Kei te whaia e tātou katoa tetahi mea i te ao, kāore? I ētahi wā ka tino pai te haere o ngā mea i runga i te mahere, engari i ētahi wā, ka tūtaki tātou ki tētahi "kāo" me tētahi "kāo" i tēnei wā. Tērā pea he wheako tino uaua, he mamae hoki te whakahēngia. Engari i mōhio koe? He wāhanga tino noa tēnei o te ao e pā ana ki te katoa i tētahi wā.
He aha te Whakakorenga?
He whakarāpopototanga noa iho, ka puta te whakakorenga ina whakakahoretia tetahi mea e tumanakohia ana e koe, tetahi mea e tino hiahiatia ana e koe, tetahi mea rānei e tonoa ana e koe. Tērā pea he huihuinga nui, he huihuinga nui tēnei, pērā i te whakakorenga i muri i tētahi uiui mahi i whakapau kaha koe ki te whiwhi. Tērā pea he huihuinga iti, o ia rā, pērā i te korenga o tetahi e kata ki tētahi katakata i kōrerotia e koe i waenganui i ngā hoa. Ahakoa pēhea, he mamae, kāore?
He aha te tino mamae o te whakakorenga?
Tērā pea koe e whakaaro ana, "He aha te mamae o tōku ngākau mō tētahi mea iti nei?" He aha te kaha o te whakahē ki a tātou?
Whakaarohia: hei tangata, e hiahia ana tātou kia manakohia e ētahi atu, kia arohaina, kia whakaurua hoki ki te rōpū. He matea hinengaro taketake tēnei. Nō reira, ina whakakahoretia tātou e tetahi, ka whakaaro noa tātou kua peia tātou, kāore e hiahiatia, kāore rānei i te pai.
He mea whakamiharo, kua kitea e ētahi rangahau pūtaiao ko ngā wāhanga o te roro e rongo ana i te mamae tinana ka whakahohehia anō hoki ina pāngia tātou e te mamae kare ā-roto o te whakakahoretia! Ko te tikanga tēnei e whakaaro ana tō tātou roro ki te mamae kare ā-roto hei momo "mamae." Koia te take he uaua rawa te whakahaere i te whakakahoretanga .
Ngā mea nunui, ngā mea iti - Kei ngā wāhi katoa te whakakorenga
E ai ki tā tātou i kōrero ai, kāore te whakakorenga e herea noa ki ngā huihuinga nui. Tirohia ēnei tauira:
- Kāore i eke ki te akoranga whare wānanga i mahi nui koe, me te mea hoki i tumanako nui ai koe.
- I whakaaro koe ka tino uru koe ki te tīma hākinakina o te kura ( sports ), kātahi ka ngaro tō ingoa i te rārangi.
- Kāore tetahi o ngā tāngata e pai ana ki a koe e aro ki a koe, ā, e kōrero harikoa ana ki te katoa, i a koe e tū ana i reira.
- I haere tētahi hoa i whakaaro koe ko tō "hoa pai" i tētahi haerenga, kāore i te whakamōhio atu ki a koe.
He wā nui, he wā mamae aua wā. Engari he wā iti anō hoki e pā ana ki ia rā:
- Kāore i kataina tētahi katakata i kōrerotia e koe i roto i tētahi rōpū.
- Kāore he tangata i whakaora i tētahi nohoanga mōu i te tēpu tina.
- I tukuna e koe he karere ki tētahi hoa, ā, ahakoa i kitea e rātou, kāore rātou i whakautu mai .
- E ai ki tētahi "kāore i te reka" te kai i taka e koe.
Ahakoa ngā huihuinga iti pēnei i ēnei, ka taea e tātou te taumaha rawa atu ina nui haere. Ka pā nui pea ēnei ki tō tātou whakaaro nui ki a tātou anō , ki te whakapono ki a tātou anō, me te āhua o tō tātou tirohanga ki a tātou anō.
Me pēhea koe e whakatau ai i te whakakorenga?
Nā, me pēhea e taea ai e koe te whakahaere angitu i ngā āhuatanga pēnei? Me pēhea e koe te whakaiti i te mamae, te pōuri, me te riri? Me titiro tātou ki tēnei taahiraa i ia taahiraa.
1. Kia mārama ki ō kare ā-roto, ā, hoatu he wāhi ki a rātou
Ko te mea nui, kaua e huna i ō kare ā-roto ina whakakahoretia koe. Te pouri, te riri, te pouri, te wehi rānei—he kare ā-tangata noa ēnei katoa. Kaua e whakaaro, "Ko au anake te tangata e pēnei ana?" "Kei te pēnei taku kare ā-roto nā te mea he ngoikore ahau." Ki te pouri koe, tangohia he wā mokemoke hei tangi. Ki te riri koe, whakapuakina i roto i te huarahi e kore ai koe e whara, e whara rānei i tētahi atu (mā te patu i te urunga, te oma rānei!). Ko te mārama ki ō kare ā-roto me te tuku i a koe anō kia tukatuka i aua kare ā-roto te taahiraa tuatahi ki te whakaora.
2. Kia maumahara kāore koe i te mokemoke
He mea nui tēnei. E kore e kitea he tangata i tēnei ao kāore anō kia whakakahoretia i tētahi wā. Ahakoa ko ngā tāngata tino angitu e kitea ana e koe i ēnei rā—ko ō kaiwhakaari tino pai, ko ō kaiwaiata, ko ō kaitākaro, ko ō kaipakihi tino pai rānei—kua whakakahoretia i ngā wā maha i roto i ō rātou oranga. Ehara tēnei i te raruraru mōu anake; ehara i te mea mōu anake. Mā te mōhio ki tēnei ka taea e koe te whakamāmā ake i tō wairua, ā, ka āwhina i a koe kia iti ake tō noho mokemoke.
3. 'Kōrero' ki ō whakaaro kino
Ina puta te whakakorenga, ka tīmata te puranga o ngā whakaaro kino e whakararu ana i a tātou. Ngā mea pēnei i te "Kāore au i te whai hua," "Kāore he tangata e pai ki ahau," "Kāore ngā mea e pai mōku," "Nōku katoa te he." Ina puta ake ēnei whakaaro, kaua e whakaae noa he pono tuturu.
Pātai atu ki a koe anō mēnā he pono aua whakaaro, ā, he tika hoki.
Hei tauira:
- Ki te whakaaro koe, "He tangata koretake ahau," pātai atu ki a koe anō, "He pono rawa tēnā? Kāore ianei ahau i mahi i ngā mea pai i mua? I pai taku mahi i tēnei, i tērā, kāore?"
- Ki te whakaaro koe, "Kāore he tangata e pai ana ki ahau," pātai atu, "Kāore rawa he tangata? E aroha ana ōku mātua ki ahau, e aroha ana hoki taku hoa."
Mā te wero i ō whakaaro kino, ka taea e koe te whakaiti haere i tō rātou mana ki runga i a koe.
4. Māu ake e whakatau tōu uara, kāore he tangata kē atu
Ahakoa i whakakahoretia koe e tetahi, ehara i te mea ka heke tō uara ki te kore. Kāore tō uara, ō pūkenga, me tō āhua e tautuhia ana e ngā whakaaro o ētahi atu mōu, e ngā whakatau rānei a rātou. Kei a koe tō ake tuakiri, ō pūkenga, me ō moemoeā. Whakanuia aua mea. He mea kotahi noa te whakakorenga; kaua e tukua kia ārahi i tō oranga katoa, i tō ake uara rānei.
5. Akohia mai i tēnei wheako, ka huri i te huarahi
I ētahi wā, ka taea e tātou te ako i tētahi akoranga nui mai i ia whakakorenga.
- Tērā pea kua kite koe kāore te mea i whaia e koe i te tino pai. Ki te pērā, ka taea e koe te whiriwhiri i tētahi ara hou, i tētahi whāinga hou rānei e pai ake ana ki a koe me te mea e arohaina ana e koe.
- Tērā pea kua kite koe he iti noa ngā āputa i roto i tāu mahi, ā, ki te whakatikahia e koe, tera pea ka rerekē te hua i te wā e whai ake nei. Ka taea e koe te mahi i ngā mahi hei whakarite kia kore ai koe e mahi anō i aua hapa.
Ehara i te mea kua mutu te ara mēnā ka whakakahoretia; he anga atu pea ki tētahi ara pai ake. Engari kaua e noho tonu ki ngā mea i tupu, e mau tonu rānei ki ngā wā o mua, engari me aro tonu ki ngā whāinga hou, ki ngā mahi whakangahau, me ngā mahi hou.
6. Kaua e wehi ki te tono āwhina
Ahakoa i muri i te mahi i ēnei mea katoa, i ētahi wā ka tino uaua ki te anga whakamua ko koe anake. Ka tino taumaha te mamae. I ēnei wā, mā te kōrero ki tētahi e whakawhirinaki ana koe ka nui te whakamarie me te tautoko.
- Koinei pea tō hoa pai rawa atu.
- Ōu mātua, he tuākana, he teina rānei, he whanaunga rānei.
- He kaiako.
- I ētahi wā, he mea tika kia rapu āwhina mai i tētahi kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro ngaio, i tētahi tohunga hinengaro , i tētahi tohunga hinengaro rānei , i tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro whai tohu rānei kua whakangungua ki ēnei take . Kaua e whakama ki tēnei, kaua hoki e whakaaro he tohu ngoikore tēnei. Pērā i tāu haerenga ki te tākuta mō te kirika, te makariri rānei, he kōwhiringa mohio, he kōwhiringa hauora hoki te rapu āwhina mō te mamae o te ngākau.
Me pēhea koe e kaha ake ai i muri i te whakakorenga?
He wheako mamae te whakakorenga—kāore he feaa mō tēnā. Engari kāore e tika kia ngoikore koe ake ake. Inaa, ka taea e koe te whakamahi i ēnei wheako hei whakapakari ake, hei āwhina hoki i a koe ki te aro atu ki ngā wero o te ao. Ka kiia tēnei ko te manawanui : te kaha ki te ora wawe mai i ngā raruraru, ngā arai, me ngā hinganga o te ao.
- Tāutuhia ō pūkenga: He pūkenga motuhake, he kaha motuhake tō te katoa. Tūhurahia ō pūkenga me ō āhuatanga pai, ā, arotahi ki te whakawhanake ake i aua pūkenga.
- Whakaharatauhia te whakaaro pai:Kaua e titiro ki ngā mea katoa he pango, he mā rānei, engari me kimi he taha pai, he mea rānei hei ako māu i roto i ngā āhuatanga katoa.
- Whakanuia ngā wikitoria iti: I a koe e anga atu ana ki ngā whāinga nui, kia maioha, kia harikoa hoki mō ngā whakatutukitanga iti kua tutuki i a koe. Mā tēnei ka piki haere tō whakapono ki a koe anō.
- Whakaharatauhia te aroha ki a koe anō: Ina hē koe, ina whakahēngia rānei koe, kaua e whakapae, kaua hoki e riri ki a koe anō. Kia atawhai ki a koe anō. Whakaarohia, "He tangata ahau, ka taea e au te hē, ka taea e au te rongo i ngā kare ā-roto, ā, he mea noa iho tēnā."
Kia maumahara tonu, ehara i te mea mō te hinganga; engari mō te ara ake anō! Whakamahia ia hinganga hei whai wāhi ki te ara ake kia kaha ake.
Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga
Mai i tā tātou i kōrero ai i tēnei rā, me mārama ko te whakakorenga he wāhanga noa o te ao. Ka pā ki te tangata, ahakoa te pakeke, ahakoa te wā. Kāore he tangata e ātete ki tēnei.
Ko te mea nui, kaua e tukua te whakakorenga kia whakatau i tō uara katoa. Akohia te mārama ki ō kare ā-roto, me te whakahaere i aua kare ā-roto i runga i te huarahi hauora. Ki te mea he uaua rawa ki a koe te whakahaere ko koe anake, kaua e mangere ki te tono awhina mai i tētahi e whakawhirinaki ana koe. Akohia ngā akoranga whai hua mai i ia wheako, kia kaha ake, kia anga atu ki te ao me te māia. Kia mahara, he kaha ake koe i tō whakaaro!
Te Whakakorenga, Te Hauora Hinengaro, Te Whakaute i a Ia Anō, Te Whakahaere i ngā Kare ā-roto, Te Manawanui, Te Tohutohu
