I fate chu mahni inthununna i zirtîr thei a ni! Hemi chungchang hi han sawi ila.

I fate chu dawr lai takah emaw, chhungte tam tak nena party-ah emaw, in lamah emaw a tap nasa hle a, a bengchheng nghal mai a nih chuan i lungngai hle mai thei, a dik em? Chutih hunah chuan naupangte chu an duh duh ti lo, mahni inthunun tur leh nungchang dik tak zirtir hi a pawimawh tak zet a ni. Hei hi nu leh pa anga kan fate kan pek theih thil hlu ber pakhat a ni.

Engvângin nge naupangte tân mahni inthununna hi a pawimawh êm êm?

A awlsam zawngin, naupangte’n mahni inthunun an zir hian thu tlûkna dik an siam thei a, nawrna an tawh lai pawhin rah ṭha tak chhuah thei tûrin an awm thei a ni. He theihna hian nunah hlawhtlinna nasa takin a pui dawn a ni .

Hetiang hian han ngaihtuah teh. Zanriah ei kham hnuah chauh ice cream pek a ni ang tih i sawi chuan, i fa chu i remtih theih nan a tap thei a, a ngen thei a, a au pawh a ti thei bawk. Mahse, naupang mahni inthunun thei chuan a act out (a chang chuan hei hi ``Temper Tantrum`` kan ti) chuan engtin pawhin ice cream chu a hmu dawn lo tih a hrethiam a, chuvangin dawhtheih a finthlak hle.

Mahni inthunun theihna hi naupang zirna, khawtlang inlaichinna, leh rilru hriselna atan a pawimawh hle.

Tunah chuan naupangte inthunun theih dan tur kan en ang u, kum hrang hrang a zirin.

Naupangte insumtheihna zirtir dan tur

Chûng thilte zirtîr dân chu naupang kum a zirin a danglam zêl a. Chu chu engtin nge a thawh tih i en ang u.

Naupang kum 2 an tlin thlengin engtin nge i tanpui?

Naute leh naupang tête chu an lungawi lo awlsam hle a, a chhan chu an tih duh leh an tih theih tak takte inkarah hian inthlauhna lian tak a awm a ni. Chuvang chuan an act out fo thin a, an tap fo thin a, an bei fo thin. Hetiang hunah hian an ngaihtuahna tihdanglam chu a tha ber . Heng puak chhuakte hi infiamna pe emaw, thil dang tih emaw hmangin ven tum ang che.

Naupang kum hnih hnaih tawhte tan chuan an buai leh an au chhuah lai hian a rah chhuah angin hun rei lote chhung chu i awmtir thei a ni. Hei hi ``Time-out'' an ti a. Kitchen chair emaw, stairs hnuai lam step emaw ang hmunah rei vak lo dah rawh. Hei hian naupang chu thunun loh zawnga awm ai chuan mahni chauha awm leh muang taka awm chu a tha zawk tih a zirtir a ni.

Naupang kum 3 leh kum 5 inkar tan

Hetiang kum naupangte nen pawh ``Time-out'' i hmang thei bawk. Mahse, hun bituk nei lovin, naupang chu a rilru a hahdam laiin ``Time-out'' chu titawp rawh . Hei hian naupang chu a rilru put hmang thunun theihna a neih theih nan a pui a ni. Naupangin lungngaihna emaw, dinhmun harsa tak emawa an inthunun lai hian fak a pawimawh hle bawk. "I rilru hahdam taka i awm avangin ka lawm e," emaw, "Thinrim lo takin hna tha tak i thawk a, fapa/fanu" tih ang chi te sawi rawh.

Naupang kum 6 leh kum 9 inkar tan

Naupangte sikul kal tan chuan an...Naupangte chu an thiltih rah chhuah hrethiam turin a pui a, nungchang tha leh tha lo thlang thei turin a pui bawk. Entirnan, i fate chu kawngpuiah "stop" tih chhinchhiahna a hmuh theih nan pui la, thil an tih hmain ngaihtuah hmasa phawt ang che. An lungawi loh hunah chhân lêt vat ai chuan, chu dinhmun aṭanga rei lo tê kal bo a, rilru hahdam tûrin fuih rawh . An tih hunah chuan fak ngei ngei ang che. Nakinah chuan he method hi an hmang nasa zawk dawn a ni.

Naupang kum 10 leh 12 inkar tan

Hetiang kum naupangte hian anmahni rilru put hmang hi an hre chiang hle tlangpui. Anmahni inthunun theih loh chhan ngaihtuah la, zir chiang turin fuih rawh. A tir lama lungchhiatthlak anga lang thil ṭhenkhat chu a tawpah chuan chutiang chuan a chhe lo mai thei tih hrilhfiah rawh. Thil awm dân an chhân lêt hmain ngaihtuah nân hun hmang tûrin fuih rawh. An thinrimna thlentu chu an dinhmun ni lovin, an ngaihtuah dan a ni tih hrethiam turin tanpui ang che. Heng kawngte hi mahni inthunun nan an hman hian fak rawh.

Naupang kum 13 leh 17 inkar (thalai) tan .

Hetiang kum hian naupangte hian an thiltih tam zawk chu an thunun thei tawh tur a ni. Mahse, naupang tê tête chu thil engemaw avânga hun rei tak chhûnga nghawng a neih dân ngaihtuah tûrin hriattîr ang che. An lungawi loh huna an chhân lêt hmain chawlh hahdam leh ngaihtuah tûrin fuih la, kawngkhâr khar emaw, au chhuah emaw ai chuan thil sawi chhuak tûrin fuih rawh. A ṭûl chuan, mahni inthununna chu thiamna pawimawh tak a ni tih thuchah tihngheh nân chanvo ṭhenkhat chu rei lo tê chhûnga lâksak ang chi hremnate hmang ang che. A hnuah, thunun thei an nihzia an lantîr hunah, chûng chanvote chu nei leh tûrin phalsak ang che.

I fate thunun theih loha an awm chuan eng nge i tih?

Harsa mah se, i fate i thunun hunah au chhuah duhna chu dodal rawh . Chu ai chuan nghet tak leh chiang takin thu sawi rawh. Naupang chu a rilru a na a, a au a, a nih loh leh kawngkhar a hrual lai chuan, ngawi rengin awm la, chutiang thiltih chu pawm theih a ni lo tih te, a rah chhuah a awm tih te, leh chu rah chhuah chu eng nge ni tih te sawifiah rawh.

I thiltih hian i fa chu a thinrimna hmang hian a duhzawng a hmu thei lo tih a hriatthiam theih nan a pui tur a ni.

Entîr nân, i fa chu candy i pêk loh chhan i sawi hnua dawrah a thinrim a nih chuan, an dîl chu pe suh . Hei hian an rilru khauhna chu pawm theih loh a nih thu leh a hlawhtling lo tih a zirtir ang.

Tin, i fa class zirtirtu nen classroom boruak leh nungchang dik tak chungchang sawipui bawk ang che. Buaina chinfel dan hi sikulah zirtir emaw, model emaw a ni em tih zawt rawh.

Nangmah ngei pawh entawn tlak tak ni rawh.

A pawimawh ber chu mahni inthununna tha entawn tur siam hi a ni.. I fate hmaa thil pakhatin a tibuai che a nih chuan, i thinrim chhan hrilh la, chutah chuan buaina chinfel theih dân chungchâng sawipui rawh. Entirnan, i chabi i hloh chuan thinrim ai chuan i fate chu an bo tawh tih leh kan zawng dun dawn tih hrilh la. I hmuh theih loh chuan i tih theih tur dang (i chabi i neih hnuhnun berna hmun hriatreng ang chi) chu ti rawh. Emotional control tha leh harsatna chinfel hi dinhmun harsa tak hmachhawn dan tha ber a ni tih i nungchang hmangin lantir rawh.

Heng thil ti chung pawha harsatna i neih chhunzawm zel chuan chhungkaw counseling service atanga tanpuina i dawn theih leh theih loh i doctor zawt la.

Hriat reng tur pawimawh ber berte (Take-Home Message) .

Okay, chuvangin kan sawi tawh atanga i hriat reng tur thenkhat chu hetiang hi a ni:

• Naupangte mahni inthununna zirtir hi an nunah investment lian tak a ni .
• Chûng thilte chu naupang kum nêna inmil tûrin zirtîr rawh . Naupang tê têin a hriatthiam theih zâwng ni lovin, naupang tê têin a hriatthiam theih zâwng a ni.
• I fain insumtheihna a lantir hian fak theihnghilh suh. Chu chu fuihna ropui tak a ni.
• I fain a thunun theih loh hunah i rilru a hahdam a pawimawh. Au thawm hian harsatna a chinfel sak dawn lo.
• Nangmah ngei pawh hi entawn tlak tak ni rawh . Naupangte hian kan thusawi aiin kan thiltih a\angin an zir tam zawk.
• Tantrums-ah hian inpe suh . Chutianga i tih chuan i fa chuan hnathawh dan a ni tih a zir ang.
• A tul chuan professional tanpuina zawng hreh ngai suh.

Chûng thilte chu i rilruah vawng reng a, i fate chu dawhtheihna leh hmangaihna nêna inthunun theih nân i ṭanpui chuan, fa hlim tak, hlawhtling tak ni tûrin i enkawl thei ang.

` Naupang, mahni inthununna, enkawl dan, nu leh pa, naupang nungchang, thununna, counselling