He maha ngā wā ka rongo tātou mō ngā taiohi e whara ana i a rātou anō, engari he mea nui kia mōhio tātou he nui atu te whara i a rātou anō i tua atu i te tapahi noa ki te heu, ki te maripi, ki te kutikuti rānei. Tērā pea ētahi taiohi e tahu ana, e waruwaru ana, e patu ana rānei i a rātou anō, e patupatu ana i ō rātou mahunga, e unu ana i ō rātou makawe, e mirimiri ana i ō rātou kiri, e wero ana i a rātou anō ki ngā mea koi, e whakauru ana rānei i ngā mea ki raro i ō rātou kiri. He take uaua tēnei. He tino mamae te kitenga kei te whara tō tamaiti i a ia anō, ā, he mea noa te noho taumaha. Me tūhura ngātahi tātou i tēnei me Nirogi Lanka.
He aha te take e whara ai ngā taiohi i a rātou anō?
He aha te take e whiriwhiri ai te taiohi ki te whara i a ia anō? Whakaarohia he urupare tēnei ki te mamae nui o te kare ā-roto, te pouri nui, te riri, te pōuri rānei. He maha ngā wā ka uru atu rātou ki ēnei mahi nā te mea kāore i a rātou ngā taputapu hei whakatau i ēnei kare ā-roto kaha, ā, kei te ngana rātou ki te aukati, ki te mawhiti atu rānei i aua kare ā-roto mō tētahi wā poto. Ehara tēnei i te ngana whakamomori. Heoi, he tohu nui tēnei kei te pāngia tō tamaiti e te mamae nui o te kare ā-roto, ā, me aro nui atu me te tautoko wawe.
I ētahi wā, ka taea e te pēhanga a ngā hoa te ārahi i te hunga rangatahi ki te whakamātau i te whara i a rātou anō, ka tere tonu te whanake hei whanonga pumau. Ko ētahi atu āhuatanga ko te taumaha o te hiahia kia tino tika , ahakoa he hapa iti noa iho, kāore e taea te whakamanawanui. Ko ētahi atu ka uaua ki te whakahaere i ngā kare ā-roto o te koretake , te ngakaukore , te riri hohonu rānei, ko ētahi ka tahuri ki ēnei whanonga nā te mamae kāore anō kia whakatauhia, nā ngā wheako mamae o mua rānei.
Ahakoa he tokomaha ngā rangatahi e mamae puku ana, kei te whakatuwherahia ngā tatau e te pikinga ake o te mōhiotanga mō ngā tamariki ki te tiki i te āwhina e hiahiatia ana e rātou. Kia maumahara, mā te tautuhi wawe ka taea e koe te wawao whai hua. Ka taea e te whara i a koe anō te hanga tikanga , ā, he nui te tūponotanga o te whara kino, te raruraru hauora rānei mēnā kāore e arohia.
Me pēhea e taea ai e koe te āwhina hei mātua
Ki te whakapae koe, ki te kite rānei koe kei te whara tō tamaiti i a ia anō, anei ngā huarahi hei whakatau māu hei mātua.
Kia mārama ki ō ake kare ā-roto i te tuatahi
He mea noa te ohorere, te riri, te pōuri, te mataku, te pōhēhē rānei. Tērā pea ka mamae koe nā te korenga o tāu tamaiti i tae mai ki a koe, ka whakapae rānei i a koe anō mō te korenga e kite wawe. Kia mārama: ehara tēnei i te he nāu, ehara hoki i te korenga o tāu tamaiti.
Whakapaua he wā ki te whakahaere i ō kare ā-roto. Kōrero ki tētahi hoa pono, whakaharatau i te tiaki i a koe anō, rapua rānei he tautoko mai i tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro kia mārama ai koe ki ngā āhuatanga o tō tamaiti. Mā te whakahaere i ō kare ā-roto, ka pai ake tō āheinga ki te whakarato tautoko marino, pumau ki tāu tamaiti.
Whakaakohia koe anō
Akohia ngā mea katoa e taea ana e koe mō te whara i a koe anō . Ko te mārama ki ngā mea e whakaoho ana i te mamae—ahakoa he pēhanga a ngā hoa, he hiahia kia tino tika, he mamae kare ā-roto hohonu, he whara o mua rānei—he taahiraa nui tēnei i te ara ki te whakaoranga. Ahakoa he mamae te aro atu ki ēnei āhuatanga tūturu, ko te mōhiotanga te taputapu tino kaha hei āwhina i tāu tamaiti kia ora.
He mea nui te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero
Kōrero ki tāu tamaiti. He kōrero uaua tēnei, engari ko te āhua o tāu kōrero he mea nui ake i tāu e kōrero nei. Tīmata mā te mihi mārire ki tāu i kite ai. Kia mōhio rātou e aroha ana koe ki a rātou, ā, e whakapau kaha ana koe ki te āwhina i a rātou i roto i tēnei āhuatanga.
Tērā pea ka whakama, ka hara, ka wehi rānei tāu tamaiti i te whakahē. Kaua e whiu, e kauwhau, e riri rānei, engari kia aro ki te whakarongo. Kaua e tauhohe me te whakarihariha, te mataku rānei. Hoatu he aroha me te wāhi haumaru. Pātai atu ki a rātou mō ā rātou uauatanga me te kore e tono. Ki te ātete rātou, ki te kati rānei i a rātou kōrero, kia marino, kia manawanui. Kaua e mutu—kia tuwhera tonu te tatau mō ngā kōrerorero a muri ake nei.
Rapua he āwhina ngaio
He mea nui kia whakaurua mai he tohunga hauora hinengaro whai tohu . Ka taea e rātou te āwhina i a koe ki te mārama ki ngā pūtake o te whanonga me te āwhina i tāu tamaiti ki te whakawhanakengā pūkenga hou hei whakatau i ngā pēhanga o te ao.
Mā te rongoā hinengaro ka taea e ngā taiohi te whakapuaki i ō rātou mamae, te ako i te whakahaere i ngā kare ā-roto, me te hura i ngā āhuatanga hauora hinengaro e pā ana ki a rātou . He maha ngā wā, ko te whara i a rātou anō he tohu o ngā pakanga ki te Pouri , te Mate Pūrua , te pouri kāore anō kia whakatauhia, ngā whanonga whakahauhau , te hiahia kia tino tika te mahi. Ki te whakapono koe kei roto tō tamaiti i te mōrearea tonu, whakapā atu ki ngā ratonga ohorere (911) me te toro atu rānei ki te tari ohorere o te hōhipera tata tonu.
He mea tino nui te kimi i tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro e pai ai, e haumaru ai hoki tāu tamaiti ki te whakapuaki i ōna whakaaro. Mena kei te hiahia āwhina koe ki te kimi i te tohunga tika, ka taea e tō tākuta whānau, e tētahi kaiārahi kura rānei te tuku tohutohu me ngā tohutoro.
Whakarato Tautoko me te Whakatenatena Pūmau
I a tāu tamaiti e mahi tahi ana me tētahi tohunga, me whai wāhi tonu koe ki te tukanga. Pātai atu ki te kaiwhakaora hinengaro mō ngā tohutohu mō te kōrero ki tāu tamaiti, me pēhea hoki te tuku tautoko pai. Ko te mea nui, pātai tika atu ki tāu tamaiti he aha tā rātou e hiahia ana mai i a koe kia rongo ai koe kei te tautokona ia.
Hei tauira, ka taea e ēnei mahi te hanga i tētahi rerekētanga nui:
- Me mōhio tāu tamaiti kei reira koe hei tautoko i a ia i ngā wā katoa e pōuri ana ia, e uaua ana rānei te whakahaere i ōna kare ā-roto.
- Āwhina i tāu tamaiti ki te waihanga i tētahi mahere haumaru mō te whakahaere i te ahotea, kia kore ai ia e hiahia ki te whara i a ia anō.
- Whakatenatenahia tāu tamaiti kia kōrero mō ōna wheako o ia rā, me te āwhina i a ia ki te whakapuaki i ōna kare ā-roto, ōna matea, ōna pouri, ōna angitu me ōna whakaaro.
- Whakarongo ki tāu tamaiti, whakamanahia ōna kare ā-roto, āwhina i a ia ki te rapu huarahi hei whakatau, ā, me noho tonu hei tautoko i a ia i ngā wā uaua.
- Whakaritea he wā mō ngā mahi ngahau, ngā mahi iti te taumahatanga, te noho tahi rānei. Ahakoa he hikoi, he eke waka, he kai tahi, he mahi tahi rānei i ngā mahi iti, ka āwhina ēnei wā ki te hanga whakawhirinaki.
- Arotahi ki ngā mea pai. Ahakoa he mea nui te aro atu ki ngā raruraru, kaua e aro noa ki aua mea. Me whakarite kia whai wāhi anō hoki ō kōrero mō ngā mea pai o te ao.
Kia maumahara, ko tō aroha, tō whakawhirinaki, me tō tautoko pumau ngā rauemi tino nui mō tāu tamaiti i tēnei wā tonu.
Kia Tauira Pai
He mea nui anō hoki te ārahi mā te tauira. Ka ako tāu tamaiti ki te tauhohe ki te ahotea mā te mātakitaki i a koe. Whakaarohia te āhua o tāu whakahaere i ō ake kare ā-roto, ōu pouri o ia rā, me ōu pēhanga. He tangata whakahē koe i a koe anō, he tere ki te whakapae i ētahi atu, he ngāwari rānei ki te pupuhi i te riri? Ki te kite koe i ngā tauira whanonga kāore koe e hiahia kia tangohia e tāu tamaiti, whakapau kaha ki te whakarerekē i aua tauira.
Whakamātauria te Manawanui me te Pupuri i te Tumanako
Hei whakamutunga, kia manawanui. Ko te kitenga kei te raru tāu tamaiti i te whara i a ia anō he tīmatanga tonu o tētahi haerenga roa. He roa te wā e hiahiatia ana hei whakaora—i ētahi wā, kāore pea te tamaiti i te rite ki te mutu, kāore rānei i a ia ngā taputapu hei hanga i ngā huringa e tika ana.
Me whai hihiri me te whakatau te whakamutu i te whara i a koe anō. Me whai mōhiotanga anō hoki ki a koe anō me te whakamahi i ngā pūkenga hou hei whakahaere i ngā kare ā-roto me te mamae nui. E hiahiatia ana te wā, ā, he maha ngā wā, he tautoko ngaio tonu tēnei.
Hei mātua, me manawanui tonu koe. Heoi, me te ārahi tika, te aroha, me te tautoko, me whakapono ka taea e tāu tamaiti te ako ki te whakahaere i ēnei kare ā-roto i roto i ngā huarahi hauora, me te whakamutu hoki i te whanonga.
Whakarāpopototanga me ngā Kaupapa Matua
Ko te tumanako ka āwhina ēnei mōhiohio i a koe ki te whakatere i tēnei āhuatanga. Kia maumahara, ko te whara i a koe anō e te taiohi he tohu kei te pāngia te taiohi e te mamae hinengaro nui.
Ngā mea tino nui hei maumahara:
- Ehara tēnei i te he o tāu tamaiti, ehara hoki i te he nōu. Kaua e whakapae i a koe anō.
- Tiakina tō ake oranga hinengaro. Ka taea anake e koe te tautoko i tāu tamaiti ina marino, ā, e tau ana tō hinengaro.
- Kōrero māhorahora. Whakarongo me te aroha me te ngākau aroha, kaua e riri, e whiu rānei.
- Rapua he āwhina ngaio. Ka taea e te kaiwhakaora hinengaro whai tohu te whakarato i ngā rautaki tohunga e hiahiatia ana hei whakahaere tika i tēnei āhuatanga.
- Me haere tonu te aroha, te tautoko, me te whakatenatena. Kia mōhio tāu tamaiti kāore ia i te mokemoke.
- Kia manawanui. He tukanga te whakaoranga. Kaua e ngaro te tumanako.
Kāore tō tamaiti i te mokemoke, me koe anō hoki. Mā te tautoko tika mai i Nirogi Lanka me ētahi atu tohunga, ka taea e koe te wikitoria i tēnei.
Ngā Kupumatua: Te Whakamamae i a Koe Anō, Te Hauora Hinengaro, Te Hauora Taiohi, Te Tautoko a ngā Mātua, Te Tohutohu, Te Whakaora
