Ese hari igihe wumva ubangamiwe gato iyo uganira n'inshuti yawe, mu nama yo mu biro, cyangwa mu birori kubera ko ufite ADHD? Ese bikugora kuvuga ibiri mu mutima wawe, cyangwa se uhagarika umuntu mu ijambo mu gihe arimo kuvuga? Ntugahangayike, ntabwo uri wenyine. Ni ibisanzwe kugira ibibazo nk'ibi byo mu mibanire n'abandi kuri ADHD. Ibimenyetso by'ingenzi bya ADHD ni ukutagira icyo witayeho , guhubuka, no gukora cyane . Reka turebe uko wakwitwara muri iki kibazo no kunoza ubuhanga bwawe bwo gusabana n'abandi.
Ese imiti yonyine ntabwo ihagije?
Imiti imwe n'imwe ivura ADHD, nk'imiti itera imbaraga, ishobora kugufasha kugenzura ibimenyetso byawe. Ishobora kugufasha kwibanda no gutuza. Ariko, ntabwo yongera ubuhanga bwawe bwo gusabana n'abandi mu buryo bwikora. Ni ukuvuga ko udashobora kwiga uburyo bwo kugira inshuti, uburyo bwo kuganira, cyangwa uburyo bwo kumva ibyiyumvo by'abandi ukoresheje ikinini. Bisaba imyitozo. Kimwe no kwiga gutwara imodoka, ubu buhanga bugomba kwigishwa.
Wibuke ko ubuhanga bwo kubana n'abandi ari ikintu dushobora kwiga no kunoza iyo tubyitoje. Ntabwo bibaho mu ijoro rimwe, bityo wihe umwanya.
Inama zingirakamaro zo kunoza ubumenyi bwawe mu mibanire n'abandi hamwe n'indwara ya ADHD
Mbere yo gusohokana n'inshuti, umuryango, cyangwa abo mukorana ku kazi, ni ngombwa kwitegura. Ushobora gusoma igitabo cyangwa gukora ubushakashatsi kuri interineti kugira ngo umenye ibishobora kubaho n'uko wakwitwara muri ibyo bihe. Itoze kureba mu maso, gutega amatwi witonze icyo undi muntu avuga, kandi wihangane kugeza arangije kuvuga.
Dore ibindi bintu ushobora kwitaho. Reka tubirebe mu mbonerahamwe.
| Inama | Ni gute byakorwa kandi ni iki kibaho? |
|---|---|
| Komeza ufunguye ubwenge. | Niba umuntu aguhaye ibitekerezo ku myitwarire yawe mu mibanire, ntukabifate nk'igitutsi, ahubwo ubifate nk'umwanya wo kwiga. Itoze gutekereza uti: "Oh, ntabwo nzi ko ibyo bibaho, urakoze kubivuga." |
| Shyiraho intego nto. | Ntugerageze gukora ibintu byose icyarimwe. Gerageza ikintu kimwe cyangwa bibiri icyarimwe. Urugero, niba ufite akamenyero ko gucira umuntu urubanza mu gihe arimo kuvuga, ubutaha uzinjira mu kiganiro, tekereza uti "Nzatega amatwi kugeza ikiganiro kirangiye uyu munsi." Ibyo nibirangira, komeza ufate ikindi, nko kureba mu maso. |
| Itoze uburyo bwa 'Echo' (vissonance) | Ushobora kudashobora kumva neza icyo umuntu avuga kuko urangaye. Kugira ngo wemeze ibi, saba gusubiramo icyo yavuze nk'ikibazo. Urugero: "Sawa, wavuze ko tuzavuga ku mushinga ejo mu gitondo, sibyo? Hari icyo nabuze?" Ibi bizakurinda kubura amakuru y'ingenzi. |
| Igira ku bandi. | Bumwe mu buryo bwiza bwo kwiga ubuhanga bwo kubana n'abandi ni ukwitegereza uko abandi bantu bitwara mu bihe bitandukanye. Reba uko abantu bavuga kandi bakitwara mu rugo, muri kantini yo mu biro, mu bukwe. Ushobora kwigana imico yabo myiza. |
| Gukina (kwitoza gukina) | Itoze ibyo wize ukina ibintu bishobora kubaho. Tekereza ko ufite ikiganiro cy'akazi kiri hafi. Itoze kuvuga imbere y'indorerwamo mu rugo. Cyangwa usabe inshuti yawe magara kumera nk'uwabajije ibibazo. Ibi bishobora kugabanya ubwoba n'imihangayiko yo guhangana n'icyo kibazo. |
| Tekereza | Niba ugomba kujya ahantu hamwe n'abantu benshi, cyangwa guhura n'itsinda ry'abantu ahantu hashya, bishobora gutuma wumva udafite umutekano. Kugira ngo ubitsinde, tekereza ibyabaye n'ikiganiro gishobora kubera aho. Urugero, niba ugiye mu birori byo mu biro, tekereza ku ngingo zisanzwe ushobora kuganiraho kandi witoze kuzivugaho mu bitekerezo byawe inshuro nke. |
| Koresha amabwiriza. | Utuntu duto two kwibutsa dushobora kugufasha gucunga ibimenyetso bya ADHD mu mibanire. Urashobora kubyandika ku nyandiko zifata umwanya. Cyangwa, ushobora gusaba inshuti wizeye kuguha ikimenyetso gito niba wumva urimo guta umurongo. Ushobora kandi gushyiraho utuntu two kwibutsa kuri telefoni yawe cyangwa ugakoresha porogaramu. |
Ntabwo ari ngombwa ko ujya muri uru rugendo wenyine.
Guteza imbere ubu buhanga bifata igihe. Uko wagura urubuga rwawe rw'abantu mu buzima bwawe bwite no ku kazi, saba ibitekerezo by'ingirakamaro ku bantu biteguye kugufasha. Niba rimwe na rimwe bikugora gukora ibi bintu wenyine, nta kibazo kiri mu kubona ubufasha.
Ushobora kuvugana na muganga wawe kuri ibi. Ashobora kuguha ubuyobozi ukeneye. Bishobora kandi kuba ingirakamaro gushaka ubufasha bw'umutoza w'umwuga cyangwa umutoza w'umwuga ushobora kugufasha guteza imbere ubwo buhanga.
Ubutumwa bwo kujyana mu rugo
- Ni ibisanzwe kugira ikibazo cyo gusabana n'abandi bitewe na ADHD. Ntugatinye cyangwa ngo ugire isoni zo kubikora.
- Nubwo ibimenyetso byawe byagenzurwa n'imiti wahawe na muganga, amahugurwa ni ingenzi kugira ngo unoze ubuhanga bwo gusabana n'abandi .
- Aho kugerageza kumenya ibintu byose icyarimwe, shyira intego yo kunoza ubuhanga bumwe bumwe (urugero: kudaca abandi mu ijambo).
- Shaka inkunga ku nshuti n'umuryango biteguye kugufasha muri uru rugendo kandi bakumva.
- Vugana na muganga wawe kuri ibi. Niba bibaye ngombwa, bishobora no kuba ingirakamaro cyane gusaba ubufasha bw'umutoza cyangwa umujyanama utanga amahugurwa yihariye kuri iyi ntego.
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