Mi pakhat nena mipat hmeichhiatna lama inhmang tur chuan rilru lama inzawmna thuk tak i mamawh bawk em? (Demisexuality) I sawi dawn nia!

Nang pawhin hetiang hian i inhria fo em? I ṭhiante’n mi thar i hmuh hmasak ber ṭumin, “Oh, she’s pretty, I have a crush on her” tih ang chi an sawi hian chutiang rilru chu i nei lo em ni? A nih loh leh, mi i hriat chian hnuah emaw, ṭhian ṭha tak i neih hnuah emaw, inzawmna thuk tak i neih hnuah chauh mipat hmeichhiatna lama i duhna i nei em? Chutiang dinhmun chu vawiinah hian kan sawi dawn a ni. Hei hi `Demisexuality` an ti a.

`Demisexuality` tih hi eng nge ni?

A awlsam zawngin, `Demisexuality` hi mipat hmeichhiatna lam hawi a ni . `Demisexual` tia inhriat mite hian mi pakhat nen hian rilru lama inzawmna thuk tak an neih hnuah chauh mipat hmeichhiatna lama an duhna an nei thin. Mipui zahawm tak nena khaikhin chuan `Demisexual` mi tam tak chuan sexual attraction an nei tlem hle. Ṭhenkhat chuan mipat hmeichhiatna lama ngaihvenna an nei tlem hle thei a, a nih loh leh ngaihvenna pawh an nei lo thei bawk.

Ngaihtuah teh, mi tam zawk chuan mi pakhat chu rilru lama inzawmna nei emaw nei lo emaw pawh ni se, mipat hmeichhiatna lama inhmangaihna an nei thei a ni. An hriat loh emaw, a vawi khatna atana an hmuh loh emaw chu mipat hmeichhiatna lamah an duh thei hle. Mahse `Demisexual` chuan he a tir lama sexual attraction hi a hre lo.

Mahse rilru lam inzawmna chuan mipat hmeichhiatna lama hipna a thlen ngei ang tih hi hriat reng a pawimawh. Mahse, chu inzawmna chu mipat hmeichhiatna lam ngaihtuah pawh ni se a pawimawh hle. Chutiang mipat hmeichhiatna lama hipna chu lo thleng mah se, mipat hmeichhiatna hman duhna chu a hniam fo thin.

He rilru inzawmna hi a lo awm theih nan hun a duh dan hi mi hrang hrangah a inang lo. `Demisexual` thenkhat tan chuan he inzawmna hi a lo piang thuai thei a ni. Midang tan chuan kum tam tak inngaizawng hnuah pawh a thleng thei. He emotional connection hi `romantic feeling` a nih a ngai lo. Inṭhianṭhatna hnai tak, ṭhian ṭha tak a ni thei bawk.

Engtin nge ka nihna ka hriat theih ang? `Demisexuality` tih hi test a awm em?

Ni lo, i sexuality chu eng nge ni tih chiang taka hriat theihna tur test a awm lo. Mahse heng zawhnate hi i inzawt thei ang:

• Tute nge mipat hmeichhiatna lama i ngaihven? Engtin nge an tih che?
• Sexual attraction i nei em? A nih chuan engzat nge? Engtiang chiahin nge a hriatna chu a chak?
• Mi pakhat nena inngaizawng tura i rilru i siam hian sexual attraction hi engtiang chiahin nge a pawimawh?
• Mi thar i tawn, i hriat lohte chu mipat hmeichhiatna lamah i inhmang em?

Heng zawhnate hi chhanna dik leh dik lo a awm lo .Mahse heng zawhnate hi ngaihtuah hian i sexual identity hriatthiamna bul tanna a ni thei .

``Asexual`` emaw `` asexual spectrum``- a awm emaw tih awmzia chu eng nge ni ?

``Asexual'' tia inhriat thinte hian sexual attraction an nei tlem hle emaw, an nei lo emaw a ni. Mipat hmeichhiatna lam thilah pawh an ngaihven lo thei bawk.

Demisexual te hi a chang chuan sexual attraction an neih loh avangin umbrella term "asexual" hnuaiah an lumped thin. Mahse, mi pakhat nena rilru lama inzawmna an siam hnuah mipat hmeichhiatna lama hipna leh mipat hmeichhiatna lama ngaihvenna an nei thei a ni.

Asexual nen a kalh zawng chu allosexual a ni. Allosexual anga inhriat mite chuan an sexual orientation eng pawh ni se, sexual attraction an nei tlangpui.

`Demisexual` leh `Graysexual` hi eng nge an danglamna?

`Demisexuality` leh `Graysexuality` te hi a inang deuh a, mahse a danglamna tlem a awm. `Graysexual` tia inhriat thinte hian mipat hmeichhiatna lama hipna an nei tlem hle a, mipat hmeichhiatna lama inhmang duhna an nei tlem hle bawk. Mahse, `Demisexual` mite ang lo takin `Graysexual` mite hian sexual attraction an neih theih nan emotional connection an mamawh hauh lo . Chu chu a danglamna ber chu a ni.

Hei hi eng nge ni `Demiromantic`?

`Demiromanticism` hi `Demisexuality` nen a inang a, mahse a danglamna tlem a awm. `Demiromantic` mi pakhatin mi pakhat chunga romantic feelings a neih theih nan chuan chu mi nen chuan psychological connection an neih hmasak a ngai a ni. Sexual attraction kan sawi lova, hetah hian romantic feelings kan sawi a ni. Eng sexual orientation pawh nei apiang chu `Demiromantic` an ni thei.

`Demisexual` leh `Pansexual` hi eng nge an danglamna?

Mihring ``Pansexual'' tia inhriat te hian tu pawh hi mipat hmeichhiatna lamah an duh em em a, an mipa leh hmeichhia emaw, an mipat hmeichhiatna lam emaw pawh nise . Mi pakhat chu a rualin ``Pansexual'' leh ``Demisexual'' a ni thei. Chumi awmzia chu eng sexual identity nei mi emaw chu an hip thei tihna a ni a, mahse chu attraction chu a awm theih nan chuan a chunga kan sawi tak emotional connection chu a lo awm hmasa tur a ni.

Mi pakhat chu `Straight` (heterosexual) ni mahse `Demisexual` a ni thei ang em?

Ni e, a theih ngei ang. Sexual orientation label engemaw zat a awm tih kan hria a, chungte chu `Heterosexual` (mipa leh hmeichhia inhmangaih), `Gay` (homosexual), `Lesbian` (homosexual), `Bisexual` (mipa leh hmeichhia inhmangaih) leh `Pansexual` (sexual identity zawng zawng hipna) te hi a ni.

`Demisexuality` tih label hi a danglam hle. Midangte rilru hnehna (traction) awm dan leh a lo chhuah dan a kawk a ni.Lam. Mi tam tak chuan kawng hnih ah hian an inhriat chian tir thin. Entirnan, `Heterosexual` ni mahse `Demisexual` pawh i ni thei a, `Pansexual` ni mahse `Demisexual` pawh i ni thei bawk. A awlsam zawngin, `Demisexuality` hi tu nge i ngaihven tih a ni lo va, chu attraction chu engtin nge a lo awm tih a ni.

Engvangin nge he `Demisexuality` hian label emaw hming hran a mamawh?

Hei pawh hi i ngaihtuah ve mai thei. Dik tak chuan, `Demisexual` tia inhriat mi tam tak tan chuan he label neih hian khawtlang leh mi nihna a pe a, anmahni chauh ni lo leh anmahni ang midang an awm tih hriatna a pe a ni

Ngaihtuah teh, an naupan lai atang tawhin stress leh buaina nasa tak hnuaiah an awm a ni mai thei, "Ka lakah hian thil dik lo a awm em?", "Midang nen ka danglam em?", tiin an ngaihtuah a, a chhan chu an chhehvela an thiante angin sexual attraction emaw sexual thil ngaihvenna emaw an neih loh vang a ni.

`Demisexuality` tih hming hi hengte avang hian a pawimawh a ni:

• Demisexual te chu anmahni inhriatthiamna tur khawtlang an hmuh theih nan a pui thin.
• An nihna hmuhchhuah hian demisexual te chu him zawka an awm theih nan leh anmahni chauh an ni lo tih an hriat theih nan a pui thin .
• Tin, he hming hian mipat hmeichhiatna lama inhmangaihna leh rilru put hmang hi thil pangngai a nih thu leh mi tin, `spectrum`-a kan tawn dan a inang lo tih hriatthiamna a pui a, chu rilru put hmang zawng zawng chu `valid` a ni tih hriatthiamna a pe bawk .
• He label hian a hmaa thu hmanga an sawi theih loh thil an tawn mek chiang taka hriat theihna turin thumal a pe a ni.

A tawp berah chuan thil hriat reng tur (Take-Home Message) .

Chuvangin, kan sawi tawh atang hian thil engemaw i hriatthiam ka beisei. `Demisexual` tih hian mi pakhat nena emotional bond thuk tak an siam hnu chauha sexual attraction nei thinte a kawk a ni.

Demisexuality hi asexuality category-ah dah a ni a, demisexual-te pawhin mipat hmeichhiatna lama an duhna chu a tlangpui aia hniam zawk an nei bawk. Mahse, demisexual-te hi anmahniah chuan pawl bik an ni a, chu chu mi pakhat nena chutiang rilru lam inzawmna an siam hnuah chuan mipat hmeichhiatna lama inhmang duhna leh mipat hmeichhiatna hman duhna an nei thei a ni.

Heng chungchang sawi hi kan khawtlang nunah hian a chang chuan a harsa deuhin a lang thei a, mahse mahni inhriatthiamna leh i rilru put hmang zah a pawimawh hle.

Heng rilru put hmang hi i neih a, sawi belh zel tura tanpuina i mamawh a nih chuan, emaw, hriatthiamna i mamawh a nih chuan zak suh. Doctor emaw, counselor thiam tak emaw hmu rawh. Chûng rilru put hmangte chu chhui chhuak tûrin an ṭanpui thei che a, i nihna zawng tûra i mamawh hmanrua an pe thei che a, kaihruai thei bawk che a ni. Nangmah chauh i ni lo!