Ucinga athi: "Hayi bo... mhle kakhulu kunangaphambili, ndiyamthanda kakhulu!" Ucinga athi: "Ndiza kuhlanza, ndibuthathaka kakhulu, ndifana nebhaluni... ukuba undichukumisa, ndiza kukhwaza!" Ewe, yile nto ithethwa kukukhulelwa. Ngeli xesha, ubomi bothando bezibini ezininzi bufana nokukhwela i-roller coaster. Akukho namnye kubo onokuqikelela ukuba kuza kwenzeka ntoni, ukuba uza kuziva njani, okanye ukuba omnye umntu uza kuziva njani. Ngaba ukhe waba namava afanayo? Ngoko ke ungoyiki. Masithethe ngayo.
Indlela yokuthintela ubomi bakho bothando
Kuqhelekile ukuba abantu abatshatileyo bafumane ukuphazamiseka okuncinci kubudlelwane babo ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Zininzi izizathu zoku.
Utshintsho lweehomoni emzimbeni ,
utshintsho lweemvakalelo ngequbuliso,
ukudinwa okunganyamezelekiyo, iingcinga malunga nokutshintsha kwemizimba yabo, uloyiko ngekamva, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukungakwazi ukulala ngesondo njengoko kuyalelwe ngoogqirha konke oku kunokuchaphazela oku. Nangona nobabini kufuneka nisondelelane ngeli xesha, ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka okwahlukileyo. Kunokubakho umgama omkhulu weemvakalelo phakathi kwenu. Khawuthelekelele, ukuziva ngathi ukusondelana enaninako ixesha elide kuye kwaphela ngequbuliso, kodwa akukho namnye kuni oqondayo ukuba kutheni.
Ngamafutshane, abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba ukusondelelana kuthetha ukulalana kuphela. Ngoko ke ukuba oko akunakwenzeka, bacinga ukuba kufuneka babe bodwa. Leyo yimpazamo enkulu.
Iingcali zithi ukulalana yindlela ekuphela kwayo yokufumana uthando phakathi kwabantu ababini. Nokuba awukwazi ukukwenza oko, zininzi ezinye iindlela onokugcina ngazo ulwalamano lwenu luqinile.
Ukuchukumisana, ukugobana, ukuhlala kunye nokuthetha, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha nokugobana nje ungenampahla nokwabelana ngaloo mvakalelo kunokunceda kakhulu ekuqiniseni ulwalamano lwenu.
Incoko yeyona nto ibalulekileyo.
Eyona nto inamandla enokubangela iimvakalelo zothando phakathi kwabantu ababini
kukunxibelelana . Xa uthetha ngamaphupha akho, amathemba akho, uloyiko lwakho, iminqweno yakho eyimfihlo, kuyawuqinisa umanyano lwakho. Kodwa nantsi ingxaki. Khawucinge nje, ufuna nje ukugoba uze ubeke intloko yakho egxalabeni lomyeni wakho. Kodwa ucinga ukuba sisimemo sokuba nesondo. Xa ezama ukulala, uyamlahla. Ekugqibeleni, uyacaphuka, nizive nibuhlungu, kwaye nobabini nizive ninetyala. Yintoni ehambe kakubi apha? Kulula.
Bekungekho nxibelelwano, akukho kuqondana phakathi kwenu nobabini. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukwenza iqabane lakho liqonde. Xa uthi, "Andifuni ukulala ngesondo ngoku," akuthethi ukuba uyamlahla yena okanye ubudlelwane benu. Ngelo xesha, ingqalelo yakho epheleleyo igxile kumntwana osesibelekweni sakho, nakwinto eyenzekayo emzimbeni wakho.Menze aqonde ngothando ukuba uvakalelwa ngolu hlobo ngenxa
yotshintsho oluvela kwibhayoloji .
Ngamanye amaxesha oku kunzima nakwindoda.
Nangona umfazi okhulelweyo esenokungafuni ukulala naye, oku akusoloko kunjalo. Ngamanye amaxesha
indoda isenokuba neemvakalelo ezahlukeneyo malunga nokuba nesondo. Nangona ikuthanda, ingazama ukuzikhwebula kancinci kuwe. Esinye isizathu soku kukuba ikubona 'njengomama' kuphela. Ukuba umfazi uzijonga 'njengomama' kuphela aze enze njengaye, kwaye ukuba umyeni wakhe umbona 'njengomama' kuphela, kunokuba ngumqobo omkhulu kulwalamano olusondeleyo. Ke ngoko, ngelixa 'ungumama', ungalibali ukuba nawe ungumfazi onothando kwaye ungumntu othandana ngesondo. Enyanisweni, amadoda amaninzi afumana abafazi bawo abakhulelweyo benomtsalane ngamaxesha onke, nokuba imizimba yabo yahluke kangakanani na. Xa nikuqonda oku, nobabini ninokuhlala nithandana njengangaphambili. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuqonda nokuhlonipha iimfuno zomnye nomnye. Umzekelo, indoda inokunika
umfazi wayo i-massage yeenyawo aziva ekhululekile ngayo. Umfazi unokuziqonda iimfuno zomyeni wakhe aze amncede azive onwabile, nokuba akalali.
Oku akuthethi ukuzinyanzela ukuba wenze into ongafuni ukuyenza, kuthetha ukucinga ngeemfuno zomntu omthandayo nokumenzela indawo kangangoko unako.
Iindlela ezisi-7 ezisebenzayo zokugcina uthando ngexesha lokukhulelwa
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso ezisebenzayo zokukunceda ugcine uthando kunye nobudlelwane obusondeleyo kulwalamano lwakho.
| Ingcebiso | Kwenziwe ntoni |
|---|
| 1. Musani ukuthatha isondo nomnye nomnye njengento elula. | Cinga nje ngexesha lokuqala uthandana. Awusoloko ulindele ukuba nesondo, kodwa unqwenela loo nto. Ngoko ke ziphathe ngothando ngendlela enokufezekisa loo mnqweno. |
| 2. Qala ukuncwina kwakhona. | Xa ubomi buxakekile emva komtshato, uyalibala ngezinto eziqale ubudlelwane. Zikhumbule ezo zinto kwakhona. Yenzani intlekisano, nithethe ilizwi lothando, nize nithandane. |
| 3. Yiba 'nobusuku bokuthandana' kanye ngeveki | Bekani bucala usuku olunye ngeveki lwenu nobabini kuphela. Musani ukuthetha ngokupeyinta igumbi lomntwana okanye ukumthiya igama ngelo xesha. Thethani ngani nobabini kuphela. Qhubekani nalo mkhwa nokuba umntwana sele ezelwe. |
| 4. Yongeza into emangalisayo kulwalamano | Yenza into omnye umntu angayicingiyo. Hlamba ngamakhandlela, bukela imuvi eniyithandayo nobabini, mnike isipho esingalindelekanga. Nokuba yinto encinci inokwenza umahluko omkhulu. |
| 5. Madoda: Mphatheni ngothando umfazi wenu okhulelweyo. | Mphathe ngendlela efanayo nothando owawunalo xa naqala ukudibana. Oku kuya kumenza azive ekhululekile kwaye kunincede nobabini nisondelelane. |
| 6. Kubafazi: Yenza umyeni wakho abe liqabane ngexesha lokukhulelwa | Nangona kulula ukuthetha ngokukhulelwa kwakho nomhlobo wakho osenyongweni okanye umama wakho, kubalulekile ukwabelana ngezi zinto nomyeni wakho. Mse kugqirha , nize nenze i- ultrasound scan kunye. Ukuba kukho isizathu sezonyango sokuba kutheni ningakwazi ukulala, cela ugqirha wakho akuncede usicacisele umyeni wakho. |
| 7. Kuni nobabini: Yibani nomdla wokulondoloza ubudlelwane. | Musa ukuvumela ubudlelwane bakho bubuyele umva. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ulwalamano lwakho luyaphela, yenza into ngokukhawuleza. Lungiselela ubudlelwane bakho kunye nomnye nomnye njengoko ubuya kwenza into exabisekileyo. |
Ekugqibeleni, eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuphathana ngovelwano, ukuqondana, nothando. Nangona eli lixesha elinzima, likwalixesha elimnandi xa umntu omtsha efika ebomini bakho.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Kuqhelekile ukuba ubudlelwane bothando kubudlelwane butshintshe ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Ungakhathazeki, awuwedwa.
- Ukusondelelana akupheleli nje ekubeni nesondo. Ukuwolana, ukuthetha, nokubambana ngezandla kubaluleke ngokufanayo.
- Ukuthetha ngokukhululekileyo nangothando neqabane lakho malunga neemvakalelo zakho, uloyiko lwakho, kunye neemfuno zakho sesona sisombululo silungileyo.
- Ngamanye amaxesha nobabini ninokuziva nisoyika kwaye nixhalabile ngeli xesha. Endaweni yokutyholana, zamani ukucinga ngendlela omnye acinga ngayo.
- Ukuba uneengxaki zempilo okanye amathandabuzo malunga nokulalana ngesondo, qiniseka ukuba uqhagamshelana nogqirha wakho.
Ukukhulelwa, ubudlelwane, isondo, uthando, ukusondelelana,
ukukhulelwa , unxibelelwano
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