Siyazi ukuba ukuhlala nesifo esinzima esifana nomhlaza akulula. Wonke umntu ujongene nalo mceli mngeni ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba, "Ndinamandla, ndingakwazi ukumelana nale nto ndedwa." Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha yonke into inzima kwaye kukho amaxesha apho uziva unesizungu kakhulu. Yinto eqhelekileyo leyo. Ngamaxesha anje, kubaluleke kakhulu ukwakha iqela lenkxaso, inethiwekhi yenkxaso, eya kuba lapho kuwe ngamaxesha amnandi nanzima.
Kutheni ungena kwiqela lenkxaso?
Ukujoyina iqela lenkxaso nabantu abaye badlula kwiimeko ezifanayo nezakho kunokuba luncedo olukhulu. Apho unokwabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho, uloyiko lwakho, iintlungu zakho, amathemba akho, konke ngaphandle koloyiko. Kuba wonke umntu apho udlula kwinto efanayo nawe.
Cinga ngako oku, endaweni yokuxelela usapho lwakho ngokulahlekelwa kwakho ngumdla wokutya emva konyango okanye ukulahleka kweenwele, kuyathuthuzela ngakumbi ukuthetha nomntu oye wadlula kwimeko efanayo. Baza kukuxelela indlela abajongana ngayo nezo ngxaki, unyango olubasebenzele, kunye nento abayenzileyo ukunciphisa iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga.
Xa ukwiqela elinje, uyaqonda ukuba, "Andingomntu ndedwa ojongene noku, baninzi nabanye abanam." Loo mvakalelo yodwa iya kuba ngumthombo omkhulu wamandla kuwe.
Kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zamaqela enkxaso afana nala.
- Amaqela enzelwe izigulane zomhlaza kuphela.
- Amaqela apho ungathatha inxaxheba kunye nomnakekeli wakho oyintloko (mhlawumbi iqabane lakho okanye ilungu losapho).
- Amaqela ahlukeneyo kwiintsapho okanye kubantwana.
Ungafumana ulwazi oluthe kratya ngala maqela ngokubuza ugqirha wakho okanye isibhedlele ofumana kuso unyango.
Musa ukoyika ukucela uncedo kwabanye.
Siyazi, ingakumbi ukuba ungumntu obesenza yonke into wedwa kwaye ephila ngokuzimela, kunokuba nzima kancinci ukucela uncedo kwabanye. Kodwa inyani yile, usapho lwakho nabahlobo bakho bonke balindele ukukunceda. Kodwa abazi ukuba benze ntoni.
Ngoko ke ukuba umntu ukubuza athi, "Ufuna ndikwenzele ntoni?", yiba nempendulo elungele wena. Mvumele athathe inxaxheba ebomini bakho, nokuba zincinci. Luvuyo kuwe nakubo.
| Iindawo onokucela kuzo uncedo | Imizekelo yezinto onokuzicela |
|---|---|
| Umsebenzi Wasekhaya | "Ungandilungiselela uze undiphathele isidlo sasemini namhlanje?" "Ungazihlamba iimpahla?" "Ungaya evenkileni uyokundithengela ukutya?" |
| Iintlanganiso zoogqirha | "Ungaya esibhedlele nam? Ndifuna uncedo lokubhala phantsi oko ugqirha akuthethayo." "Ndikhumbuze ngemibuzo ekufuneka ndiyibuze ngaphambi kwedinga elilandelayo." |
| Iishedyuli kunye neefayile | "Ungandikhumbuza ukuba ndithathe nini amayeza am?" "Ungandinceda ndicwangcise ifayile yeinshorensi kunye neengxelo?" "Ungandinceda ndicwangcise amaxesha okutyelela iqela?" |
| Uncedo oluncinci | "Ungathanda ukuhamba nenja?" "Ndingathanda ukutya ukutya, ukuba kunokwenzeka, ungandizisela kona?" |
Izinto ekufuneka uzikhumbule xa usamkela uncedo
Xa usiya kugqirha: Xa uxoxa ngonyango, ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba nzima ukukhumbula yonke into ngaxeshanye. Ukuba uhamba nomhlobo okanye ilungu losapho, banokukubhala izinto ezibalulekileyo baze bakubuze imibuzo onokuthi ungayilibali ukuyibuza.
Musa ukoyika ukuthi "hayi": Ngezinye iintsuku ungaziva udiniwe kakhulu. Ukuba umntu ucela ukuba uze kumtyelela ngexesha elinjalo, ungoyiki ukuthi, "Namhlanje kunzima kancinci, singadibana ngolunye usuku?" Abantu abakuthandayo ngokuqinisekileyo baya kuyiqonda imeko yakho. Ukuba umntu ukuphathele ukutya, kodwa awukwazi ukukutya kwangoko, yithi, "Enkosi kakhulu, ndiza kukutya oku kamva" uze ukufake efrijini.
Xela into oyifunayo ngokuthe ngqo: Musa ukulindela ukuba abanye baqikelele into oyicingayo okanye into oyifunayo. Nokuba bafuna ukukunceda, basenokungazi ukuba benze ntoni. Ngoko ke, thetha into efana nokuthi, "Ndifuna uncedo oluncinci ...". Baza kukuvuyela kakhulu ukukwenza oko ukuba ubaxelela into oyifunayo, nokuba kukufowuna ngokukhawuleza okanye umyalezo obhaliweyo.
Inkxaso ekwi-intanethi ikwayindlela elungileyo.
Mhlawumbi awufuni ngokwenene ukujoyina iqela okanye ukuthetha ngezi zinto nabantu obaziyo. Kwimeko enjalo, ungajoyina amaqela enkxaso akwi-intanethi, oko kukuthi, amaqela onokunxibelelana nawo kwi-intanethi.
Ezi zikunika ithuba lokwabelana ngeengcinga zakho nabantu abavela kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zehlabathi abanamava afana nawe. Kunokubakho iiforam ezizinikele kwizihloko ezibalulekileyo kuwe, ezifana ne-chemotherapy okanye iziphumo ezahlukeneyo ze-chemotherapy.
Kodwa khumbula, xa ujoyina iqela elikwi-intanethi, kufuneka ujonge ukuba lithembekile kangakanani na. Ezinye iindawo zinokuba nolwazi olungachanekanga. Ke ngoko, kungcono ukubuza ugqirha wakho ngale nto kwaye ujoyine indawo ethembekileyo ayicebisayo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Musa ukuziva ngathi uwedwa xa ulwa nomhlaza. Baninzi abantu abanokukunceda baze bakuphulaphule.
- Joyina iqela lenkxaso elinabantu abaye baba namava afana nawe. Liza kukunika intuthuzelo enkulu.
- Vumela usapho lwakho nabahlobo bakho bakuncede. Banomdla wokuba ngamandla akho.
- Cacisa kwaye uthethe ngqo ngoncedo olufunayo. Baza kuluxabisa.
- Ukuba udiniwe, ungoyiki ukwala okanye ukulibazisa ukutyelela kwakho. Impilo-ntle yakho yeyona nto ibalulekileyo.
- Amaqela enkxaso akwi-intanethi lukhetho olufanelekileyo, kodwa ngaphambi kokuba ujoyine, thetha nogqirha wakho ngalo mba kwaye ukhethe indawo onokuyithemba.
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