Ni gute wakwihanganira agahinda ko kubura umwana wawe? (Agahinda)

Twese dutekereza kandi tukavuga ko ababyeyi bagomba gupfa mbere y'abana babo. Ariko ubuzima ntibuhora bugenda uko tubyibwira ko "bwagombye kugenda." Hari igihe, mu buryo butunguranye, ababyeyi bagomba guhura n'ububabare bukabije bwo kubura umwana wabo. Ni ububabare budashobora kuvugwa mu magambo.

Ni iki gitera agahinda ko kubura umwana?

Gupfusha umwana ni urugendo rurerure kandi ruragoye. Ushobora kuba warumvise ibyiciro by'agahinda. Ariko ukuri ni uko, nubwo ibi byiciro ari ibisanzwe, si ko abantu bose bababara kimwe. Biratandukanye cyane cyane iyo uri mu kababaro k'umwana.

Ushobora kugira ibibazo bike muri ibyo. Ibi byiciro bishobora kuba bitameze neza. Igihe buri muntu amara muri buri cyiciro kiratandukanye. Hari igihe ushobora guhura n'ingaruka zimwe inshuro nyinshi.

Intambwe eshanu zikunze kuvugwaho cyane zo kugira agahinda ni izi:

1. Kwanga

2. Uburakari

3. Kuganira

4. Kwiheba

5. Kwemera

Noneho reka tuvuge kuri buri cyiciro mu buryo burambuye.

1. Kwanga

Iki ni cyo cyiciro cya mbere cy'agahinda. Mu by'ukuri ni bwo buryo ubwonko bwawe bugufasha kwirinda gutungurwa cyane. Bikubiyemo gutekereza uti “Oya, ibyo ntibyabayeho,” cyangwa kwigira nk'aho utabyumva uko ubyumva.

2. Uburakari

Ubu burakari bushobora kwerekezwa kuri buri wese, ku kintu icyo ari cyo cyose. Bushobora kwerekezwa kuri wowe ubwawe, ku Mana, ku baganga, cyangwa ku muntu uwo ari we wese wumva ko ari we watumye uru rupfu rubaho. Hari igihe ubu burakari bushobora kuba bufite ishingiro. Ariko kurakara bizatandukanya gusa abantu bagomba kugufasha.

Mu bihe nk'ibi, uburyo bwiza bwo guhangana n'ibi byiyumvo bikomeye ni ugukora imyitozo ngororamubiri, gusabana n'abandi no gushaka ubuvuzi.

3. Kuganira

Ibi si ukuvuga kugirana amasezerano n'Imana buri gihe. Akenshi, iki ni cyo gihe cyo kugerageza gushaka impamvu nyamukuru y'amakuba uhura nayo. Ushobora kwibaza ibibazo nka "Kuki ibi byatubayeho?" "Ni ikihe cyaha nahawe iki gihano?" Kandi ushobora kumva ufite umutima ushinja mu gihe ushaka impamvu. Ibitekerezo nka "Iyaba narabikoze icyo gihe ..." na "Iyaba nabikoze ..." bishobora kuzura mu mutwe wawe.

4. Kwiheba

Muri iki cyiciro niho utangira kumva uburemere bw'ibyabaye, ububabare bwo kubura, gucika intege, n'agahinda gakomeye. Ibi ni byinshi kuruta agahinda gasanzwe.

Dore ibimenyetso bimwe na bimwe bishobora kugaragara kuri iki cyiciro:

• Kurira kenshi
• Gusinzira birahinduka (si ukuryama cyangwa gusinzira cyane)
• Impinduka mu mirire (anorexia cyangwa kurya cyane)
• Gutakaza ubushake mu mibanire n'abandi
• Gutakaza ubushake bwo gukora ikintu icyo ari cyo cyose
• Gukoresha ibiyobyabwenge cyangwa inzoga byiyongera

5. Kwemera

Iki ni cyo gihe ubwonko bwawe bushobora guhangana n’iki kibazo hanyuma bugatangira gukomeza. Ushobora kumva andi marangamutima (agahinda, uburakari), ariko kuri iki gihe uba wageze ku buryo runaka bwo kumvikana.

Kwemera ntibisobanura ko utababara, cyangwa ko wibagiwe umwana wawe. Bisobanura ko utagihangana n'ukuri, utagihunga, ahubwo utangira kubaho ukurikije ukuri.

Uhangana ute n'agahinda?

Nta buryo bwiza bwo kubabara. Kubura umwana birababaza cyane, bityo nta muntu ushobora guhanura uko urugendo rwawe rwo kubabara ruzaba rumeze. Ariko, bumwe mu buryo bwo guhangana n'agahinda ni bwiza kurusha ubundi.

Ingeso mbi zikwiye kwirindwa

• Kunywa inzoga nyinshi cyangwa gukoresha ibiyobyabwenge.
• Gutwara imodoka wasinze.
• Gukoresha amafaranga mu buryo butari bwo (gukoresha amafaranga mu buryo butegetswe).
• Imyitwarire ijyanye n'imibonano mpuzabitsina iteje akaga.
• Kugerageza kugenzura abandi cyangwa kuba umuntu ubabaza abandi.
• Ubucucike.
• Kwiyahura no gutekereza kwiyahura.Niba ufite ibi bitekerezo, hita ubonana na muganga wawe cyangwa winjire mu ishami ry’ubuvuzi bwihutirwa (ETU) ry’ibitaro.

Inama zo guhangana n'agahinda mu buryo bwiza

• Emera kumva amarangamutima yose wumva. Nubwo ayo marangamutima yaba avuguruzanya, nubwo waba utekereza uti "Sinshaka kumva muri ubu buryo," reka byose bibe. Ibyo ni bimwe mu bigize inzira.
• Andika uko wumva umerewe. Kwandika ibyiyumvo byawe bishobora kugufasha cyane kubisobanukirwa no kubigaragaza.
• Ntugashyireho igihe ntarengwa ku gahinda kawe. Ntugahatire kuvuga uti "Nkeneye kurenga ibi ubu ngubu." Bifata igihe kugira ngo kire.
• Shaka uburyo bwo kwibuka umwana wawe wapfuye. Urugero, ushobora gushinga umuco, nko gutanga imfashanyo ku isabukuru y'amavuko y'umwana cyangwa gukora ikintu akunda.
• Koresha uburyo bwawe bwo gushyigikira. Ibyo bivuze umuryango wawe, inshuti, amatsinda y'amadini, cyangwa amatsinda yo gushyigikira abababaye. Ntugerageze kwikorera uyu mutwaro wenyine.
• Shaka ubufasha bw'inzobere. Niba ubu buryo bwiza budafasha, kandi ukaba wumva urimo gukoresha uburyo butari bwiza bwo guhangana n'agahinda, tekereza gushaka uburyo bwo kuvura agahinda . Ni ngombwa kubonana n'umujyanama cyangwa umuganga w'indwara zo mu mutwe w'inzobere mu by'agahinda.

Ubuzima nyuma yo gupfusha umwana

Hari imvugo ivuga ngo "igihe gikiza ibikomere byose," ariko ibyo si ukuri rwose iyo bigeze ku gahinda. Uko "wemera" gute icyo gihombo, uzahora ubana n'ububabare bwo kubura umwana wawe. Rimwe na rimwe, uzumva agahinda, ububabare bwo kubura, no kwiheba.

Ariko, igihe kizakiza agahinda kawe. Uko utangiye gukira, ububabare buzagabanuka kandi bugatuma urushaho kubabara. Uzamenyera ubuzima bushya. Ubuzima bwawe buzatera imbere. Hagati aho, kwibuka umwana wawe bizahora biguma ahantu hihariye mu mutima wawe.