Kodi mukusangalala ndi inu nokha? (Kudzidalira) ndipo tiyeni tikambirane za mphamvu zanu zamaganizo!

Muli bwanji? Pali masiku omwe timamva kusangalala kwambiri komanso kudzitamandira. Ndipo palinso masiku ena omwe timamva ngati otsika pang'ono, ngati kuti sitidziona ngati ofunika. Lero tikambirana za chinthu chofunikira kwambiri kwa tonsefe. Ndiko kuti, kukhala ndi malingaliro abwino pa ife tokha, kapena monga momwe timanenera mu Chingerezi , "Kudziona ngati Wofunika" . Zili ngati kuwala pang'ono mkati mwa mtima wanu. Kuwala kumeneko kukayaka bwino, dziko lonse limawoneka lokongola.

Kodi kudzidalira kumeneku n’chiyani kwenikweni?

Tsopano mwina mukudabwa ngati `(Kudzikuza)` kumatanthauza kudzikuza, kudziona ngati wapamwamba kuposa ena, kapena kudzitamandira ndi zinthu zako. Ayi, ayi konse! Sizili choncho, eti? `(Kudzikuza)` ndi mphamvu yachete, koma yamphamvu kwambiri mkati mwa malingaliro anu. Ili ngati mizu ya mtengo; ngakhale kuti sizikuwoneka kuchokera kunja, ndi mizu yomwe imasunga mtengowo mwamphamvu.

Mwachidule, ``Kudzidalira`` kumatanthauza:

• Umadzikonda wekha.
• Kuona makhalidwe anu abwino ndi luso lanu.
• Mwachibadwa mumadzitamandira ndi zinthu zomwe mungathe kuchita.
• Muli okondwadi ndi umunthu wanu.
• Mumadzikhulupirira nokha. Kumva kuti "Ndingathe kuchita izi."
• Mukudziwa kuti ndinu gawo lofunika la anthu awa, dziko lino, ndipo muli ndi ufulu wokhala pano.

Tangoganizirani, mukapeza chigoli chabwino pa mayeso omwe mudaphunzira mwakhama, makolo anu kapena aphunzitsi anu akanena kuti, "Mwana wanga, ndikunyadira kwambiri," mukamasewera ndikuseka ndi anzanu, ndipo mukamva kuti akulowetsani m'masewera ndi nkhani zawo, mumamva kusangalala kwambiri, sichoncho? Panthawiyo, kudzidalira kwanu ndi kudzidalira kwanu kumakhala kolimba kwambiri.

Koma moyo sumayenda mofanana nthawi zonse. Padzakhala masiku omwe zinthu siziyenda momwe mukuganizira. Mwina mukukangana pang'ono ndi mnzanu, kapena simukuchita bwino monga momwe mumaganizira pa mayeso. Pamenepo ndi pomwe mphamvu yamkati iyi, "Kudzidalira", imakuthandizani, ndikukutetezani kuti musagwe.

Kodi kudziona ngati wosafunika kwenikweni kumatanthauza chiyani? Nanga chimachitika ndi chiyani ngati umadziona ngati wosafunika kwenikweni?

Nthawi zina ana, ngati inu, akamadziona kuti sali bwino, timati amadziona kuti ndi otsika kapena alibe chidaliro mwa iwo okha. Nazi zina zomwe zingachitike:

• Nthawi zambiri amaganiza kuti ndi otsika poyerekeza ndi ena osati aluso kwambiri. Maganizo monga akuti, "O, ndi abwino kwambiri kuposa ine!" amabwera m'maganizo.
• Saona makhalidwe awo abwino ndi luso lawo. Zili ngati kudziyang'ana pagalasi osaona zabwino.
• M'malo moganiza kuti "Ndingathe kuchita izi," nthawi zambiri ndimaganiza kuti "Sindingathe kuchita izi," "Izi sizingagwire ntchito."
• Amaopa kuyesa zinthu zatsopano chifukwa sadzidalira, ndipo amakayikira chilichonse. Amaganiza kuti, "Nanga bwanji ndikalephera?"
• Ngakhale chinthu chaching'ono chikalephera, amasiya msanga. Amaganiza kuti, "Sindili bwino pa izi" ndipo amasiya kuyesera.
• Ngati ena awachitira nkhanza, ngakhale atanena kanthu kakang'ono, amamva chisoni kwambiri komanso kukhumudwa, poganiza kuti ndi chifukwa chawo.

Koma ichi ndi chinthu chomwe muyenera kukumbukira. "Kudzidalira" ndi kudzidalira sizinthu zomwe zimamangidwa usiku umodzi. Zimatenga nthawi. Koma izi ndi mphamvu zomwe mwana aliyense angachite, ndipo ziyenera kukhala nazo. Mwana aliyense akhoza kuchita. Chifukwa mwana aliyense ali ndi makhalidwe abwino ambiri mkati mwake. Mwana aliyense ndi woyenera m'dziko lino. Mwana aliyense ali ndi luso, woyenera kukondedwa, munthu amene amakondedwa ndi ena, munthu amene angathe kupereka malingaliro atsopano. Mwana aliyense ayenera kuchitiridwa chifundo, chilungamo, ndi ulemu.

Ndiye tingawonjezere bwanji izi (Kudzidalira)? Tiyeni tiwone?

Izi zili ngati kubzala mtengo m'munda. Muyenera kuuthirira, kuuthirira feteleza, ndikuulola kuti ulandire kuwala kwa dzuwa. Pokhapokha mtengowo udzakula, kuphuka, ndikubala zipatso. "Kudzidalira" kwanu ndi komweko. Pali anthu omwe angakuthandizeni kulima, ndipo pali zinthu zomwe mungachite nokha.

Thandizo lochokera kwa makolo ndi aphunzitsi

Makolo anu ndi aphunzitsi kusukulu amakuthandizani kuphunzira zinthu zatsopano ndikuyesera zinthu zatsopano. Tangoganizirani za tsiku lomwe mudaphunzira kukwera njinga, kapena tsiku lomwe mudaphunzira kuwerenga mawu atsopano. Amakuyamikani mukayesa, mukachita zonse zomwe mungathe, mukachita zinazake nokha, nati, "Wachita bwino mwana wanga, ndiwe wanzeru kwambiri!", sichoncho? Izi zimakupangitsani kumva bwino za luso lanu, monga, "Inenso nditha kuchita zinthu, eti?"

Chithandizo kuchokera kwa anzanu

Anzanu nawonso ndi ofunika kwambiri. Akakulowetsani m'masewera awo, zokambirana, ndi zochita zawo, ndikukuchitirani ulemu, kukoma mtima, komanso chilungamo, mumamva kuti simuli nokha, kuti aliyense amakulandirani, ndipo ndinu membala wofunika wa gululi. Kumva kumeneku ndi gwero lalikulu la `(Kudzidalira)`.

Zinthu zomwe mungadzichitire nokha

Tsopano tiyeni tiwone zomwe mungachite nokha. Izi ndi zinthu zosavuta, koma zothandiza kwambiri.

• Lembani mndandanda wa zinthu zomwe mungachite:

Tengani pepala laling'ono ndipo yesani kulemba zonse zomwe mungathe kuchita.

• Kodi mungathe kujambula, kuimba nyimbo, kuvina? Kusewera cricket, kuponya zingwe, kuthamanga ndi kulumpha? Kodi mungathe kusewera chida cha nyimbo (monga chitoliro kapena kiyibodi)?
• Kodi mungathe kukwera njinga, kusambira, kuthamanga mofulumira, kuponya mpira bwino, kuthetsa chiwembu, kapena kufotokoza nkhani yomwe ingaseketse anzanu?
• Kodi ndinu wowerenga wabwino? Kodi ndinu waluso pa masamu? Kodi mumakonda sayansi, mbiri yakale, kapena chilengedwe?
• Musaiwale zinthu zazing'ono, chabwino?Kodi mungakonze bedi lanu, kuvala zovala, ndikukonzekera nokha? Kodi mungayambe homuweki yanu musanapemphe wina aliyense, kodi mungatsuke mano anu? Kodi mungathandizire ntchito zapakhomo poika mbale patebulo, kuthandiza kukonza chakudya, kuyeretsa mukatha kudya, kudyetsa chiweto chanu (galu, mphaka), ndikuchiyenda nacho kokayenda?

Mukamaliza kulemba mndandanda uwu, yang'anani ndikuwona zinthu zingati zomwe mungachite. Lolani kuti mukhale osangalala komanso onyada nazo. Yesetsani kuchita zina mwa zinthu zomwe zili pamndandandawu nthawi zonse. Nthawi iliyonse mukachita izi, mudzamva bwino za inu nokha. Ndipo mudzakhala bwino pa zinthu zimenezo. Mukamva kuti mungathe kuchita, kudzidalira kwanu ndi "Kudzidalira" kwanu zidzawonjezeka zokha.

• Lembani mndandanda wa makhalidwe anu abwino:

Mphamvu zanu sizinthu zomwe mungathe kuchita zokha, komanso zimaphatikizapo makhalidwe abwino omwe ali mu umunthu wanu. Ganizirani momwe mumachitira zinthu ndi ena.

• Kodi mumayesetsa kukhala okoma mtima , achilungamo , komanso oona mtima ?
• Kodi ndinu wochezeka ? Kodi ndinu munthu amene amathandiza ena? Kodi ndinu munthu amene amasangalatsa ena pochita nthabwala ?
• Kodi ndinu womvetsera wabwino? (Kodi mumamvetsera mnzanu akakhala wachisoni?) Kodi mumakonda nyama?
• Kodi ndinu munthu wochita zinthu mwachangu komanso wotanganidwa? Kapena ndinu munthu wodekha komanso womasuka ?
• Kodi ndinu waluso (mukuganiza ndikupanga zinthu zatsopano), wolimba mtima (mukukumana ndi mavuto popanda mantha), kapena ndinu waluso pamasewera?

Yesetsani kusonyeza khalidwe lanu labwino tsiku lililonse. Onani momwe makhalidwe abwino omwe mumasonyeza amasinthira anthu omwe ali pafupi nanu. Komanso, onani momwe mumamvera bwino mukamagwiritsa ntchito makhalidwe anu abwino.

• Sinthani mawu akuti "Sindingathe" kukhala "Ndingathe!":

Poyamba zinthu zikaoneka zovuta, osati ana okha, komanso ife akuluakulu nthawi zina timaganiza kuti, "Um, sindili bwino pa izi," "Sindingathe kuchita izi," "Izi n'zovuta kwambiri kwa ine." Panthawi imeneyo, chotsani lingaliro laling'ono lakuti "Sindingathe" m'maganizo mwanu, ndipo m'malo mwake ganizirani:

• "Ndiyesera."
• "Ndingathe kuthana ndi izi, ndiyese."
• "Ndikuchita zonse zomwe ndingathe."
• "Ndikupempha thandizo kwa munthu amene amadziwa momwe angachitire izi." (Palibe manyazi kupempha thandizo, eti?!)

Mukaganiza molimba mtima chonchi, mumadzimva bwino. Ndipo mumakhala ndi mwayi woyesa zinthu zatsopano. Yembekezerani zinthu zabwino. Dziuzeni kuti, "Ndikuganiza kuti nditha kuchita izi." Kenako yesetsani, phunzirani, kapena konzekerani moyenerera. Mudzadabwa (ndi kunyada) ndi zomwe mungachite!

• Yesani momwe mungathere:

Mungathe kudzimva bwino mukamayesa chinthu. Simuyenera kukhala woyamba pa chilichonse. Simuyenera kupambana nthawi zonse. Tangoganizirani, mukujambula chithunzi. Ngakhale chitakhala kuti si chithunzi chokongola kwambiri padziko lonse lapansi, ngati mwachijambula ndi chilakolako, ndi khama lanu lonse, mutha kusangalala nacho. Mukachita khama lanu lonse pa chinthu china, '(Kudzidalira kwanu)' kumakula zokha.

• Khalani ndi nthawi ndi anthu omwe mumawakonda:

Chitani zinthu zomwe mumakonda ndi amayi anu, abambo anu, banja lanu (abale anu, abale anu, alongo anu, abale anu), ndi anzanu apamtima. Sewerani limodzi, chezani, onerani kanema, pitani paulendo waufupi. Izi zidzakupangitsani kumva ngati muli m'gulu lino, osati nokha. Ganizirani nthawi zomwe ena anakulandirani, anakuikani m'gulu lawo, ndipo anakukondani. Onani momwe munamvera za inu nokha panthawiyo. Musaiwale kuona zabwino mwa ena.

• Chitirani ena zabwino (khalani okoma mtima):

Thandizani makolo anu. Thandizani kukonzekera chakudya, kuyeretsa nyumba, kukonza chipinda chanu, kudyetsa chiweto chanu, kukhala okoma mtima kwa abale anu, kusewera nawo. Mvetserani mnzanu akabwera kudzakuuzani zinazake. Gawani zomwe muli nazo (pensulo, chakudya). Thandizani mnansi wanu kunyamula katundu. Thandizani mphunzitsi kuyika mabuku pambali, thandizani kufufuta bolodi. Pangani wina kuseka. Lowani nawo mwana yemwe ali yekha mkalasi mumasewera, kapena mulankhule naye za kusewera.

• Ganiziraninso za chinthu chabwino chomwe mudachita:

Ganizirani za chinthu chabwino chomwe mudachita dzulo kapena m'mawa uno. Mwina munathandiza amayi anu, kapena munapatsa pensulo kwa mnzanu. Mumamva bwanji mukaganizira za icho? Onani, mukachita zinthu zabwino, mumadzimva bwino. Mumaona kuti zomwe mumachita ndizofunikira, kuti zili ndi tanthauzo lalikulu. Lolani mphamvu zokongola zimenezo, makhalidwe abwinowo, ziwale bwino mkati mwanu!

Uthenga wofunika kwambiri woti upite nawo kunyumba

Kotero, bwenzi langa, `(Kudzidalira)` ali ngati bwenzi labwino kwambiri komanso lamphamvu kwambiri lomwe muli nalo mumtima mwanu. Bwenzi limenelo likakhala lamphamvu, mumapeza mphamvu zodabwitsa zothana ndi chilichonse ndikugonjetsa vuto lililonse.

Ndinu munthu wamtengo wapatali. Musaiwale izi. Dziwani luso lanu, makhalidwe anu abwino. Musaope kuyesa zinthu zatsopano. Mungagwe, koma dzukaninso. Kugwa ndi gawo la kuphunzira. Nthawi zonse dzichitireni chikondi ndi kukoma mtima. Mutha kuchita! Ndinu wamphamvu kuposa momwe mukuganizira!

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