Kule mihla, sele kuqhelekile kwiintsapho ezininzi ukuba abazali bobabini basebenze. Ngoko ke, ukufumana umntu wokunyamekela umntwana omtsha okanye indawo ekhuselekileyo yokuhlala ngumceli mngeni omkhulu. Ngaphezu kokuthenga amathoyizi kunye neempahla zomntwana, ukufumana inkonzo yokunyamekela abantwana esemgangathweni yeyona nto ibalulekileyo. Ngoko ke masithethe ngale nto namhlanje.
Qala kwangethuba ukuze ufumane indawo elungileyo.
Ukufumana iziko lokunyamekela abantwana elilungileyo akuyonto ilula. Ezinye iindawo ezilungileyo zinoluhlu olude lokulinda ukubhalisa abantwana. Ke ngoko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqala ukukhangela indawo elungileyo kwangoko xa ulindele umntwana wakho, ingakumbi kwiinyanga ezintathu zokugqibela zokukhulelwa. Eyona nto ilungileyo onokuyenza kukubuza abahlobo bakho, izalamane, kunye nabamelwane ngale nto. Baza kukuxelela ngeendawo ezilungileyo abazaziyo. Khumbula,
ukhuseleko kunye nentlalo-ntle yomntwana kuza kuqala. Usenokuba neendlela ezininzi onokukhetha kuzo:
- Amaziko Okunyamekela Abantwana Asemthethweni: Ezi ziindawo ezibhalisiweyo kurhulumente kwaye ziqhutywa ngokwemigaqo nemigaqo.
- Ukhathalelo Lomntwana Losapho: Abanye abantu bakhetha ukunyamekela abantwana abaninzi emakhayeni abo. Oku kungaba lolona khetho lulungileyo.
- Umongikazi: Ungafumana nomntu oza kutyelela ikhaya lakho aze anakekele umntwana.
- Izalamane nabahlobo: Kwilizwe lethu, ootatomkhulu noomakhulu badla ngokunyamekela abantwana abancinci. Le yenye yeentsikelelo ezinkulu umntwana anokuzifumana.
Ngubani onokunika unyango olungcono?
Iingcali ezininzi zophuhliso lwabantwana zithi kungcono
ukuba abazali bazinyamekele ngokwabo abantwana babo , ukuba kunokwenzeka, kwiiveki zokuqala neenyanga ezimbalwa zobomi bomntwana.
Iintsana ezincinci zifuna ubudlelwane obuhle, uthando, kunye nokusebenzisana rhoqo nabanakekeli bazo. Kungcono ukufumana oko kubazali bazo.
Iiveki zokuqala ezi-6 zobomi bomntwana zibaluleke kakhulu. Umntwana usandul’ ukufika kwihlabathi kwaye uqhelana nemeko yasekhaya. Kwakhona, xa umntwana omncinci ekwindawo enabantu abaninzi, amathuba okufumana izifo ezosulelayo ezifana
nomkhuhlane aphezulu. Kungcono ukukhusela umntwana kuloo ngozi ngokukhawuleza. Abanye abazali balungisa iishedyuli zabo zomsebenzi ukuze bobabini abazali batshintshisane ngokunyamekela umntwana. Umzekelo, bobabini abazali basebenza kancinci kwaye bachithe ixesha labo lonke nomntwana. Nangona oku kungenakwenzeka kuwo wonke umntu, kufanelekile ukukucinga.
Xa ukhetha indawo elungileyo, cinga ngezi zinto ngokukodwa:
Nokuba ukhetha luphi uhlobo lwendawo, kufuneka uphande ngononophelo ezi zinto ngaphambi kokuba ukhethe loo ndawo. Musa ukuyityelela kube kanye uze wenze isigqibo.
Yityelele ubuncinane kabini okanye kathathu. | Inyani ephawulekayo | Oko kufuneka ukujonge |
|---|
| Abanakekeli | Ngaba abantu abasebenza apho baphatha abantwana ngothando nangobubele? Ngaba bayathetha nabantwana, bacula iingoma, kwaye badlala nabo? Ngaba banika umntwana ngamnye ingqalelo efanayo? |
| Indalo esingqongileyo kunye nokukhuthaza | Ngaba kukho indawo eyaneleyo kunye nezinto zokudlala zabantwana? Ngaba kukho iimoto ezintle ezixhonywe phezu kwebhedi yomntwana? Ngaba kukho indawo evuselelayo enezandi nemibala enceda ingqondo yomntwana ikhule? |
| Ucoceko kunye nococeko | Ingaba indawo icocekile? Jonga ukuba ucoceko lugcinwe kwiindawo ezifana nekhitshi kunye neendawo zokutshintsha iinapukeni. |
| Umlawuli kunye nabasebenzi | Dibana kwaye uthethe nomphathi kunye nabanye abasebenzi. Jonga ukuba ungabathemba na kwaye uvumelane nabo. |
| Izimvo zabanye abazali | Thetha nabanye abazali abasele bethumele abantwana babo apho uze ubone ukuba bayavuya na ngale ndawo. |
Ukuba umntu uza endlwini... (Ukuba nguNanny)
Ukuba ukhetha umnakekeli ukuba eze ekhayeni lakho aze anakekele umntwana wakho,
kufuneka umphande ngononophelo. Cela iireferensi ezivela kwiindawo asebenze kuzo ngaphambili. Ngaba uthembekile kwaye unoxanduva? Uza kuziphatha njani nomntwana wakho okokuqala? Lumka kuzo zonke ezi zinto.
Umlinganiselo onjani phakathi kwabantwana nabanakekeli?
Ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana ufumana ingqalelo ayidingayo, kufuneka kubekho umda kwinani labantwana elinokugcinwa ngumsebenzi omnye. Nazi izilinganiso ezicetyiswa yimibutho yamazwe ngamazwe efana ne-American Academy of Pediatrics.
| Iqela Lobudala | Ixabiso elicetyiswayo (ngomntu ngamnye onyamekela umntu) |
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| Iintsana ezingaphantsi kweenyanga ezingama-24 | 1 kubantwana abathathu |
| Iinyanga ezingama-25 ukuya kuma-30 | 1 kubantwana abane |
| Iinyanga ezingama-31 ukuya kwezingama-35 | Umntwana omnye kwabahlanu |
| Iminyaka emi-3 | Umntwana omnye kwabasixhenxe |
| Iminyaka emi-4 ukuya kwemi-5 | Umntwana omnye kwabasibhozo |
Ukongeza kwezi nombolo, buza malunga
nokutshintsha kwabasebenzi . Indawo apho abasebenzi batshintsha rhoqo ayilunganga kumntwana. Kuba xa umntwana eqhele umntu omnye, uya kuhamba. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntwana abone ubuso obuzinzileyo nobuqhelekileyo.
Imali, umgangatho kunye nophuhliso lwengqondo
Ixabiso leendawo zokugcina abantwana lingahluka ngokweengingqi. Kodwa zama ukukhetha
eyona nkonzo ilungileyo ngemali yakho. Ukuqesha umntu oza kukunyamekela ekhaya kudla ngokuba yindlela ebiza kakhulu. Kodwa ukuba unako ukuyihlawula, yindlela elungileyo kwiminyaka emibini ukuya kwemithathu yokuqala yobomi bomntwana wakho. Kodwa xa umntwana wakho eneminyaka emi-3-4 ubudala,
ukusebenzisana nabantu kubalulekile ekuphuhliseni kwakhe. Kubaluleke kakhulu ngelo xesha ukufunda nokudlala kunye kwiqela.
Ngaba iziko olikhethayo libhalisiwe kwiiarhente zikarhulumente ezifanelekileyo?Khangela kwakhona. Ekubeni ezo ndawo zihlala zivavanywa, kukho umgangatho othile. Okokugqibela, khumbula, unyaka wokuqala wobomi bomntwana
lixesha apho umzimba nengqondo yakhe zikhula ngokukhawuleza. Ngeli xesha, ukufundela umntwana wakho amabali, ukuthetha naye, nokucula iingoma kubaluleke kakhulu ekuphuhliseni ingqondo yakhe. Ukuba umntwana ukhulela kwindawo ezolileyo apho kungekho mntu uthetha naye, uphoswa lixesha elibalulekileyo ekuphuhliseni kwakhe.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukuba umntwana wakho udinga indawo yokugcina abantwana, qala ukuyijonga ngexesha olibeleyo.
- Ukuba kunokwenzeka, kungcono ukubonelela ngononophelo lwabazali kwiinyanga zokuqala zobomi bomntwana.
- Ngaphambi kokuba ukhethe indawo, yityelele izihlandlo ezininzi uze ujonge imeko-bume yayo, ucoceko, kunye nendlela abasebenzi abaziphatha ngayo nabantwana.
- Qaphela umlinganiselo womntwana nomqeshwa kunye nozinzo lwabasebenzi.
- Khetha indawo ekhuthazayo (ukuthetha, ukucula, ukudlala) enceda ingqondo yomntwana wakho ikhule.
- Ukuba uneenkxalabo okanye amathandabuzo, thetha nogqirha wosapho lwakho ngaloo nto.
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