I emotional intelligence chu engtin nge a awm? A awlsam zawngin sawi ila!

Intelligence chungchang kan sawi vek a ni lawm ni? Miin a zir tha a nih chuan, exam a pass chuan, "Aw, thluak tha tak a nei" kan ti thin. Mahse, he khawvela hlawhtling leh hlim tur hian IQ ringawt a tawk lo tih i hria em? Intelligence bik dang a awm a, chu chu emotional intelligence, a nih loh leh English-a kan sawi thin ``Emotional Intelligence'' tih hi a ni.

Intelligence kan tih hian `IQ` chauh a ni em?

Miin, "Aw, chutiang chuan ka zir a ngai lo, ka `IQ` a sang khawp mai," tih ang chi an sawi i hre tawh ngei ang. `IQ` tih hi `(Intellectual Quotient)` tihna a ni. Hei hi mi pakhatin a zir theihna leh a ngaihtuah theihna tehna a ni . Sikul leh university-a an hlawhtlin dan tur chu eng emaw chen chu a hrilh thei che a ni. Amaherawhchu, `IQ` chauh hi kan theihna tehfung a ni lo. Ngaihtuah teh, he khawvelah hian talent dang engzat nge awm?

• Mi thenkhat chu three dimensions (spatial intelligence)-a ngaihtuahna thiam tak tak an awm a, architect leh painter te ang chi.
• Mi dangte tan chuan musical intelligence hi pianpui thil a ni. Rhythm, melody leh pitch hriat theihna mak tak an nei a.
• Chutiang bawkin athletic ability, artistic ability, industrial ability... heng zawng zawng hi intellectual abilities chi hrang hrang an ni.

Chuvangin, heng zingah hian kan nunah pawimawh em em, mahse a chang chuan kan ngaihtuah ngai loh finna bik dang a awm bawk. Chu chu emotional intelligence, a nih loh leh ``Emotional Intelligence'' .

Chuti a nih chuan he rilru finna hi eng nge ni? (Emotional Intelligence - EQ) tih a ni.

A awlsam zawngin, `(Emotional Intelligence)` chu kan rilru natna hriatthiamna, hman thiamna leh enkawl thiamna a ni . Ṭhenkhatin hei hi `EQ` (Emotional Quotient) an ti a, ṭhenkhat chuan `EI` (Emotional Intelligence) an ti bawk. `IQ` sang tak neiin exam-ah score sang tak a neih ang bawkin, `EQ` sang tak nei chu khawtlang inlaichinna leh rilru lam dinhmunah a hlawhtling hle. Hetiang hian han ngaihtuah teh, `EQ` tha neih hi "mi hriatthiam theih, mi nena khawsak thiam" ang mai a ni. Mi pakhat kan biak hian, kan hnathawh hunah, kan hrethiam thei a, kan \ha thei a nih chuan nun kawng tinrenga hlawhtling tur chuan \anpuina nasa tak a ni ang. Dik tak chuan zirchianna thenkhatah chuan sikul kal tha tur leh hna hlawhtling tur chuan `EQ` hi a chang chuan `IQ` aiin a pawimawh zawk tih a lang.

Thian tha tak tak i nei tam em? Midang harsatna hrethiam hi i tan a awl em? I thinrimna chu i thunun thei em? Heng zawng zawng hi i ` EQ` nen a inzawm vek a ni.

Mi thenkhat chu heng `EQ` theihna neia piang an ni. Mahse midang tan chuan , training leh tihhmasawn an ngai a ni. Thu lawmawm tak chu mi zawng zawngin an siam tha thei tih hi a ni! `IQ` ang lo takin `EQ` hi kan thawk chhuak thei a, tlem tlemin kan siam \ha thei a ni. Mahse, eng nge i tih tur tih i hriat a ngai a ni lawm ni?

Engtin nge i emotional intelligence (EQ) hi i tihpun theih ang?

Emotional intelligence, `EQ` tih hi thil pakhat a ni lo. Thiamna hrang hrang engemaw zat inzawmkhawm a ni. Eng nge an nih, engtin nge kan tihhmasawn theih ang tih hi han thlir ila.

1. Mahni rilru put hmang hi fimkhur rawh.

Nitin hian rilru natna chi hrang hrang engzat nge kan tawn vek? Emotion thenkhat (mak tih ang chi) chu rei lo te chhunga awm leh rei lo te chauh a ni a, thenkhat (hlimna leh lungngaihna ang chi) erawh chu kan rilruah rei vak lo a awm a, kan mood a siam thin. Heng nitin rilru natnate hi hriatchhuah leh label thiam hi EQ-a thil pawimawh ber a ni. Hetianga kan rilru put hmang hriat chian – chu chu, “Aw, tunah hian hetiang hian ka inhria a ni lawm ni?” – mahni rilru put hmang thunun turin min pui thin. Mi dangte rilru put hmang hrethiam tûrin min ṭanpui bawk. Mahse mi thenkhat chuan ni khat hnuah pawh an rilru put hmang chu an ngaihtuah lo niin a lang. Emotion pakhat chu i hriat veleh hriat chian tum ang che. I rilruah hming pe rawh (entir nan, “Tunah hian ka lawm hlein ka hria,” “Tunah hian ka lungawi lo hle”). Hei hi nitin tih danah siam rawh. Hun engemaw chen hnuah chuan i rilru put hmang i hriat chianzia i hrechhuak ang.

2. Midangte rilru put hmang hriatthiam tum (Empathy) .

Mi dangte hriatthiamna neia piang vek kan ni. EQ-a thil pawimawh dang chu hun bituk chhunga midangte rilru put hmang ngaihtuah thiam hi a ni. Tin, chutianga an ngaih chhan hriatthiam nan pawh. Mi pakhatin engtin nge a awm tak tak tih kan hriat loh pawhin, chu chu lainatna (empathy) kan ti a ni. He lainatna hian mi dangte ngaihsakna te, ṭhian ṭha tak siam te, leh inlaichînna ṭha tak siam tûrin min ṭanpui a ni. He lainatna hian mi pakhatin a rilru a hah laia eng nge kan sawi tur tih te, a hmaa kan awm dan tur te min kaihruaitu a ni. Ngaihtuah teh, i thianpa chu exam a fail hnuah a lungngai hle. Chu lungngaihna chu 100% in i hre lo mai thei. Mahse, "Hetiang dinhmunah hian awm ila engtin nge ka awm ang?"

3. I rilru put hmang thunun la, a remchan dan angin chhang rawh.

Kan thinrim vek. Kan lungawi lo vek. Kan ngaihtuahna leh kan rilru put hmang hi a chang chuan sawi chhuah a pawimawh. Mahse i chhân lêtna enkawl chu i rilru put hmang chu engtikah nge, khawiah nge, engtin nge i sawi chhuah tih hriat tihna a ni. I rilru put hmang i hriatthiam a, thunun dan i hriat chuan mahni inthununna i nei thei a ni.Chu rilru put hmang sawi chhuah hun a rem lo a nih chuan chhân lêtna chu titawp rawh. EQ tha nei chuan an rilru put hmang zah lohna, ngaihtuahna fim lo, khauh tak, emaw, rilru ti na thei zawnga chhan let hian an inlaichinna a tichhe thei tih a hria a ni. Entîr nân, office-ah i boss chungah i thinrim hle niin han mitthla teh. Au nghal vat a, kawngkhar chu hmet la, chhuahsan nghal mai chu a dik em? A nih loh leh rei vak lo nghah, thinrimna a reh hnuah, muangchangin kal la, i harsatna chungchang sawipui chu a dik em? EQ tha tak neitu chuan option pahnihna a thlang thin. A chhan chu a rilru put hmang thunun a, a remchan dan anga chhân lêt a pawimawhzia a hriat vâng a ni. Hei hian rilru hahna a tiziaawm thei a, eng emaw chen chu taksa natna, thisen sang ang chi lakah a veng thei bawk.

4. Mahni mood thlang rawh.

Emotion enkawl dan dang chu kan mood thlan hi a ni. Moods hi hun rei lote chhunga awm thei emotional state a ni. Thil awmdan pakhat atana eng mood nge dik tih rel thei tur leh chu mood-ah chuan kan lut thei a ni. Mood dik thlan chuan mi chu a rilru a tichak thei a, a ngaihtuahna a seng reng thei a, a nih loh leh bânsan ai chuan a tum leh thei a ni. EQ tha nei te hian moods hi kan luhchilh mai mai a ni lo tih an hria. Thil awmdan pakhat atana eng mood nge tha ber tih hriatna leh chu mood-a luh dan tur hriat hian anmahni chu kan thunun thei a ni. Ngaihtuah teh, presentation pawimawh tak i nei a. A hma chuan i hlauthawng deuh thin. Mahse, i theih chuan tumruh takin, "Ni lo, hei hi ka ti tha hle a, ka ti thei a ni," tih rinna siam la, rilru hahdam deuhah lut la, chu pawh chu EQ-ah hian a tel ve a ni.

Emotional intelligence (EQ) hi a lo thang zauh zauh thin a ni.

Emotional Intelligence hi kan lo puitlin chhoh zel dan a ni. Chutiang a nih loh chuan puitling zawng zawng chu naupang tê ang maiin an che vek ang! An au chhuak ang a, an tap ang a, an roll over ang a, an thrash ang a, an rilru put hmang pawh an thunun thei tawh lo. Emotional intelligence siamtu thiamna thenkhat chu a hmasa berah an lo thang lian thin. An awlsam hmel hle mai thei. Entîr nân, rilru put hmang hriat chu thil ngaihtuah tûr i hriat chuan a awlsam hle. Mahse, rilru natna i chhân lêt dân enkawl leh i mood thlan, EQ ang chi chu thiam harsa deuhin a lang thei. A chhan chu kan thluaka mahni inthununna lam buaipuitu chu kan tleirawl hun kan pelh hma loh chuan a puitling lo vang. Mahse, practice a nih chuan chu thluak kawngte chu a lo thang lian ta a ni.

Thing te tak te chu thing lian takah a lo thang lian ang bawkin kan `EQ` pawh hi hun, tawnhriat leh thawhrimna nen a lo thang lian zel a ni.

Kan chhungril finna chu kan tichak thei vek a, kan rilru put hmang hriat chian a, kan awmna hmun kan thlen dan hriatthiam a, midangte’n an rilru put hmang ang anga an awm dan leh a chhan hriatthiam a, a tul huna kan rilru put hmang chu tawngkam hmanga sawi chhuah a ni. Hei hi zan khat thil thuah a thleng dawn lo a, mahse a phu a ni.

Summary leh thil hriat reng tur

Okay, chuvangin vawiin a kan sawi tawh atang hian i hriat reng tur thenkhat chu hetiang hi a ni:

• `IQ` chauh ni lo, `EQ` pawh hi nunah a pawimawh hle: `(Emotional Intelligence)` chu kan rilru natna hrethiam leh thunun theihna, leh midangte hriatthiamna a ni.
• `EQ` tihchangtlun theih a ni: `IQ` ang lo takin `EQ` hi thawhrimna hmanga kan tihpun theih thil a ni.
• I EQ tihpun nan heng thilte hi practice la:
• Mahni rilru put hmang chu hre reng ang che.
• Midangte rilru put hmang hriatthiam ( empathy ).
• I rilru put hmang thunun la , a remchan dan angin chhang rawh.
• I mood duh duh thlang rawh .
• `EQ` hi a lo thang zauh zauh a: hun leh practice a ngai a ni. Hlau suh, zawi zawiin han tum mai rawh.

I rilru thiamna tihhmasawn hian nun hlim leh hlawhtling zawk i neih theih nan a pui mai bakah, i rilru hriselna vawng reng tur leh midangte nena in inlaichinna tichak turin a pui ang che tih hre reng ang che. Chuvangin, he thil hi tlem tal ngaihtuah tan ila, vawiin hian kan thawk tan ang u, kan ti ang em?

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