Ngaba ucinga izihlandlo ezilikhulu ngaphambi kokuba uqale into ethile, 'Kuthekani ukuba ndenza impazamo encinci?' Okanye uchitha iintsuku uxhalabile ngesiphoso esincinci emsebenzini wakho? Ngaba uvakalelwa kukuba yonke into kufuneka igqibelele ngokupheleleyo, okanye ungumntu osilelayo? Kunzima kakhulu ukuphila nolu hlobo lovakalelo. Namhlanje siza kuthetha ngolu loyiko lugqithisileyo, okanye igama lezonyango lalo yi -Atelophobia .
Ngamafutshane, yintoni i-Atelophobia?
I-Atelophobia luloyiko olugqithisileyo nolungalawulekiyo lokwenza iimpazamo, lokuba kufuneka ugqibelele . Abantu abanolu loyiko bazigweba ngokuqatha. Bazibekela iinjongo eziphezulu abangenakukwazi ukuzifezekisa. Baxhalabile ngeempazamo zangaphambili, okanye bahlala besoyika ukwenza iimpazamo kwixesha elizayo.
Le meko inokukhokelela ekuxhalabeni kakhulu, ekudandathekeni , ekungazithembi, kwanasekuhlaselweni luloyiko .
Ingaba oku kwahlukile kwi-Perfectionism?
Ewe. Kukho umahluko omncinci phakathi kwezi zimbini.
- Ukuthanda ukugqibelela luphawu lobuntu. Kuthetha ukuba uzama ukwenza yonke into ngomgangatho ophezulu kakhulu, uzama ukugqiba umsebenzi ngaphandle kweziphako.
- I-Atelophobia yinto engaphaya koko. Luloyiko lokwenene (uloyiko) lokwenza iimpazamo. Umntu onolu loyiko uzama ukuphepha nayiphi na imeko apho acinga ukuba angenza impazamo. Ubona ithuba elinjalo njengosongelo olukhulu.
Olu loyiko lunokuchaphazela yonke into ebomini babo. Lunokuchaphazela umsebenzi wesikolo, umsebenzi, ubomi bosapho, kunye nobudlelwane nabantu.
Zithini izizathu ze-atelophobia?
Kunzima ukukhomba isizathu esinye esibangela ukuba olu hlobo loloyiko lukhule kwiimeko ezininzi. Nangona kunjalo, kukho izinto ezininzi ezinokubangela ukuba ube nale meko.
- Iziganeko ezibuhlungu kwixesha elidlulileyo: Khawuthelekelele ukuba wohlwaywa kabuhlungu okanye wahlaziswa ngempazamo encinci owayenzayo usengumntwana. Emva koko, ingqondo yakho engaphantsi kwengqondo inokurekhoda umyalezo othi 'ukwenza iimpazamo yinto eyingozi'.
- Imbali yosapho: Ukuba umntu kusapho lwakho uneengxaki zempilo yengqondo ezifana nokoyika kunye neengxaki zokuxhalaba, usenokuba sengozini yokuhlaselwa yile meko.
- Ezinye iimeko zengqondo: Ukuba sele unenye ingxaki yokoyika okanye yokuxhalaba, le meko inokwenzeka ngakumbi.
- Indawo yokukhulela: Amanye amakhaya aneenkolelo eziqinileyo ezifana nokuthi 'awunakwenza iimpazamo' kunye nokuthi 'kufuneka wenze yonke into ngokuchanekileyo okokuqala'. Umntu okhulele kwindawo emenza azive ngathi 'kungakhathaliseki ukuba wenza ntoni na, akwanelanga' unokuba nolu loyiko.
Ziziphi iimpawu ze-atelophobia?
Le meko inokubangela iimpawu ezininzi zengqondo nezomzimba. Makhe sijonge le theyibhile ingezantsi ukuze siziqonde kakuhle ezi mpawu.
| Uhlobo oluneempawu | Izinto onokuzibona |
|---|---|
| Iimpawu zengqondo kunye nokuziphatha |
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| Iimpawu zomzimba ezinokwenzeka ngexesha lokuhlaselwa luloyiko |
Ugqirha uyibona njani le nto?
Akukho vavanyo lwegazi okanye iskeni ethile yokuxilonga i-atelophobia. Ugqirha wakho uza kwenza uhlolo olupheleleyo lweempawu zakho aze akubuze umbuzo oneenkcukacha malunga noloyiko lwakho. Kubalulekile ukuxelela ugqirha wakho kangangoko unako malunga neemvakalelo zakho kunye nezinto ezibangela loo nto.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuba la manqaku alandelayo ayasebenza kuwe, ugqirha wakho unokugqiba kwelokuba une-Atelophobia.
- Ukuba uziphepha ngabom iimeko apho ucinga ukuba ungenza impazamo.
- Ukuba ubunale mpawu kangangeenyanga ezintandathu nangaphezulu.
- Ukuba uziva uxhalabile kakhulu xa ucinga ngokwenza impazamo.
- Ukuba olu loyiko luchaphazele indlela osebenza ngayo ekhaya, emsebenzini, okanye esikolweni.
Okubalulekileyo kukuba, le meko inokudibana nezinye iingxaki ezininzi zempilo yengqondo. Umzekelo , i-Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) , i-Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) , kunye nezinye iingxaki zokuxhalaba zinokwenzeka kunye.
Ziziphi iindlela zonyango zale meko?
Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba kukho unyango olusebenzayo lokulawula nokunyanga le meko. Ugqirha wakho uza kukunceda ukhethe unyango olulungele wena.
| Indlela yonyango | Kalula nje... |
|---|---|
| Unyango lokuziphatha kwengqondo (i-CBT) | Olu luhlobo lonyango olufana neengcebiso. Lukunceda utshintshe indlela ozijonga ngayo iimpazamo. Lukunceda uqonde ukuba iimpazamo azikokusilela, kodwa ngamava okufunda. Lukunceda uchonge ukuba yintoni ebangela uloyiko lwakho. |
| Unyango lokuvezwa | Into oyenzayo apha kukuzibeka kancinci kancinci kwizinto ozoyikayo kwindawo ekhuselekileyo nelawulwayo. Emva koko ufunda indlela yokujongana nezo zoyiko endaweni yokulwa nazo. |
| Utshintsho kwindlela yokuphila | Ukutya okunesondlo kunye nokuzilolonga rhoqo kunokunceda kakhulu ekuphuculeni impilo yakho yengqondo. Kwakhona, ukuzilolonga ngokuphefumla nzulu, i-yoga, kunye nokucamngca kunokunceda ukulawula ixhala. |
| Amayeza | Amayeza awayi kususa unobangela woloyiko lwakho. Kodwa anokunceda ukulawula iimpawu ezifana nokudakumba kunye noxinzelelo oluza ne-atelophobia. Amayeza okudakumba okanye amayeza okulwa noxinzelelo anokuthatyathwa kuphela ngomyalelo kagqirha . |
Ndifanele ndimbone nini ugqirha?
Ukuba uvakalelwa ngolu hlobo, musa ukuba neentloni okanye ukoyika. Kubalulekile ukucela uncedo. Ingakumbi ukuba uhlangabezana nayo nayiphi na kwezi zilandelayo, ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kufuneka ubone ugqirha.
- Ukuba uziva ungakhululekanga kangangokuba awukwazi ukwenza imisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla ngenxa yokoyika ukwenza iimpazamo.
- Ukuba ufumana iimpawu zokuhlaselwa luloyiko (ezifana neentlungu zesifuba ezikhawulezayo, ubunzima bokuphefumla, ukubila).
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- I-Atelophobia ayisiyonto ubuyicinga. Yimeko yezonyango eyaziwayo. Ngoko ke musa ukuba neentloni ngokuziva ngaloo ndlela.
- Le meko inzima kakhulu kunokuba nje "ngumntu othanda ukugqibelela." Inokuba nefuthe elikhulu ebomini bakho.
- Ukwenza iimpazamo yinxalenye yobomi bethu sonke njengabantu. Kungoko sifunda lukhulu kwezo mpazamo.
- Le yimeko enokunyangeka ngokupheleleyo ngonyango. Ngoko ke musa ukubandezeleka wedwa, qiniseka ukuba uthetha nogqirha wakho kwaye ufumane uncedo.
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