Mutazindikira kuti mkazi wanu anali ndi pakati, muyenera kuti munamva chisangalalo chosaneneka, sichoncho? Koma nthawi yomweyo, muyenera kuti munamva mantha pang'ono komanso kudzimva kuti muli ndi udindo waukulu. Zimenezo n'zachibadwa. Monga momwe thupi la mkazi limasinthira zinthu zambiri akamakonzekera kukhala mayi, maganizo anu ndi moyo wanu zimasinthasinthanso kwambiri mukamakonzekera kukhala bambo . Lero, tikambirana za kusintha komwe kudzachitike m'maganizo ndi m'moyo wanu m'miyezi isanu ndi inayi iyi mukakonzekera kukhala bambo.
Kodi mimba ndi chinthu chomwe chimagwira ntchito kwa akazi okha?
Iyi ndi nthano yomwe anthu ambiri amakhulupirira. Zoona zake n'zakuti, mayi ndiye amene amanyamula mwana m'mimba mwake. Iye ndiye amene akukumana ndi kusintha kwa thupi lake, zotsatira za mahomoni, komanso kusanza. Ndicho chifukwa chake, monga bambo, simungaone kusiyana kwakukulu poyamba. Mungaganize kuti, "Izi sizili zosiyana ndi thupi langa."
Koma si zoona zimenezo. Kukhala bambo kumasinthanso maganizo anu.
- Kodi ndidzakhala bambo wabwino?
- Kodi ndidzataya ufulu wanga ndikakhala ndi mwana?
- Kodi ndidzatha kulipira ndalama zonsezi?
- Kodi ndingatani kuti ndizigwira ntchito bwino komanso kuti ndizisamalira banja langa?
Inunso mungakhale ndi mafunso, mantha, ndi nkhawa zotere. Kafukufuku wina wasonyeza kuti amuna ena amathanso kukumana ndi zizindikiro zakuthupi monga nseru ndi kusintha kwa maganizo akazi awo akakhala ndi pakati.
Chofunika ndichakuti malingaliro amenewa ndi achibadwa. Koma m'dera lathu, amuna amakayikira pang'ono kulankhula za mantha awo ndi nkhawa zawo, kotero nthawi zambiri amabisa malingaliro amenewa mkati mwawo. Izi zimakubweretserani nkhawa zosafunikira.
Kwa abambo ambiri, chiyambi chenicheni cha mimba iyi ndi pamene akumva kugunda kwa mtima kwa mwana, kumva mwana akugunda m'mimba mwawo, kapena kuona mwana akujambulidwa (ultrasound). Pamenepo ndi pamene zenizeni za "Ine ndine bambo" zimawakhudza kwambiri.
Kodi mawu akuti 'abambo sangasamalire makanda' ndi oona?
Nthano ina yaikulu ndi yakuti "abambo sangathe kugwira ntchito za ana bwino, amayi ndi abwino kwambiri pa ntchito zimenezo." Tamva nkhani zoseketsa zokhudza abambo omwe amavutika maganizo akamasintha matewera kapena akamasambitsa ana awo. Ichi ndichifukwa chake abambo ambiri amaopa kugwira ntchito zimenezo akakhala ndi mwana , poganiza kuti sangakwanitse kuzigwira bwino.
Koma zoona zake n'zakuti.Kusamalira mwana si chinthu chomwe munthu amabadwa nacho. Ndi chinthu chomwe chimaphunziridwa kudzera muzochitikira ('maphunziro a kuntchito'). Kaya ndinu mayi kapena bambo, nonse awiri mumaphunzira zinthu izi pang'onopang'ono, pamodzi ndi mwanayo.
Kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti abambo akakhala ndi makanda awo obadwa kumene, amalankhula nawo, kuwakumbatira, kuwagwedeza, ndi kumwetulira mofanana ndi amayi. Abambo ali ndi luso lofanana ndi amayi lomvetsetsa ndi kuyankha kulira kwa mwana (kaya ali ndi njala, akusowa tulo, kapena kukumbatirana).
Izi ndi zomwe zimachitika: Abambo akachoka pambali, akuganiza kuti, "Sindingathe, sindikudziwa," Amayi amayamba kuchita zonsezi. Patapita kanthawi, Amayi amayamba kuchita bwino zinthu zimenezo, ndipo Abambo amayamba kudzimva kuti alibe thandizo. Choncho, musachite mantha , ingoyambani ntchito kuyambira pachiyambi. Patapita kanthawi, mudzadabwa ndi luso lanu.
Kodi mungagwiritse ntchito bwanji nthawi imeneyi ngati mwayi wolimbitsa ubale wanu?
Mimba ndi nthawi yovuta, koma yabwino kwambiri pamene mungathe kulimbitsa ubale wanu ndi mkazi wanu. Chinsinsi cha zimenezi ndi kulankhulana momasuka.
Lolani mkazi wanu akuuzeni za kusintha kwa thupi lake komanso kusintha kwa maganizo komwe kumachitika chifukwa cha mahomoni. Mvetserani mosamala zomwe akunena. Komanso, muuzeni za mantha ndi nkhawa zanu. Kufunsa kuti, "Ndikumva chonchi, muli bwanji?" kudzakuthandizani nonse kumva kuti simukupita nokha paulendowu.
Pali njira zambiri zomwe mungathandizire m'njira yothandiza monga bambo. Ngakhale kuti zinthuzi ndi zazing'ono, zimapangitsa kusiyana kwakukulu.
| Zimene mungachite ngati bambo | Ubwino wake |
|---|---|
| Pitani kukaonana ndi dokotala ndi mkazi wanu. | Mudzakhala ndi mwayi wodziwitsidwa za njira yopezera mimba ndi kutenga nawo mbali mwachindunji. |
| Funsani mkazi wanu za momwe akumvera ndipo mumvetsereni mosamala. | Amaona kuti sali yekha, ndipo mgwirizano pakati pa awiriwa umakula kwambiri. |
| Werengani mabuku okhudza mimba ndi kubereka ndipo mudziwe zambiri. | Kuopa zinthu zosadziwika kumachepa ndipo chidaliro chokhala bambo chimawonjezeka. |
| Thandizani kukonzekera zosowa za mwana (zovala, bedi la mwana). | Kugawana maudindo ndi kuzolowera udindo wa abambo m'machitidwe. |
| Lankhulani ndi mkazi wanu kapena mnzanu wodalirika za mantha anu ndi momwe mukumvera. | Zimathandiza kuchepetsa nkhawa komanso zimapangitsa kuti musamadzimve kuti ndinu nokha. |
Kupanga ubale ndi mwana
Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti kugwirizana ndi mwana wanu kumatanthauza kuchita zinthu zazikulu. Koma chofunika kwambiri ndi zinthu zazing'ono zomwe mumachita tsiku lililonse. Kusintha thewera la mwana wanu, kumusambitsa, kupanga mkaka akakhala ndi njala , ndi kumunyamula kupita naye kusitolo ndi zinthu zomwe zimakubweretsani pafupi ndi mwana wanu. Musaganize izi ngati "maudindo," koma m'malo mwake, ziganizeni ngati "mwayi" womwe mumapeza wokhala ndi mwana wanu. Mukamachita zambiri pa moyo wa mwana wanu kuyambira pachiyambi, ubale wanu udzakhala wolimba kwambiri.
Komanso, monga mayi, mkazi ali ndi udindo waukulu pano. Bambo akabwera kudzathandiza ntchito ya mwana, ndikofunikira kumulola kuti azichita zinthu m'njira yake, osalowerera chilichonse ponena kuti, "Izi sizolondola, izi sizolakwika." Onse awiri akadutsa ulendowu limodzi, akuthandizana, zidzabweretsa chimwemwe ku banja lonse.
Uthenga Wopita Nawo Kunyumba
- Mimba ndi nthawi yofunika kwambiri, yokhudza maganizo, komanso yosintha moyo wa mkazi ndi bambo woyembekezera.
- Kambiranani momasuka ndi mkazi wanu za mantha anu, nkhawa zanu, ndi chimwemwe chanu. Kulankhulana bwino ndikofunikira.
- Onetsetsani kuti mwapita ku mayeso azachipatala, ma scan (ultrasound) , ndi zina zotero. Izi zidzakuthandizani kuzolowera udindo wa bambo.
- Kulera mwana ndi chinthu chomwe mumaphunzira kudzera mu zomwe mwakumana nazo. Musaganize kuti, 'Sindingathe kuchita', musachite mantha, ndipo thandizani mwana wanu ndi ntchito zake zapakhomo kuyambira pachiyambi.
- Thanzi lanu la maganizo ndilofunikanso kwambiri panthawiyi. Ngati mukumva kupsinjika maganizo, lankhulani ndi munthu amene mumamukhulupirira. Ngati kuli kofunikira, funsani upangiri kwa dokotala wanu.
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