Twese tuvuga ku bwenge, si byo se? Iyo umuntu yize neza, iyo atsinze ibizamini, turavuga tuti: "Oh, afite ubwonko bwiza." Ariko se wari uzi ko ubwenge bwonyine budahagije kugira ngo umuntu agire icyo ageraho kandi yishime muri iyi si? Hariho ubundi bwenge bwihariye, kandi ubwo ni ubwenge bw'amarangamutima, cyangwa icyo twita mu Cyongereza, "Ubwenge bw'amarangamutima."

Iyo tuvuze ubwenge, ese ni `IQ` gusa?

Ushobora kuba warumvise abantu bavuga ibintu nk'ibi ngo "Oh, ntabwo ngomba kwiga cyane, 'IQ' yanjye iri hejuru cyane." 'IQ' isobanura '(Intellectual Quotient)'. Iki ni igipimo cy'ubushobozi bw'umuntu bwo kwiga no gutekereza . Bishobora kukwereka ku rugero runaka uburyo azakora neza mu ishuri na kaminuza. Ariko, 'IQ' si cyo kintu cyonyine gipima ubushobozi bwacu. Tekereza gato, hari izindi mpano zingahe muri iyi si?

• Hari abantu bamwe na bamwe bazi gutekereza neza mu buryo butatu (ubwenge bw'ahantu) , nk'abubatsi n'abashushanya.
• Ku bandi , ubwenge bw'umuziki ni ikintu kavukire. Bafite ubushobozi butangaje bwo kumenya injyana, umuziki n'ijwi.
• Mu buryo nk'ubwo, ubushobozi bwo gukina siporo, ubushobozi bw'ubuhanzi, ubushobozi bwo mu nganda ... ibi byose ni ubwoko butandukanye bw'ubushobozi bwo mu mutwe.

Muri ibyo rero, hari ubundi bwenge bwihariye bufite akamaro kanini mu buzima bwacu, ariko rimwe na rimwe ntitubuzirikane. Ubwo ni ubwenge bw'amarangamutima, cyangwa "Ubwenge bw'amarangamutima" .

None se ubwo bwenge bwo mu mutwe ni iki? (Ubwenge bw'amarangamutima - EQ)

Mu magambo make, `(Ubwenge bw'amarangamutima)` ni ubushobozi bwacu bwo kumva, gukoresha no gucunga amarangamutima yacu . Bamwe babyita `EQ` (Amarangamutima Quotient), abandi babyita `EI` (Ubwenge bw'amarangamutima). Nk'uko umuntu ufite `IQ` nyinshi agira amanota menshi mu bizamini, umuntu ufite `EQ` nyinshi atsinda cyane mu mibanire n'abandi no mu bihe by'amarangamutima. Tekereza muri ubu buryo, kugira `EQ` nziza ni nko "kubasha kumva abantu, kuba umuhanga mu kubana n'abantu" . Iyo tuvuganye n'umuntu, iyo dukorana, niba dushobora kumwumva no kuba umuhanga mu kuba umuhanga, bizafasha cyane gutsinda mu bice byose by'ubuzima. Mu by'ukuri, ubushakashatsi bumwe na bumwe bwagaragaje ko `EQ` rimwe na rimwe ari ingenzi kuruta `IQ` kugira ngo ugire icyo ukora neza mu ishuri no gutsinda akazi.

Ese ufite inshuti nziza nyinshi? Ese biroroshye ko wumva ibibazo by'abandi? Ese ushobora kugenzura uburakari bwawe? Ibi byose bifitanye isano n'ubushobozi bwawe bwo gutekereza .

Hari abantu bavukana ubwo bushobozi bwa 'EQ'. Ariko ku bandi , bakeneye gutozwa no gutezwa imbere. Inkuru nziza ni uko buri wese ashobora kubunoza! Bitandukanye na 'IQ', 'EQ' ni ikintu dushobora gukoraho tukanoza buhoro buhoro. Ariko, ugomba kumenya icyo wakora na cyo, si byo?

Ni gute wongera ubwenge bwawe mu by'amarangamutima (EQ)?

Ubwenge bw'amarangamutima, cyangwa `EQ`, si ikintu kimwe. Ni uruvange rw'ubushobozi butandukanye. Reka turebe ibyo ari byo n'uburyo bwo kubuteza imbere.

1. Menya amarangamutima yawe bwite.

Ni amarangamutima angahe atandukanye twese tugira umunsi wose? Amarangamutima amwe (nk'ibitungura) ahita vuba kandi agahita, mu gihe andi (nk'ibyishimo n'agahinda) aguma mu bitekerezo byacu igihe gito, bigatuma twumva tumeze neza. Kubasha kumenya no kwita aya marangamutima ya buri munsi ni cyo gice cy'ingenzi cya EQ. Kumenya amarangamutima yacu muri ubu buryo - ni ukuvuga gutekereza gusa ngo, “Oh, numva muri ubu buryo, si byo se?” - bidufasha kugenzura amarangamutima yacu. Bidufasha kandi gusobanukirwa uko abandi bantu bumva. Ariko hari abantu, ndetse n'umunsi umwe, basa n'aho batitaye ku byo bumva. Gerageza kumenya amarangamutima ukimara kuyumva. Bihe izina mu bitekerezo byawe (urugero, “Numva nshimye cyane ubu,” “Numva ncitse intege cyane ubu”). Ibi bigire akamenyero ka buri munsi. Nyuma y'igihe runaka, uzamenya uburyo uzi amarangamutima yawe.

2. Gerageza gusobanukirwa ibyiyumvo by'abandi (Impuhwe)

Twese twavukanye ubushobozi bwo kumva abandi bantu. Ikindi gice cy'ingenzi cya EQ ni ubushobozi bwo kwiyumvisha uko abandi bantu bumva mu gihe runaka. Kandi no gusobanukirwa impamvu bumva bameze batyo. Nubwo tutazi uko umuntu yumva ameze koko, tubyita impuhwe . Ubu buryo bwo kwishyira mu mwanya w'abandi budufasha kwita ku bandi, kubaka ubucuti bwiza, n'imibanire myiza. Ubu buryo bwo kwishyira mu mwanya w'abandi ni bwo butuyobora mu byo twabwira umuntu mu gihe yumva ameze nabi, n'uko twakwitwara imbere ye. Tekereza, inshuti yawe ibabaye nyuma yo gutsindwa ikizamini. Ushobora kutabyumva 100%. Ariko niba ushobora gutekereza uti "Nakumva meze nte iyo mba ndi muri iki kibazo?", ukumva agahinda ke, kandi ukamubwira ijambo rihumuriza, ubwo ni ubuhanga muri EQ.

3. Genda amarangamutima yawe kandi usubize uko bikwiye.

Twese turarakara. Twese turarakara. Ni ngombwa kugaragaza icyo dutekereza n'uko twumva rimwe na rimwe. Ariko gucunga uko usubiza bivuze kumenya igihe, aho usubiza n'uko ugaragaza amarangamutima yawe. Iyo usobanukiwe amarangamutima yawe kandi ukamenya kuyagenzura, ushobora kwitoza kwifata.Niba igihe kitari cyiza cyo kugaragaza icyo cyiyumviro, hagarika igisubizo. Umuntu ufite EQ nziza azi ko gusubiza ibyiyumvo bye mu buryo butubashye, budafite ishingiro, bukarishye, cyangwa bubabaza bishobora kwangiza imibanire ye. Urugero, tekereza ko urakariye umukoresha wawe mu biro. Ese birakwiye guhita utaka, ukinga urugi, hanyuma ukagenda? Cyangwa se birakwiye gutegereza igihe gito, nyuma y'uko uburakari bugabanutse, ukajya kuvuga ikibazo cyawe utuje? Umuntu ufite EQ nziza ahitamo uburyo bwa kabiri. Kuko azi akamaro ko kugenzura amarangamutima ye no gusubiza neza. Ibi bishobora kugabanya imihangayiko yo mu mutwe, kandi, ku rugero runaka, bikarinda indwara z'umubiri nk'umuvuduko ukabije w'amaraso.

4. Hitamo uko umerewe.

Ikindi gice cyo gucunga amarangamutima ni uguhitamo amarangamutima yacu. Amarangamutima ni amarangamutima amara igihe gito. Dufite ububasha bwo guhitamo amarangamutima akwiriye ikibazo runaka hanyuma tukajya muri iyo myumvire. Guhitamo amarangamutima akwiye bishobora gufasha umuntu gukomeza kugira ishyaka, kwibanda ku kintu runaka, cyangwa kongera kugerageza aho gucika intege. Abantu bafite EQ nziza bazi ko amarangamutima atari ikintu twinjiramo gusa. Kumenya amarangamutima meza ku kibazo runaka n'uburyo bwo kwinjira muri iyo myumvire bishobora kudufasha kuyagenzura. Tekereza, ufite ikiganiro cy'ingenzi. Mbere yacyo, wumva ufite ubwoba gato. Ariko, niba bishoboka, shyiramo nkana icyizere muri wowe ubwawe kivuga ngo "Oya, ndabikora neza, ndabishoboye," hanyuma ukajya mu marangamutima ashimishije gato, ibyo nabyo ni bimwe mu bigize EQ.

Ubwenge bw'amarangamutima (EQ) ni ikintu gikura buhoro buhoro.

Ubwenge bw'amarangamutima ni ikintu gikura uko tugenda dukura. Bitabaye ibyo, abantu bakuru bose bakwitwara nk'abana bato! Bataka, bararira, barazinduka, barakubita, kandi bakananirwa kugenzura amarangamutima yabo. Bumwe mu buhanga bugize ubwenge bw'amarangamutima bukura hakiri kare. Bushobora gusa n'aho bworoshye. Urugero, kumenya amarangamutima biroroha iyo uzi icyo ugomba kwibandaho. Ariko, gucunga uburyo witwara ku marangamutima no guhitamo amarangamutima yawe, nka EQ, bishobora kugorana gato kuyamenya. Impamvu ni uko igice cy'ubwonko bwacu gikorana no kwicunga ntigikura kugeza turenze imyaka yacu y'ubugimbi. Ariko, iyo dukoresheje imyitozo, izo nzira z'ubwonko zirakura.

Nk’uko ikimera gito gikura kikavamo igiti kinini, 'EQ' yacu nayo ikura uko igihe kigenda, ubunararibonye, ​​n’imbaraga.

Twese dushobora gukomeza ubwenge bwacu bw'imbere mu kumenya uko twiyumva, gusobanukirwa uko twageze aho turi, gusobanukirwa uburyo n'impamvu abandi bumva uko babyumva, no kugaragaza uko twiyumva mu magambo igihe bibaye ngombwa. Ibi ntibizahita bibaho mu ijoro rimwe, ariko birakwiye gushyiraho imihati.

Incamake n'ibintu byo kwibuka

Noneho rero, dore ibintu bimwe na bimwe ugomba kwibuka mu byo twaganiriyeho uyu munsi:

• Si `IQ` gusa, ahubwo `EQ` nayo ni ingenzi cyane mu buzima: `(Ubwenge bw'amarangamutima)` ni ubushobozi bwo kumva no kugenzura amarangamutima yacu, no kumva abandi.
• `EQ` ishobora kunozwa: Bitandukanye na `IQ`, `EQ` ni ikintu dushobora kongera binyuze mu mbaraga.
• Itoze ibi bintu kugira ngo wongere EQ yawe:
• Menya neza ibyiyumvo byawe.
• Sobanukirwa ibyiyumvo by'abandi ( impuhwe ).
• Genda amarangamutima yawe kandi usubize uko bikwiye.
• Hitamo amarangamutima yawe bwite.
• `EQ` ni ikintu gikura buhoro buhoro: bifata igihe n'imyitozo. Ntutinye, gerageza buhoro buhoro.

Wibuke ko guteza imbere ubumenyi bwawe bwo mu mutwe bitazagufasha gusa kubaho ubuzima bwiza kandi bushimishije, ahubwo bizagufasha no kubungabunga ubuzima bwawe bwo mu mutwe no gukomeza imibanire yawe n'abandi. Noneho, reka dutangire kubitekerezaho gato kandi tubikoreho uyu munsi, si byo se?

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