Kodi mumaopanso kuyandikira munthu wina ndikuyamba chibwenzi? Tiyeni tikambirane za Gamophobia!

Kodi nthawi zina mumamva chonchi? Kodi mumangomva mantha komanso kusasangalala wina akamayesa kukuyandikitsani kwambiri, kapena chibwenzi chikapitirira malire? Kapena mumadabwa pang'ono mukamva kuti mnzanu walonjezedwa chibwenzi? Ngati zinthuzi ndi zachilendo kwa inu, mwina mukuvutika ndi vutoli osazindikira.

Kodi Gamophobia ndi chiyani?

Mwachidule, Gamophobia ndi mantha aakulu odzipereka. Mantha amenewa ndi amphamvu kwambiri moti nthawi zina zimakhala zosatheka kuti anthu omwe akuvutika ndi vutoli akhale pachibwenzi cha nthawi yayitali. 'Gamos' ndi mawu achigiriki otanthauza 'ukwati'. 'Phobos' amatanthauza 'mantha'. Choncho, pamene awiriwa agwirizana, Gamophobia imapangidwa.

Komabe, anthu ena amaopa kudzipereka ku mapulani a nthawi yayitali, monga kusankha yunivesite, ntchito, kapena malo okhala. Komabe, mantha awa ndi osiyana ndi mantha a gamophobia, omwe ndi mantha a ubale wa anthu.

Kodi chingachitike n’chiyani kwa munthu amene ali ndi Gamophobia?

Tsopano onani ngati muli ndi zizindikiro izi. Munthu amene ali ndi Gamophobia angakumane ndi izi:

• Sangathe kupanga ubale wachikondi wokhalitsa komanso wozama. Nthawi zonse amayesetsa kusunga ubale wopanda pake.
• Mukakhala pachibwenzi , mumakhala ndi nkhawa zambiri. Nthawi zonse mumadzifunsa kuti, 'Kodi izi zidzatha liti?', 'Kodi andisiya?'
• Ngakhale ndikaona banja losangalala komanso lodzipereka , ndimamva kudabwa komanso kusakhazikika kwachilendo.
• Amakankhira kutali anthu omwe ali pafupi nawo, kapena amathetsa ubale wawo mwadzidzidzi. Nthawi zina popanda chifukwa chilichonse.

Kodi Phobia ndi chiyani?

Tangolankhula za Gamophobia. Ndiye kodi mawu oti 'Phobia' amatanthauza chiyani? Phobia ndi mtundu wofala kwambiri wa matenda a nkhawa . Pankhaniyi, mumakhala ndi mantha aakulu kapena mantha a zinthu zomwe sizili zovulaza kwenikweni. Gamophobia ndi matenda enaake a mantha . Izi zikutanthauza kuti mukuopa vuto linalake: ukwati kapena ubale.

Kodi Gamophobia ndi yofala bwanji?

N'zovuta kunena kuti ndi anthu angati omwe ali ndi mantha enaake monga gamophobia. Anthu ambiri amasunga mantha awa okha, kapena sadziwa kuti ali nawo. Komabe, kafukufuku ku United States akusonyeza kuti munthu m'modzi mwa akuluakulu 10 ndi m'modzi mwa achinyamata 5 adzakumana ndi mantha amenewa nthawi ina m'miyoyo yawo.

Ndani ali pachiwopsezo chachikulu chotenga Gamophobia?

Anthu ena ali ndi mwayi waukulu wopeza vutoli. Mwachitsanzo, anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la umunthu monga Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) angapewe maubwenzi chifukwa cha mantha aakulu oti angasiyidwe kapena kukanidwa. Angakhalenso ndi vuto lokhulupirira ena.

Pali zinthu zina zingapo zoopsa:

• Mbiri ya banja: Ngati kholo lanu kapena munthu amene mumamukonda wakhala ndi vuto la mantha kapena nkhawa, nanunso mungakhale ndi mantha a chinthu chomwecho. Monga momwe ana amatengera matenda ena kuchokera kwa makolo awo.
• Jenda: Zapezeka kuti akazi ndi omwe ali ndi vuto la mantha enaake kuposa amuna.
• Zifukwa za majini: Kafukufuku woyamba akusonyeza kuti anthu ena ali ndi kusintha kwa majini komwe kumawonjezera chiopsezo chawo chokhala ndi nkhawa kapena mantha. Izi zikutanthauza kuti mwina ndi chinthu chomwe chimagwira ntchito m'majini anu.

Ndi mantha ena ati omwe amagwirizana ndi mantha a kudzipereka?

Kawirikawiri, munthu amakhala ndi mantha angapo. Kawirikawiri, mantha amenewa amakhala ndi chinthu chofanana. Mwachitsanzo, munthu amene amaopa kudzipereka angakhalenso ndi mantha ena monga:

• Philophobia: Kutanthauza kuopa chikondi.
• Kuopa kuopa anthu ena: Kuopa kukhulupirira ena kapena kupwetekedwa mtima ndi munthu amene mumamukonda.
• Kuopa anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha: Kuopa kuchita zinthu zogonana kapena kugonana ndi munthu wina.
• Kuopa kusiyidwa: Kuopa nthawi zonse kuti wina angakusiyeni.

N’chifukwa chiyani ndimaopa kwambiri kudzipereka? Kodi zifukwa zake ndi ziti?

Anthu ambiri amati mantha awo odzipereka, kapena ukwati, ndi chifukwa cha zochitika zoopsa zomwe adakumana nazo m'mbuyomu. Ndipotu, gamophobia ikhoza kukhala yankho loteteza lomwe malingaliro anu apanga kuti akutetezeni. Taganizirani izi, ngati simunadzipereke ku chibwenzi cha nthawi yayitali, simudzamva ngakhale ululu.

Nazi zina mwa zifukwa zomwe zimayambitsa Gamophobia:

• Kusamvana kwa makolo: Ana omwe adawona mikangano ya makolo awo, ndewu, kapena kusudzulana kowawa angaope kulowa muubwenzi womwe ungabweretse mavuto akamakula. Mwachitsanzo, Nilanthi adawona makolo ake akukangana nthawi zonse ali mwana. Pomaliza pake, adalekana. Tsopano, ngakhale wina atayesa kuyandikira Nilanthi, amaopa, akudabwa kuti, 'Kodi moyo wanga udzakhala ngati wa Amayi?'
• Kupweteka mtima kwa m'mbuyomu:Akuluakulu omwe adavulala chifukwa cha kutha kwa banja, kusudzulana, kapena kusakhulupirika angaope kubwererana. Pakapita nthawi, chisankhochi chingakhale mantha. Tangoganizirani, Kasun adakhumudwa kwambiri ndi chikondi chake choyamba. Kenako adaganiza kuti sadzayandikiranso munthu wina aliyense. Tsopano ndi mantha kwa iye.
• Kuopa kuphonya (FOMO): Anthu ena amaopa kuti, "Ngati ndidzipereka kwa munthu uyu, kodi ndiphonya kupeza wina wabwino?" Ndicho chifukwa chake sadzipereka kwa aliyense.
• Chikhalidwe kapena chipembedzo: Zikhalidwe zina zimalimbikitsa maukwati okonzedweratu popanda kuganizira za chikondi kapena malingaliro. Ngati simusankha mnzanu, mungaope kudzipereka kwathunthu ku ubalewo. Komanso, ngati ndinu membala wa gulu la LGBTQ+ , mungaope kukwatira ngati chipembedzo kapena chikhalidwe chanu chikutsutsa mgwirizano wotere.

Kodi zizindikiro za Gamophobia ndi ziti?

Ngati muli ndi gamophobia, mungakumane ndi zizindikiro zakuthupi monga izi mukaganiza zogonana ndi munthu wina:

• Kumva ngati thupi lanu likuzizira (Chills).
• Chizungulire ndi mutu wopepuka.
• Kutuluka thukuta kwambiri (hyperhidrosis).
• Kugunda kwa mtima. Mukumva ngati chifuwa chanu chikugunda.
• Kusanza.
• Kuvuta kupuma (Dyspnea).
• Kunjenjemera kapena kugwedezeka.
• Kusanza kapena kutsekeka kwa m'mimba (Dyspepsia).

Kodi mungadziwe bwanji Gamophobia?

Madokotala amagwiritsa ntchito kuwunika thanzi la maganizo kuti adziwe matenda a gamophobia. Palibe mayeso enieni a matendawa. Dokotala wanu adzakufunsani za zizindikiro zanu, mbiri yanu ya thanzi la maganizo, komanso ngati muli ndi mantha ena. Angakutumizireninso kwa katswiri wa zaumoyo wamaganizo yemwe ndi katswiri wa mantha ndi matenda a nkhawa.

Kodi mungatani kuti muthane ndi mantha oopa kudzipereka? Kodi mankhwala ake ndi otani?

Ichi ndiye chinthu chofunikira kwambiri. Pali njira zothetsera mantha awa. Anthu ambiri amapeza kuti mtundu wa mankhwala amisala otchedwa Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) amawathandiza kuthana ndi mantha awo odzipereka. CBT imagwira ntchito pozindikira zomwe zimayambitsa mantha anu odzipereka ndikusintha malingaliro amenewo. Katswiri wa zamaganizo angakuthandizeni kusintha malingaliro oipawa kukhala malingaliro abwino okhudza kudzipereka ndi ukwati. Muthanso kuphunzira momwe mungalankhulire ndi okondedwa anu za mantha awa.

"Kumbukirani, CBT ili ngati bwenzi lomwe limazindikira malingaliro osokonezeka omwe ali m'maganizo mwanu ndikukuthandizani kuwakonza."

Njira ina yochiritsira ndi Systemic Desensitization Therapy . Iyi ndi mtundu wa chithandizo chokhudzana ndi kukhudzidwa ndi anthu . Zawonetsedwa kuti zimathandiza anthu ambiri kuthana ndi mantha enaake.

Chithandizo chowonetsa:

• Mudzaphunzitsidwa kuthana ndi zizindikiro zanu pogwiritsa ntchito njira zopumulira monga kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi opumira kwambiri komanso kusinkhasinkha.
• Pang'onopang'ono, pang'onopang'ono mumakumana ndi lingaliro lopanga ubale. Izi zikutanthauza kuti simupemphedwa kuchita chinthu chachikulu nthawi imodzi, mumayamba ndi zinthu zazing'ono.
• Mudzapatsidwa ntchito zenizeni kuti zikuthandizeni kuthana ndi mantha anu odzipereka ku ubale wa nthawi yayitali.

Kodi ndi mavuto ati omwe angayambitse Gamophobia?

Kudzipatula nthawi zonse kwa anthu omwe mumawakonda komanso kupewa maubwenzi kungayambitse mavuto pa thanzi lanu lakuthupi komanso la maganizo. Mungakumane ndi mavuto ngati awa:

• Kuvutika maganizo ndi maganizo ofuna kudzipha.
• Kulephera kwa erectile (kwa amuna)
• Nkhawa ndi mantha.
• Matenda ogwiritsira ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Anthu ena amatembenukira ku njira zolakwika kuti athawe mantha amenewa.

Kodi ndiyenera kupita kwa dokotala liti?

Ngati mwakumana ndi chilichonse mwa izi, pitani kwa dokotala:

• Ngati pali mantha.
• Ngati muli ndi nkhawa yosalekeza yomwe imasokoneza moyo watsiku ndi tsiku kapena tulo.
• Ngati pali zizindikiro za kuvutika maganizo kapena kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo molakwika .

Ndi mafunso ati omwe ndiyenera kufunsa dokotala wanga?

Mukapita kwa dokotala, ndi bwino kufunsa mafunso ngati awa:

• Kodi n’chiyani chimandipangitsa kukhala ndi mantha amenewa?
• Kodi chithandizo chabwino kwambiri kwa ine ndi chiti?
• Kodi ndiyenera kupita ku psychotherapy?
• Kodi ndiyenera kulandira chithandizo kwa nthawi yayitali bwanji?
• Kodi ndiyenera kuda nkhawa ndi zovuta?

Pomaliza, kumbukirani izi (Uthenga Wopita Nawo Kunyumba)

Ndizachilendo kuti tonsefe tizikhala ndi kukayikira pang'ono (komwe kumadziwikanso kuti 'mapazi ozizira') tikalowa muubwenzi. Komabe, kwa munthu amene ali ndi gamophobia, mantha amenewa akhoza kukhala amphamvu kwambiri moti angamulepheretse kuchita zinthu. Izi zikutanthauza kuti manthawa amamulepheretsa kupititsa patsogolo ubale wake ndikupanga ubale wolimba ndi ena.

Ngati mudapwetekedwapo kale, gamophobia ingakhale njira yodzitetezera kuti musakumanenso ndi ululu womwewo. Koma kumbukirani, ukhoza kuthetsedwa. Katswiri wodziwa bwino ntchito yake angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi mantha amenewa. Pakapita nthawi, nanunso mungakhale paubwenzi wosangalala komanso wokhazikika. Musamaope kupempha thandizo. Simuli nokha.

" Gamophobia, mantha odzipereka, mantha a ukwati, nkhawa, mantha, psychotherapy"