Kei te rongo koe i te nui o te pēhanga me te taumahatanga i roto i tō hinengaro mai i te oho ake i te ata? Mahi tari, raruraru whare, mahi tamariki, raruraru moni... Ina tae mai ēnei mea tetahi i muri i tetahi, ka hoha koe ki ngā mea katoa, ā, ka rite koe ki te pahū o tō mahunga, tika? Ka rongo tātou katoa i tēnei momo pēhanga, arā, te ahotea , i tētahi wā, i tētahi wā rānei o ō tātou oranga. He mea noa iho. Engari ko te mea nui ko te ako ki te whakahaere i tēnei ahotea me te aro atu ki a ia, kaua e tukua kia whakahaere i a tātou. I tēnei rā, ka kōrero tātou mō tēnei.
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He aha te mea nui kia ako tātou ki te aro atu ki te ahotea?
Ki te kī māmā noa, ko te 'whakatutuki' i te ahotea ko te ngana ki te pupuri i te taurite o tō tātou hinengaro me tō tātou tinana, me te kore e tukua kia hinga, ina tūtaki tātou ki ngā wero, ki ngā raruraru, ki ngā mea rānei e uaua ana ki a tātou te whakahaere i te ao. He rite tēnei ki te ngana ki te whakahaere i tētahi kaipuke i te wā o te tupuhi.
He maha ngā wā ka whakamahia e tātou te kupu 'aumahatanga' e pā ana ki ngā mea kino o te ao. Whakaarohia, ina ngaro tā tātou mahi, ina ngaro tā tātou e arohaina ana, ina pāngia rānei tātou e te mate kino, e te aituā rānei, ka tino pāngia tātou e te ahotea. He pono.
Engari i mōhio koe ahakoa ngā mea pai rawa atu o te ao ka taea te whakararuraru ? Kāore i te mīharo? Whakaarohia te marena. Ahakoa te whakahihiri, te whakarite i te marena, te urutau ki tētahi whānau hou, te tango i ngā kawenga hou... he nui te pēhanga e puta mai ana i ēnei katoa. Pērā anō hoki mō te whānautanga o tētahi pēpi hou. Koinei te hari nui rawa atu o te ao. Engari i te wa ano, ko te noho pō roa, te tiaki i te pēpi, me te tango i ngā kawenga hou ka nui te taumahatanga ki ngā mātua e rua.
Nā te aha rā ēnei huringa e whakararuraru ana i a tātou? Nā te mea, me urutau tātou ki ngā huringa nui, iti rānei o ō tātou ao. Me nui ake te kaha me te whakapau kaha o ō tātou hinengaro me tō tātou tinana. Ki te nui rawa ngā huringa ka pā ki a tātou i roto i te wā poto, ka tīmata tātou ki te whakaaro, "Āe, kāore e taea e au te whakahaere i tetahi mea."
Ko tēnei kare ā-roto o te "kore mana whakahaere" te mea tino morearea. Ka whakaiti i tō tātou whakapono ki a tātou anō, ā, i ētahi wā ka arahi pea ki ngā mate hinengaro pērā i te manukanuka me te pouri . Ehara i te mea koinā anake, engari ka taea e te ahotea tonu te whakararu i te tinana, te whakararu rānei i ngā mate o nāianei.
He wā poto noa iho ētahi o ngā taumahatanga. Hei tauira, te neke ki tētahi whare hou. Kia oti te mahi, ka memeha haere te taumahatanga. Engari ko ētahi he wā roa. Ngā mea pēnei i te mamae mau tonu, te mate kore e taea te whakaora, ngā raruraru pūtea tonu rānei. Ina noho tātou me tēnei taumahatanga mō te wā roa, ka noho teitei tonu ngā homoni e pā ana ki te taumahatanga o te tinana, ā, ka roa te wā ka ngoikore ai ō tātou tinana, ka ngāwari ake ai tātou ki te pāngia e te mate.
Āe, he aha ngā tikanga ka taea e tātou te whakamahi hei whakatau i tēnei ahotea?
He rite te whakatau i te ahotea ki tētahi pouaka taputapu. He rerekē ngā taputapu mō ngā raruraru rerekē. Kāore e rite te mahi a ngā taputapu katoa. Anei ētahi o ngā taputapu ka taea e tātou te whakamahi. Ka whakamāramahia e au i roto i tētahi ripanga.
| Tikanga aro atu | Hei whakarāpopototanga... |
|---|---|
| Whakaitihia ō tumanakohanga. | Kaua e whakaaro me tino tika katoa ngā mea. I ētahi wā he mea whakamarie te kī noa, "Kua nui tēnei." |
| Pātai atu ki ētahi atu mō te āwhina. | Kaua e whakama ki te pātai atu, "He uaua ki ahau te mahi i tēnei ko au anake, ka taea e koe te āwhina i ahau?" Ehara i te ngoikore, engari he kaha. |
| Whakaaetia te āhuatanga, ā, tangohia te kawenga. | Engari kaua e oma atu i te raruraru, whakaarohia, "Āe, koinei te āhuatanga, me aha ahau ināianei?" ka arotahi ki tāu e taea ai. |
| Ngāna ki te whakaoti i te raruraru. | Tāutuhia te take o te raruraru, hangaia he rārangi o ngā otinga ka taea, ka whakamātauria takitahi. |
| Kia mau tonu te whanaungatanga hoa. | Kōrero ki ō hoa me tō whānau e aroha ana ki a koe, e mārama ana hoki ki a koe. Kōrerohia ō whakaaro. Koinei te rongoā tino pai. |
| Whakahaere (whakakore rānei) i ngā kare ā-roto | He mea nui i ētahi wā kia noho marino. Engari i ētahi wā, he mea nui ake te whakapuaki i tō pouri me tō riri ki tētahi e whakawhirinaki ana koe. |
| Tawhiti atu i te raruraru. | Engari kaua e whakaaro tonu ki te mea kotahi, kaua e wareware ki ngā mea katoa mō tētahi wā. Mātakihia he kiriata, whakarongo ki tētahi waiata, pānuihia he pukapuka. |
| Te tirohanga mai i te tirohanga whakapono | Ki te mea he tangata whakapono koe, ka taea e koe te whiwhi i te rangimārie hinengaro nui mā te whakaaroaro, te haere ki ngā temepara/hāhi/temepara, me te whai wāhi atu ki ngā kawa whakapono. |
Kāore e mahi te tikanga kotahi mō ngā mea katoa, tika?
He mea tino nui tēnei. Ehara i te mea kotahi te wā e taea ai te whakatau i te ahotea. He tukanga . Ahakoa he rite tonu te raruraru ki a koe, me whakamahi pea koe i ētahi o ngā tikanga kua whakahuatia i runga ake nei i ngā wā rerekē.
He rerekē hoki tātou katoa, he tangata. Ko ētahi e hiahia ana ki te whakaoti rapanga ina puta ake. Ko ētahi e hiahia ana ki te kōrero ki tētahi hoa me te whakapuaki i ō rātou kare ā-roto. Kāore he he o tēnei. Ko te mea nui ko te ngāwari . Arā, kia taea te whiriwhiri i te huarahi pai hei whakatau i te āhuatanga.
Me titiro tātou ki tētahi tauira. Whakaarohia kei raro koe i te ahotea nui i te tari nā te mea kāore e taea e koe te whakaoti i tētahi kaupapa. Ko te tikanga tino tika i konei ko te tikanga 'ngana ki te whakaoti i te raruraru'. Arā, te wehewehe i te mahi kia wāhanga, te hanga i tētahi mahere, me te mahi i runga. Engari whakaarohia kei te pāngia tētahi o tō whānau e tētahi mate kāore e taea te whakaora. Kāore e taea e koe te whakarerekē i tēnā. Kāore he painga o te 'whakaoti i te raruraru' i taua take. I roto i tēnei āhuatanga, ko ngā tikanga tino tika ko te 'pupuri i ngā whanaungatanga hoa' me te 'whakaatu i ngā kare ā-roto'. E mārama ana koe ki te rerekētanga?
Tō whakangungu rakau pai rawa atu mō te ahotea
Ahakoa te maha o ngā huarahi e kōrero ai tātou mō tēnei mea, ko te mea pai rawa atu, ko te mea tino kaha rawa atu hoki hei tiaki i a tātou i te ahotea, ko te whai hononga pai ki ētahi atu tāngata. E mano ngā rangahau kua whakamātauhia ko te whakaaro kei reira tētahi hei kōrero i ō kare ā-roto ki a koe, hei tono āwhina, hei mārama ki a koe, ka tiaki i a koe i ngā pānga kino o te ahotea.
Nō reira, kaua rawa e wareware ki ngā whanaungatanga kei a koe me tō whānau me ō hoa tata. Ahakoa te pukumahi o tō ao, kimihia he wā hei kōrero ki a rātou, me te tūtaki ki a rātou i te iti rawa i te kotahi i te wiki. Koinei te haumi nui rawa atu ka taea e koe te mahi ki a koe anō.
Me tīmata tāua ki tō āhua noho?
Ina pāngia koe e te ahotea nui, he mea nui kia tirohia tō āhua noho katoa. Nā te mea he nui te pānga o ā tātou tikanga o ia rā ki tō tātou kaha ki te aro atu ki te ahotea. Anei ētahi mea māmā engari he tino whai hua ka taea e koe te tāpiri atu ki tō oranga.
| Me aha? | He aha te hiranga o tēnā? |
|---|---|
| Kia nui, kia pai te moe. | He wā te moe mō te hinengaro me te tinana ki te 'whakahou'. He mea nui kia moe pai mō te 7-8 hāora i te rā. Kati te titiro ki tō waea me tō pouaka whakaata i te hāora i mua i te moe. |
| Kai i te kai taurite. | Ina piki ake te ahotea, tera pea ka hiahia koe ki te kai i ngā kai reka me ngā kai hinuhinu. Engari ka nui ake te taumaha o ēnei kai ki tō tinana me tō hinengaro. Inuhia he nui ngā huawhenua, ngā hua rākau, me te wai ma. |
| Whakakorikori tinana i ia wā, i ia wā. | Ina whakakorikori tinana tātou, ka tukuna ngā homoni e hari ai tātou. E 30 meneti noa iho o te hikoi tere, te oma, te kanikani rānei i te rā, ka nui te rerekētanga. |
| Whakangāwaritia ngā wā poto i te awatea. | Kaua e mahi tonu, whakatika, ka hikoi mō te 5 meneti i ia hāora, katia ō kanohi, ka manawa hōhonu. Hoatu he herekoretanga ki tō mahunga. |
| Mahia tetahi mea ngahau. | Whakapaua kia 15 meneti pea ia rā ki te mahi i tētahi mea e pai ana ki a koe. Tērā pea he whakarongo waiata, he tākaro tahi me tāu mōkai, he whakato putiputi rānei ki te māra. |
| Whakaharatauhia ngā mahi whakamarie. | He tino whakamarie ngā mahi pēnei i te yoga, te whakaaroaro, me ngā mahi manawa. Ka taea e koe te ako i ēnei i runga ipurangi. |
| Āta karohia te kawheine me te waipiro. | Ahakoa e whakamahia ana ēnei hei whakamamae i te ahotea, ka whakanui ake i te ahotea. He whakaora rangitahi noa iho ēnei, engari i te wā roa ka nui te kino ka pā mai. |
Kia maumahara, ki te kore tonu e taea e koe te aro atu ki te ahotea, ā, kei te pōuri koe, kei te kore rānei e taea e koe te mahi i ō mahi o ia rā, kāore i te roa rawa te haere ki te tākuta mō ētahi tohutohu . Ehara i te mea hei whakama. Pērā i tā tātou haere ki te tākuta ina mate ō tātou tinana, he mea nui anō hoki te rapu āwhina ina raruraru ō tātou hinengaro.
He haerenga e kī ana i ngā wero te ao. He mea ka tūtaki tonu tātou ki te ahotea i taua haerenga. Kāore e taea e tātou te mawhiti. Engari ka taea e tātou te aro atu ki tēnei, te noho tahi me tēnei, me te ako ki te whakamahi hei kaha mō tātou.
Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga
- He tauhohenga noa te ahotea ki ngā huringa o te ao. Ahakoa ngā huringa pai ka taea te whakararuraru.
- Ka pā kino te ahotea mō te wā roa ki a koe i te hinengaro me te tinana.
- Kāore he huarahi kotahi hei whakatau i te ahotea. Kia ngāwari, kia whakamahia hoki ngā tikanga rerekē hei whakatutuki i te āhuatanga.
- Ko tō whānau me ō hoa pono te parenga pai rawa atu. Kia mau tonu aua whanaungatanga.
- Mā ngā mea ngāwari pēnei i te moe pai, te kai taurite, te whakakori tinana, me te wātea ka āwhina nui ki te whakahaere i te ahotea.
- Ki te mea kei te raru koe i te aro atu ki tēnei ahotea, kaua e mangere ki te toro atu ki te tākuta mō ētahi tohutohu.
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