gɔmesese si keke ta: Fifia, menye wò ɖeɖekoe o, ke boŋ ele be amesiwo wɔa nu kpli wo enuenu (abe tɔgbuiwo kple mamawo alo ƒometɔ kplikplikpliwo ene) nase nya siwo gblɔm wole la ƒe akpa si ade 75%—alo akpa etɔ̃ le ene me—se gɔme.
- Dodoɖeŋgɔnyawo gɔmesese: Ele be woase teƒe ŋuti nukpɔsusuwo abe “le dzi,” “te,” “eme,” kple “gota” ene gɔme. Le kpɔɖeŋu me, ne ègblɔ be, “Tsɔ fefenua da ɖe kplɔ̃a dzi” alo “Ðe bɔl la tso aba te” la, ele be woate ŋu ase mɔfiame ma gɔme ahawɔ ɖe edzi.
- Ŋkɔnyawo zazã: Woadze ŋkɔteƒenɔnyawo abe “Nye,” “wò,” “eya/eya,” kple “eya” zazã gɔme le woƒe nuƒoƒo me.
Ne èse le ɖokuiwò me be viwò suea meɖo nu vevi siawo gbɔ o la, nu nyuitɔ si nàwɔe nye be nàƒo nu kple lãmesẽdɔwɔla aɖe.
Nukatae ɖevi aɖewo ƒe nuƒoƒo tsia megbe? (Nu Siwo Ate Ŋu Ahe Gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe Heheɖemegbe)
Enye dzɔdzɔme nu be míabia eɖokui be, “Nukatae esia le dzɔdzɔm ɖe vinye dzi?” alo “Nuka gbɔe wòtso?” Nu geɖe li siwo ate ŋu ana gbegbɔgblɔ nahe ɖe megbe. Mègatsi dzodzodzoe o; menye nu sia nu si gbɔ wòtso la ku ɖe viwòa ŋu o, gake ele vevie be nànya nu tso eŋu nyuie.
- Tosese ƒe nyawo: Zi geɖe la, esiae nyea nu gbãtɔ si míeléa ŋku ɖe eŋu. Tosese me kuxiwo ate ŋu anɔ ɖevi ŋu, abe nɔnɔme aɖe abe “Glue Ear” si me tsi ƒe ƒoƒo ɖe to ƒe mɔ̃ me xea mɔ na nusese si me kɔ ene. Bu nya sia ŋu kpɔ: ne womate ŋu ase nyawo nyuie o la, aleke woate ŋu asrɔ̃ nuƒoƒo?
- Tsitsi ƒe nɔnɔmewo: Ɣeaɖewoɣi la, nuƒoƒo ƒe megbetsitsi ate ŋu ado ƒome kple tsitsi ƒe nɔnɔmewo, abe Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) ene. Ke hã, ɖo ŋku edzi be menye nɔnɔme sesẽ mawo gbɔe nuƒoƒo ƒe megbetsitsi ɖesiaɖe tsona o. Atikewɔla koe ate ŋu ana woakpɔ dɔlélea nyuie, eyata taflatse ƒo asa na wò ŋutɔ wò nyataƒoƒo.
- Nutoa me ʋãme ƒe anyimanɔmanɔ: Nuwɔwɔ ɖekae ƒe anyimanɔmanɔ le aƒeme—abe nuƒoƒo, fefe, alo nuxexlẽ na ɖevia ene—ate ŋu ana wòahe ɖe megbe. Ðeviwo srɔ̃a gbegbɔgblɔ to toɖoɖo ame bubuwo kple wo sɔsrɔ̃ me koŋ.
- Nu me kple nu ƒe dɔwɔwɔ ƒe nyawo: Gbɔdzɔgbɔdzɔ alo nuwɔwɔ ɖekae ƒe kuxiwo le nu, aɖe, alo nuyi ƒe lãmekawo me ate ŋu ana wòasesẽ na ɖevi be wòayɔ nyawo nyuie.
- Nuƒola Tsi megbe: Ðevi aɖewo, siwo woyɔna zi geɖe be “Nuƒola Tsi megbe” la ɖoa tsitsi ƒe nu vevi bubuawo katã gbɔ—abe azɔlizɔzɔ, fefewɔwɔ, kple nugɔmesese—la ɖe game dzi, gake ɖeko woƒe nuƒoƒo tsia megbe. Ðevi siawo dometɔ akpa gãtɔ va ɖoa wo hatiwo gbɔ mlɔeba.
- Ƒome ŋutinya: Ɣeaɖewoɣi la, ƒome ŋutinya si me nuƒoƒo tsi megbe ate ŋu awɔ akpa aɖe.
Ɣekaɣie wòle be nàtsi dzi eye nukae wòle be nàwɔ?
Ne èse le ɖokuiwò me be viwò suea tsi megbe le nu vevi siwo míeyɔ va yi la, taflatse mègakpe fu le ɖoɖoezizi me o. Wɔ ɖoɖo kple wò ƒomea ƒe ɖɔkta alo ɖeviwo ƒe dɔdala. Esiae nye afɔɖeɖe vevitɔ kekeake si nàte ŋu aɖe.
Ðɔktaa aɖo to wò dzimaɖitsitsiwo eye wòado viwòa kpɔ.
Woate ŋu ado toawo kpɔ be woagase to o. Ne ehiã la, woate ŋu aɖo viwòa ɖe dɔnyala bibiwo ƒe tosese dodokpɔ.
Tsɔ kpe ɖe eŋu la, woate ŋu anɔ te ɖe woƒe dɔdaƒe ƒe numekuku dzi aɖo wò ɖe nuƒoƒo kple gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe dɔléleŋutinunyala gbɔ. Wona hehe eŋutinunyala bibi siawo be woado alɔ ɖevi siwo ŋu kuxi siwo ku ɖe nuƒoƒo, gbegbɔgblɔ gɔmesese, kple dzeɖoɖo ŋu le. Woate ŋu ana mɔfiame si sɔ na viwòa.
Ðo ŋku edzi be ne wokpɔe kaba hede nu nyaa me la, nu nyuitɔ kekeake dona tso eme. Mègavɔ̃ o, eye mègahe ɖe megbe to “lala eye nàkpɔe” ƒe mɔnu zazã me o—di atikewɔla bibiwo ƒe aɖaŋuɖoɖo kaba.
Nusi dzilawo ate ŋu awɔ le aƒeme
Tsɔ kpe ɖe atikewɔla bibiwo ƒe aɖaŋuɖoɖo kple atikewɔwɔ ƒe dɔwɔnawo ŋu la, nu bɔbɔe geɖe li siwo ate ŋu awɔ dɔ le aƒeme be wòakpe ɖe viwòa ƒe gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe tsitsi ŋu.
- Ðo dze kple viwòa ɣesiaɣi: Esiae nye afɔɖeɖe vevitɔ kekeake. Ðe nusianu si wɔm nèle kple nusianu si nèkpɔ la me le gbe bɔbɔe si me kɔ me.Le kpɔɖeŋu me, gblɔ nyawo abe, “Dada le wò notsi wɔm fifia,” “Kpɔ seƒoƒo dzeani ma si le amadede vovovowo me ɖa,” alo “Mina míayi aɖale tsi.” Ne womeɖo eŋu o hã la, yi dzeɖoɖoa dzi.
- Xlẽ agbalẽwo eye nàtsɔ nɔnɔmetatawo afia: Mifɔ agbalẽ siwo me nɔnɔmetata gã siwo le amadede vovovowo me le eye miaƒo nu tso nusiwo miekpɔ ɖekae ŋu. Gblɔ nyawo abe, “Avũe nye esia; kpɔ ɖa, avu la gblɔna be ‘woof woof’.” Enyo ŋutɔ be nàxlẽ agbalẽ ɖeka zi geɖe gbesiagbe; ɖevi siwo le zɔzɔm lɔ̃a nyawo gbugbɔgagblɔ, eye wòkpena ɖe wo ŋu be nya yeyewo léna ɖe asi kabakaba wu.
- Dzi ha kple ɖeviwo ƒe hadzidziwo: Ðeviwo lɔ̃a toɖoɖo ɖeviwo ƒe hadzidzi kple hadzidzi siwo me ɣeyiɣi le. Hadzidzi kpena ɖe wo ŋu be woade gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe ɖoɖowo wo ɖokui me eye wòtua woƒe nyagbɔgblɔwo ɖo agbagbadzedze aɖeke manɔmee.
- Ðo to woƒe agbagbadzedzewo nyuie: Ne viwò suea le agbagba dzem be yeagblɔ nya aɖe la, na wò susu katã nanɔ wo ŋu. Ne woyɔ nya aɖe vodadatɔe la, mègaɖɔ wo ɖo tẽ alo aƒo fi de wo to gbɔgblɔ me be, “Ema mesɔ o.” Ke boŋ gbugbɔ nya la gblɔ nyuie eye nàɖee afia be yese woƒe tameɖoɖo gɔme. Le kpɔɖeŋu me, ne viwòa gblɔ be “wa-wa” be yeabia tsi la, gblɔ ko be, “Oo, ɖe nèdi tsi aɖea? Wò tsie nye esi.”
- Bia nya aɖewo, gake mègazi ŋuɖoɖo dzi o: Le esi teƒe be nàbia ɣesiaɣi be “Nukae nye esia?”, anyo wu zi geɖe be nàde dzesi nuwo na wo. Zã nyagbɔgblɔwo abe, “Ʋu gã aɖe si le dzo dam ye nye esia.” Woaɖo eŋu ne wole klalo.
- Keke ɖe nya si wogblɔna ŋu: Ne viwòa gblɔ be “ʋu” la, àte ŋu agblɔ be, “Ẽ, ʋu dzĩ gã aɖee nye ema, alo? Ele ʋu kum sesĩe ŋutɔ.” Nya bubuwo tsɔtsɔ kpe ɖe woƒe susu gbãtɔ ŋu nye aɖaŋu aɖe si woyɔna be kekeɖenudɔ .
- Seɖoƒe na ɣeyiɣi si woatsɔ awɔ screen (TV, telefon, tablɛt): Le ɖevi siwo mexɔ ƒe eve haɖe o gome la, screen ate ŋu anye mɔxenu gã aɖe na gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe tsitsi le lãmesẽ me. Screen time xɔa ɖe ɣeyiɣi xɔasi siwo me nèzãa nuƒoƒo, fefe, kple kadodo kpli wo la teƒe. Dzeɖoɖo tẽ, ŋkume kple ŋkume kple fefe ɖea vi wu kura.
- Fefe ɖekae: Fefewɔwɔ me nɔnɔ le vevie ŋutɔ be woatu gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe ŋutete ɖo. Fe fefe abe fefewɔviwo ene, srɔ̃ lãwo ƒe gbeɖiɖi, alo ƒo nu tso nusi tum nèle ŋu esime nèle fefem kple blɔwo.
Gbedasi si Wotsɔ Yi Aƒeme
Mlɔeba la, ɖo ŋku edzi be ɖevi ɖesiaɖe tsina le eƒe ablaɖeɖe kple eƒe mɔ nu. Mègatsi nuteɖeamedzi na ɖokuiwò to wo tsɔtsɔ sɔ kple ɖevi bubuwo ɣesiaɣi me o. Ke hã, abe dzila ene la, ne ɖikeke alo dzimaɖitsitsi suetɔ kekeake gɔ̃ hã le mewò—ne èkpɔe be yele tame bum be, “Ðe vinye ƒe nuƒoƒo tsi megbea?”—taflatse mègaŋe aɖaba ƒu dzɔdzɔmeŋutete ma dzi o.
Nu nyuitɔ si nàte ŋu awɔe nye be nàdzro wò dzimaɖitsitsiwo me kple wò ƒomea ƒe ɖɔkta alo ɖeviwo ƒe dɔdala. Woana mɔfiame nyuitɔ wò.
Ne èdi kpekpeɖeŋu kple mɔfiame kaba la, àte ŋu aʋu mɔ na viwòa be wòaƒo nu eme nakɔ eye kakaɖedzi anɔ eŋu. Mègatsi dzi o, menye wò ɖeka koe le mɔzɔzɔ sia me o! Nuteƒekpɔkpɔ mawo tɔgbe dzea ŋgɔ dzila geɖe. Nu vevitɔ kekeakee nye be nànɔ nyatakaka nam eye nàɖe afɔ siwo hiã le ɣeyiɣi nyuitɔ dzi. Wò zɔhɛ siwo le Nirogi Lanka le afisia na wò.
Gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe Heheɖemegbe, ɖevi si le zɔzɔm ƒe nuƒoƒo, nuƒoƒo ƒe tsitsi, ɖevi ƒe gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe tsitsi, ɖevi si xɔ ƒe eve, ɖevi si xɔ ƒe etɔ̃, Nuƒoƒo ƒe Dɔdamɔnufiala
