Kodi inunso mumamva choncho? Chilichonse chimene mumachita, kuyambira chaching'ono mpaka chachikulu, chiyenera kuchitidwa bwino kwambiri. Kodi mumamva kuti muli ndi katundu wolemera komanso wolakwa ngati mwalakwitsa pang'ono? Ngati ndi choncho, mwina mukuvutika ndi vuto la maganizo lotchedwa ' Perfectionism '. Mwachidule, ichi ndi chikhulupiriro champhamvu chakuti chilichonse chimene mumachita chiyenera kukhala changwiro, popanda zolakwa zilizonse. Kuganiza motere sikwabwino kwambiri pa thanzi lanu la maganizo ndi thupi.
Kodi mungadziwe bwanji ngati muli ndi chilakolako chofuna kuchita zinthu mwangwiro?
Ambiri a ife tingakhale 'okonda zinthu zangwiro' mwanjira ina m'miyoyo yathu. Mwina muli choncho pa kuphika, kapena mwina muli pantchito yanu. Koma ngati mukufuna 'ungwiro' uwu pa chilichonse chimene mumachita, ndiye kuti muli ndi mwayi wokhala ndi vutoli. Tiyeni tiwone makhalidwe akuluakulu.
- Kuchedwetsa zinthu: Kuchedwetsa kuyamba ntchito poopa kuti simungathe kuimaliza popanda kulakwitsa.
- Kutenga nthawi yosafunikira: Mumatenga nthawi yayitali kuchita zomwezo kuposa ena chifukwa mulibe nthawi yochitira 'perf ECT '.
- Kungoganizira za zotsatira zake zokha: M'malo mosangalala ndi njira yogwirira ntchito, mumagwira ntchito ndi zotsatira zake zokha.
- Kusakhutira: Mumamva ngati simunamalize ntchitoyo mpaka mutaganiza kuti, "Izi zili bwino tsopano."
Chofunika ndichakuti 'Kukonda zinthu zonse mwangwiro' si matenda. Koma ngati sikulamuliridwa , kungakhudze kwambiri thanzi lanu la maganizo.
Kodi pali mitundu ikuluikulu ya chizolowezi chofuna kuchita zinthu mwangwiro?
Inde, makamaka tikulankhula za mitundu itatu ya chizolowezi chofuna kuchita zinthu mwangwiro. Ngakhale pali kufanana pakati pa izi, palinso kusiyana pang'ono. Tiyeni tiwone zomwe zili mu tebulo ili.
| Mtundu wa ungwiro | Mwachidule... |
|---|---|
| Kufuna kukwaniritsa miyezo ya munthu payekha (kutengera miyezo ya munthu payekha) | Izi ndi zabwino kwambiri. Chifukwa mumadzipangira zolinga zazikulu ndipo mumakhala ndi chilimbikitso chozikwaniritsa. Izi zimakupangitsani kuti musamavutike maganizo komanso kupsinjika maganizo. Ngakhale ena atanena kuti, "Izi ndi zolinga zazikulu kwambiri kuti mukwaniritse," zidzakulimbikitsani. |
| Kudziona ngati wangwiro | Izi ndi zoopsa pang'ono. Mukatero, mumakhala ndi mantha komanso kutaya mtima, ngati kuti simungathe kukwaniritsa zolinga zanu. Izi zingayambitse zinthu monga nkhawa, kupsinjika maganizo, kudziimba mlandu, komanso kupewa ntchito. |
| Anthu amaika maganizo oti munthu azichita zinthu mwangwiro (potengera kukakamizidwa ndi anthu) | Chomwe chimachitika pankhaniyi ndichakuti simukukakamizidwa ndi inu nokha, koma ndi anthu akunja, kuti 'muchite chilichonse bwino'. Mwachitsanzo, m'maudindo monga dokotala kapena loya, ngakhale cholakwika chochepa sichingachitike. Komanso, kukakamizidwa ndi makolo ena ndi anthu ena kungakhale chifukwa cha izi. |
Zotsatira za thanzi la munthu wofuna kuchita zinthu zonse mwangwiro
Kafukufuku wapeza kuti kufuna kuchita zinthu zonse bwino kumakhudzana ndi mavuto ambiri okhudza matenda amisala. Tiyeni tiwone zotsatira zake.
- Mavuto a thanzi la maganizo :
- Kutopa kwambiri (kutopa kwa maganizo ndi thupi komwe kumachitika chifukwa chogwira ntchito mopitirira muyeso)
- Kupsinjika maganizo
- Kuvutika maganizo
- Nkhawa
- Maganizo odzipha
- Maganizo ndi zochita zosafunikira ( Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder - OCD)
- Matenda a kudya
- Mavuto okhudzana ndi moyo:
- Kudziyang'anira pansi
- Kukhumudwa
- Kuyimitsa ntchito
- Mavuto mu ubale wa anthu
N’chifukwa chiyani tili ndi 'chilakolako changwiro'?
N'zovuta kupeza chifukwa chimodzi chomwe chimayambitsa izi. Pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zambiri. Tiyeni tiwone zazikulu.
- Kuopa kwambiri kulephera.
- Kufunika kwakukulu kokondweretsa makolo kapena akuluakulu.
- Chikhumbo chofuna kukondedwa ndi kulandiridwa ndi ena.
- Kukhala ndi mavuto ena amisala monga nkhawa ndi OCD.
- Kudziona kuti ndi wosatetezeka komanso wosakwanira pa moyo wako.
- Mavuto mu ubale ndi makolo ali mwana.
- Kukhala munthu amene anasonyeza luso lapamwamba kusukulu kapena unyamata.
Kodi pali chithandizo chilichonse chothetsera chilakolako chofuna kuchita zinthu mwangwiro?
Inde, ndithudi. M'malo moyesa kuthana ndi vutoli nokha, ndikofunikira kuonana ndi katswiri wodziwa bwino za matenda amisala , monga dokotala wa matenda amisala kapena mlangizi kudzera mwa dokotala wanu. Angakuthandizeni kudziwa chomwe chimayambitsa vuto lanu ndikuyamba chithandizo choyenera.
Pali njira zingapo zazikulu zochiritsira zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito.
Chithandizo cha maganizo ndi khalidwe (CBT)
Izi zimakuphunzitsani kuti si chilichonse chomwe chiyenera kukhala changwiro 100%. Zimakuphunzitsani kuti zolakwa ndi zachibadwa ndipo musalole kuti zikulepheretseni paulendo wanu.
Kuchiza ndi Hypnotherapy
Izi zimathandiza kusiya maganizo akuti 'zonse kapena palibe'. Izi zimathandiza kusintha maganizo okhwima amenewa.
Chithandizo cha machitidwe a mabanja
Munkhaniyi, tikuwona momwe chilakolako cha ungwiro chinayambira m'banja mwanu, komanso momwe chinakukhudzirani inu monga munthu. Timagwira ntchito ndi achibale athu kuti tipeze njira zothetsera vutoli.
Zinthu zomwe mungayesere nokha
Kuwonjezera pa uphungu wa dokotala, pali zinthu zingapo zomwe mungayesere kuthana ndi vutoli nokha.
- Lembani zabwino ndi zoyipa: Lembani m'buku zabwino ndi zoyipa za kukhala munthu wofuna kuchita zinthu mwangwiro. Mukamva choncho, yang'ananinso zoyipazo ndipo sankhani zomwe mukufuna.
- Khalani ndi zolinga zenizeni: Khalani ndi zolinga zenizeni zomwe mungathe kuzikwaniritsa. Mukatero mudzasiya kutopa ndi kufunafuna zinthu zosatheka.
- Konzani nthawi yomaliza: Konzani nthawi yomaliza yogwira ntchito iliyonse ndipo yesetsani kuimaliza mkati mwa nthawiyo. Izi zidzakuthandizani kuti musawononge nthawi yanu pa chinthu chomwecho.
- Pewani kuzengereza: M'malo moganizira za zotsatira zake, gawani ntchitoyo m'zigawo zingapo kenako pitirizani mukamaliza gawo limodzi. Mwanjira imeneyi, simudzamva kutopa kwambiri.
- Landirani zolakwa: Kumbukirani kuti zolakwa si zoipa kwenikweni. Ndipotu, mungaphunzirepo kanthu. M'malo moganizira kwambiri, zilandireni ngati gawo la moyo wanu.
- Yang'anani pa zinthu zina: M'malo moyesa kuchita chinthu chomwecho bwino, khalani ndi nthawi yochita zinthu zosiyanasiyana zomwe zimakusangalatsani komanso zofunika kwa inu.
Uthenga Wopita Nawo Kunyumba
- Kufuna kuchita zinthu mwangwiro si matenda, koma ndi vuto la maganizo lomwe lingakhudze thanzi lanu la maganizo ngati silinathetsedwe.
- Zolakwa ndi gawo la moyo. Dziwani kuti sizinthu zonse zomwe ziyenera kukhala zangwiro 100%.
- Ngati mukumva kupsinjika maganizo kapena kuda nkhawa ndi vutoli, ndikofunikira kwambiri kukaonana ndi dokotala ndikupempha upangiri m'malo movutika nokha.
- Khalani ndi zolinga zomwe mungathe kuzikwaniritsa, musamachedwetse zinthu, pezani nthawi yochita zinthu zomwe zingakusangalatseni. Khalani okoma mtima kwa inu nokha.
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