Pikin dɛn we lɔs pan famili kɔnflikt: Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt kɔnflikt bitwin mama ɛn papa ɛn big pipul dɛn (Family Conflict & Children’s Wellbeing)

Sɔntɛnde, big big prɔblɛm dɛn kin de insay famili, nɔto so? Ɛspɛshali we di man day, ɔ we di man ɛn in wɛf separet, dɛn nɔ kin gri bɔt di pikin dɛn padi biznɛs wit dɛn grani ɛn granpa. Di mama want wan we, di grani ɛn granpa want ɔda we. Di pikin dɛn kin lɔs na di midul pan dis kɔnflikt. Dis na rili tɔpik we rili sɛnsitiv. Tide wi de tok boht wan isyu we de afekt bohku famili lek dis, boht wi noh de tok boht am bohku.

Di stori bɔt wan famili prɔblɛm we bin go na kɔt

Fɔ ɔndastand dis stori, lɛ wi tek wan tru tru stori we apin na Amɛrika as ɛgzampul. Dis na kes we go ɔlsay na di ay kɔt na di kɔntri.

Na wan say, na grani ɛn granpa dɛn, Gari ɛn Jɛnifer. Afta dɛn lɔs dɛn bɔy pikin, dɛn bin want fɔ si dɛn tu granpikin dɛn na ɔlide ɛn wikɛnd, fɔ spɛn tɛm wit dɛn. Dat na bin rili rizin fɔ aks fɔ sɔntin, nɔto so?

Na di ɔda say, na bin di pikin dɛn mama we nem Tɔmi. In patna, we na di pikin dɛn papa, bin dɔn kil insɛf. Naw i bin want fɔ bigin nyu layf ɛn mek nyu famili fɔ in tu pikin dɛn. I bin mared bak ɛn we in ɛn in nyu man bɔn dɛn yon pikin dɛn, di famili bin big pasmak.

Di prɔblɛm bigin na ya. Di pikin dɛn papa bin dɔn day bikɔs i bin gɛt pwɛl at we nɔ de dɔn . Afta we i day, Tɔmi in mama bin ridyus di tɛm we in ɛn in grani ɛn granpa dɛn kin go fɛn di pikin dɛn smɔl smɔl. I bin se i want fɔ mek i bigin nyu famili. Bɔt di grani ɛn granpa dɛn nɔ bin want dat. Dɛn bin want fɔ de togɛda wit di pikin dɛn lɛk aw dɛn bin de du trade.

Dis prɔblɛm bin de go bifo smɔl smɔl. Ivin smɔl smɔl tin dɛn bin bi big big agyumɛnt. Fɔ dɔn, di grani ɛn granpa dɛn bin kɛr dɛn go na kɔt, ɛn dɛn bin se dɛn fɔ gɛt rayt fɔ si dɛn granpikin dɛn. Dis kes bin de drɛg fɔ lɔng lɔng tɛm.

Wetin na di rial dip prɔblɛm we de ya?

Wi si tu say dɛn na dis stori.

1. Di rayt we mama ɛn papa gɛt: As lɔng as dɛn nɔ du bad to di pikin, ɔmɔs pɔsin go ambɔg di rayt we di mama ɛn papa gɛt fɔ mɛn da pikin de ɛn disayd bɔt di pikin?

2. Di pikin in wɛlbɔdi: Di ​​padi biznɛs we pikin gɛt wit in granpa ɛn in brɔda ɛn sista dɛn rili valyu. Fɔ mek dɛn kɔntinyu fɔ gɛt dɛn bon dɛn de rili impɔtant fɔ mek di pikin gɛt maynd.

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, di kwɛstyɔn na aw fɔ balans dɛn tu rayt ya. Mama gɛt rayt fɔ disayd bɔt in pikin dɛn. Dɔn bak, grani ɛn granpa na tin we rili impɔtant na pikin in layf. We kɔnflikt de bitwin dɛn tu ya, na di pikin dɛn we nɔ du natin na dɛn kin nɔ ebul fɔ du natin ɛn dɛn kin strɛs pan dɛn maynd.

Aw dɛn fɛt-fɛt ya kin afɛkt pikin dɛn?

Bɔku tɛm wi nɔ kin tink bɔt aw big pipul dɛn agyumɛnt kin ambɔg pikin dɛn at. Fɔ protɛkt pikin frɔm big big prɔblɛm dɛn kin afɛkt am fɔ di res ɔf in layf.

Si di tebul dɔŋ ya fɔ si aw dɛn tin ya kin afɛkt pikin dɛn.

Di chenj dɛn we de apin na di pikin in bihayvya

Yu kin si sɔm chenj dɛn na di we aw pikin dɛn de biev ɔnda dis kayn prɛshɔn.

• Wantɛm wantɛm, i vɛks.
• A kwayɛt ɛn a sɔri pas aw a bin de bifo.
• A kin fred we a de slip ɛn wek frɔm slip.
• Di intres pan skul wok de go dɔŋ.
• Dɛn kin sho di bɔdi simptom dɛm lɛk bɛlɛ we de at ɛn ed we de at .

If pikin sho dɛn kayn sik ya, yu fɔ rili wɔri.

So, wetin na di sɔlv?

Fɔ go na kɔt ɔ fɔ go na kɔt fɔ bi di las tin we dɛn fɔ du. Bifo dat, i rili impɔtant fɔ tray fɔ sɔlv dɛn prɔblɛm ya as famili.

• Put di pikin in bɛst fɔs: Mɛmba se yu pikin in maynd impɔtant pas aw yu vɛks ɔ yu nɔ gri wit wetin yu de du. Bifo yu mek ɛni disizhɔn, tink tu tɛm bɔt "Aw dis go afɛkt mi pikin/granpikin?"

• Una tɔk wit kol at : Mit we di pikin dɛn nɔ de nia, na ples usay ɔl tu go ebul fɔ tɔk kwayɛt wan. Tɔk ɔnɛs wan bɔt aw una de fil ɛn wetin una nid ɛn nɔ fɔ blem unasɛf. Se, "Na so a de fil," insted fo aks se, "Na so yu de du tin."

• Ɔndastand ɛn rɛspɛkt di bɔda dɛn: Mama ɛn papa dɛn gɛt rayt fɔ disayd di las tin bɔt dɛn pikin. Grani ɛn granpa dɛn fɔ rɛspɛkt da bɔda de. Dɔn bak, mama ɛn papa dɛn fɔ ɔndastand se grani ɛn granpa nɔto pɔsin we dɛn kin pul kɔmɔt na di pikin in layf, ɛn di lɔv we dɛn gɛt valyu bak to di pikin.

• Kam to wan agrimɛnt: I kin tek sɔm kɔmprɔmis pan ɔl tu di say dɛn. I kin rili ɛp yu if yu ebul fɔ kam wit sɔntin lɛk schedule fɔ de ɛn tɛm fɔ go fɛn di pikin. If ɔlman gri pan dat, bɔku prɔblɛm dɛn go de.

• Aks pɔsin we sabi du in wok: If i nɔ izi fɔ yu fɔ sɔlv dɛn prɔblɛm ya fɔ yusɛf, nɔ shem fɔ aks pɔsin we de na do fɔ ɛp yu. Yu kin aks pɔsin we de advays yu bɔt famili fɔ ɛp yu . Ɔ, tɔk to yu dɔktɔ we yu kin abop pan bɔt di strɛs we dɛn famili prɔblɛm ya kin kam wit. I go ebul fɔ gayd yu di rayt we.