Kua hoha koe ki a koe anō? Me kōrero tātou mō te Whakarihariha ki a Koe Anō!

Kei te whakarihariha koe ki a koe anō i ētahi wā? Kei te puta tonu mai ngā whakaaro pēnei i te "Kāore au i te mahi i tetahi mea tika", "He tino kino taku āhua", "E kore rawa ahau e pai" ki roto i tō hinengaro? Ko tēnei momo whakapae i a koe anō, te whakaiti i a koe anō, me te mauahara nui me te pouri ki a koe anō koinei te mea e kiia nei e tātou ko te whakarihariha ki a koe anō. He kare ā-roto tēnei e rite ana ki te mauahara ki a koe anō.

He aha te Whakarihariha-i-a-Whaiaro?

Ina pāngia koe e te whakarihariha ki a koe anō, ka tīmata koe ki te whakahē kino i a koe anō mō ​​tō āhua me ngā mea e mahia ana e koe. Ka whakanuia ia hapa, ia hapa e mahia ana e koe. Ka whakapae koe i a koe anō mō ​​aua hapa. Ka taea e tēnei te mea ka whakaaro koe he koretake, he koretake hoki koe.

Ki te whakaaro tonu tō hinengaro ki ngā mea kino, he tino uaua ki te kite i ngā mea pai, i ngā āhuatanga pai o te ao.

Ko te rongo pai, ka taea e tātou te whakarerekē i ēnei tauira whakaaro. Engari i ētahi wā he uaua ki te mahi ko tātou anake. Nō reira, kaua e mangere ki te tono āwhina i te tākuta. Ka taea e rātou te āwhina i a koe kia pai ake tō wairua, me te ārahi i a koe ki te whakarerekē i ēnei tauira whakaaro.

He aha ngā kare ā-roto me ngā tohu o te tangata e whakarihariha ana ki a ia anō?

Ka pā pea tēnei āhuatanga ki ō kare ā-roto me ō whanonga. Tērā pea ka ngaro tō hiahia ki tētahi mea, ā, ka iti ake tō hihiri ki te mahi i ngā mea pai. Hei tauira, tērā pea ka whakaaro koe he koretake te ngana ki te whiwhi whakatairanga i te mahi. Kāore rānei koe e whakaaro ki tō hauora tinana nā ēnei whakaaro kino.

Tērā pea ka puta mai ētahi atu tohu me tēnei mate. Me titiro mārama tātou ki ēnei.

Nō hea ēnei whakaaro ka puta mai?

Tērā pea he rerekē te āhua o ēnei whakaaro mō ia tangata, mō ia tangata. Engari i te nuinga o te wā, ko ngā mea matua ko te kore aroha ki a ia anō, te whakapae nui ki a ia anō, te kore whakapono ki a ia anō, me te ahotea tonu. Ko ngā whakaaro ka puta ake ki tō hinengaro penei pea:

He huringa noa iho te mahi a ēnei whakaaro me ngā kare ā-roto kino. Ina puta he whakaaro kino ki roto i tō hinengaro, ka pōuri koe. Ka arahi taua kare ā-roto kino ki ētahi atu whakaaro kino. Ka haere tonu tēnei huringa.

He mate hinengaro te whakarihariha ki a ia anō? He aha te take?

Kāo. Ehara te whakarihariha ki a ia anō i te mate hinengaro. Heoi, he tohu pea nō ētahi atu mate hauora hinengaro. Ko te mate tino noa, ā, ko te mate tino noa e pā ana ki tēnei ko te pouri .

He maha ngā take e whakarihariha ai koe ki a koe anō. He mea tēnei e whanake haere ana i roto i te wā.

• Āhuatanga hauora hinengaro matua: Kei te pāngia koe e tētahi āhuatanga pēnei i te pouri, te manukanuka rānei.
• Ngā wheako kino o te tamarikitanga:Te riria tonutia, te whakahēngia, te tūtaki rānei ki ngā mahi mamae a ngā mātua, ngā kaiako, ngā hoa rānei.
• Ngā tumanakohanga pāpori me ngā whakataurite: Te whakataurite i a koe anō ki ētahi atu, te whakaaro, "Kāore e taea e au te rite ki a ia," "Kāore au i te ataahua pērā i te tangata kē."
• Te Hiranga Rawa: Ko te whakapono me mahi ngā mea katoa kia tino tika, me te whakapono kāore e taea te mahi i tētahi hapa iti noa iho.
• Te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō me te kore whakapono ki a ia anō.

Me aha tātou kia puta ai i tēnei āhuatanga?

He uaua pea te whakahaere i te whakarihariha ki a koe anō i ētahi wā. Nō reira, he pai ake te kōrero ki tētahi kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro hauora hinengaro , ki tētahi tākuta rānei, hei āwhina i a koe ki te whakatau i ēnei whakaaro me ngā kare ā-roto uaua.

Tērā pea ka tūtohu rātou i tētahi huarahi maimoatanga pēnei i te Whakaora Whanoke Hinengaro (CBT) . He whakarāpopototanga noa iho tēnei, he whakaora kōrero hei āwhina i a koe ki te mārama ki te hononga i waenga i ō whakaaro, ō kare ā-roto, me ō whanonga, ā, hei āwhina hoki i a koe ki te whakarerekē i aua tauira whakaaro kino.

Ngā mea ka taea e koe te whakamātau i a koe anō

Hei wawahi i tēnei huringa o ngā whakaaro kino, me roa te wā me te mahi. Anei ētahi tohutohu hei āwhina i a koe:

• Mahia ngā mea e hari ai koe. Ina puta mai ngā whakaaro kino, mahia tetahi mea hei whakararu i a koe i aua whakaaro.
• Kia maumahara ki tētahi wheako pai. Ina haere koe ki te mahi i tētahi mea, ā, ka whakaaro koe, "Kāore e taea e au tēnei," kia maumahara ki tētahi wā i pai ai tāu mahi i mua.
• Hurihia tō taiao. Ahakoa he mea iti noa iho pēnei i te whakairi i tētahi pikitia o ō hoa aroha i te taha o tō whakaata, ka taea e koe te whakapai ake i tō wairua.
• Wāwāhia ngā raruraru nui kia iti. Kaua e ngana ki te mahi i tētahi mea nui i te wā kotahi, engari me mahi i ia taahiraa.
• Arotahi ki tāu mahi, kaua ki te hua. Hei tauira, kaua e aro ki te tuatahi i te reihi oma, engari arotahi ki te whakaoti i te reihi.

Ko tētahi atu huarahi pai hei whakatau i tēnei āhuatanga ko te kōrero ki te "tangata hou" i roto i tōu mahunga. Whakaarohia kei roto i tōu mahunga tētahi tangata e kī ana he hē ngā mahi katoa e mahia ana e koe. Kua kōrero koe ki a rātou? Whakamātauria tēnei:

1. Kōrerotia te whakaaro kino e puta ake ana i roto i tō hinengaro.

2. Pātai atu ki a koe anō: "Ka kōrerotia rānei e au tētahi mea pēnei ki tētahi o aku hoa pai?"

3. Mena ko te whakautu he "kāo",Whakaarohia mēnā ka taea e koe te whakahua anō i tēnei whakaaro i roto i tētahi huarahi whai hua, whai hua ake. (Me whakamahi au i tētahi kupu pēnei i te "pai" me te "auaha" hei utu mō te "whai hua." Kāo, kei roto i ētahi atu reo tēnā. He pai ake te "whai hua" me te "pai".) Me whakaaro anō tātou: Ki te mea ko te whakautu he "kāo," whakaarohia mēnā ka taea e koe te whakahua anō i tēnei whakaaro i roto i tētahi huarahi whai hua ake, whai hua ake rānei.

Ina kōrero koe ki a koe anō pēnei, ka tīmata koe ki te mōhio ki te kore tika me te kore aroha o tōu ki a koe anō. He huarahi pai tēnei hei whakatuwhera i te kuaha ki te atawhai i a koe anō me te aroha.

Āhea rawa koe me toro atu ki te tākuta?

He mea noa te whakaaro kino ki a koe anō i ētahi wā. Engari, ki te mea kei te kaha rawa atu ēnei whakaaro ki tō hinengaro, ā, kei te whakararuraru i ō mahi o ia rā, tae noa ki te kore e taea e koe te mahi, kua tae ki te wā ki te kōrero ki te tākuta.

Anei ētahi o aua take:

• Mena kua rerekē ō tikanga kai.
• Mena kei te pā tēnei ki tō mahi i te kura, i te mahi rānei.
• Mena kua rerekē tō āhua moe.
• "Kāore au i te pai te āhua " hei karo i ngā mahi pāpori me ngā kawenga (me whakamahi au i te "Kāore au i te pai te āhua " hei utu mō te "Kāore au i te pai te āhua." Kāore, e rua ngā mea he. Me whakamahi au i tētahi kīanga Sinhala noa pēnei i te "Kāore au i te pai te āhua.") Me whakaaro anō tātou: Ki te mea koe "Kāore au i te pai te āhua" hei karo i ngā mahi pāpori me ngā kawenga, ka kitea pea koe e mea ana "Kāore au i te pai te āhua."

I ētahi wā ka piki ake ēnei whakaaro whakarihariha ki a koe anō ki ngā whakaaro mō te whara, te whakamate rānei i a koe anō . Ki te tīmata koe ki te whakaaro pēnei, kia mahara kāore koe i te mokemoke. Kei te wātea te āwhina. Kōrero tonu ki tētahi e whakawhirinaki ana koe. Tirohia he tākuta tonu, haere rānei ki te Tari Whawhati Tata (ETU) i te hōhipera tata ki a koe. He mea tino nui tēnei.