Mō te whaea e hapu ana, he rā tino motuhake te rā e whānau ai koe i roto i tō oranga, kāore? I a koe e moemoeā ana mō taua rā, tera pea ka mataku koe. 'Me pēhea rā?', 'Ka taea e au te whakamanawanui i te mamae?', 'Ka taea e au te mahi i taku e hiahia ai i taua rā?' He maha ngā pātai e puta ake ana ki te hinengaro. Ko te wā tēnā ka tino āwhina i a koe tēnei 'Mahere Whānau', arā, 'mahere whānau'. Mā tēnei ka whai wāhi koe ki te whakarite i taua rā nui i te ara e hiahia ana koe, me te whakamōhio atu ki ngā tākuta me ngā nēhi mō ō hiahia.
He aha tēnei Mahere Whānau?
He māmā noa iho, ko te Mahere Whānau he mahere ka hangaia e koe mō ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e koe i tō wā hapūtanga (te hapūtanga me te whānautanga). He tuhinga motuhake tēnei e whakamōhio ana i tō tākuta me ngā kaimahi o te hōhipera mō ō hiahia.
Whakaarohia, ko tāu tāne anake te mea e hiahia ana koe kia noho ki reira ina whānau te pēpi, kāore rānei, e hiahia ana koe kia noho hoki tō whaea ki reira? Kei te hiahia koe ki te tango i te rongoā mamae, kāore rānei? Kei te hiahia koe kia whakapōuritia ngā rama o te rūma? Ka taea e koe te tāpiri i tētahi atu mea e whakaaro ana koe he mea nui mō tō whakamarie.
Engari kotahi te mea hei maumahara. Ehara tēnei i te ture pakari. Nā te mea ka puta pea ngā mea ohorere i te rā whānau o tō pēpi. Ko te haumaru o tō pēpi me tō pēpi te mea nui rawa atu. Nō reira, i ētahi wā, me whakarerekē pea e te tākuta ētahi mea i roto i tō mahere. Nō reira, ahakoa he mahere tāu, he mea tino nui kia rite koe ki te aro atu ki ngā huringa katoa.
He aha ngā mea me whakauru ki te Mahere Whānau?
Engari kia roa te tuhinga nei, he nui ngā kōrero taipitopito, he pai ake kia poto, kia mārama hoki, kia māmā ai te pānui me te mārama mō te katoa . He nui noa iho te whārangi kotahi, e rua rānei.
Anei ētahi mea ka taea e koe te tāpiri atu ki tō mahere.
| Wāhanga o te mahere | Ngā mea hei whakaaroaro |
|---|---|
| Ngā mōhiohio taketake | Tō ingoa, te ingoa me te nama waea o tō tākuta, te hōhipera e whānau ai koe i tāu pēpi, me te tangata e hiahia ana koe kia noho tahi me koe i taua wā (hei tauira, tāne, whaea, tuahine). |
| Te taiao i roto i te rūma | He aha te momo taiao e tino pai ana ki a koe? He pai ake ki a koe kia whakaitihia ngā rama? He tino marino, he waiata ngawari rānei/he pirith e takaro ana? Kei te hiahia tetahi ki te tango whakaahua, ki te tango ataata rānei i te taha? |
| I te wā o te hakari | Kei te hiahia koe ki te haereere me te nekeneke haere i te wā e whānau ana? Kei te hiahia koe ki te whakamahi i tētahi mea pēnei i te pōro whānau? Kei te hiahia koe ki te kaukau wera, ki te kaukau rānei i roto i te kaukau? |
| Whakaora mamae | He mea tino nui tēnei. Ka taea e koe te whakatau i mua i te wā mēnā ka whiwhi koe i te epidural , kāore rānei. Kāore pea koe e hiahia ki te tango, engari ka huri pea tō whakaaro ina tīmata te whānautanga. Nō reira, kōrero ki tō tākuta mō ngā kōwhiringa whakahaere mamae (rongoā, mahi manawa, mirimiri) i mua i te wā . |
| Te whakaae i te wā e whānau ana | Mena ka whānau koe i te tara, kāore koe e pai ki te kore e mahia he episiotomy (he tapahi iti i waenganui i te tara me te nono) ki te kore e tika ana kia rongoatia? E hiahia ana koe ki te mātakitaki i te whānautanga o te pēpi mā te whakaata? E pai ana koe kia tapahia te pito o tō tāne? E hiahia ana koe kia pā te kiri ki te kiri ki tō pēpi i muri tonu i te whānautanga? Mena me mahi koe i te C-section , ko wai tāu e hiahia ana kia noho tahi me koe i roto i te rūma pokanga? |
| Te whāngai ū me te tiaki pēpi | Ka tīmata koe ki te whāngai ū i tāu pēpi i te wā tonu e whānau mai ai ia? Ka whāngaihia rānei ia e koe ki te pounamu? Ka noho tonu tāu pēpi ki a koe i ngā wā katoa (noho tahi), ka noho rānei ia i roto i te rūma pēpi i ētahi wā? Ka hoatu e ngā kaimahi he pūwero ki te pēpi? Mena he tama, ka hiahia koe kia kotia ia i te hōhipera? Kei a koe te tikanga mō ēnei mea katoa. |
Ki a wai ahau me whakaatu tēnei mahere whānau?
Kia oti tēnei mahere te whakarite, kōrerohia tuatahitia ki tō tāne me te hunga katoa e noho tahi ana me koe i te wā e whānau ana koe. He mea tino nui kia mōhio rātou ki ō hiahia .
Ko te mea e whai ake nei, ko te mea nui rawa atu, ko te whakaatu i tēnei ki tō tākuta, me te kōrero ki a ia. Nā te mea ko ia te tangata pai rawa atu hei kī atu ki a koe mēnā he mea taea, he mea haumaru hoki ngā mea katoa e hiahia ana koe ki te mahi. Tērā pea he kaupapa here anō ā ētahi hōhipera. Nō reira, he māmā ake te karo i ngā raruraru ka puta ake i muri mai mēnā ka kōrero koe ki tō tākuta i mua.
Me hoatu e au tētahi kape o te mahere ki a wai?
Kia oti tāu mahere whakamutunga, tohatohahia ngā tārua pēnei.
- Kotahi te tārua: Hoatu ki te tākuta kia puritia tahitia me ō pūkete hauora .
- Tētahi atu tārua: Kawea atu ina haere koe ki te hōhipera ki te whānau i te pēpi.
- Ētahi atu tārua: Hoatu tētahi tārua ki te tangata kei a koe, me ērā atu anō hoki.
- Ētahi atu tārua: Kawea atu ēnei ina haere koe ki te hōhipera. I ētahi wā, ki te ngaro tō tākuta , me whānau pea tō pēpi e tētahi atu tākuta e mahi ana. He tino whai hua tēnei tārua i taua wā.
Kāore he ture e kī ana me whakarite he mahere whānau. Ka taea e koe te whakatau i ēnei mea ahakoa kua tae koe ki te hōhipera. Heoi, ki te whakaarohia e koe ēnei mea katoa i mua, ki te kōrero ki tāu tāne me te tākuta, me te whakarite mahere, ka nui tō herekore me tō māia. Pērā ai, ka taea e koe te arotahi ki te mea nui rawa atu o tō ao, arā, te whānau mai o tāu pēpi ki tēnei ao, me te kore e manukanuka.
Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga
- He aratohu te mahere whānau hei whakatutuki i ō hiahia, ehara i te ture kua whakatakotoria.
- Kia māmā noa iho, kia mārama hoki, ā, kia kotahi, kia rua rānei ngā whārangi hei whakawhāiti .
- Me kōrero tonu ki tō tākuta mō tō mahere. He mea nui tēnei mō tō haumaru me tō pēpi.
- I te mea ka puta pea ngā mea ohorere i te wā e whānau ana, kia ngāwari, kia whakarerekē hoki i tāu mahere mēnā e tika ana.
- Ko te whāinga matua o ēnei mea katoa kia whānau haumaru, kia hauora hoki māu me tāu pēpi.
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