Kodi mnzanu wanu ali ndi ADHD? Tiyeni tidziwe za momwe izi zimakhudzira ukwati wanu (ADHD ndi Ukwati)

Ngati mnzanu ali ndi ADHD ( Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), mwina mwaona kuti ukwati wanu nthawi zina ungakhale wovuta. Mwina mukudzifunsa kuti, "N’chifukwa chiyani amaiwala zomwe ndimanena nthawi zambiri?", "N’chifukwa chiyani samvetsera zinthu zazing'ono?", "Kodi sandisamala?". Si vuto lanu lokha. Anthu ambiri omwe amakhala ndi munthu amene ali ndi ADHD amamva izi. Kuphatikiza apo, munthu amene ali ndi ADHD angamvenso chisoni komanso kudziimba mlandu chifukwa cha matenda awo. Lero, tikambirana chifukwa chake izi zimachitika, momwe mungamvetsetsere kuti si vuto lanu, komanso momwe mungagonjetsere mavutowa ndikupangitsa ubale wanu kukhala wokongola kwambiri.

Mavuto akuluakulu m'banja chifukwa cha ADHD

Kuti timvetse chomwe chimayambitsa mavutowa, tiyenera kudziwa pang'ono za umunthu wa munthu amene ali ndi ADHD. Mwachidule, munthu amene ali ndi vutoli nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi makhalidwe awa:

• Kusokonezeka mosavuta: Mukamagwira ntchito, ngakhale phokoso laling'ono kwambiri lingakusokonezeni.
• Kuiwala zinthu mwachangu: Nthawi zambiri mumaiwala zinthu monga zinthu zomwe munauzidwa kuchita, madeti ofunikira, ndi zinthu zina zomwe munauzidwa kuti mubweretse.
• Wosaganizira: Amasankha zinthu mwachangu osaganizira zotsatira zake, amakwiya msanga, ndipo amanena chilichonse chomwe chabwera m'maganizo mwake nthawi yomweyo.
• N'kovuta kukhala pamalo amodzi, pali kusakhazikika kosalekeza (Kupumula LES s): N'kovuta kukhala pamalo amodzi kwa nthawi yayitali, pali kugwedezeka kosalekeza kwa miyendo, ndipo pali kusakhazikika koonekeratu.

Chifukwa cha makhalidwe amenewa, mavuto akuluakulu ngati amenewa angabuke m'banja.

Gulu limodzi likukhala "Wosamalira"

Kawirikawiri, munthu amene ali ndi ADHD amasankha mnzake woti azigwira ntchito mwaukhondo komanso mwadongosolo. Zimenezi n’zachibadwa. Koma pakapita nthawi, munthu amene alibe ADHD amayamba kugwira ntchito zapakhomo komanso za ana, komanso ntchito za mnzawo.

Tangoganizirani, chifukwa mwamuna yemwe ali ndi ADHD amaiwala kukonzekera kupita kuntchito m'mawa, mkaziyo amadzuka m'mawa kwambiri, amaika zovala zake, amaphika chakudya cham'mawa, ndipo nthawi zonse amamukumbutsa nthawi yomwe akufunika kuchoka. Timatcha izi kuti "kuthandiza kwambiri." Izi zikutanthauza kuthandiza kwambiri.

Kupanga ubale ngati "kholo ndi mwana"

Pamene udindo wa "wosamalira" womwe watchulidwa kale upita patsogolo pang'ono, ubale umayamba kufanana ndi "kholo ndi mwana." Munthu wopanda ADHD amayamba kudzudzula, kuimba mlandu, ndikukhazikitsa malamulo kwa munthu yemwe ali ndi ADHD, monga momwe amachitira mayi kapena bambo.

Mwachitsanzo, munganene kuti, "Ndi kangati ndakuuzani kuti lero ndi tsiku lomaliza kulipira bilu yamagetsi ? Kodi mulibe udindo uliwonse pa nyumbayi?" Sikuti munthu amene ali ndi ADHD ndi wosalabadira kwenikweni. Koma vutoli limamupangitsa kuti azivutika kukumbukira zinthu. Koma akamva kudzudzulidwa kotereku, angayankhe mwa kukulunga manja ake m'chiuno mwake, kupondaponda mapazi ake pansi, ndikupukuta maso ake ngati mwana wamng'ono . Izi zimangowonjezera vutoli, osati kuthetsa.

Mavuto pa moyo wogonana

Mavuto amenewa angakhudzenso ubale wanu wogonana. Pali zifukwa zingapo zomwe zimachititsa izi.

Kodi mungatani kuti ubale wanu ukhale wolimba?

Chabwino, kodi tingathane bwanji ndi mavutowa? Musadandaule. Tonsefe titha kuthana ndi mavutowa pamodzi.

Yesetsani Kudzisamalira

Izi ndizofunikira kwambiri kwa mnzanu amene alibe ADHD . Kusamalira chilichonse kungakufooketseni m'maganizo ndi m'thupi. Choncho chitani izi:

• Gonani bwino: Yesetsani kugona maola 7-8 patsiku.
• Idyani zakudya zopatsa thanzi: Idyani zakudya zopatsa thanzi.
• Kuchita Maseŵero Olimbitsa Thupi : Chitani zinthu monga kuyenda kwa mphindi zosachepera 30 patsiku.
• Tengani nthawi yanu nokha: Izi zingawoneke zovuta, koma kwa mphindi 15 patsiku, pemphani mnzanu kuti asamalire ana kwa kanthawi ndikuchita zomwe mumakonda. Werengani buku, mverani nyimbo, kapena imwani tiyi chete.
• Lembani m'buku lanu la zochitika: Lembani mkwiyo wanu, chisoni chanu, ndi zokhumudwitsa zanu. Zidzakupatsani mpumulo waukulu.

Ikani Malire

Sankhani pasadakhale momwe mudzachitire ndi kuiwala ndi kuchita zinthu mopupuluma kwa munthu amene ali ndi ADHD. Lembani mndandanda wa 'Ndichita izi, sindichita izi.' Mwachitsanzo:

• Ndimamvetsera modekha.
• Ndimamumvera chisoni.
• Sindimupulumutsa ku zotsatira za zomwe adachita. (monga ngati akuyenera kulipira chindapusa cha bilu yomwe wayiwalika, muloleni achite yekha).
• Ndikakwiya kwambiri, ndimapita kutali pang'ono ndi malo amenewo n'kukhazikika mtima.

Gwirani ntchito limodzi ngati gulu.

Kambiranani za mphamvu zanu ndi zofooka zanu. Gawani ntchitoyo moyenera. Ngati munthu m'modzi ndi waluso pophika, winayo angathandize kubweretsa zakudya ndikuyeretsa khitchini pamene akuphika. Ngati pali chinthu chomwe chikukuvutani nonse, chipatseni wina ngati n'kotheka. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukuvutika kugwiritsa ntchito ndalama, gwiritsani ntchito pulogalamu yabwino yosamalira ndalama. Lembani ntchito zomwe muyenera kuchita pa kalendala yayikulu ndikuziyika pamalo pomwe aliyense angaone.

Tsatirani malangizo a dokotala.

Ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti mnzanu amene ali ndi ADHD amwe mankhwala ake monga momwe walangizidwira. Mankhwalawa angathandize kwambiri kuchepetsa zizindikiro za ADHD. Ngati mukuvutika ndi mankhwala anu, lankhulani ndi dokotala wanu za kusintha mankhwala ena. Mungafunikenso kusintha nthawi yomwe mumamwa mankhwala anu.

Pangani Zinthu Kuoneka

Pali zinthu zing'onozing'ono zomwe zingathandize nonse kukhala ndi moyo wosavuta. Pangani mndandanda wa zochita ndikuyika zolemba zomata pagalasi. Lembani ma drowa ndi makabati. Gwiritsani ntchito kalendala yogawana pa intaneti yomwe nonse mungathe kuiwona. Zinthu ngati izi zitha kuchepetsa kwambiri kuiwala.