He tino wehi koe kei hinga koe ki te aroha? Me kōrero tātou mō te Philophobia!

He mea ataahua te aroha, kāore? Engari ki ētahi tāngata, ko te whakaaro ki te aroha, ki te tīmata rānei i tētahi whanaungatanga ka tino whakamataku, ka tino taumaha hoki. Kua pērā anō ō whakaaro? Ki te pērā, ko koe pea tēnei. Ka kiia tēnei āhuatanga ko te philophobia.

He aha te Philophobia?

Ki te kī māmā noa, ko te Philophobia he wehi nui rawa, he wehi rerekē ki te aroha. Ehara i te mea he noa iho, 'Āe, kāore au i te pai ki te aroha.' He wehi hohonu ake, he wehi kaha ake. Nā tēnei wehi ka tino uaua, ā, i ētahi wā ka kore e taea, e ētahi tāngata te hanga me te pupuri i ngā whanaungatanga aroha. Ko "Philos" te kupu Kariki mō te mea e arohaina ana. Ko te tikanga o "Phobos" he wehi. Nō reira, ina honoa ēnei e rua, ka puta te tikanga o te 'wehi ki te aroha'.

Whakaarohia, ko te Kuīni tuatahi o Ingarangi i roto i te hītori, a Irihāpeti, kāore i moe wahine, ā, i mōhiotia ia ko te 'Kuīni Wahine.' E whakapono ana ētahi he mate philophobia anō hoki tōna.

Nā, he aha te mataku?

Tērā pea kei te whakaaro koe, 'He aha tēnei mataku?' Ko te mataku he wehi nui, he wehi rerekē ki ngā mea kāore pea e pā kino ki a tātou. Ko ēnei ngā mate manukanuka . Ko te philophobia he mate mataku motuhake . Arā, kei te wehi koe i tētahi mea motuhake, i te whakaaro ki te aroha i tēnei wā, i tētahi āhuatanga pērā rānei.

He pēhea te whānui o te philophobia?

He uaua ki te kī tika e hia ngā tāngata e pāngia ana e te philophobia. He tokomaha e huna ana i ō rātou wehi ki a rātou anō, kāore rānei e mōhio kei a rātou. Engari e mōhio ana tātou tata ki te 1 i roto i te 10 ngā pakeke me te 1 i roto i te 5 ngā taiohi i te Hononga o Amerika ka pāngia e tētahi phobia motuhake i tētahi wā o ō rātou oranga. Nō reira, ko te philophobia tētahi o aua mataku.

Ko wai te hunga e tino mōrearea ana ki te whakawhanake i te philophobia?

E kīia ana ko ngā wāhine te hunga e nui ake te tūponotanga ki te pāngia e ēnei momo mataku. Tērā atu anō hoki ētahi atu āhuatanga mōrearea:

• Hītori whānau: Ki te kite koe i ō mātua, i tētahi rānei e tata ana ki a koe e pāngia ana e te mate mataku, te mate manukanuka rānei, ka nui ake te tūponotanga ka pā mai he wehi ōrite ki a koe. Pērā i te wehi o te whaea ki ngā pungawerewere, ka nui ake te tūponotanga ka wehi tana tamaiti i ngā pungawerewere.
• Te awe ira: E ai ki ētahi rangahau he rerekētanga ira kei ētahi tāngata e ngawari ake ai rātou ki te pāngia e ngā mate manukanuka me ngā mataku.
• Te whai i ētahi atu mataku: He mea noa te whai i te neke atu i te kotahi mataku. Ko te tangata e mataku ana ki te aroha, tera pea ka mataku anō hoki ia ki te piripono (e kiia ana tēnei ko te gamophobia) , he mataku kei whakakahoretia, he mataku rānei kei whakarērea.

He aha ahau i mataku ai i te aroha?

Whakaarohia, he aha te take e mataku ai te tangata i tētahi mea ataahua pērā i te aroha? He maha ngā wā, ina tirohia ngā pūtake o tēnei wehi, ka taea te whai i te pānga ki tētahi wheako mamae i te tamarikitanga . He rite te philophobia ki tētahi urupare tiaki . Ki te kore koe e tuku i a koe anō kia aroha ki tētahi, tera pea ka whakaaro tō hinengaro huna kei te whakaora koe i a koe anō i te whara me te mamae.

Anei ētahi o ngā tino take o te philophobia:

• Ngā whanaungatanga kino o mua: Whakaarohia he tamaiti i mātakitaki i ōna mātua e whawhai ana, e whakarere ana rānei i a ia e tamariki ana. He mātua rānei i mate, i whakarērea, i tukinotia rānei i a ia e tamariki ana... He tino uaua ki te tamaiti kua pāngia e ēnei āhuatanga te aroha ki ētahi atu. He rite tonu ki ngā pakeke. Mena he tinihanga, he whakarere, he tukino, he whakarērea rānei te whanaungatanga o mua, ehara i te mea miharo ka wehi rātou ki te aroha anō. Whakaarohia, i tino mamae a Nimali i tana hoa tāne tuatahi. I muri i tēnā, ka pāngia ia e te manukanuka me te mataku ina whakaaro ia ki te tīmata anō i tētahi whanaungatanga.

• Te wehi kei whakakahoretia, kei whakarērea rānei: Mena i whakarērea koe e tētahi o ō mātua i a koe e tamariki ana, tera pea tētahi take mō tō wehi i te aroha. Ina whakarērea tonutia koe e ō hoa me ō hoa rangatira i a koe e pakeke ana, ka wehi pea koe i te aroha. Tērā pea ka whakaaro koe 'ka whakarērea ahau e tētahi.'

• Ngā pēhanga ahurea, ngā pēhanga whakapono rānei: Kāore ētahi ahurea e aro nui ana ki te aroha, ā, ka whakaritea ngā marena whakarite. Tērā pea ka wehi koe ki te aroha nā te mea kāore ōu mana ki te whiriwhiri i tō hoa. Waihoki, ki te mea he LGBTQ+ koe, tērā pea ka wehi koe ki te aroha mēnā he whakahē tō whakapono, tō ahurea rānei i te whanaungatanga. Nā te wehi kei peia koe e te hapori, kei whakakahoretia hoki e tō whānau.

• Te Mate Whakauru Hapori Kore-ā-Rohe (DSED): Ko te tamaiti kāore e whiwhi i te aro, te aroha, me te maioha e hiahiatia ana e ōna mātua, e ētahi atu pakeke rānei e whakawhirinakihia ana i a ia e tamariki ana, ka mataku pea ia i te aroha i a ia e tipu ake ana. Tērā pea ka pai ake te hononga o ēnei tamariki ki ngā tāngata tauhou i te hunga e arohaina ana e rātou. Ko te DSED he momo Mate Tāpiri Tauhohenga .

He aha ngā tohu o te philophobia?

Ka pā pea tēnei ki te hunga e wehi ana i te aroha i ngā huarahi rerekē. Tērā pea ka pāngia koe e ēnei e whai ake nei:

• Kāore e taea ngā whanaungatanga piripono, piripono.
• I a koe i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga , ka nui te manukanuka ka pā ki a koe , ā, kei te āwangawanga tonu koe kei mutu taua whanaungatanga.
• E mataku ana koe mō tō hoa, mō ōna kare ā-roto rānei .
• Ka pana atu rātou i te tangata, ka whakamutua rānei ngā whanaungatanga i muri i a rātou.

Ina pāngia koe e te aroha, ka pāngia pea koe e ngā tohu ā-tinana pēnei i ēnei:

• Pōuriuri
• Waha maroke
• Te rongo i te wehi nui, i te mataku rānei
• Whakapairuaki, ruaki, mate korere rānei
• Te werawera nui
• Te tere o te manawa me te tere o te ngakau
• Te wiri, te wiri rānei
• Te poto o te manawa

Me pēhea te mohio ki te philophobia?

Nā, me pēhea te tātaritanga a ngā tākuta i te philophobia? He aratohu tā te American Psychiatric Association e kīia ana ko te Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). Ka whakamahia e ngā tohunga hauora hinengaro pērā i ngā tohunga hinengaro hei tātaritanga i ngā phobia i runga i ngā tohu me te pānga ki tō oranga.

Ka whakamahia e ngā tākuta ēnei paearu hei tātaritanga i tētahi mataku motuhake pērā i te philophobia:

• He wehi tonu ki te aroha e ono marama te roa .
• He wehi nui, he manukanuka rānei e puta ake ana ina rongo koe i te aroha.
• Ka puta ngā tohu o te phobia ina tūtaki koe ki tētahi e arohaina ana e koe.
• Kaua e hoatu, e whiwhi rānei i te aroha nā te mea kei te akiaki koe i te manukanuka, i te wehi rānei .
• Ngā tohu kino e whakararuraru ana i te kaha ki te whakatū whanaungatanga piripono, whai tikanga.

Me pēhea te rongoā i te philophobia?

Kāore he rongoā mō tēnei? He tino rongoā tēnā. Mā te rongoā e kīia nei ko te Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) ka āwhina i a koe ki te wikitoria i te philophobia. He momo hinengaro whakaora tēnei. Ki te kī noa, he rongoā kōrero. Ka āwhina i a koe ki te tautuhi i ngā whakaaro me ngā whanonga e wehi ai koe i te aroha.

Tērā pea ka whai hua koe i tētahi momo rongoā whakararuraru e kiia nei ko te Systemic Desensitization Therapy . E kiia ana ka āwhina te rongoā whakararuraru i te neke atu i te 90% o te hunga he mataku motuhake tō rātou.

Koinei te āhua o tana mahi:

• Ka akona koe ki te whakahaere i ō tohu mā te whakamahi i ngā tikanga whakangā pēnei i ngā mahi manawa hōhonu me te whakaaroaro.
• Ka āta kitea te ariā o te aroha . Tuatahi ka whakaaroaro koe mō taua mea, kātahi ka kōrero mōna, kātahi ka meinga koe kia aro atu ki ngā āhuatanga nohinohi.
• He mahi whai hua tēnei hei āwhina i a koe ki te taunga ki te hoatu me te whiwhi i te aroha.

He aha ngā raruraru pea o te philophobia?

Ka aha mēnā ka tukuna e tātou tēnei wehi o te aroha? Ka pā te oranga kore aroha ki tō hauora tinana me tō hauora hinengaro. Nō reira, ka tūpono pea koe ki ngā āhuatanga pēnei i ēnei:

• Te Manukanuka, te Pouri, te Mate Pāwera rānei.
• Mō ngā tāne, he ngoikore te ure.
• Te Mate Auautanga Whai Muri i te Whara (PTSD).
• Te Mate Whakamahinga Matū.

Āhea koe me toro atu ki te tākuta?

Me tino toro atu koe ki te tākuta mēnā kei a koe tētahi o ēnei e whai ake nei:

• Kei te haere mai ngā whakaeke mataku .
• Mena kei te mau tonu tō manukanuka e whakararuraru ana i te oranga o ia rā, i te moe rānei.
• Mena kei a koe ngā tohu o te pouri , ngā raruraru rānei o te whakamahi matū kino .

He aha taku e pātai atu ai ki taku tākuta?

Ina kite koe i te tākuta, ka taea e koe te pātai i ēnei pātai:

• He aha ahau i pāngia ai e tēnei mataku?
• He aha te maimoatanga pai rawa atu mōku?
• Me whakamātau ahau i te rongoā hinengaro?
• Kia pēhea te roa e hiahiatia ai e au te rongoā?
• Ka taea e te rongoā te āwhina?

Hei whakamutunga, kia mahara...

He mea maori ki a tātou katoa te tiaki i a tātou anō i te mamae me te pōuri. Engari ki te mea kei te whakararuraru tō wehi i te aroha i a koe, i tō kaha rānei ki te whakatū whanaungatanga, koinei te tīmatanga o te raruraru.

Ko te hoatu me te whiwhi i te aroha me waiho hei mea e hari ai.

Ina wehi koe i te aroha nā te philophobia, ka noho mokemoke pea tō ao. Engari kia mahara, ka taea e koe te ako ki te whakatau i tēnei wehi mā roto i ngā mea pēnei i te CBT me te desensitization therapy . I roto i te wā, ka taea e koe te hanga whanaungatanga tata, aroha ki tō hoa rangatira, ki tō whānau, me ō hoa. Kaua e mamae ko koe anake, tonoa he āwhina. Kāore koe i te mokemoke.

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