Kodi mungapambane bwanji moyo ndi maganizo abwino?

Tangoganizirani kuti mukuyesera kusiya kusuta fodya, kapena mukuyesera kuchepetsa thupi ndikuyamba kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi . Mukufunadi kuchita zimenezo. Koma kenako mwalakwitsa pang'ono ndipo mumati, "O, sindingathe kuchita izi..."? Pamenepo, momwe mumalankhulira nokha zingasinthe ulendo wanu wonse. Zingakulimbikitseni kapena kukukhumudwitsani kwathunthu.

Inu, mphamvu ya momwe mumalankhulira nokha.

Tiyeni tikambirane pang'ono za kafukufuku amene anachitika pankhaniyi. Gulu la osewera a water polo linapatsidwa luso latsopano loti lizichite. Gulu lina linauzidwa kuti lizinena zinthu zabwino kwa iwo okha pamene likuchita izi. Izi zikutanthauza zinthu monga, "Ndikhoza kuchita izi," ndi "Ndili bwino." Gulu lina linkachita zinthu mwachizolowezi popanda kunena chilichonse.

Zotsatira zake zinali zodabwitsa. Osewera omwe adadyetsa ubongo wawo malingaliro abwino adakula kwambiri kuposa ena. Analinso ndi malingaliro ochepa osafunikira m'maganizo mwawo. Izi zidawathandiza kuyang'ana kwambiri zomwe anali kuphunzira.

Ndiye mukamaganiza zinthu zoipa, kodi mumaganiza bwanji kuti zinthu zikuyendereni bwino? Tiyeni tione njira zina zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuchita zimenezi.

Kodi mumalankhula nokha ngati mnzanu?

Tangoganizani mnzanu wapamtima, dzina lake ndi 'Kasun', wakhumudwa kwambiri kuti china chake chalakwika. Kodi mumamudzudzula? Kodi mumamupweteka kwambiri mwa kunena kuti, "Simungathe kuchita zimenezo bwino"? Ayi, sichoncho? Chomwe mumachita ndikumulimbikitsa mwa kunena kuti, "Palibe vuto, munthu, ndi momwe zilili. Tiyeni tiyesenso," sichoncho?

Koma tikamadzilankhula tokha, nthawi zambiri timachita zosiyana. Zinthu zazing'ono zikalakwika, timadziimba mlandu. Timaganiza zinthu monga, "Sindingathe kuchita izi," "Ndili waulesi kwambiri." Ngati mawu omwe ali m'mutu mwanu ali ngati munthu amene simungafune kukhala naye pafupi, ndi nthawi yoti musinthe mawu amenewo.

Nthawi ina mukadzadzipeza mukudziimba mlandu, dzifunseni kuti: "Ngati mnzanga wapamtima akanakhala nane pakali pano, ndikanamuuza zinthu zotani?" Mofananamo, lankhulani nokha mofatsa komanso mokoma mtima, monga momwe mungalankhulire ndi munthu amene mumamukonda .

Lembani zomwe mwapambana! Ndi mphamvu yaikulu.

Tikakhumudwa, n'zosavuta kuiwala zinthu zonse zabwino zomwe tagwira ntchito molimbika kuti tikwaniritse. Tangoganizirani kuyesa kuchepetsa thupi. Ngati muwonjezera thupi pang'ono tsiku lina, mungaganize kuti, "O, chilichonse chomwe ndagwira ntchito molimbika kwa nthawi yayitali chatayika."

Koma ngati mulemba kupambana kwanu, ndiko kuti, kupita patsogolo komwe mwapanga, kwinakwake, muli ndi umboni wooneka bwino wa khama lanu.

Ndi bwino kutsatira kulemera kwanu, koma sizingakhale zokwanira, makamaka ngati muli ndi kulemera kochuluka koti muchepetse.

Choncho, khalani ndi chizolowezi cholemba zinthu zina zingapo. Mwachitsanzo:

• Munkachita masewera olimbitsa thupi kwa nthawi yayitali bwanji patsiku?
• Kodi simunadye chakudya cham'mawa ?
• Kodi munapita ku gym?
• Kuchuluka kwa nthawi zomwe mwasankha kudya chipatso m'malo mwa biscuit.

Mukalemba zinthu zazing'ono zimenezo, pamene maganizo oipa akubwera m'maganizo mwanu ndipo mukuyesera kudziwononga nokha, mutha kutenga bukulo ndikuyang'ana. Kenako mudzawona, "Ndi zinthu zingati zabwino zomwe ndachita?" Mutha kukhala okondwa nazo zonse.

'Zolakwa' ndi 'ndemanga' chabe yophunzirira!

Mwina mwamvapo mwambi wakuti, "Palibe kulephera, koma kungoyankha ." Tanthauzo lake ndilakuti ngati chinachake sichikuyenda bwino, m'malo moganizira kwambiri za icho, chiyang'aneni mopanda kutengeka mtima.

Tiyeni tiwone chitsanzo: Mwawonjezera kulemera kwa pafupifupi kilogalamu imodzi.

• Yankho Lolephera: "Mulungu wanga, sabata ino ndi tsoka. Sindidzawonda konse."
• Yankho Labwino: "Hmm... Ndalemera pang'ono. Mwina chifukwa chakuti soya msuzi womwe ndinadya usiku watha unali wamchere kwambiri. Ndiyenera kupewa zimenezo sabata yamawa."

Kodi mukumvetsa kusiyana kwake? Choyamba chimakukhumudwitsani. Chachiwiri chimakupangitsani kuphunzira kuchokera ku cholakwika chanu.

Kuti timvetse bwino lingaliro ili, tiyeni tiwone malingaliro awiri omwe adayambitsidwa ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Carol S. Dweck.

Maganizo achiwiri nthawi zonse ndi omwe amabweretsa chiyembekezo. Mukachotsa lingaliro la 'zolakwitsa' pa cholinga chanu, chomwe chimatsala ndi kupambana ndi kuphunzira .