Una ɔl tu rili rɛdi bifo una bɔn pikin? (Fɔ Pripia bifo yu gɛt bɛlɛ) .

We yu de kam bɔn pikin , ɔ we yu de tink bɔt fɔ bɔn pikin, i nɔmal fɔ mek yu fred smɔl ɛn fred. "A go bi gud mama/papa?", "A go ebul fɔ handle dis rispɔnsibiliti fayn fayn wan?", "Aw a go lan fɔ tek kia ɔf di pikin we a nɔ du ɛni bad tin to am?" Bɔku kwɛstyɔn dɛn kin kam na mi maynd. Bɔku tɛm wi kin tink bɔt bebi as drim we rili lɛk wi ɛn we fayn. Bɔt wi rili ɔndastand se insay da drim de, big difrɛns ɛn big wok de we wi fɔ gɛt as tu pipul dɛn?

Na tru se nɔbɔdi nɔ go ebul fɔ 100% rɛdi fɔ di dip ɛkspiriɛns fɔ bi mama ɔ papa. Bɔt masta sabi bukman dɛn se di mɔ we yu de tɔk bɔt wetin i min fɔ bi mama ɛn papa bifo yu gɛt bɛlɛ, na di mɔ i go izi fɔ yu fɔ ajɔst to yu nyu layf afta yu dɔn bɔn pikin. So, tide, lɛ wi tɔk bɔt di tin dɛn we yu ɛn yu patna nid fɔ tɔk bɔt bifo yu disayd fɔ bɔn pikin.

Tin dɛn we yu fɔ tink bɔt bifo yu du ‘Pregnancy Test’ na ‘Positive’.

Dɔktɔ Jɔn Kwinan, we de mɛn uman dɛn we de bɔn pikin ɛn we de mɛn uman dɛn, bin tɔk se: “Bɔku mared pipul dɛn nɔ kin tink bɔt di rial tin we kin apin we dɛn bɔn pikin bifo dɛn bɔn pikin.” "Dεn nכ de tink bכt di lכs dεn indipεndεns, di sכdεn inkrεs pan di εkspεns, εn wetin dεn go du if di pikin sik if dεn tu wok."

Bɔt dat de chenj. Naw, dɔktɔ dɛn nɔ jɔs de si bɛlɛ as sɔntin we kin apin fɔ nayn mɔnt, bɔt dɛn kin si am as tin we kin apin fɔ wan ia. Dat min se i impɔtant fɔ pripia pan yu bɔdi ɛn maynd bifo yu gɛt bɛlɛ. Wan dɔktɔ we nem Larry Culpepper, we sabi bɔt famili mɛrɛsin , bin tɔk se bifo yu ivin tink bɔt fɔ gɛt bɛlɛ, i impɔtant fɔ tink if yu rɛdi fɔ yu maynd as mama ɔ papa.

Naw, sɔm ɔspitul ɛn materniti kia sɛnta dɛn kin ivin gi spɛshal klas dɛn we dɛn kin gɛt bifo dɛn bɔn pikin dɛn we kin tɔk bɔt tɔpik dɛn lɛk aw fɔ balans wok ɛn famili, di impak we pikin gɛt pan una rilayshɔnship, ɛn aw fɔ kɔrɛkt yu pikin dɛn.

Di tin dɛn we dɛn kin disayd fɔ du afta dis tɔk kin difrɛn frɔm wan pɔsin to ɔda pɔsin.

• Sɔm pipul dɛn kin tink se, "Okay, wi ɔl tu nid fɔ rɛdi fɔ dɛn tin ya naw."
• Ɔda pipul dɛn go ɔndastand se, "Nɔ, wi nɔ rɛdi fɔ dis kayn big chenj na layf yet."
• Ɔda wan dɛn kin fil se dɛn nid fɔ gɛt di bɛsis no as mama ɛn papa bifo dɛn tek di wok we pikin we dɛn jɔs bɔn gɛt.

Di waka fɔ bi mama ɔ papa nɔ izi lɛk aw yu tink.

Di joyn fɔ bi mama ɔ papa nɔ kin izi, so ɛni prɔblɛm we yu kin tɔk bɔt ɛn sɔlv bifo di pikin kam go bi wan prɔblɛm we nɔ go gɛt bɛtɛ prɔblɛm fɔ dil wit di tɛm we di pikin we dɛn jɔs bɔn kin du we nɔ gɛt ɛnd.

Nyu mama ɛn papa dɛn kin gɛt bɔku prɔblɛm wit mɔni, filin, bɔdi, ɛn mami ɛn dadi biznɛs . Bɔt mama ɛn papa dɛn we kin sɛt rial tin dɛn we dɛn fɔ op fɔ di biginin kin ɛp dɛn fɔ ebul fɔ du dis chenj. Wan stɔdi we Prɔfɛsɔ Jay Belsky bin du sho se 50% pan di mared pipul dɛn kin drɛf apat afta dɛn dɔn bɔn pikin . Na lɛk 12%-13% pan di mared pipul dɛn kin gɛt bɔku cham-mɔt so dat dɛn kin bigin fɔ lɔs trɔst pan dɛnsɛf ɛn dɛn mared. 30% pan di man ɛn uman dɛn kin kɔntinyu fɔ gɛt dɛn rilayshɔnship, bɔt na 19% pan di man ɛn uman dɛn nɔmɔ kin kam nia dɛnsɛf.

Belsky se, "Bɔku pipul dɛn kin tink se we dɛn bɔn pikin, i go mek man ɛn in wɛf gɛt mɔ kɔnekshɔn, bɔt dat nɔ kin apin so ɔltɛm." "Bɔku tɛm na jɔs kes fɔ mek una tu nɔ gri . I tan lɛk se una de lan nyu dans rutin ɛn wantɛm wantɛm yu de inkrisayz di tɛmpo fɔ di siŋ."

So, if una tu nɔ kam togɛda ɛn tɔk ɔnɛs bɔt tin dɛn lɛk "Wetin mek wi want fɔ bɔn pikin?" ɛn "Aw difrɛn wi opinion dɛm?", chans de fɔ mek wi nɔ ɔndastand ɛn prɛshɔn.

Pripia fɔ mek yu sɔprayz!

I nɔ mata aw yu de tɔk ɛn plan, tin dɛn we yu nɔ bin de tink se go apin. Yu nid fɔ rɛdi fɔ dat bak. We yu bɔn pikin, dat nɔ min se yu go gɛt di kayn we aw di pikin de biev ɔ aw yu go du nyu tin dɛn we yu gɛt as mama ɔ papa.

Na dat mek i rili impɔtant fɔ tɔk bɔt ɛn gri pan tin dɛn we yu go ebul fɔ kɔntrol bifo tɛm. Da we de, we tin dɛn we yu nɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol ɛn we yu nɔ de tink se go kam, dɛn ɔl nɔ go ambɔg yu.

Jɔs bikɔs tu pipul dɛn gri nɔ min se ɔltin go go fayn. Fɔ ɛgzampul, lɛ wi se wan pan di patna dɛn disayd se i impɔtant fɔ lɛ dɛn de na os fɔ kia fɔ di pikin. Di man in wok de briŋ mɔ mɔni, so di wɛf disayd fɔ wok frɔm os. We di pikin sik, di wɛf fɔ ajɔst in schedule. Ivin if dɛn dɔn tɔk bɔt dis ɛn disayd bifo tɛm, sɔntɛnde i kin fil se, "A fɔ du ɔltin misɛf we a gɛt di de we a fɔ du." Na nɔmal tin fɔ fil dis kayn we. Wetin impɔtant na dat, opin kɔmyunikeshɔn de bitwin una tu bɔt dis.

Fɔ bi gud mama ɔ papa nɔ kin apin ɔtomɛtik. Na sɔntin we pɔsin nid fɔ lan. I kin tan lɛk se i strenj smɔl fɔ tink bɔt dɛn tin ya bifo yu bɔn pikin. Bɔt wi nid fɔ tink siriɔs wan bɔt ɔmɔs tɛm, ɔmɔs trɛnk, ɛn aw wi fɔ gi wi layf to wisɛf fɔ bi mama ɔ papa.

Wit ol dis, no wori se yu no get ol di ansa dem. bifo dεn bכn di pikin, na fayn tεm fכ stat dis prכsεs. Bɔt na wan prɔses. Wan uman we nem Barbara Schofield we de tich bɔt pikin dɛn wɛlbɔdi biznɛs bin tɔk se: "Laki, pikin we dɛn jɔs bɔn rili nid sɔm tin dɛn. Dɛn nid fɔ it, dɛn nid fɔ lɛk ɛn kia fɔ dɛn, dɛn nid fɔ klin." "Na di biuti of am. Wi no nid to get ol di ansa rait away. If wi stat to tok abaut dis kweshon ali, wi fit mek wi fes yie izi likl."