Mena he tokorua, he tokotoru rānei āu tamariki kei te kāinga, he maha tonu ō whakaaro he rite koe ki te kaipatu ahi? Ina mutu te pakanga i tētahi wāhi, ka tīmata i tētahi atu wāhi. Ka tawai tētahi ki tētahi, ka karanga ingoa tetahi ki tetahi, ka whawhai, ka whakapae tetahi ki tetahi... Kua tino hoha koe ki ēnei mea katoa, tika? Kaua e manukanuka, ehara i te mea ko tō kāinga anake tēnei. He mea noa te noho tahi a ngā tuākana me ngā teina ki ngā pakanga pēnei i te wā e tipu ake ana ngā tamariki. Heoi, kāore e taea e koe te whakaae noa he mea noa. Ki te kore e whakahaeretia tika tēnei āhuatanga, ka arahi pea ki te riri me te mauahara i roto i ngā tamariki ka roa tae noa ki te pakeketanga. Nō reira, i tēnei rā ka kōrero tātou mō ēnei pakanga a ngā tuākana me ngā teina , ngā take o aua pakanga, me pēhea hoki tātou hei mātua e whakahaere ai i tēnei āhuatanga i roto i te huarahi hauora.
He aha te take e whawhai ai ngā tamariki pēnei?
Ki te kī māmā noa iho, ko te whakataetae a ngā tuākana, teina, ko te hae, te whakataetae, me te pakanga e puta ake ana i waenganui i ngā tuākana, teina, me te tuakana. Ko te karanga ingoa kino tetahi i tetahi, te mahi kata kino, te tīmata whawhai, me te amuamu tonu ko rātou anake te hunga e tukinotia kinotia ana, he wāhanga katoa ēnei o tēnei .
Whakaarohia, ina uru mai he pēpi hou ki te whānau, tera pea ka whakaaro te tamaiti pakeke kua iti ake te aro ki a ia. Ka arahi pea tēnei ki te hae. Waihoki, ko ngā mea pēnei i te rerekētanga o te tau i waenga i ngā tamariki, ō rātou āhua, me te rahi o te whānau ka pā ki tēnei. I ētahi wā, ka puta he pakanga nui mō tētahi taonga takaro, mō te mana mamao pouaka whakaata, tae noa ki te aro o ngā mātua. He wāhanga noa iho tēnei o te haerenga o ngā tamariki e tipu ake ana. Ko te mea nui ko te mārama ko te wā, hei mātua, me te wā me tuku ngā tamariki ki te whakatau i te raruraru.
8 ngā mahi whai hua hei whakahaere i ngā pakanga i waenganui i ngā tuākana me ngā teina
Ahakoa e kore e taea e tātou te aukati katoa i ēnei pakanga, ka taea e tātou te whakaiti, ā, ka āwhina hoki ki te hanga whanaungatanga pai i waenganui i ngā tamariki .
1. Meinga te taiao o te kāinga hei tauira.
Ko te mea nui ka akohia e ngā tamariki mā te mātakitaki i a tātou. Mēnā kei te hamama tonu, kei te whawhai tonu ngā mātua, kei te patupatu i ngā tatau, kei te riri rānei, kāore he kupu e taea e koe te tumanako atu i tētahi mea pai ake i āu tamariki. Kia waiho koe hei tauira pai mō āu tamariki. Whakaaturia ki āu tamariki te huarahi hei whakaoti rapanga mā te whakaute tetahi i tetahi, te mārama ki ngā hiahia o tetahi, me te mahi tahi.
2. Kati te tāpiri tapanga me te whakatairite i ngā tamariki.
He rerekē ia tamaiti, ia tamaiti. He rerekē ngā kaha me ngā ngoikoretanga o ia tamaiti. Mā te whakataurite i tētahi tamaiti ki tētahi atu ka puta te whakataetae me te hae. Kaua rawa e kī pēnei i te, "Tirohia te kaha o tō tuahine ki te ako me te whiwhi māka pai, he aha koe te kore ai e taea?" Engari, me mihi ki ngā kaha o ia tamaiti.
3. Whakatakotoria he ture mārama mō ngā whanonga pai
PaiMe mārama ki āu tamariki he aha ngā whanonga e whakaaetia ana, me ngā whanonga kāore e whakaaetia. Whakatakotoria he ture ki te kāinga e kī ana kāore e whakaaetia ngā mea pēnei i te patu, te kanga, me te whakaiti i te mana o ētahi atu. Me whakamārama hoki ngā hua o te takahi i aua ture (hei tauira, te whakaiti i te wā tākaro). Me mihi hoki ki āu tamariki mō ā rātou whanonga pai ina whakaute rātou tetahi ki tetahi, ā, ka ngana ki te whakaoti rapanga mā te kōrero.
4. Kia mārama ki te rerekētanga i waenga i te 'ōrite' me te 'tika'
He rerekē ngā mea e rua o te ōritetanga me te tika. Whakaarohia te tuku i tētahi tamaiti pakeke kia mātaki pouaka whakaata tae noa ki te 9 i te pō, engari me kī atu ki tētahi tamaiti nohinohi kia moe i te 8. Tērā pea ka whakaaro te tamaiti nohinohi he hē tēnei. Ko te mea nui i konei ko te whakamārama i ngā take mō tāu whakatau ki āu tamariki. He māmā ake ki ngā tamariki te mārama mēnā ka kī koe i tētahi mea pēnei, "He pakeke ake tō tuakana i tāu tama, nō reira ka taea e ia te noho mataara mō te wā roa ake. He taitamariki koe, nō reira me nui ake tō moe. Kia pakeke koe, ka taea e koe te mahi i taua mea anō."
5. Hoatu he wā motuhake ki ia tamaiti.
He mea tino nui tēnei. Whakapaua kia 10 meneti ia rā me ia tamaiti anake. I taua wā, whakarongo pai ki a rātou. Hoatu he wā ki a rātou ki te kōrero mō ngā mea kei roto i ō rātou hinengaro me ngā raruraru kei a rātou me ō rātou teina, tuākana rānei. He mea tino nui kia rongo te tamaiti "Kei te tiaki mai hoki a Māmā rāua ko Pāpā i ahau" mō tō rātou whakapono ki a ia anō.
6. Whakaakona ngā huarahi hei whakaoti rapanga
Kāore e ranea te kī noa, "Kaua e whawhai." Me whakaako e koe āu tamariki me pēhea te whakatau i te pakanga ina tupu.
- Ina riri koe, kaua e hamama, whakaharatau ki te whakapuaki i ō kare ā-roto mā te kī i ngā mea pēnei i te "Kei te pouri ahau" me te "Kei te riri ahau".
- Whakaharatauhia te whakarongo ina kōrero ana te tangata kē.
- Āwhina ki te kimi i tētahi otinga (whiriwhiringa) e whakaaetia ana e ngā taha e rua.
7. Whakahaerehia ngā Hui Whānau
He tikanga pai te whakahaere i tētahi hui whānau iti kotahi i te wiki. Ka taea e koutou te kōrero mō ngā take o te whare me ngā mahere mō te wiki e whai ake nei. Ka whai wāhi te katoa ki te whakapuaki i ō rātou whakaaro i konei. Mā tēnei ka ako ngā tamariki ki te mahi tahi hei rōpū, me te whakaute i ngā whakaaro o ētahi atu.
Āhea koe me rapu āwhina ngaio?
I ētahi wā, ahakoa te kaha o tō ngana, kāore e taea e koe te whakahaere i ēnei pakanga. Mēnā kei te piki haere ngā raruraru, ā, kei te whakaaro koe kei te piki haere te āhuatanga, kāore he whakama ki te rapu āwhina ngaio. He huarahi pai tēnei hei whakaatu i te nui o tō aroha ki āu tamariki.
Kia maumahara, ko te tono āwhina ina nui rawa te raruraru kāore e taea te whakahaere, ehara i te tohu ngoikore, engari he tohu kaha.
I ngā wā e whai ake nei, he mea tino nui kia kōrero koe ki tō tākuta , ā, ki te tika, me rapu āwhina i tētahi tohunga hauora hinengaro mō ngā tamariki .
| Tohu mōrearea | Me pēhea te mārama |
|---|---|
| Pānga ki te whanaungatanga o ngā mātua | Mena ka puta tonu ngā raruraru i waenga i ngā mātua nā ngā tautohe a ngā tamariki, ā, ka whakapae tetahi i tetahi. |
| Tērā te tūponotanga o te whara tinana. | Mena ka whara kino tetahi tamaiti i tetahi atu tamaiti, ka whakawehi rānei ki te mahi pera. |
| Pānga ki te hauora hinengaro | Mena ka pā kino ēnei pakanga ki te whakaaro nui o te tamaiti, o tētahi atu mema rānei o te whānau, mena kei te manukanuka tonu rātou, kei te mataku tonu hoki. |
| Te hononga ki ētahi atu raruraru hauora hinengaro | Ko te pakanga i waenganui i ngā tuākana me ngā teina he tohu pea, he take rānei nō tētahi atu āhuatanga hinengaro, pērā i te pouri o te tamaiti. |
Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga
- He mea noa ngā taupatupatu i waenganui i ngā tuākana me ngā teina. Kaua e whakama.
- Ehara tō mahi i te noho hei kaiwhakawā, engari hei tangata ārahi, hei tangata whakarongo ki ngā tamariki.
- Kaua e whakataurite i ngā tamariki tetahi ki tetahi, engari me whakanui ō rātou ake pūkenga.
- Whakaakona āu tamariki ki ngā huarahi whai hua hei whakatau i ngā tautohe. He pūkenga nui tēnei mā rātou puta noa i ō rātou oranga.
- Ki te kore e taea te whakahaere i ngā tautohe, kaua e mangere ki te kōrero ki tō tākuta, me te rapu tohutohu ngaio.
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