Kei te pouri koe i muri i te hararei? Me kōrero tātou mō te 'Pouri Hararei'!

He pai ki a tātou katoa te hararei, tawhiti atu i te pukumahi o te ao o ia rā. Ko wai kāore e pai ki te haereere me te whakangāwari i a rātou anō? Engari i ētahi wā, ka rite te hararei ki te taumahatanga nui. Ina koa kei te pōuri koe, kei te pouri rānei, ka uaua te whakamahere hararei, tae noa ki te whakapau moni ki reira. Kāore he take ki te kī, ina hoki koe ki tō mahi o ia rā i muri i te hararei, ka pōuri koe, ka hoha. Koinei te mea e kīia nei e tātou ko te 'Pouri Hararei'.

He aha tā ngā rangahau e kī ana mō ngā hararei me te hauora hinengaro?

Whakaarohia, e ai ki ngā kairangahau, "Ki te kore koe e whai wā okioki tika, ka pā ki tō hauora tinana me tō hauora hinengaro." Ehara tēnā i te mea hei mea ngāwari. Tirohia ētahi o ngā kitenga mai i ngā rangahau mō tēnei.

• I kitea i roto i tētahi rangahau i te tau 2005 , e rua, e toru rānei ngā wā ka nui ake te tūponotanga o te pāngia o te pouri e ngā wāhine kāore e hararei ana i ngā wā katoa, i ngā wāhine e hararei auau ana .
• I kitea i roto i tētahi atu rangahau, i whai i te neke atu i te 12,000 tāne mō te iwa tau, ko ngā tāne kāore i hararei i ia tau, he 32% te teitei ake o te tūponotanga ki te mate i te mate manawa, ā, he 21% te teitei ake o te tūponotanga ki te mate i tētahi atu take .
• I kitea i roto i tētahi atu rangahau mō ngā wāhine i uru atu ki te Rangahau Ngākau rongonui a Framingham , e waru ngā whakarea o te pikinga o te mōrearea o te mate manawa me te mate mō ngā wāhine i hararei i ia ono tau, i tēnā i ngā wāhine i hararei i te iti rawa i ia rua tau .

Nō reira, i roto i tēnei tuhinga, ka kōrerohia e mātou me pēhea te wikitoria i te pouri e pā ana ki a koe i tēnei wā hararei, te hiranga o te hararei mō tō tātou hinengaro, me pēhea hoki te whakarite i tētahi hararei e kawe mai ai te rangimārie ki tō wairua e rite ana ki tō āhua.

He aha te āwhina a te hararei ki ō tātou hinengaro?

Ko te rongo pai rawa atu, ko ngā hararei te wā tino pai ki te whakakaha anō i ō tātou pūhiko, ki te whakarerekē i te tere o ō tātou oranga o ia rā, me te whakahou i ō tātou hinengaro mā te whakarerekē i te taiao e karapoti ana i a tātou.

Ā, "He wā tino nui tēnei hei whakapakari i ngā whanaungatanga ki ngā tāngata tino nui o tō ao - tō hoa rangatira, tamariki, hoa, mātua - e kī ana te tohunga hinengaro a Tākuta Nadine Kaslow. I te pukumahi o ia rā, he uaua ki te kimi wā mō ēnā mea."

Hei tāpiritanga, mā te hararei ka whai mana tātou ki te whakahaere i ō tātou oranga. Arā, kei a tātou te herekoretanga ki te whiriwhiri i tā tātou e hiahia ana. Kāore i a tātou taua herekoretanga i roto i te oranga o ia rā. I te hararei, ka mahi tātou i ngā mea e pai ana ki a tātou i taua wā tonu.

He taha pūtaiao tēnei. Ina haere tātou ki te hararei, ka tukuna e ō tātou roro ētahi neurotransmitter e rua, ko te dopamine me te serotonin . He māmā noa iho, koinei ngā matū e whakahaere ana i tō tātou harikoa me tō tātou wairua . He iti noa iho ngā taumata o ēnei matū mō te hunga e pāngia ana e te pouri. Ina hararei koe, kei te mahi koe i ngā mea e pai ana ki a koe, kei te whakahaere i tō oranga, ā, ka piki ake ēnei matū, ka harikoa ake koe, ka marino ake hoki.

Me pēhea te whakakore i te pouri i te wā hararei?

I ētahi wā, ka uaua te pārekareka ki te hararei nā te pouri o tō ngākau. "He porowhita kino te pouri. Ka pōuri koe, nō reira kāore koe e mahi i ngā mea e hari ai koe. Ka kino ake tō wairua," te whakamārama a Tākuta Kaslow. Nō reira, hei wawahi i tēnei porowhita, me mahi koe i tētahi mea i hari ai koe i mua. Kāore pea i te tino pai pērā i mua. Engari koinei te huarahi pai ki te pai o te wairua.

I mua i tō whakatau i tēnei, me pātai koe ki a koe anō: "Ko wai tōku 'Tuakiri Hararei'?" Arā, he aha te momo hararei e pai ana ki a koe?

Ko te mea nui rawa atu,Ko te mea nui ko te waihanga i tētahi hararei e rite ana ki tō āhua. Ko te wā tēnā ka hoki mai koe ki te kāinga me te tino hou me te rangimārie. Mō te tangata e aroha ana ki ngā mahi mōrearea, ka hoha noa te noho noa i te takutai. Kātahi ka tae koe ki te kāinga i muri i tō hararei, ka whakaaro koe "he moumou taima noa iho."

7 ngā tohutohu hei whakaiti i te ahotea i mua atu, i te wā hoki o ngā hararei

1. Hararei poto hei utu mō ngā hararei roa: Ki te mea he uaua ki a koe te tango i tētahi hararei roa pērā i te rua wiki mai i tō wāhi mahi, whakaritea ētahi hararei poto (ngā wiki mutunga roa) e toru ki te whā rā te roa. Ki ētahi tāngata, he māmā ake te whakaiti i te ahotea o ngā hararei poto pēnei i te haerenga roa.

2. Whakamaherehia kia rite ki tāu tahua: Mena he raruraru te moni, whakaarohia ngā kōwhiringa iti te utu. Kāore e nui te utu mō ngā mea pēnei i te hikoi, te puni, me te eke pahikara. Kātahi ka kore koe e manukanuka ki te moni, ka tāpiri atu hoki i te ahotea.

3. Kōrero ki ētahi atu, ā, whakatau: Kōrero ki ō hoa me tō whānau, ā, whakamaheretia kia rite. Ki te pai ake koe ki te puni, engari ko ētahi e pai ake ana ki te hōtēra, me whakarite kia taea ai e koe te mahi i ngā mea e rua.

4. Mena he uaua te whakarite, waiho mā te tohunga: Mena he taumaha te whiriwhiri i tētahi hōtēra, te whakarite rānei i tō haerenga, waiho mā te kaihoko haere. Me haere rānei i runga i tētahi mōkihi pēnei i te haerenga rōpū, i te haerenga waka rānei.

5. Kaua e nui rawa: Kaua e whakamahere i ia meneti o tō hararei. Me tango noa he torutoru rā hei whakangā me te okioki.

6. Waiho ō raruraru ki te kāinga: Kaua e haere ki te hararei ka kōrero mō ngā raruraru i te mahi, ngā raruraru i te kāinga, ngā raruraru kura rānei a āu tamariki. Ehara te hararei i te wāhi pai hei kimi otinga mō aua raruraru. Mea atu ki āu tamariki, "E kore mātou e riria koutou, e kōrero rānei mō ngā māka i te wā hararei."

7. Hono atu ki ngā rōpū he rite ō whakaaro: Ki te mea he takakau koe, ā, he pai ki a koe te haereere, rapua ngā rōpū tūtaki e mahi ana i ngā mahi ōrite.

Me pēhea te karo i te pouri i muri i te hararei?

Ki te pai tō noho hararei, ka taea e koe te karo i te pouri i muri i te hararei.

• Kohia ngā maharatanga ataahua: Kia maumahara ki ngā mea tino harikoa, tino katakata i puta i te wā hararei. He mahi porangi pea nā ngā tamariki. He toa iti rānei i kitea e koe, he tirohanga ataahua. Ko ēnei maharatanga he taonga māu. Kia maumahara tonu ki a rātou, kia kata, kia koa ki te harikoa.
• Hoki wawe mai ki te kāinga i te rā kotahi ki te mahi: Kaua e ngana ki te haere ki te mahi i te aonga ake ina tae wawe koe ki te kāinga. Hoki wawe mai ki te kāinga i te rā kotahi, wetewetehia ō mea, horoia ō kākahu, ā, moe pai i te pō.
• Hoki mārire ki tō āhua o ia rā: Kaua e whakahaere hui nui i tō rā tuatahi ki te mahi.
• Whakamaherehia tō haerenga e whai ake nei:He aha te mea i tino pārekareka ki a koe mō tēnei hararei? He aha te mea i harikoa ai te katoa? Hangaia aua maharatanga pai, ka tīmata ki te whakaaro mō tō haerenga e whai ake nei.
• Whakaarohia kia pai: Kaua e whakaaroaro ki ngā mea i hē i te hararei, me te whakaaro, "Āe, me i pena ahau."
• Kimihia ngā mea hei whakahari i tō oranga o ia rā: I ia rā, whakaarohia ngā mea i pai ai koe ki te mahi, ā, i koa ai hoki koe.
• Whakaarohia mēnā kei te manukanuka koe: Ki te manukanuka koe, ngana ki te mārama he aha. Ka taea e tētahi mea pēnei i te whakaaroaro te āwhina. Mā te manawa hōhonu, ka whakaaroaro ki aua maharatanga whakamiharo o tō hararei.

Hei whakamutunga, tohaina te harikoa me te hou o tō hararei ki ētahi atu. "He mea pāpori tātou. Ka piki ake te harikoa ina tohaina. Kia mau tonu aua whanaungatanga pai me te harikoa."