If yu na mama we gɛt bɛlɛ, sɔntɛm yu sabi dɛn kayn tin ya. Ilɛksɛf na strit, na bɔs, ɔ na yu fambul in os, pɔsin we yu nɔ ivin no kin tɔch yu bɛlɛ wantɛm wantɛm ɛn aks yu se, ‘Di pikin fayn?’ Ɔ na di ɔfis, ɔlman kin aks kwɛstyɔn dɛn lɛk, ‘Yu go mɔs de go na di was rum ɔltɛm naw, nɔto so?’ We yu yɛri dɛn tin ya, yu nɔ kin fil fayn smɔl, yu kin shem, ɛn yu kin ivin vɛks, nɔto so? Dɛn tin ya kin rili mek yu vɛks ɛn dɛn kin afɛkt yu prayvet pat. Bɔt bɔku mama dɛn we gɛt bɛlɛ kin gɛt dis prɔblɛm.
Yu tink se kwɛstyɔn dɛn we nɔ impɔtant de mɔna yu?
Bɔku uman dɛn we gɛt bɛlɛ kin tink se if pɔsin aks kwɛstyɔn, dɛn fɔ ansa am, ilɛksɛf na pɔsin in yon. Bɔt nɔto so i bi. Yu nɔ gɛt ɛni ɔbligayshɔn fɔ sheb ɔltin bɔt yu bɛlɛ wit ɔlman. Yu gɛt ɔl di rayt fɔ tɔk ɔl wetin yu want, if yu want.
So wetin yu go du if pɔsin aks yu kwɛstyɔn we nɔ fayn?
- Divayt di tɔk: If sɔmbɔdi aks sɔntin lɛk, "Na Sizarian sɛkshɔn de bɔn di pikin?", yu kin pɔlitiks divayt di tɔk bay we yu smayl ɛn se, "Wi ɔl tu rili gladi fɔ gɛt pikin. So wetin nyu wit yu?" Dis go ɛp yu fɔ avɔyd di kwɛstyɔn ɛn ridayrɛkt di tɔk bak to di pɔsin we aks di kwɛstyɔn.
- Ansa wit wan kwɛstyɔn: Dis na fayn taktik bak. Imajin se sɔmbɔdi de aks yu se, "Yu bin bɔn pikin natin nɔ de du?" Yu kin jɔs aks se, " Dat na wan weda kwɛstyɔn, wetin mek yu want fɔ no? " Dis go mek dɛn no se dɛn kwɛstyɔn nɔ fayn. I go mɔs bi se dɛn nɔ go aks yu dɛn kayn pasɔnal kwɛstyɔn dɛn de igen.
Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ mɛmba se yu nɔ fɔ tɔk ɛnitin we yu nɔ want fɔ tɔk, ilɛksɛf yu nɔ fil fayn. Ivin if na famili mɛmba, yu nɔ nid fɔ gi di ditel dɛn if yu nɔ want.
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Fɔ sɔm pipul dɛn, kwɛstyɔn dɛn we nɔ impɔtant na dɛn kin mɔna dɛn pas ɔl. Bɔt fɔ ɔda pipul dɛn, advays we nɔ nid, mɔ di stori dɛn we de mek pɔsin fred bɔt bɔn pikin , na in kin mɔna dɛn pas ɔl. As yu kam fɔ no se yu gɛt bɛlɛ so, ɔlman kin bigin fɔ tɛl yu di stori we de mek yu fred fɔ bɔn pikin we dɛn dɔn ɛva yɛri ɔ ɛkspiriɛns, nɔto so?
Na tɛm lɛk dis, yu nid fɔ gɛt sɔm maynd ɛn dɔn di tɔk wit pɔlitiks.
Yu kin se: “"A no se yu sabi plenti, and if a get kweshon, a go definitli aks yu. Bot evri pregnancy, evri delivery difren. So a go laik to si fo mi sef wetin mai expiriens go bi."
Ɔ, yu kin tɔk sɔntin smɔl mɔ dairekt wan: " Tɛnki bad bad wan, bɔt a nɔ want fɔ yɛri dɛn stori ya we de mek pɔsin fred rayt naw. " Pan ɔl we dis kin tan lɛk se i at smɔl, i impɔtant fɔ mek yu disayd fɔ du tranga tin lɛk dis we yu de tink bɔt yu maynd wɛlbɔdi .
Aw ɔlman go stɔp fɔ tɔch dɛn bɛlɛ?
Nɔ lɛk fɔ tɔk ɛn aks kwɛstyɔn dɛn we nɔ nid, fɔ tɔch di bɔdi, mɔ di bɛlɛ, i nɔ kin izi fɔ yu ɛn i kin rili pwɛl pɔsin in prayvet pat. Ivin if yu tink se i nɔ bad fɔ mek yu padi ɔ fambul du am, i nɔ kin izi fɔ bia we strenja na strit du am.
Wetin yu de du bɔt dis?
- Mek yu de fa frɔm yu bɔdi: Sɔntɛnde, yu bɛlɛ kin de nia ɔda pipul dɛn pas aw yu tink. Ivin if yu ed de fa, yu bɛlɛ de gi yu mɔ ples. So, tray fɔ kip distans smɔl bay wilful we yu de wit ɔda pipul dɛn.
- Chenj yu abit ɛn posture: Yu posture, yu bihayvya , yu yay... ɔl dɛn tin ya kin sɛn di mɛsej ‘ rɛspɛkt mi prayvet pat ’. We yu gɛt kɔnfidɛns ɛn strɔng bɔt yu bɔdi, ɔda pipul dɛn kin fil da mɛsej de. Dɔn di want fɔ tɔch yu bɔdi fɔ natin nɔ kin izi fɔ yu.
- Bi dairekt: If, pan ɔl dis, sɔmbɔdi tray fɔ tɔch yu bɛlɛ, yu kin tɔk wit kol at bɔt tranga wan se, " Duya nɔ du dat, i de mek a nɔ fil fayn. " Nɔ ɛva fred fɔ tɔk dis.
| Trɔbul tɛm | Ansa dɛn we yu kin gi |
|---|---|
| Fɔ aks yusɛf kwɛstyɔn dɛn we nɔ impɔtant | "Wetin mek yu wan no bɔt dat?" "Wi de gladi fɔ wet fɔ pikin. Wetin na yu ditil?" |
| Fɔ tɛl stori dɛn we de mek pɔsin fred we i de bɔn pikin | "Tanki plenti, bot a no wan hie dat kain tok." "Evri ekspiriens difrɛn, a lɛk fɔ fes mi yon ɛkspiriɛns." |
| Fɔ tɔch di bɛlɛ we yu nɔ aks | "A sɔri, duya nɔ du dat. I nɔ kɔmfyut fɔ mi." |
Aw yu kin dil wit dɛn tin ya na di ɔfis?
I at fɔ dil wit dɛn kayn tin ya wit pipul dɛn we yu kin mit na ɔfis ɛvride pas fɔ dil wit strenja dɛn. Bikɔs yu nɔ go ebul fɔ du dɛn bad, bɔt yu fɔ protɛkt dɛn prayvet pat bak.
Di bɛst tin fɔ du ya na fɔ mek yu kɔntinyu fɔ du yu wok . We yu de biev fayn fayn wan we yu de wok ɛn we yu de tɔk to pipul dɛn, ɔda pipul dɛn go si yu as pɔsin we sabi wok wit yu, nɔto pɔsin we yu de wok wit we gɛt bɛlɛ . Dɔn di jok ɛn tɔk dɛn we nɔ impɔtant go ridyus bad bad wan.
Dɔn bak, nɔ fred fɔ sho usay yu de, ilɛksɛf na pɔsin we yu de mit ɛvride. Fɔ se sɔntin lɛk, "Duya nɔ se/du dat, i nɔ kɔmfyut fɔ mi, " insay dairekt bɔt pɔlitiks we na fayn we fɔ kip di rileshɔnship ɛn yu pis na yu maynd.
Wit ɔl dis, yu nɔ nid fɔ giv ɔp di spɛshal prɛvilɛj dɛm we yu kin gɛt we yu gɛt bɛlɛ (fɔ ɛgzampul, di chans fɔ tek sɔm tɛm fɔ lɛf, di chans fɔ wok frɔm os). Yu gɛt ɔl di rayt fɔ balans ɔl tu!
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- Yu bɔdi na yu yon. Yu gɛt di rayt fɔ disayd usay i fɔ de.
- Yu nɔ fɔ ansa ɛni pɔsin in yon kwɛstyɔn we dɛn aks yu. Nɔ tɔk to yu ɔ tɔk se yu nɔ gladi fɔ yu.
- Nɔ fred fɔ rijek stori dɛn we de mek pɔsin fred ɔ advays we yu nɔ want wit pɔlitiks bɔt tranga wan.
- Protekt yu pasɔnal spɛs bay we yu de yuz yu posture ɛn fizik distans.
- Fɔ se "duya nɔ du dat" na kɔmplit ɔkay ɛn impɔtant fɔ yu maynd wɛlbɔdi.
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