Koj tus me nyuam puas tom lwm tus? (Tom) - Cia peb tham txog qhov kev coj cwj pwm tsis zoo no!

Tsis muaj lus los piav qhia txog kev xyiv fab uas koj hnov ​​thaum koj saib koj tus menyuam yaus ua tej yam ntxim hlub, puas yog? Thaum nws khiav los cuag koj thiab khawm koj, thaum nws luag nrov nrov, thaum nws khawm koj thaum nws nkees ... kev hlub tab tom npau. Tab sis ua ib leej niam lossis leej txiv ntawm cov menyuam yaus, koj paub tias nrog rau cov yam ntxim hlub no, qee zaum cov menyuam no kuj ua tej yam uas ua rau peb chim siab thiab me ntsis qias neeg. Ncaws, qw, lossis ... tom lwm tus . Qhov kev zom no yog ib yam dab tsi uas feem ntau pom ntawm cov menyuam yaus ntawm lub hnub nyoog no. Tab sis thaum koj pom nws, lossis thaum koj ntsib nws, nws kuj yog ib txwm muaj kev txhawj xeeb thiab chim siab heev. Yog li hnub no, cia peb tham txog tus cwj pwm zom no thiab peb tuaj yeem ua dab tsi los tswj nws.

Vim li cas cov menyuam yaus thiaj li zom zaub mov li no? Yog vim li cas?

Ua ntej tshaj plaws, peb yuav tsum nkag siab tias thaum ib tug menyuam yaus tom lwm tus neeg, nws tsis yog ua nrog lub siab phem. Lawv tseem tab tom nkag siab lub ntiaj teb. Yog li, muaj ntau yam laj thawj rau qhov kev tom no.

• Kev xav paub thiab kev tshawb nrhiav: Cov menyuam yaus kawm txog lub ntiaj teb nyob ib puag ncig lawv los ntawm kev muab tej yam tso rau hauv lawv lub qhov ncauj thiab kov lawv. Yog li ntawd, qee zaum lawv yuav zom vim xav paub, xav tias, "Yuav ua li cas yog tias kuv zom?", ib yam li muab ib yam khoom ua si tso rau hauv lawv lub qhov ncauj.
• Mob hniav: Thaum cov hniav tawm, qhov khaus thiab mob ntawm cov pos hniav ua rau lawv xav tom txhua yam uas lawv tau txais. Lawv kuj tseem yuav tom ib tus neeg nyob ze thaum ntawd.
• Qhia lawv txoj kev xav: Cov menyuam yaus tsis paub yuav ua li cas qhia lawv txoj kev tu siab, kev npau taws, lossis kev chim siab hauv cov lus zoo li peb ua. Yog li thaum lawv npau taws, thaum lwm tus coj ib qho khoom ua si, lossis thaum lawv tsis tau txais ib yam dab tsi uas lawv xav tau, lawv yuav tom kom tso cov kev xav ntawd tawm.
• Tau kev mloog zoo: Qee zaum ib tug me nyuam paub tias kev zom zaub mov yuav ua rau lawv tau txais kev mloog zoo los ntawm niam lossis txiv. Txawm tias qhov kev mloog zoo ntawd yog kev cem, nws tuaj yeem zoo li "kev mloog zoo" rau lawv, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog thaum lawv xav tias kho siab lossis dhuav.
• Kev Ua Qoj Ib Ce : Yog tias lawv pom ib tug kwv tij laus dua nyob hauv tsev lossis lwm tus menyuam yaus ntawm chaw zov menyuam zom zaub mov, lawv yuav ua qoj ib ce thiab.
• Rau kev tiv thaiv tus kheej: Qee zaum, tib neeg yuav tom lawv kom tiv thaiv lawv tus kheej, txawm yog los ntawm ib tug menyuam yaus uas laus dua lawv lossis thaum lawv xav tias lawv muaj kev phom sij.
• Kev qaug zog, kev tshaib plab , lossis kev tsis xis nyob: Yog tias ib tug me nyuam nkees heev, tshaib plab, lossis muaj qee yam kev tsis xis nyob (piv txwv li, khaub ncaws ntub), lawv yuav qhia nws los ntawm kev tom vim lawv tsis nkag siab yuav hais li cas.

Xav txog qhov no, qee zaum ib tug me nyuam yaus npau taws thaum lwm tus me nyuam coj lawv cov khoom ua si, thiab lawv tsis paub yuav ua li cas piav qhia nws ua lus. Yog li ntawd, lawv tshem tawm lawv qhov kev npau taws los ntawm kev tom lwm tus me nyuam. Zoo li lawv qw tias, "Kuv npau taws! Muab kuv cov khoom ua si rau kuv!"

Ua cas peb thiaj ntxhov siab thaum peb pom ib tug neeg tom? Qhov ntawd puas yog ib txwm muaj?

Qhov tseeb, nws yog ib qho ib txwm muaj uas koj yuav xav tsis thoob, txaj muag, thiab npau taws thaum koj pom koj tus menyuam tom lwm tus. Tej yam zoo li, "Tus menyuam lwm tus puas raug mob?" thiab "Tus niam txiv lwm tus yuav xav li cas?" los rau hauv siab. Tab sis nco ntsoov, kev tom yog ib qho uas tshwm sim ntau heev ntawm cov menyuam yaus hnub nyoog ntawm 1 thiab 3 xyoos. Qee zaum nws tuaj yeem suav tias yog ib theem hauv lawv txoj kev loj hlob. Qhov ntawd tsis tau txhais hais tias txhua tus menyuam tom, tab sis nws tsis yog qhov xav tsis thoob yog tias lawv ua. Qhov tseem ceeb yog peb teb li cas rau nws thiab peb tuaj yeem pab peb tus menyuam tso tseg tus cwj pwm li cas.

Thaum ib tug me nyuam tom zaub mov, peb yuav tsum ua li cas? Txoj kev zoo tshaj plaws yog dab tsi?

Thaum ib tug me nyuam tom, peb yuav ua li cas. Yog peb teb raws li peb cov lus teb, tus me nyuam yuav kawm seb qhov no puas yog qhov zoo los yog qhov phem, thiab seb puas yuav tsum ua dua los tsis ua dua.

Ua ntej, ua kom lub siab tus ntau li ntau tau!

Qhov no hais yooj yim dua li ua. Txawm li cas los xij, yog tias koj chim siab lossis qw, koj tus menyuam yuav ntshai ntxiv lossis sim tom koj kom lawv mloog koj. Ua pa tob tob thiab muab sijhawm rau koj tus kheej.

Hais "tsis yog" kom meej thiab ruaj khov.

Thaum koj tus menyuam tom, ntsia lawv lub qhov muag thiab hais tias, tsis txhob nrov nrov, tab sis hais nrog lub suab meej thiab ruaj khov tias, "Tsis txhob tom. Nws mob." Koj kuj yuav tsum qhia qhov kev tsis kam ntawm koj lub ntsej muag. Tab sis tsis txhob ua rau neeg ntshai.

Ua tib zoo mloog tus me nyuam uas tom.

Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws tom ntej no yog mus rau tus menyuam uas tom thiab nplij lawv. Hais ib yam dab tsi zoo li, "Koj puas raug mob? Kuv thov txim," thiab saib qhov txhab. Qhov no xa xov rau koj tus menyuam tias kev tom ua rau lwm tus mob thiab nws yog ib qho kev tu siab.

Tshem tus menyuam tom ntawd tawm ntawm qhov ntawd ib pliag.

Tshem tus menyuam tom ntawd tawm ntawm thaj chaw uas nws tab tom ua si lossis ntawm qhov kev ua ub no ib pliag. Qhov no zoo li "lub sijhawm so." Txawm li cas los xij, qhov no yuav tsum tsis txhob siv ua kev rau txim, tab sis ua ib txoj hauv kev los muab sijhawm rau tus menyuam xav txog qhov nws tau ua thiab ua kom nws nyob twj ywm. Hais tias, "Koj tom, yog li kuv yuav nyob ntawm no ib pliag," thiab cia nws nyob ib leeg ib lossis ob feeb hauv qhov chaw uas nws tsis muaj dab tsi ua si thiab dhuav (lub sijhawm yuav tsum sib txawv nyob ntawm tus menyuam hnub nyoog. Feem ntau, nws yog li ib feeb ib xyoos).

Piav qhia yooj yim.

Hais ib yam yooj yim, tsim nyog rau tus menyuam lub hnub nyoog thiab qib kev nkag siab, xws li "Peb tsis tom lwm tus neeg. Thaum peb tom, nws ua rau peb cov phooj ywg mob. Nws tsis yog ib yam zoo." Tsis txhob qhuab qhia ntev.

Qhia lwm txoj hauv kev

Qhia koj tus menyuam lwm txoj kev los qhia lawv qhov kev npau taws, kev tu siab, lossis kev xav tau yam tsis tas tom. Qhia lawv tej yam xws li, "Thaum koj npau taws, hais tias 'Kuv npau taws,'" "Yog tias koj xav tau ib yam khoom ua si, thov nws, 'Muab rau kuv,'" thiab "Yog tias koj npau taws, qhia niam/txiv." Koj tuaj yeem qhia tej no los ntawm cov nkauj thiab dab neeg .

Qhuas tus cwj pwm zoo.

Thaum koj tus menyuam ua si zoo nrog cov phooj ywg yam tsis tau zom khoom noj, thiab thaum nws qhia nws txoj kev xav hauv cov lus, nco ntsoov qhuas nws. Txhawb nws los ntawm kev hais ib yam dab tsi zoo li, "Kuv tus tub/ntxhais ua si zoo heev hnub no. Nws tsis tau zom khoom noj, puas yog? Nws zoo siab heev." Qhov no hu ua kev txhawb zog zoo .

Tsis txhob hais cov no ua lub npe! Cov txheej txheem tsis raug yog dab tsi?

Qee zaum, tej yam uas peb ua yam tsis paub tias nws tuaj yeem ua rau qhov kev zom zaub mov no zuj zus tuaj. Yog li ntawd, tsis txhob ua yuam kev no.

• Rov qab tom koj tus menyuam: Hais tias, "Tam sim no koj puas nkag siab tias nws mob li cas?" tsuas yog qhia koj tus menyuam tias kev tom yog ib qho cuab yeej daws teeb meem. Nws tsuas yog yuav ua rau koj tus menyuam tsis meej pem ntxiv lawm. Tsis txhob ua li no.
• Kev rau txim hnyav, qw, ntaus: Tej yam no tsuas yog yuav ua rau tus menyuam ntshai thiab tiv thaiv lawv kom tsis txhob nkag siab tias qhov lawv tau ua yog qhov tsis yog. Lawv kuj tseem tuaj yeem ua rau tus menyuam npau taws ntxiv thiab txhawb kom koj ua tej yam no zais cia.
• Kev ua rau tus menyuam txaj muag: Kev ua rau tus menyuam txaj muag rau lwm tus los ntawm kev hais tej yam zoo li "Tus no yog tus uas ntaus Raya. Ua cas tus menyuam phem ua luaj" tsuas yog yuav ua rau lawv tus kheej puas tsuaj xwb.
• Kev muab ib tug me nyuam hu ua "phem": Thaum koj hais tej yam xws li "koj yog ib tug me nyuam phem," "koj phem," tus me nyuam yuav pib ntseeg nws. Peb yuav tsum tsom mus rau tus cwj pwm, tsis yog tus me nyuam. Muaj qhov sib txawv loj ntawm kev hais tias "kev zom khoom tsis zoo" thiab hais tias "koj yog ib tug me nyuam phem."

Peb ua tau dab tsi ntxiv kom tsis txhob tom?

Ntxiv rau cov lus teb tam sim ntawd uas tau hais los saum toj no, muaj lwm yam uas peb tuaj yeem ua tau los txo qhov kev coj cwj pwm no mus sij hawm ntev.

• Sim nrhiav seb yog vim li cas: Thaum twg koj tus menyuam zom zaub mov ntau tshaj plaws? Thaum twg nws nkees? Thaum twg nws tshaib plab? Thaum twg nws poob ib yam khoom ua si? Los yog thaum nws nyob ib puag ncig ib tus neeg tshwj xeeb? Yog tias koj ua tib zoo mloog cov no (Saib seb puas muaj yam ua rau nws ua rau nws ua tsis tau ) , koj tuaj yeem zam cov xwm txheej ntawd lossis pab koj tus menyuam thaum lub sijhawm ntawd.
• Muab sijhawm rau cov menyuam yaus ua si: Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev uas yuav tsum muab sijhawm rau cov menyuam yaus khiav ncig thiab ua si, kom lawv tso lawv lub zog tawm. Qhov no yuav txo lawv txoj kev chim siab thiab kev tsis xis nyob.
• So thiab pw tsaug zog txaus: Xyuas kom koj tus menyuam tau pw tsaug zog txaus. Txawm tias thaum lawv nkees lossis tsaug zog, cov menyuam yaus tuaj yeem tsis so thiab zom.
• Cov khoom ua si uas tab tom loj hlob: Thaum lub sij hawm uas cov hniav pib tawm, muab ib yam khoom ua si uas huv thiab muaj kev nyab xeeb rau koj tus menyuam kom nws tom, xws li ib daim zaub qhwv txias los yog ib daim dib. Tab sis nco ntsoov nyob ze thaum muab cov khoom no rau lawv, vim tias lawv tuaj yeem ua rau lawv txhaws.
• Kev ua yeeb yam:Thaum ua si, siv cov menyuam roj hmab lossis cov tsiaj los ua yeeb yam xws li, "Cov phooj ywg tsis tom, peb zoo li no," thiab "Qhov no yog qhov peb hais thaum peb npau taws."
• Nyeem cov phau ntawv: Nyeem cov phau ntawv nrog koj tus menyuam uas tham txog lawv txoj kev xav thiab yuav ua li cas thiaj sib haum xeeb nrog cov phooj ywg.

Thaum twg peb yuav tsum nrhiav kev pab kho mob?

Feem ntau, tus cwj pwm zom zaub mov no yuav ploj mus thaum tus menyuam loj hlob tuaj thiab muaj peev xwm hais lus tau. Feem ntau, nws yuav ploj mus thaum muaj hnub nyoog 3-4 xyoos. Txawm li cas los xij, muaj qee kis uas peb yuav tsum nrhiav kev qhia los ntawm kws kho mob lossis kws kho mob hlwb rau menyuam yaus.

• Yog tias tus menyuam yaus zom ntau zaus thiab ua nruj ua tsiv .
• Yog tias tus cwj pwm no tseem txuas ntxiv mus tom qab muaj hnub nyoog 3 lossis 4 xyoos.
• Yog tias qhov kev zom zaub mov no ua rau muaj teeb meem rau tus menyuam kom txog rau thaum yuav tsum tau raug tshem tawm ntawm chaw zov menyuam.
• Yog tias koj pom lwm yam kev coj cwj pwm lossis kev loj hlob qeeb nrog rau kev zom, xws li kev hais lus qeeb lossis teeb meem hauv zej zog.
• Yog koj xav tias koj tswj tsis tau qhov xwm txheej no thiab koj xav tias muaj kev nyuaj siab ntau txog nws.

Nco ntsoov tias, nws yeej tsis yog lub tswv yim phem kom mus ntsib kws kho mob. Lawv tuaj yeem pab koj nrhiav qhov ua rau muaj qhov teeb meem no thiab muab cov kev daws teeb meem zoo tshaj plaws rau koj tus menyuam.

Cov Lus Qhia Txog Kev Coj Mus Tsev

Zoo, yog li kuv vam tias qhov peb tau tham txog hnub no yuav pab koj nco qab qee yam tseem ceeb tshaj plaws.

• Kev zom zaub mov yog ib qho uas pom ntau ntawm cov menyuam yaus , tab sis nws tuaj yeem tswj tau. Tsis txhob txhawj.
• Kev ua siab ntev thiab kev ua tas mus li yog qhov tseem ceeb. Tej zaum koj yuav tsis muaj peev xwm nres qhov no hauv ib hnub. Tab sis tsis txhob tso tseg. Teb tib yam li ntawd txhua zaus.
• Ua tib zoo qhia koj tus menyuam, tsis txhob rau txim rau lawv. Qhia lawv txog qhov yog thiab qhov tsis yog, thiab yuav tswj lawv txoj kev xav li cas.
• Qhov no yog ib qho teeb meem uas ntau tus niam txiv ntsib. Koj tsis yog tib leeg xwb. Yog tias tsim nyog, tham nrog lwm tus niam txiv thiab qhia koj tej kev paub dhau los.
• Tsis txhob yig thov kev pab. Yog tias koj muaj teeb meem daws qhov teeb meem no ntawm koj tus kheej, nrhiav kev pab los ntawm cov kws tshaj lij.

Peb vam tias koj tus me nyuam yuav sai sai no tso tseg qhov kev coj ua no thiab tias hnub ntawd yuav los txog thaum peb tsuas pom lawv qhov ntxim hlub dua!

Tom , menyuam yaus tom, menyuam yaus tom, tus cwj pwm ntawm menyuam yaus, cov lus qhia rau niam txiv, tus cwj pwm ntawm menyuam yaus