Yu don eva geht sohmbodi se, "Oh, yu no luk lek sohmbodi na da eria de..."? O yu don eva yehri sohmbodi se, "Yu so fayn ivin if yu blak"? Maybe yu don se, "Yu luk so wait" bikos yu tok Inglish gud gud wan. We yu yɛri dɛn tin ya, sɔntɛm yu kin laf, bɔt yu nɔ kin fil fayn smɔl, yu kin fil bad smɔl sɔmsay na yu at? Na dɛn tin ya wi kin du we wi nɔ no, we kin mek pɔsin vɛks, sɔri, ɛn nɔ gɛt sef na di pɔsin we de lisin to wi in at, we wi kin kɔl `(Microaggress ION )`.
Dis na tɔpik we rili kɔmplikt. Bikɔs bɔku pipul dɛn we kin du dɛn tin ya nɔ kin min fɔ mek ɔda pipul dɛn fil bad. Bɔt di damej we dɛn kin du kin rili big. Akɔdin to Columbia University psychology profesa Darrell Wing Soo, "Wi ɔl nɔ no se wi kin gɛt sɔm bias bɔt tin dɛm lɛk rays, gender, ɛn sexual orientation. So wi ɔl gɛt di potenshal fɔ du tin di we we go mek ɔda pipul dɛn fil bad ɛn diskriminayt dɛn."
Wetin rili na maykroagreshɔn?
Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, dis na sɔntin we nɔ klia, ivin we dɛn nɔ want, we de tɔch pɔsin in kɔlɔ, in rilijɔn, in kasta, in man ɔ uman, in disabiliti, ɔ ɛni smɔl grup we i de, tru wɔd dɛn, bihayvya, ɔ di tin dɛn we de arawnd wi. Pan ɔl we dis nɔ kin klia lɛk fɔ provok pɔsin dairekt wan, i kin sɛn di mɛsej to di ɔda pɔsin se "yu nɔ tan lɛk wi, yu difrɛn," "yu smɔl."
Dɛn tin ya kin so bɔku dat sɔntɛm yusɛf dɔn gɛt di sem tin dɛn . Ɛn sɔntɛm yu go dɔn du sɔntin lɛk dis we yu nɔ ivin no. Tink bɔt dɛn ɛgzampul ya.
| Wetin dɛn se (ɛgzampul) . | Di minin we ayd we dɛn kin tɔk bɔt (Dis na aw di at kin at) . |
|---|---|
| "Yu Inglish/Sinhala rili gud!" (Ɛspɛshali fɔ pɔsin we kɔmɔt na ɔda trayb) | "A bin tink se pipul we komot yu rais/rijon no fit tok di langwej so gud. Yu speshal fo dat rispek." Dis min se di pɔsin in grup nɔ impɔtant. |
| "No no, wia yu rili komot?" (ask pɔsin bikɔs ɔf di we aw i luk) | I de gi di impreshɔn se "Yu nɔ tan lɛk Sri Lankan. Yu na ɔda pɔsin, yu nɔ de ya." |
| "Ivun se yu bi gyal, yu sabi plenti 'teknik' tins!" | "Uman no de olwes no gud fo teknikol tins. Yu difren fo dat rispek." Dis de mek pipul dɛn biliv mɔ bɔt di tin dɛn we uman dɛn ebul fɔ du. |
| "Wi ɔl na mɔtalman, us rays?" | Pan ɔl we dis kin tan lɛk gud tin, i de se, "A nɔ de aksept se yu gɛt difrɛn, spɛshal ɛkspiriɛns ɛn prɔblɛm bikɔs ɔf yu trayb/rilijɔn." |
Wetin yu go du if sɔntin lɛk dis apin to yu?
We sɔntin lɛk dis apin, di pen, vɛks, ɛn nɔ fil fayn we kin kam na wi maynd kin pas ɔl. Da tɛm de , yu fɔ tink fɔs bɔt aw yu maynd go fayn.
1. Ɔndastand aw yu de fil: I nɔ bad fɔ fil bad ɔ vɛks. Nɔto yu fɔlt. Nɔ bɔtul dɛn filin dɛn de.
2. Tɔk to pipul dɛn we yu kin abop pan: Tɔk to yu padi dɛn we dɔn pas di sem tin dɛn we yu kin du. We yu fil se "na mi nɔmɔ," i kin kɔrej yu fɔ no se ɔda pipul dɛn de go tru di sem tin. Yu go no se nɔto yu wan de.
3. Rispɔnd wantɛm wantɛm (na if nid de): Sɔntɛnde, fɔ jɔs sɛn wetin dɛn tɔk bak to di pɔsin kin ``disarm'' dɛn ɛn mek dɛn ɔndastand aw i de mek dɛn fil bad.
- If pɔsin se, "Yu na Tamil, bɔt yu de tɔk Sinhala fayn," yu kin smayl ɛn se, "Yu na Sinhala bak, bɔt yu de tɔk Sinhala fayn." Dɔn da pɔsin de go ɔndastand di strenj we da tɔk de tɔk.
4. Tink bɔt di kɔntɛks: If di pɔsin we yu de tɔk to na pɔsin we yu bisin bɔt ɛn yu fil fayn fɔ tɔk bɔt am, tɔk bɔt am leta. I kin tranga fɔ se, “A bin fil bad smɔl we yu tɔk dat,” bɔt i go sho aw yu de fil.
5. I nɔ bad fɔ sɛt mɔt: If wi de tray fɔ ansa ɔltin ɔltɛm, i kin mek wi at pwɛl mɔ ɛn mɔ. So, i nɔ bad if yu disayd fɔ sɛt mɔt da tɛm de fɔ yu yon pis na yu maynd. I nɔto wikɛd tin na yu pat. Yu kin tink bɔt am leta ɛn tɔk leta if yu nid fɔ du dat.
Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ protɛkt yu maynd wɛlbɔdi . Yu nɔ nid fɔ go na ɛni fɛt.
Wetin yu go du if yu si sɔntin lɛk dis de apin to ɔda pɔsin?
If yu si se dɛn de buli ɔda pɔsin dis kayn we, bi gud padi.
- Sɔpɔt di pɔsin we dɛn du bad to: Go ɔp to di pɔsin ɛn aks am se, "Yu fayn?" (Yu de okay?). Na fayn we fɔ tɛl di pɔsin se, "Wetin dɛn tɔk nɔ rayt."
- Nɔ tɔk fɔ di pɔsin we dɛn du bad to, tɔk to dɛn: Nɔ tray fɔ tɔk fɔ di pɔsin bay we yu se, "Dis pɔsin fɔ de tink dis we." Dat kin bi ɔda we fɔ `( Microaggression )`. Bifo dat, tɔk fɔ yusɛf bay we yu se, “A tink se wetin yu tɔk go dɔn mek dɛn fil bad.”
Wetin yu go du if sɔntin lɛk dis apin we yu nɔ no?
Dis na di tin we at pas ɔl fɔ gri wit. Bɔku pan wi kin tink se, "A nɔ go ɛva du dat." Bɔt dat nɔto tru. Wi ɔl dɔn mɛn na sosayti usay dɛn dɔn kɔndishɔn wi fɔ tink se wi nɔ gud. I nɔ de mek yu bi bad pɔsin jɔs bikɔs yu du sɔntin lɛk dat. I jɔs min se yu na pat pan da sosayti de.
If sɔmbɔdi tɛl yu se, "Wetin yu tɔk dɔn mek a fil bad," nɔ fɔ difend yusɛf wantɛm wantɛm.
- Bifo yu tray fɔ kɔrɛkt yusɛf bay we yu se, “O, a nɔ bin min am da we de,” stɔp fɔ smɔl tɛm.
- Lisin. Tray fɔ ɔndastand aw di pɔsin de fil.
- Tɛl sɔri. Bifo yu se, "A sɔri se yu fil da we de," aks fɔ padi wit ɔl yu at bay we yu se, "A sɔri se wetin a tɔk bin ambɔg yu filin. A nɔ bin min am. A go tek tɛm mɔ bɔt dat tumara bambay."
- If di pɔsin rɛdi fɔ tɔk, aks am wetin dɛn nid fɔ du fɔ mek dɛn nɔ mek di sem mistek dɛn tumara bambay. Dis na tin we pɔsin kin lan.
Wi ɔl kin mek mistek. Di impɔtant tin na fɔ gri wit di mistek, lan frɔm am, ɛn tray fɔ bi pɔsin we bɛtɛ ɛn we gɛt rɛspɛkt. If yu want fɔ tɔk mɔ bɔt dis, fɔ tɔk to pɔsin we de advays yu bɔt mental wɛlbɔdi biznɛs ɔ yu dɔktɔ kin rili ɛp yu.
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- Microaggression na wan kayn vaylɛns we pɔsin kin du we i nɔ no, we pɔsin nɔ kin want fɔ du, we kin rili fil bad. Dis na rial tin ɛn siriɔs tin.
- If sɔntin lɛk dis apin to yu, put yu maynd fɔs fɔs . Tɔk to pɔsin we yu biliv. Nɔto ɔltɛm yu nid fɔ ansa.
- If yu si sɔntin lɛk dis de apin to ɔda pɔsin, nɔ sɛt mɔt.Bi padi we de sɔpɔt yu.
- If sɔntin lɛk dis apin to yu we yu nɔ no, nɔ fɔ protɛkt yusɛf, admit am, beg fɔ padi wit ɔl yu at, ɛn lan frɔm am.
- Fɔ tich wisɛf ɛn tich ɔda pipul dɛn bɔt dis impɔtant fɔ bil gud sosayti we de rɛspɛkt ɔlman.
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