Nang pawhin hetiang hi i tling lo niin i hria em? Imposter Syndrome chungchang hi han sawi ila!

I thil tihhlawhtlinnaah lawm ai chuan, "Aw, hei hi ka phu tak tak em? Midangte ngaihdan angin ka tha lo em ni?" Hnathawhna hmuna promotion i hmuh emaw, exam i pass emaw, mi fak che emaw i nih chuan, "Hei hi ka phu lo, ni khat chu mi zawng zawngin tu nge ka nih tak tak tih an hre chhuak ang" tih ang maiin i inhria em? Hetiang rilru put hmang hi `(Imposter Syndrome)` tih mai a ni.

Imposter Syndrome hi eng nge ni tak tak?

A awlsam zawngin, `Imposter Syndrome` chu mahni theihna leh hlawhtlinna i rinhlelh hian a ni . Midangte chuan fing nia inngai leh thil ti \ha tak ni mah la, i rilru chhungril takah chuan chutiang khawpa fing lo, bum hmang ang maia i inhria a ni. Ni khat chu he thu dik lo hi man a ni ang tih i hlau reng a ni.

Hei hi official-a rilru lam hriselna diagnosis anga chhiar ni lo mah se, he rilru put hmang hian i nun kawng tam takah nghawng lian tak a nei thei a, hnathawhna, zirna, leh inlaichinna thlengin nghawng lian tak a nei thei a ni. Mi thenkhat chuan `imposter phenomenon` emaw `fraud syndrome` emaw an ti bawk.

Hei hi cycle ang mai a ni (The Imposter Cycle) .

`Imposter Syndrome` vei tam tak chuan an nungchangah hian pattern an hmu a, chu chu cycle ang mai a ni. Office-ah presentation lian tak i nei ang tih han ngaihtuah teh. Hetiang rilru put hmang i neih chuan i buai lutuk tan a, "Ka hlawhchham dawn em ni?" Hetiang dinhmunah hian thil pahnih thleng thei a awm a, chungte chu:

1. Minute hnuhnung ber thlenga tihkhawtlai: I tan pawh ni lovin i tikhawtlai thin. Tichuan, last minute-ah chuan stress leh lungkhamna nasa tak nen hna chu i zo ta a ni. Hna chu hlawhtling mah se, "Aw, hei hi ka vannei hle a ni," tiin i ngaihtuah thin.

2. Hnathawh hah lutuk: A tul aia nasa zawkin i thawk a, zan leh zan, engkim famkim taka tih tum. Mahse i hlawhtlin chuan chu chu i chawimawi lo . "Kei aia fing zawk tu emaw chuan hetiang taka thawhrim ngai lovin hetiang hian a ti thei ang," tiin i ngaihtuah thin.

Engti kawng pawhin, i thil tum i hlen chhuah hnua hlimna rilru put hmang chu rei tak a daih lo. A chhan chu chu hlawhtlinna chu "settle in" i phal thei lo. Chu ai chuan thil lian tak lo awm tur chu i hlau tan ta zawk a ni. Ringhlel i nei tan a, hna i thawk lutuk a, i tikhawtlai leh ta a ni. Tin, chutiang chuan cycle chu a kal zel a ni.

Hetiang rilru put hmang hi tuin nge nei?

Dik tak chuan tu pawhin he rilru put hmang hi an tawng thei a ni. Kum 1978 khan psychologist pahnih Suzanne Imes leh Pauline Rose Clance te chuan hmeichhe hlawhtlinna sang tak nei zingah an hmuchhuak hmasa ber a. Mahse tunah chuan zirchianna chuan mi tam tak, mipa leh hmeichhia thliar lovin, hna hrang hrangah a awm fo tawh tih a hmuchhuak ta.

Hetiang rilru put hmang hi i thiante emaw, i thawhpui emaw aiin i danglamin i inhriat hian a lo awm fo thin. Entirnan, mipa tamna hmuna hnathawk hmeichhia nih. Zirna lamah emaw, hnathawhna hmuna minority-a awm anga inhriate tan pawh a awm fo.

Imposter Syndrome i vei i ring em? Heng symptoms te hi lo en ve teh

Hetiang rilru put hmang hi i nei em tih hriat duh chuan a hnuaia mize hi i tan a awm em tih en rawh:

• Nang aiin midang zawng zawngin an hre tam zawk tih ngaihtuah.
• Midang ngaihdan angin i fing lo tih ngaihtuah fo thin.
• I hlawhtlinnate chu "vanneihna", "mi i hriat" emaw, midang thutlukna tha lo emaw rah chhuah a ni tih ngaihtuah.
• A chunga kan sawi tak "imposter cycle" ang maia inhriatna hi i nunah a lo thleng leh zel a ni.
• I awmna hmun (hnathawhna/sikul)-ah i tel lo tih leh engtikah emaw chuan midangin an hrechhuak ang tih hlauhna .
• Engkim hi a theih ang anga tih a ngai reng a, beisei aia tha zawka tih a ngai reng tih hriat hi.
• Miin a fak che chuan nuam lo tihna.
• I thil tum thlen theihna tur tibuaitu chu nangmah hi i ni .
• Midangte beidawnna hlauhna.
• I tihsual tenau ber pawh theihnghilhin i ngaihtuah reng thei lo.
• "Ka fing zawk, ka fing zawk a nih chuan heng rinhlelhnate hi ka nei lo ang" tih ngaihtuah chungin.
• Midang duhsakna dawn hi i tan a pawimawh hle.

Hetiang dinhmun lo awm chhan hi eng nge ni thei ang?

Hetiang rilru put hmang hi chhan hrang hrang a awm thei.

• Mihring mizia: Lungkhamna sang tak, mahni inngaihhlutna hniam, leh famkim duhna ang chi mizia te hi he thil nen hian a inzawm tlat a ni.
• Environment of upbringing: A châng chuan, hlawhtlinna leh hlawhtlinna ngaih pawimawh fotu chhûngkuaa seilianteah hian he dinhmun hi a lo awm thei a ni. Nu leh pate hnen atanga thuchah inhnialna dawn avanga lo awm thei a ni bawk a, chu chu a chang chuan fak lutuk leh a chang chuan sawiselna na tak a ni.
• Pawn lam mi ang maia inhriatna: Entirnan, hnathawhna hmuna inelna sang takah chuan i pianphungah inelna nei lo i nih chuan "Hetah hian ka in fit lo" tih ang hian i inhriat mai thei. Tin, i hnam, kum, mipa leh hmeichhia, emaw sum leh pai dinhmun avanga midangte aia danglam bik anga inhriatna hian `Imposter Syndrome' a thlen thei bawk.
• Social Media: Midang nun "famkim" thlalak i hmuh hian anmahni nen in tehkhin a, "Ka tling lo" tih i inhriat phah zawk.

Hei hi pumpelh nan eng nge tih theih ang?

Heng ngaihtuahna buaithlak tak takte hi ringawt pawh do a harsa a, chuvangin midang hnen atanga thlawpna lak a pawimawh.

Damdawi lam thurawn leh enkawl dan

• Talk Therapy: Counselor emaw therapist emaw nena inbiakna hian heng ngaihtuahnate hi khawi atanga lo chhuak nge i nun a nghawng tih hriatthiamna a pe thei che a ni. Tichuan, an lo chhuah hunah enkawl dan tur i zir thei ang.
• Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT): Hei hi therapy method a ni a, i rinna tha lote hriatchhuah a, chu chu ngaihtuahna tak tak zawka thlak turin a zirtir che a ni.
• Group Therapy: Nangmah ang bawka `Imposter Syndrome` nei midangte nen group session-a tel ve pawh a \angkai thei bawk. Midang thil tawn hriat hian mahni chauha inhriat loh nan a pui thei che a ni. I ngaihtuahnate sawi chhuah hian thlirna thar i neih theih nan a pui thei bawk.

Heng rilru natnate hian a tibuaitu i nih chuan i chhungkaw doctor (GP) nen inbiakna neih a pawimawh hle. I mamawh kaihhruaina a pe thei che a ni.

Nangmah ngeiin i tih theih thilte

• I thil tihhlawhtlinte hre reng ang che: I thil tih ṭhat, i chhuang tak takte chu list siam rawh. Midang hnen atanga fakna nei email, note, etc. te chu save rawh. "Mi bum hmang ka ni" tih i hriat hian hengte hi han thlir kir leh teh.
• Hriatthiamna leh thudik hrang hrang: A dawt leha in rinhlelhna i neih hunah chuan, chu chu thil dik tak ni lovin, hriatna mai a ni tih inhriat nawn tir ang che.
• Nangmah leh nangmah ngilnei rawh: I ṭhianpain hetianga a ngaih chuan engtin nge i sawi ang? "I fing a, tihsual theihna i nei bawk," i ti lo ang maw? Chutiang bawk chuan nangmah leh nangmah in hrilh ve bawk ang che.
• Fakna pawm thiam rawh: Miin "nicely done" a tih hian "Thanks, but..." hmanga pumpelh ai chuan, "Thank you very much" tih mai mai hi hmang thiam rawh.
• Midang nen in tehkhin suh: Mi zawng zawng hian social media-ah chauh an theihtawp an chhuah thin. Chuvangin anmahni nen in tehkhin hi bansan rawh. Chu ai chuan nimin aiin vawiin hi a tha zawka siam tum zawk ang che. Tu mah famkim an awm lo.
• I ngaihtuahnate chu challenge rawh: "He hna hi midang duh loh vangin ka hmu a ni" tih i ngaihtuah hian chu ngaihtuahna chu challenge la, a tha zawngin ngaihtuah la, "He hna hi ka thawhrim avangin ka hmu a, ka hnathawk puite pawhin keimah an duh a ni," tiin.
• Hriatthiam rawh: Cheater tak takte hian `Imposter Syndrome` an nei lo. Hetianga i inhriat hian mi bum hmang i ni lo tih a tilang chiang hle!