Kei te maumahara koe ki te rā i kitea ai he mate kino, he roa te wā e pāngia ana koe e te mate? He tokomaha te hunga e mataku ana, e pouri ana, e kore e tino mārama ina whakaaro ana ki taua rā. He mea noa tēnā. Engari i roto i te wā, ki te taea e koe te titiro ki taua rā i tētahi huarahi rerekē, pai ake, ka taea e ia te whakatairanga nui i tō oranga hinengaro. Koinei tā tātou e kōrero ai i tēnei rā.
He aha tātou me whakaaro ai ki tētahi rā pēnei?
Ka whakanuia e tātou ngā rā whānau, ka whakanuia e tātou ngā huritau marena, ka whakanuia hoki ngā whakatairanga i te mahi. He tohu nui ēnei katoa i roto i ō tātou oranga. Nō reira, ko te rā e whakatakoto ana i tō oranga ki tētahi ara tino rerekē, e akiaki ana i a koe ki te whakaaro mōu anō i tētahi huarahi hou, arā, ko te rā ka whiwhi koe i tētahi tātaritanga mate, he aha e kore ai e taea e tātou te whakaaro he tohu nui?
Ko te "whakanui" i konei ehara i te mea ko te harikoa mō te mate. Ko tōna tikanga ko te anga atu ki taua wero me te maioha ki te haerenga kua mahia e koe tae noa mai ki tēnei wā. Ko tōna tikanga ko te maumahara ki tō kaha, ki tō manawanui, me te hunga i āwhina i a koe, me te harikoa. He rite ki te tango anō i te mana whakahaere o tō kōrero oranga. Engari ko te maumahara ki taua rā he rā pouri noa iho, ka taea e koe te kite i tēnei hei tīmatanga o tētahi haerenga i whakamatau i tō kaha.
He tikanga nui te "whakanuitanga"?
Kāore rawa. He mea tino whaiaro tēnei. Tērā pea ētahi e hiahia ana ki te whakanui i tēnei rā me ō rātou hoa me te whānau. Ko ētahi atu e hiahia ana kia noho ko rātou anake, kia whakaaroaro hoki mō tēnei rā i runga i te rangimārie. He pai ngā mea e rua. Ko te mea nui ko te whiriwhiri i te huarahi e pai ana ki a koe, e pai ai hoki tō hinengaro.
Tērā pea ka taea e koe:
- Haere ki tō wāhi tino pai, kia wātea ai koe mō tētahi wā.
- Tuhia ngā mea kei roto i tō hinengaro ki roto i tētahi rātaka.
- Waea atu ki tētahi i āwhina i a koe, ka mihi atu ki a ia.
- Mahia tetahi mea pai mō tō tinana. Hei tauira, takaia he kai whai kiko, ka kai rānei i tētahi kai, hikoi poto rānei.
Kāore he huarahi tika, kāore hoki he huarahi hē ki te mahi i tēnei. Ko te mea e whakamana ana i a koe, koia te mea pai rawa atu.
Ko ētahi pātai hei pātai atu ki a koe anō
I tēnei rā, he mea tika kia titiro whakamuri ki tō tau kua hipa. Pātai atu ki a koe anō ēnei pātai. I a koe e rapu ana i ngā whakautu, ka taea e koe te peita i tētahi pikitia mārama ake mō tō haerenga.
| Pātai atu ki a koe anō | Ngā Kaupapa hei Whakaaroaro |
|---|---|
| Kei te pēhea taku hauora i te tau kua taha ake nei? | He aha ngā mea kua akohia e au hei whakahaere i aku tohumate? He aha ngā mea hou kua akohia e au mō tōku tinana? I mahia e au ētahi huringa ki taku maimoatanga i muri i taku kōrero ki taku tākuta? |
| He aha ngā wero nui rawa atu kua pā mai ki ahau i a au e noho ana me tēnei mate? | I ētahi rā i pāngia ai ahau e te ngoikore o te tinana, i ētahi wā i pouri ai ahau i te hinengaro, i ngā whanaungatanga pāpori rānei? Whakaarohia te āhua o taku tūtakitanga ki aua wero. He kaha anō hoki te whakaae ki aua uauatanga. |
| He aha ngā angitu kua riro i ahau? | Kāore ēnei e hiahiatia kia nui. He iti noa iho pea, pērā i te tango i tō rongoā i te wā tika, te whakahaere i tō kai, te tīmata rānei ki te whakakori tinana. Kia maioha ki ia o aua wikitoria. |
| Nā wai ahau i āwhina i tēnei haerenga? | Ngā mihi ki tō whānau, ki ō hoa, ki ngā tākuta me ngā nēhi e rongoā ana i a koe... He wā pai tēnei hei whakamahara i a koe anō kāore koe i te mokemoke. |
| Me pēhea taku whakapai ake i taku hinengaro me te whakahaere i ngā mate mō te tau e haere ake nei? | Whakatakotoria he whāinga hou. Tērā pea he tīmatanga i tētahi tikanga whakakori tinana hou. He ako atu rānei mō tō mate. Kōrero ki tō tākuta mō tēnei. |
Koinei tō haerenga. Ko ia taahiraa o tēnei haerenga, ahakoa ngā taahiraa uaua, kua whakakaha ake i a koe. Ko te mea nui ko te maioha ki taua kaha.
He pai tēnei mō te katoa?
Kāo. Ki ētahi tāngata, he mamae te maumahara ki te rā i tātaritatia ai rātou. Kāore he he o tēnā. Mena ko koe tētahi o aua tāngata, kāore koe e hiahia ki te mahi i tēnei. Ka taea e koe te whiriwhiri i tētahi atu rā ina pai ake koe. Ko te rā pea i tīmata ai koe i te maimoatanga, ko te rā tuatahi rānei i pai ake ai koe. Ko te whāinga kia waihangahia he wā e taea ai e koe te titiro whakamuri ki tō haerenga i roto i te tirohanga pai.
Ki te pōuri koe, ki te riri, ki te taumaha rānei i a koe e whakaaro ana ki tēnei mea, kaua e huna aua kare ā-roto. Kōrero ki tētahi hoa pono, ki tētahi mema o te whānau, ki tō tākuta rānei mō tēnei mea.He mea tino nui anō hoki te rapu awhina i tētahi kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro hauora hinengaro.
Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga
- Ehara tō "Huri Tau Tātaritanga" i te whakanui i te mate, engari he whakanui i te haerenga i mahia e koe me taua wero, tō kaha me tō manawanui.
- He tino whaiaro te āhua o te whakanui i tēnei rā. He whakaaroaro marino, he wā poto rānei e noho tahi ana me te hunga e arohaina ana.
- Whakamahia tēnei wā ki te whakaaroaro ki ngā wero, ki ngā angitu, me ngā tāngata i āwhina i a koe i te tau kua hipa.
- He taputapu tino whai hua tēnei hei whakapai ake i tō oranga hinengaro me te whakahaere i tō āhua.
- Ki te kore koe e pai ki te whakaaro ki tēnei mea, kaua e mangere ki te kōrero ki tō tākuta, ki tētahi hoa pono, ki tētahi mema rānei o te whānau mō tēnei mea.
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