Kana mumwe munhu wepedyo newe, pamwe murume wako, mudzimai wako, mwana, amai, kana baba, akangoerekana afa panguva isingafungidzike... Marwadzo aunonzwa haatsananguriki, handiti? Zvinonzwa sekunge nyika yese yawira pauri. Unotanga sei hupenyu hwako zvakare mushure mekushamisika kukuru uye kusuruvara kusingatsungiririki? Unomuka sei woisa pfungwa dzako dzakasununguka kune vamwe? Nhasi tichataura nezvezvinhu zvishoma zvinogona kukubatsira kuwana simba iroro.
Ngano dzemadzimai vakashandura kusuruvara kuita simba
Kunyangwe nyaya idzi dzichibva kuna amai vari kunze kwenyika, kusuruvara hakuna nyika, rudzi, kana chitendero. Kunzwa ikoko kwakajairika kune wese munhu. Uye ndizvo zvakaitawo simba remunhu rekukunda kusuruvara. Tarisa kuti vanaamai ava, mushure mekurasikirwa nevarume vavo mukurwiswa kwemagandanga kwakangoerekana kwaitika, vakatsungirira sei kusuruvara ikoko ndokudzivirira vana vavo nenzanga.
Nyaya yaLaura: Kumira Nemwana
Laura aiva nemwanakomana ane makore mana ekuberekwa ane zvirwere zvakasiyana, anonziwo autistic, ainzi Willie. Laura nemurume wake vakachengeta Willie pamwe chete. Asi mushure mekunge murume wake afa kamwe kamwe, mutoro waWillie wakawira pamafudzi aLaura.
Mwanakomana wacho aishungurudzika zvikuru nekurasikirwa nababa vake. Akakanganwa zvinhu zvaakanga adzidza nababa vake, semuenzaniso, nzira yekuenda kuchimbuzi ari ega. Aitarisira kuti baba vake vaizodzoka. Sezvo aisagona kutaura, aingogona kuramba achiti "kusuruvara" nemutauro wemasaini.
Panguva iyi, chinhu chakakosha chaifanira kuitwa naLaura kwaive kuendesa mwanakomana wake kuchikoro chakanaka. Akazviita, kunyangwe zvaive zvakaoma zvikuru. Zvishoma nezvishoma, mwanakomana wake akapora. Iye zvino ava kurangarira baba vake nemufaro. Laura ari kushanda kuti avake chikoro chakakosha chemwanakomana wake nevamwe vana vane autism. Zvaive zviroto zvake nemurume wake.
Kana ukaisa kusuruvara kwako parutivi woitira mumwe munhu anovimba newe chimwe chinhu, izvozvo pachazvo zvinova simba guru rekurarama.
Nyaya yaPatricia: Kubatsira Vamwe Kutambura
Patricia akanga afirwa nemumwe wevanasikana vake nekuda kwepneumonia makore matanhatu chiitiko ichi chisati chaitika. Mwanakomana wakewo akafawo munjodzi imwe cheteyo. Asingakwanise kutsungirira marwadzo, akaenda kunoona chiremba wepfungwa , kana kuti chiremba wepfungwa. Chiremba akamupa mishonga yekudzora marwadzo uye yekunyaradza.
Haana kugumira ipapo. Akasarudza kuti aida kubatsira vamwe vaitambura saiye. Akavamba boka rekutsigira munharaunda yake kune dzimwe mhuri dzakarasikirwa nevadikanwi. Iye zvino, kuburikidza nazvo, vanhu vazhinji vakawana mukana wekugovana kuchema kwavo nekuwana rugare rwepfungwa.
"Dai mwanakomana wangu ari pano, angadai achidada neni zvikuru," anodaro Patricia. Akatsunga kuita kuti chimwe chinhu chakanaka chibude murufu rwevana vake .
Ndedzipi dzimwe nzira dzekubatsira kutsungirira kushungurudzika?
Kubva munyaya idzi, tinogona kuona kuti vanaamai ava vakatsungirira kuchema kwavo nenzira dzakasiyana. Asi vese vakawana chinangwa. Ngatipfupisei izvi patafura.
| Maitiro ekugadzirisa dambudziko racho | Tsananguro nemuenzaniso |
|---|---|
| Kuwana chinangwa chitsva | Kuzvipira kwaLaura kumwanakomana wake ane zvinodiwa zvakakosha uye kuedza kwake kutanga chikoro chevamwe vana vakaita saiye. |
| Kubatsira vamwe | Patricia akatanga boka rekutsigira avo vaichema saiye, achinzwa kuti akanga asiri ega uye achiwana nyaradzo mukushandira vamwe. |
| Kurwira shanduko | Vamwe vanaamai vaviri (Sally naDomenica) vakaumba boka rekukurudzira shanduko dzemitemo yekuchengetedza kuvaka kuitira kuti vamwe vasatambura nedambudziko rakafanana nerevana vavo. |
| Kuramba wakasimba kumhuri | Diana, achiedza kuva akasimba pamberi pevana vake. Pavaida kuchema, iye aichema ari ega kuti ave musana wakasimba (musana wakasimba) kwavari. |
| Kubatsirwa nevamwe | Diana anoti rutsigiro rwevamwe vakadzi munharaunda rwakamusimbisa zvikuru. Hazvina kunaka kuva wega uri mukuchema, uye haufanirwe kuva wega. |
Unonzwa kusuruvara zvakanyanya here pamazuva akakosha?
Kana ukarasikirwa nemunhu waunoda, zvinogona kurwadza zvikuru pazviitiko zvakakosha zvakaita semazuva ekuzvarwa, Zuva reGore Idzva, uye Zuva raAmai. Zvakajairika. Heano zvimwe zvinhu zvinogona kukubatsira munguva dzakadaro.
- Gamuchira manzwiro ako: Kana uchisuruvara uye uchida kuchema, rega zvidaro. Usavhare manzwiro ako uchifunga kuti, "Ndinofanira kuva nesimba." Kushungurudzika inzira inotora nguva. Hazvisi zvinhu zvaunogona kungoti, "Zvakanaka, zvakwana."
- Unganai nemhuri: Pane kuva wega, unganai nevamwe vemumhuri. Kana uri amai vane vana, mutoro wekuedza kuita se "amai vanofara " unodzikira zvishoma kana uri nevamwe vanhu.
- Zviitire chimwe chinhu: Ita chimwe chinhu chaunofarira. Geza zvakanaka, verenga bhuku, enda kunzvimbo inozorodza, isa masaji. Zvakakosha kuti uzvitarisire zvakanaka.
- Rangarira munhu wawakarasikirwa naye nerudo: bika chikafu chaaida womupa zvipo, dzokera kunzvimbo yawakaenda naye, tarisa mifananidzo yake, uye taura nevamwe nezvezvaakayeuka nezvake.
- Tsvaga mazano echiremba: Dzimwe nguva kushungurudzika uku kunogona kukukurira. Kana usingakwanise kurara, usingade kudya, kana kuti usingakwanise kuita mabasa ako ezuva nezuva, taura nachiremba wako kuti akupe mazano. Kana zvichidikanwa, achakutumira kuna chiremba wepfungwa . Kukumbira rubatsiro hakusi chiratidzo chekushaya simba, chiratidzo chesimba.
Kufirwa kunokonzerwa nekuvhunduka kamwe kamwe kunogona kuoma kutsungirira kupfuura kufirwa kwakajairika, saka zvakakosha kuwana rubatsiro munguva dzakadaro.
Mharidzo Yekuenda Nayo Kumba
- Zvakajairika kunzwa kusuruvara zvakanyanya kana wafirwa nemunhu waunoda. Hazvina kuipa kunzwa kusuruvara kana kuchema. Zvibvumire kunzwa manzwiro iwayo.
- Nguva inotora kuti munhu anzwe kusuruvara yakasiyana kune wese munhu. Usazvimanikidza kufunga kuti, "Ndinofanira kukurumidza kupedza dambudziko iri."
- Usatambura uri wega. Goverana kusuruvara kwako nemhuri yako neshamwari. Zvinozorodza zvikuru.
- Kuwana chinangwa chitsva, sekubatsira vamwe kana kutarisira avo vanovimba newe, vakaita sevana, kunogona kuva simba guru rekurarama.
- Kana uri kurwadziwa zvisingatsungiririki kana kuti uri kushungurudzika mupfungwa, usazeza kuona chiremba wako uye kutsvaga mazano echiremba. Ichi chiratidzo chesimba.
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