Ina rongo tātou i te kupu "aukati", kāore tātou e whakaaro he kare pai, koia rā? Engari, i ētahi wā he pai te iti o te aukati. Whakaarohia te iti o te wehi me te harikoa e pā ana ki a koe ina tīmata koe i tētahi mahi hou, i tētahi whanaungatanga hou rānei. Mā taua momo aukati ka homai he kaha me te hihiri ki a tātou ki te aro atu ki ngā wero me te whakamātau i ngā mea hou. Ka āwhina hoki i a tātou ki te mahi tere i roto i ngā āhuatanga morearea.
Engari kāore e roa te noho o tēnei ahotea pai. Ka hoatu e ia te kaha e hiahiatia ana e koe mō tēnei wā, kātahi ka ngaro atu. Engari ki te roa te wā e pāngia ana koe e te ahotea, ka kore e taea te whakamanawanui, ā, ka pā ki a koe te tinana me te hinengaro. Ki te kī noa, ahakoa he pai te mahi a te urupare ahotea a tō tātou tinana i te wā poto, ki te whakahohehia i te wā roa, kāore e taea e tō tātou pūnaha katoa te whakahaere.
He aha te whanaungatanga i waenga i te ahotea me te pouri?
Ko te ahotea roa, e kiia nei e tātou ko te ahotea mau tonu , ka arahi pea ki tētahi mea kino atu, arā, ko te pouri. He mate hinengaro te pouri e pōuri ai koe i ngā wā katoa, e ngaro ai hoki tō hiahia ki ngā mea i pai ai koe ki mua. Ka pā hoki te pouri ki tō hiahia kai, tō moe, me tō kaha ki te arotahi.
Ko te mea whakamiharo ko te āhua kē atu o tēnei mahi. Ara, ka taea hoki e te pouri te whakararu i te ahotea.
E ai ki ngā tohunga he "ara rua" te hononga i waenga i te ahotea me te pouri. Arā, ka taea e tetahi te whakaputa i tētahi atu, ka taea hoki e tetahi te whakaputa i te tuatahi. Ka taea e ngā mea e rua te whakakino ake i te āhuatanga.
He mārama rawa te āhua o te whakararuraru o te pouri. Whakaarohia, ki te pāngia koe e te pouri, ka raru tō oranga katoa. Ka ngana koe ki te noho tawhiti atu i te hapori, ki te noho mokemoke. Ka mutu tō whakahoahoa ki ngā hoa, te haere ki te mahi, ki te kura, me ngā mea katoa i mahia e koe mō te ngahau. Ina pēnei te mokemoke o te ngākau, ka piki ake te ahotea e pā ana ki a koe, kāore? Nō reira, koinei te āhua o te whakararuraru o te pouri.
Ā, he nui ngā taunakitanga e whakaatu ana he pono anō hoki te taha kē o tēnei. Ko tētahi mea e tino pāngia ai te hinengaro, pērā i te whakarere, i tētahi raruraru pūtea nui rānei, he tino pāngia ai te hinengaro. Ka pōrearea te hinengaro. Ina nui haere te ahotea pēnei, ka puta he mea. He maha ngā wā, ko te pouri tēnā.
Engari kāore anō kia tino mārama te pūtake o te pouri i te ahotea. Engari e mārama ana ko te ahotea roa ka whakanui ake i te tūponotanga o te pouri. Hei tauira, kua tino piki ake te horapa o te pouri i waenga i te hunga rangatahi i muri i te mate urutā Covid. E whakaarohia ana ko te take o tēnei ko te noho mokemoke, te whakararuraru i ngā tauira oranga noa, me te ahotea whānui e pā ana ki te mātauranga me te mahi.
Me aha tātou hei wawahi i tēnei huringa ahotea-pouri?
I ētahi wā, mā te hanga i ngā huringa iti ki tō tātou āhua noho ka āwhina i te wawahi i tēnei huringa kino o te ahotea me te pouri. Ko te mea nui ko te whakaaro pai ki te āhua o tō whakatau i te ahotea.
Ko te taahiraa tino nui ko te whakaaro, "Āe, ka mahi kaha ahau i tētahi mea hei whakatau i tēnei," kaua e whakaaro, "Kei te ahotea ahau, ka pāngia ahau e te pouri inaianei." Kaua e noho noa i reira me te whakaaro, "Ka whakamanawanui ahau ki tēnei."
Anei ētahi mea hei āwhina i a koe:
| Mahi | He aha te mea hei mahi, ā, he aha te mea nui? |
|---|---|
| Whakakorikori tinana. | He nui te rerekētanga mā te whakakorikori tinana mō te 30 meneti i te rā, e rima ngā rā i te wiki. Mā ngā mahi pēnei i te hikoi me te yoga ka āwhina i te whakamarie i te hinengaro me te whakaiti i te ahotea. |
| Kaua e kai nui, kaua hoki e inu nui. | Ahakoa he wā poto noa iho ēnei hei whakaora i te tinana, kāore e āwhina i te wā roa. Haunga te kino ki te tinana, tera pea ka whakama koe i a koe anō i muri mai. Ka whakararuraru te inu waipiro nui i te moe. |
| Whakawhāitihia te kawheine. | Ka taea e te kawheine, kei roto i te kawhe, i ētahi tī, me ngā inu waikore, te whakararuraru i a koe, me te whakanui ake i te ahotea. Whakaitihia ēnei i te mea e taea ana. |
| Kaua e kai hikareti. | He pakiwaitara nui te kī he whakaiti te momi hikareti i te ahotea. Tērā pea ka whakaratohia e te nikotīni he whakamarie rangitahi, engari he poto noa iho te wā e mau ana. Kātahi ka memeha haere, ka piki ake te hiahia, ka nui ake te ahotea. |
| Whakaritea he wā māu ake. | Mahia ngā mea e pai ana ki a koe, e whakahari ai i a koe. Pānuihia he pukapuka, whakarongo ki te waiata, mātakihia he kiriata. Arotahi ki ngā mea e pai ana koe ki te mahi. |
| Āta karohia ngā mea e whakararuraru ana i te ahotea. | Ki te mōhio koe kei te whakararuraru tetahi mea, tetahi tangata rānei i a koe, ngana kia karohia taua āhuatanga, taua tangata rānei i ngā wā katoa e taea ana. |
| Kia pai te moe i te pō. | Kia tino whiwhi tō hinengaro me tō tinana i te okiokinga e hiahiatia ana e rātou. E taunakihia ana kia 7-9 hāora moe mō te pakeke i te rā. |
Ki te mea kei te pouri koe, ko te mea nui ko te whakakore i te whakaaro kore tumanako e mea ana 'ahakoa taku mahi, kāore he aha.' Kāore tēnā i te pono. Ahakoa ngā mea iti ka taea e koe te hanga i tētahi rerekētanga nui.
Inoi atu mō te āwhina, kaua e mamae ko koe anake.
Ko tētahi atu huarahi pai hei whakaiti i ngā pānga o te ahotea me te pouri ko te kore e ngana ki te whakahaere i ēnei mea ko koe anake. Ka taea e ngā whanaungatanga kaha, tautoko te hanga i tētahi rerekētanga nui.
He āhua mokemoke, he āhua mokemoke hoki te pouri. Nō reira, ko te mea pai rawa atu māu ko te kimi huarahi hei hono anō i te whanaungatanga. He mea tino nui te kōrero ki tētahi, ki tētahi, ki ētahi rānei o ō hoa pono.
Mā te kōrero ki ō hoa me tō whānau koe e āwhina ki te mārama ake ki ngā take o tō ahotea. He taahiraa nui tēnei ki mua.
Engari i te kī noa, "Kei te ahotea ahau," he nui ake te āwhina ki te tautuhi i ngā mea motuhake e tino whakararuraru ana i a koe, e pā ana hoki ki tō oranga. He āwhina nui te whai i tētahi hei kōrero atu mō tēnā.
I ētahi wā, ko te tino whakamarie anake ko te kōrero mō ō whakaaro ki tētahi e whakarongo mai ana, kaua ki te kīia atu "me mahi tēnei, me mahi tērā".
Te tiki āwhina ngaio
Ki te kore e āwhina te kōrero ki ngā hoa me te whānau, ka taea e koe te rapu āwhina ngaio . Arā, me toro atu ki tētahi tākuta me te kōrero mō taua mea. Ka taea e ia te tuku atu i a koe ki tētahi tohunga hinengaro, ki tētahi kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro rānei mēnā e tika ana.
Ko tētahi tikanga maimoatanga mō tēnei ko te rongoā hinengaro-whanonga (CBT).. He whakarāpopototanga noa iho, ka mahi tēnei tikanga maimoatanga mā te whakarerekē i ō tātou whakaaro me ngā whanonga, ka āwhina i a tātou ki te whakahoki mai i te mana whakahaere o ō tātou oranga. Ka āwhina tēnei tikanga CBT i a tātou ki te whakaaro, "He aha te mea iti rawa ka taea e au te mahi i tēnei rā? Me pēhea taku mahi? He aha te hua?" Nō reira, he taputapu mātauranga pai, he tikanga maimoatanga anō hoki.
Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga
- He hononga te ahotea me te pouri. Ka taea e tetahi te whakararu i tetahi, te whakakino rānei i te āhuatanga.
- Mā ngā whakarerekētanga ngāwari o te noho pēnei i te whakakori tinana, te kai pai, me te moe tika ka tino whakaora i te mate.
- Kaua e whawhai ko koe anake ki ēnei take. Kōrero ki tētahi hoa pono, ki tētahi mema rānei o te whānau. He kaha nui tēnā.
- Ki te mea he uaua ki a koe te whakahaere i tēnei ahakoa kua kōrero koe ki tō whānau, kaua e mangere ki te toro atu ki te tākuta . Ehara te rapu āwhina ngaio i te tohu ngoikore, engari he tohu kei te āwhina koe i a koe anō.
- He huarahi tino whai hua ngā maimoatanga pēnei i te whakaora whanonga hinengaro (CBT) hei whakahaere i ō whakaaro me ō whanonga.
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