Chinsinsi chokhala ndi moyo wosangalala? Kodi tikambirane za (Positive Psychology)?

Tonsefe timafuna kukhala osangalala, sichoncho? Koma nthawi zina timaganiza kuti chimwemwe ndi chinthu chomwe chimatibweretsera, chinthu chomwe sitingathe kuchilamulira. 'Ngati zinthu zanga zikanasintha, ndikanakhala wosangalala kwambiri!' Mwina munaganizapo nokha. Koma kodi ndi momwe chimwemwe chimagwirira ntchito? Kafukufuku akusonyeza kuti gawo laling'ono chabe la chimwemwe cha munthu (pafupifupi 10%) limadalira momwe zinthu zilili. Ndiye, chimwemwe chathu chachikulu chimachokera kuti? Tiyeni tikambirane za izi mozama pang'ono.

Kodi timabadwa osangalala? Kapena kodi tingathe kukhala osangalala?

Anthu ena amabadwa achimwemwe pang'ono, sichoncho? Ndiko kuti, chibadwa chachimwemwe ndi gawo la umunthu wawo. Tonse timadziwa anthu omwe nthawi zonse amakhala akumwetulira komanso oyembekezera zabwino. N'zosavuta kuti akhale osangalala chifukwa cha chibadwa chawo chosangalala. Tangoganizirani, muli ndi mnzanu, mosasamala kanthu za vuto lomwe lingabuke, amaliyang'ana ndikumwetulira nati, 'Chabwino, tiyeni tithetse vutoli'. Ndi mtundu wa munthu ameneyo. Ndiye, nchiyani chimachitika kwa iwo omwe amabadwa ndi umunthu womwe umafulumira kukwiya, ndipo nthawi zambiri umawona zolakwika mu chilichonse? Nthawi zonse amatha kuwona zolakwika mwa anthu ndi zinthu kuposa zabwino. Maganizo awo nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi nkhawa kuposa kusangalala. Koma, chofunika kwambiri ndichakuti, ngati akufuna kutero (ndani safuna kukhala osangalala, sichoncho?) amathanso kufika pamlingo umenewo. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, chimwemwe ndi chinthu chomwe tingachikulitse ndikuchikulitsa mpaka pamlingo wina.

Chimwemwe chilidi m'manja mwathu!

Kodi mukudziwa kuti ofufuza apeza kuti chisangalalo chathu choposa 50% chimadalira zinthu zomwe tingathe kuzilamulira? Iyi ndi nkhani yabwino kwambiri! Chifukwa zikutanthauza kuti aliyense akhoza kukhala wosangalala ngati akufuna. Gawo lalikulu la momwe tingakhalire osangalala limadalira "malingaliro" athu (momwe timaonera zinthu, momwe timaganizira), zizolowezi zomwe timachita, komanso momwe timakhalira moyo wathu watsiku ndi tsiku. Mwachidule, zinthu zazing'ono zomwe mumachita ndi kuganiza kuyambira nthawi yomwe mumadzuka m'mawa mpaka nthawi yomwe mumagona usiku zimakhudza kwambiri chisangalalo chanu. Mwa kuphunzira zinthu zofunika kwambiri kuti mukhale osangalala, titha kuzigwiritsa ntchito kuti tikhale osangalala.

N’chifukwa chiyani chimwemwe chili chofunika kwambiri?

Chimwemwe si kungomva bwino kapena nkhope yachikasu yokongola. Ndikumverera kuti mukusangalaladi ndi moyo wanu, komanso chikhumbo chofuna kuugwiritsa ntchito bwino. Chimwemwe chili ngati 'matsenga' omwe amatipangitsa kuchita bwino kwambiri, kutithandiza kuchita bwino kwambiri. Izi ndi zomwe ofufuza adapeza pofufuza anthu osangalala:

• Anthu osangalala amakhala opambana kwambiri. Amapeza zotsatira zabwino kuchokera ku ntchito yawo.
• Anthu osangalala ndi aluso pakukwaniritsa zolinga zawo . Amakwaniritsa zomwe akufuna.
• Anthu osangalala amakhala ndi thanzi labwino ndipo sadwaladwala kawirikawiri.
• Anthu osangalala amakhala ndi moyo wautali.
• Anthu osangalala amakhala ndi ubale wabwino pakati pa anthu. Amalumikizana bwino ndi mabanja awo komanso anzawo.
• Anthu osangalala amaphunzira bwino ndipo zimawavuta kuphunzira zinthu zatsopano.

Mukuona, pali mapindu ambiri okhala ndi chimwemwe!

Ndiye, kodi ndi zinthu ziti zofunika kuti munthu akhale ndi moyo wachimwemwe?

Chimwemwe n'chofunika kwambiri pa miyoyo yathu kotero kuti pali kafukufuku wodzipereka, wotchedwa positive psychology . Akatswiri pankhaniyi apeza zinthu zofunika kwambiri zomwe zimapangitsa anthu kukhala osangalala. Kodi tikambirane za izo chimodzi ndi chimodzi?

1. Maganizo Abwino

Chimwemwe. Kuyamikira. Chikondi. Kudabwa. Chimwemwe. Kusewera. Nthabwala. Kudzoza. Chifundo. Chiyembekezo. Luso. Chidwi. Chisangalalo. Kusangalala. Kudekha. Tonsefe timakonda kumva malingaliro abwino ngati awa, sichoncho? Taganizirani za chisangalalo chomwe timamva tikawona duwa lokongola, tikawona mwana wamng'ono akumwetulira, tikalandira thandizo kuchokera kwa mnzathu. Kuwonjezera pa kungomva bwino, malingaliro abwino amachita zambiri zabwino pa ubongo ndi thupi lathu. Amachepetsa mahomoni athu opsinjika maganizo , amathandiza kuthetsa mavuto amisala monga nkhawa ndi kuvutika maganizo, komanso amalimbitsa chitetezo chathu cha mthupi.

Kumva ngakhale pang'ono chabe malingaliro abwino tsiku lililonse kumakhudza kwambiri chimwemwe chathu ndi moyo wathu wabwino.

Ndicho chifukwa chake ndikofunikira kwambiri kuchita zinthu zomwe zimatipangitsa kumva bwino. Maganizo amenewa angapangidwe ndi zinthu zosavuta monga kusewera ndi mwana kapena chiweto, kupita kokayenda pamalo okongola panja, kapena kumvetsera nyimbo yomwe mumakonda. Komanso, kudziwa momwe tingathanirane ndi malingaliro athu oipa ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti tikhale osangalala. Maganizo ovuta monga chisoni, mkwiyo, ndi mantha ndi gawo la moyo. Koma ndi momwe timawayang'anira, momwe timawalamulira, zomwe zimapangitsa kusiyana kwakukulu.

2. Mphamvu ndi Zokonda Zanu

Mphamvu zathu ndi zinthu zomwe timachita bwino komanso zomwe timakonda kuchita. Tonsefe tili ndi mphamvu, mwina sitinazipezebe. Mphamvu zathu zingaphatikizepo:

• Zinthu zomwe timakonda - mwachitsanzo, nyimbo, zaluso, sayansi, kupanga zinthu, kuphika, kuwerenga mabuku.
• Luso lililonse lomwe tili nalo - monga kujambula, kusewera chida choimbira, kusewera masewera, kulankhula bwino.
• Makhalidwe athu abwino - monga kukoma mtima, nthabwala, kuthandiza ena, utsogoleri.

Chimwemwe chimawonjezeka pamene tikupeza mphamvu ndikuchita zomwezo. Tikamayesetsa kwambiri kuchita zinthuzo, timachita bwino kwambiri, mpaka titakhala katswiri pa izo.Tangoganizirani, mumakonda kujambula ndipo mumachita bwino kwambiri. Mukajambula, kaya ndi nthawi ya maphunziro anu kapena tsiku lopuma, simudziwa kuti nthawi imayenda bwanji, sichoncho? Mumaganizira kwambiri ntchitoyo kotero kuti mumaiwala chilichonse chomwe chikuzungulirani. Ndicho chimene psychology imatcha 'flow' . Kukumana ndi 'flow' imeneyi kungakuthandizeni kuwonjezera chimwemwe chanu. Kupeza njira zogwiritsira ntchito mphamvu zanu tsiku lililonse ndikofunikira kuti mukhale ndi moyo wachimwemwe.

3. Ubale Wabwino

Anthu omwe ali m'miyoyo yathu ndi ofunikira kwambiri. Timayamikira chikondi ndi chithandizo cha makolo athu, abale athu, abwenzi, aphunzitsi, ndi ena otero. Ubale wabwino ndiye njira yabwino kwambiri yosangalalira ndi chisangalalo, thanzi labwino, komanso moyo wabwino. Kukulitsa luso linalake lamalingaliro kungatithandize kumanga ndikusunga ubale wabwino. Tikathandiza anthu omwe ali m'miyoyo yathu, ndipo iwonso amatithandiza, timakhala olimba mtima, anzeru, komanso opambana. Nazi maluso ena omwe amatithandiza kumanga ubale wabwino:

• Kuphunzira kumvetsetsa momwe tikumvera ndikuwafotokozera moyenera .
• Kugwiritsa ntchito chifundo kuti mumvetse momwe wina akumvera.
• Kusonyeza kukoma mtima . Kuchita zabwino ngakhale pang'ono.
• Kusonyeza kuyamikira thandizo kapena kukoma mtima kwa ena. Khalani ndi chizolowezi chonena kuti "zikomo."
• Kukulitsa luso lofotokoza maganizo athu momveka bwino (kutsimikiza mtima) m'njira yogwirizana ndi momwe tikumvera komanso sikubweretsa mavuto kwa ena.

4. Kupeza tanthauzo ndi cholinga cha moyo

Miyoyo yathu ikhoza kukhala yotanganidwa ndi ntchito za tsiku ndi tsiku komanso maudindo. Chifukwa ambiri a ife timagwira ntchito zambirimbiri, tikhoza kukhala tikuthamangira patsogolo, kuganizira komwe tiyenera kupita. Koma kuchepetsa pang'ono ndikuyang'ana kwambiri zomwe tikuchita komanso chifukwa chake tikuchita kungapangitse chisangalalo. Samalani ndi momwe zomwe mumachita zimakhudzira. Ganizirani momwe mungapangire kusiyana mdera lino komanso padziko lonse lapansi (m'njira yayikulu kapena yaying'ono). Khalani ndi makhalidwe omwe ndi ofunikira kwa inu. Tengani nthawi yoganizira zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri kwa inu (monga kuthandiza ena, kukhala okoma mtima kwa nyama, kuteteza chilengedwe).

Kodi mungakonde bwanji kupanga dziko kukhala malo abwino? Ganizirani za zochita zazing'ono zilizonse za tsiku ndi tsiku zomwe zimakulozerani kunjira imeneyo. Ngakhale chinthu chaching'ono monga kudyetsa mbalame m'mawa kapena kupatsa nyama yosochera madzi kungathandize kukupatsani tanthauzo la moyo wanu ndikuwonjezera chimwemwe chanu.

5. Kukwaniritsa

Miyoyo yathu ikadzala ndi malingaliro abwino, ubale wabwino, mphamvu zophunzitsidwa, komanso cholinga, timakhala okonzeka kukwaniritsa zinthu. Kukhazikitsa zolinga ndikuzikwaniritsaZimatipatsa chinthu choti tiikepo mphamvu zathu. Zimatisonyeza momwe tingasinthire. Tangoganizirani, mwakhazikitsa cholinga choti mupambane mayeso. Phunzirani mwakhama, kenako mumve chisangalalo chokwaniritsa cholinga chimenecho! Yang'anani pa zinthu zofunika kwa inu. Chilichonse chomwe mukuyesera, chitani zonse zomwe mungathe popanda kuyembekezera ungwiro. Sizinthu zonse zomwe zingayende bwino nthawi yomweyo. Ngati zinthu sizikuyenda bwino poyamba, khalani ndi malingaliro abwino ndikuyesanso. Khulupirirani inu nokha ndi maloto anu. Khazikitsani zolinga zenizeni ndi njira zing'onozing'ono zochitira kuti maloto anu akhale enieni. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukufuna kumaliza buku lalikulu, khalani ndi zolinga zazing'ono monga kuwerenga masamba angapo patsiku. Kuti kupambana kukhale kosangalatsa, kondwererani ndi anthu omwe mumawakonda.

Ndiye, kodi tingatani kuti tikhale osangalala?

Chabwino, kuti muthe kuyendetsa bwino maganizo anu , kukhazika mtima pansi maganizo anu , kukhala ndi chidaliro , kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zanu, kulimbitsa kudzidalira kwanu , kuchita zinthu zomwe mumakonda, kukhala ndi ubale wabwino, ndikuphunzira kukhala osangalala. Zimenezo ndi zambiri zoti muganizire! Simungathe kuchita zonse nthawi imodzi. Koma mutha kuyamba pang'ono ndikusankha chinthu chimodzi. Njira yabwino yopitira ku cholinga chilichonse ndikuyamba ndi zochita zazing'ono, zenizeni. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukufuna kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kwa mphindi 10 m'mawa uliwonse, yambani ndi zimenezo. Mukachita zinthuzi kwa kanthawi, zimakhala zizolowezi - zinthu zomwe mumachita popanda kuziganizira. Pamenepo ndi pamene mumatenga sitepe yotsatira yopanga chizolowezi chatsopano cha tsiku ndi tsiku. Kukwaniritsa zolinga zazing'ono, zenizeni kungakubweretsereni chisangalalo chachikulu!

Zinthu zofunika kwambiri kukumbukira kuyambira lero

Kotero, tsopano mukumvetsa kuti chimwemwe si chinthu chomwe chimangoperekedwa, ndi chinthu chomwe tiyenera kuchikulitsa ndi khama komanso chidziwitso, sichoncho?

• Chisangalalo chathu chachikulu chili m'manja mwathu: tingawonjezere chisangalalo chathu mwa kusintha momwe timaganizira, zinthu zomwe timachita, ndi zizolowezi zathu.
• Lolani malingaliro abwino ayende: Chitani chinthu chaching'ono tsiku lililonse chomwe chimakubweretserani chisangalalo, chitonthozo, komanso chidwi. Ikhoza kukhala kumvetsera nyimbo yabwino, kapena kuseka ndi mnzanu.
• Pezani ndikugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zanu: Pali chikhutiro chachikulu pochita zomwe mumachita bwino komanso zomwe mumakonda. Ngati kuthandiza ena ndiye mphamvu yanu, chitani zimenezo.
• Ubale wabwino ndi wamtengo wapatali kwambiri: khalani ndi nthawi ndi banja lanu ndi anzanu, muwathandize, pezani thandizo kuchokera kwa iwo. Limbitsani ubale wanu.
• Wonjezerani tanthauzo pa moyo: Ndi bwino kuganiza kuti zinthu zomwe mumachita zikuthandiza dziko lapansi pang'ono, kumva ngati moyo wanu uli ndi cholinga.
• Yambani pang'ono: Musayese kusintha kwambiri nthawi imodzi. Sankhani chizolowezi chimodzi, chochita chimodzi, ndipo chikonzeni pang'onopang'ono.

Musaiwale, kumanga chimwemwe chanu kuli m'manja mwanu! Ndikoyeneradi kuchita khama pang'ono. Mumapambana!

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Chimwemwe, Umoyo Wabwino, Psychology Yabwino, Thanzi la Maganizo, Maluso a Moyo, Kusamalira Maganizo, Ubale