Ka pōuri, ka riri rānei koe i te wā e whāngai ū ana tō pēpi? Me kōrero tātou mō te D-MER (Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex)!

Ina riro koe hei whaea hou, he maha ngā huringa ka pā ki tō tinana me tō hinengaro, kāore? I ētahi wā, ina rite koe ki te whāngai ū i tō pēpi, i mua tata rānei i te tīmatanga o te putanga mai o tō waiū i ō ū, ka pōuri, ka riri, ka pōuri rānei koe, kāore he take? Ehara tēnei i te mea motuhake ki a koe. I tēnei rā, ka kōrero tātou mō tēnei kare ā-roto rerekē.

He aha te D-MER (Te Whakaoho i te Miraka Dysphoric)?

Ki te whakarapopototanga, ko te D-MER he mate e pā ana ki ngā whaea e whāngai ana i te u, ki ngā whaea rānei e pupuhi ana i te waiū. He kare ā-roto ohorere, kino hoki e puta ake ana ki tō hinengaro i mua tata tonu i te putanga mai o tō waiū (te waiū e tukua ana ki raro). He poto noa te roa o tēnei, tata ki te meneti, e rua rānei, engari ka tino pāngia (dysphoria) me te whakarihariha. I ētahi wā, ka pāngia anō hoki koe e tēnei āhua ina puta ohorere mai tō waiū (te waiū e tukua ana ki raro). He mea noa tēnei i te wā e whāngai ana i te u.

Ko te mea nui, he mahi whakaoho tēnei, arā, ehara i te mea ka taea e koe te whakahaere. Ehara i te mea he raruraru i roto i tō hinengaro, ehara i te mea kāore koe e hiahia ki te whāngai i tāu pēpi ki te ū, ehara i te mea he mamae ō uma. He mahi ā-tinana katoa. E ai ki ngā rangahau o nāianei, nā te huringa ohorere o ngā matū i roto i tō tinana, arā, ngā homoni .

Kei te haere tonu ngā rangahau mō te auau o te D-MER. E kī ana tētahi rangahau kei waenganui i te 5% me te 9% o ngā whaea e whāngai ana i te u ka pāngia pea e tēnei mate. Kāore i te hono tika ki te pouri i muri i te whānautanga (PPD) me te manukanuka i muri i te whānautanga . Heoi, ka pāngia pea ētahi whaea e te D-MER me te PPD, te manukanuka rānei.

He aha ō kare ā-roto i te wā o te D-MER? (Ngā tohu)

Ko te mea nui ka pā ki a koe i te wā o te D-MER ko te tīmatanga ohorere o ngā whakaaro me ngā kare ā-roto kino. Ka tere te puta mai o ēnei kare ā-roto, ā, ka ngaro i roto i te hawhe meneti ki te rua meneti. Ko te mea nui, ka puta noa mai ēnei kare ā-roto ina tata te heke o ō ū. Kia tīmata te tomo mai o te waiū, ka ngaro katoa aua kare ā-roto kino.

Tērā pea ka pāngia koe e ēnei kare ā-roto me te D-MER:

• He kare ā-roto o te pōuri nui me te pouri.
• Te kore aroha ki a ia anō, te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō.
• He kare ā-roto totohu/mataku , me te mea kei te mau tetahi mea i roto i te puku, kei te tupu rānei tetahi mea kino.
• Te riri , te pōuri, te manukanuka rānei, kāore he take.
• Te manukanuka , te pukuriri rānei.

Kia maumahara, kāore te D-MER e pā ana ki ētahi atu mamae tinana e pā ana ki te whāngai ū, pērā i te mamae o te uma, te pupuhi rānei o te ū. Heoi, ka kaha rawa atu ēnei kare ā-roto, ā, ka hiahia pea ētahi whaea ki te whakamutu i te whāngai ū, ki te pupuhi rānei.

He mea tino nui: I ētahi wā ka tino kino ēnei tohu, ā, ka arahi pea ki ngā whakaaro whakamomori . Mena ka puta he whakaaro ki te whara i a koe anō, i tētahi atu rānei, rapua tonutia he tohutohu hauora. Ka uaua ake te whakahaere i ngā tohu D-MER mō ngā whaea e pāngia ana e te pouri muri i te whānautanga (PPD).

He aha tēnei ka tupu ai? (Ngā Take o te D-MER)

Ahakoa kāore anō kia tino mārama tēnei āhuatanga, he maha ngā rangahau e kī ana ko ngā homoni te tino take. Ina koa, ko te hekenga ohorere o ngā taumata o te homoni e kiia nei ko te dopamine i roto i te tinana. Ko te Dopamine he homoni e pā ana ki ngā kare ā-roto o te harikoa me te makona. He maha ngā rangahau kua whakaatu ko te iti o ngā taumata dopamine ka pā kino ki ō tātou kare ā-roto me ō tātou kare ā-roto.

Whakaarohia pēnei: ​​ina whāngai ū koe i tāu pēpi, ka tukuna e tō tinana ngā homoni e kiia nei ko te prolactin (he homoni nui mō te whakaputa waiū) me te oxytocin . Ina ngote tāu pēpi (inā tīmata rānei koe ki te pupuhi), ko tēnei homoni e kiia nei ko te oxytocin te mea e puta ai te waiū i roto i ō ū (te tukunga/te tukunga o te waiū). Ka mahi tēnei homoni, te oxytocin, mā te whakaheke i ngā taumata dopamine. Ko te tikanga ka heke ō taumata dopamine.

Mō ngā take kāore anō kia tino māramahia e ngā kairangahau, ka tino tere te heke o ngā taumata dopamine o ētahi whaea. Koinā te wā ka pāngia rātou e te pouri me ētahi atu kare ā-roto kino. Ko te D-MER tēnei.

Engari he rangitahi noa iho ēnei kare kino. He maha ngā whaea e kī ana, ina hoki anō ō taumata prolactin me oxytocin ki te āhua noa, ka tau tō wairua i roto i ētahi meneti.

Kia maumahara, he tauhohenga tinana te D-MER, ehara i te tauhohenga hinengaro. Ehara i te mea kei te pouri koe, kei te riri ki tāu pēpi, kei te kore rānei e pai ki te whāngai ū. Ki te whakaaro koe kei a koe te D-MER, he tino āwhina te kōrero ki tō tākuta, ki tō kaiwhakawhanau, ki tō kaitohutohu whāngai ū rānei.

Me pēhea te mōhio o te tākuta he D-MER tēnei? (Tauātanga)

Nā te mea kāore anō kia nui ngā rangahau mō te D-MER, kāore anō kia kitea he mate tūturu mōna. Ka kōrero tō tākuta ki a koe mō ō tohumate, te wā e puta ai, me te kaha o aua tohumate. Kia maumahara, ka puta noa te D-MER i te wā e whāngai ū ana koe, e pūhi ana rānei, ā, ka memeha haere i muri i tētahi wā. Mā te whakamārama mārama mō ō tohumate me te wā e puta ai, ka āwhina i tō tākuta kia mārama ki te āhua o te mate.

He aha tā tātou e taea ai mēnā kei a tātou te D-MER? (Te Maimoatanga me te Whakahaere)

Nā te mea kāore anō kia tino mārama ngā kairangahau ki te mate, kāore he 'maimoatanga' motuhake mō te D-MER. Heoi, he maha ngā huarahi hei āwhina i a koe ki te whakahaere i ō tohu me te aro atu ki te mate.

Anei ētahi o ngā tikanga e whakamahia whānuitia ana hei whakahaere i ngā tohumate D-MER:

• Whakanuia te pā o te kiri ki te kiri ki tāu pēpi: Mena kei te whāngai ū koe, ngana ki te pupuri i tāu pēpi kia tata ki a koe i ngā wā katoa e taea ana. Ka taea e tēnei pā te whakaiti i ō taumata cortisol (he homoni e pā ana ki te ahotea), te whakaheke i te tere o tō ngakau, me te whakamarie i a koe. Pērā i te whakamarie e pā ana ki a tātou ina pupuri tātou i tētahi pēpi nohinohi.
• Te whakaaroaro, te manawa hōhonu rānei: Ko te mea nui ko te ngana ki te whakamarie i te hinengaro. Mā tēnei ka whakaiti i te manukanuka me te ahotea. Manawa hōhonu mā roto i tō ihu, ka manawa mārire mā roto i tō waha. Mā te mahi i tēnei mō ētahi meneti i te rā ka nui te rerekētanga.
• Kimihia ētahi atu huarahi hei whakangā: Me mirimiri mārie i mua i te whāngai ū, whakarongo ki tāu waiata tino pai, kaukau rānei i roto i te kaukau mahana. Mā ēnei mea koe e āwhina ki te whakangā me te aro atu ki te wā e puta mai ai te D-MER.
• Whakararuraru i a koe: Ina pāngia koe e te whakapairuaki, ngana ki te arotahi i tō aro ki tētahi atu mea. Akene ka taea e koe te kai i tētahi kai mātao, te mātaki i tētahi mea i runga i te pouaka whakaata, te pānui pukapuka rānei i a koe e whakaaro ana ki ngā mea kei roto i tō hinengaro. Ko te tikanga, ko te pupuri i tō hinengaro ki tētahi atu mea ina puta mai taua kare kino.
• Kimihia he tautoko: He mea tino nui te tautoko kia taea ai e koe te whakatau i te D-MER. Tērā pea ko tō hoa rangatira, he hoa pai, he rōpū tautoko D-MER ipurangi rānei. Kimihia he hunga e whakarongo ana ki a koe, e kōrero ana ki a koe, e manaaki ana hoki i a koe. He kaha nui anō hoki te mōhio kāore koe i te mokemoke.

Kia pēhea te roa o tēnei āhuatanga?

He rerekē tēnei i ia tangata, i ia tangata. Mō te nuinga o te tangata, ka memeha haere te D-MER i muri i te toru marama pea. Ka iti haere te kino i te pakeketanga o te pēpi. Heoi, kua pāngia ētahi e te D-MER tae noa ki te mutunga o te whāngai ū. Nō reira, he uaua ki te kī kia pēhea te roa o te wā e mau tonu ai. Engari kia maumahara, ehara i te mea pumau i te nuinga o te wā.

Ka taea te ārai i tēnei?

Kāo, kāore e taea e koe te ārai i te D-MER. Engari he mea nui kia mōhio koe kei reira ētahi tāngata hei āwhina i a koe, ā, ehara tēnei āhuatanga i puta mai i tētahi mea i mahia e koe. Kāore koe e whai kawenga mōna.

He tohu rānei te D-MER mō te pouri muri i te whānautanga (PPD)?

Kāo, ehara te D-MER i te tohu kei te pāngia koe e te pouri muri i te whānautanga (PPD) me tētahi atu mate hinengaro muri i te whānautanga. Ahakoa he rite ētahi o ngā tohu, ka puta noa te D-MER i te wā e tata ana te puta mai o tō waiū, ā, ka tere te memeha atu. Heoi, tera pea ka pāngia koe e te mate pēnei i te PPD i a koe e pāngia ana e te D-MER. Mena he kaha ake ngā whakaaro me ngā kare ā-roto kino e pāngia ana e koe i waho o te whāngai ū, ki te mea rānei kei te kino haere i ia rā, i ia rā, tēnā kōrero ki tō tākuta.

He mea tino nui kia tiakina koe e koe anō!

Ahakoa kāore ētahi e mōhio ana, he mate tūturu te D-MER. He waimarie, he wā poto noa iho, ā, he huarahi hei āwhina i a koe ki te whakatau. Ngāna ki te whakahaere i ō tohumate D-MER mā te whakamahi i ngā tikanga kua whakahuatia i runga ake nei. I ētahi wā, he tino whakamarie te mōhio he mate tūturu tōu, ā, he rite tonu ngā āhuatanga ki ērā atu whaea.

Tērā pea ka meinga koe e te D-MER kia mutu te whāngai ū. Mena he pānga kino tēnei ki tō hauora hinengaro me tō oranga tinana, ko te huri ki te miraka miraka pea te kōwhiringa pai rawa atu māu me tō pēpi. Kāore he aha. Kaua e whakama. Ki te kore te whāngai ū e whai hua mōu, ehara i te he nāu.

Āhea koe me tino kite i te tākuta?

Kāore he he o te tono āwhina. Mena he tino kaha ō kare ā-roto, ā, he uaua ki a koe te aro atu ki aua kare ā-roto, he tino āwhina te kōrero ki tō tākuta, ki tētahi tohunga whāngai ū rānei. He mea nui kia kōrero mārama, kia pono hoki mō ō kare ā-roto. He āwhina anō hoki te tuhi i ō kare ā-roto ki tētahi pepa, ka whakaatu ki tō tākuta. Kia mōhio koe kei reira ētahi tāngata hei āwhina i a koe, ā, ehara i te mea ko koe anake.

Ki te mea, i tētahi wā, ka puta he whakaaro ki a koe ki te whara i a koe anō, i tētahi atu rānei, tena koa rapua he tohutohu hauora tonu atu.

Ngā mea hei maumahara māu hei kawe ki te kāinga

Ehara te whāngai ū i te wheako pai mō te katoa. Mēnā ka pāngia koe e ngā kare ā-roto kino pēnei i te riri, te pouri rānei ina tukua tō waiū, tera pea kei a koe te D-MER, te Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex rānei.

• Kāore koe i te mokemoke. Ka pā tēnei ki ētahi atu whaea anō hoki.
• Ehara tēnei i tōu he. Kāore koe i mahi i tetahi mea hē.
• Kāore he "hē" i a koe. He urupare ā-tinana tēnei.
• Kōrerotia tōu āhua ki tō tākuta. Mā rātou koe e tohutohu ki ngā huarahi pai hei whakatau i tōu āhua.
• I ētahi wā, mā te mōhio noa he ingoa kei roto mō te mea e pā ana ki a koe, ka āwhina i a koe kia mōhio kāore koe i te mokemoke. Kaua e manukanuka, kei reira te āwhina.

` D-MER, Te Whakahokinga o te Miraka Pōrearea, te whāngai ū, te tukunga o te miraka, te pouri, te riri, te manukanuka, ngā homoni, te dopamine, muri i te whānautanga, te hauora hinengaro