Ngaba nawe ngequbuliso uziva ulusizi okanye unomsindo xa umntwana wakho encancisa? Masithethe nge-D-MER (Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex)!

Xa uba ngumama omtsha, umzimba nengqondo yakho zitshintsha kakhulu, akunjalo? Ngamanye amaxesha, xa ulungele ukuncancisa umntwana wakho, okanye ngaphambi kokuba ubisi lwakho luqale ukuphuma emabeleni akho, ngaba ngequbuliso uziva ulusizi kakhulu, unomsindo, okanye ukhathazekile ngaphandle kwesizathu? Oku akukokwakho wedwa. Namhlanje, siza kuthetha ngale mvakalelo ingaqhelekanga.

Yintoni i-D-MER (i-Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex)?

Ngamafutshane, i-D-MER yimeko echaphazela oomama abancancisayo, okanye oomama abampompa ubisi. Yimvakalelo engathandekiyo efika ngequbuliso engqondweni yakho ngaphambi kokuba ubisi lwakho luphume (ubisi luyeke). Oku kuhlala ixesha elifutshane, malunga nomzuzu okanye emibini, kodwa kunokuba yingxaki kakhulu (i-dysphoria) kwaye kuyacaphukisa. Ngamanye amaxesha, unokuziva ngolu hlobo xa ubisi lwakho luphuma ngokungalindelekanga (ubisi luyekeke ngengozi). Oku kuqhelekile ngexesha lokuncancisa.

Into ebalulekileyo kukuba le yindlela yokuzilolonga , oko kuthetha ukuba ayisiyonto onokuyilawula. Ayisiyongxaki engqondweni yakho, ayisiyonto yokuba awufuni ukuncancisa umntwana wakho, ayisiyonto yokuba iingono zakho zibuhlungu. Yinto yomzimba ngokupheleleyo. Ngokophando lwangoku, ibangelwa lutshintsho olukhawulezileyo kwiikhemikhali emzimbeni wakho, ezizezi iihomoni .

Uphando lusaqhubeka malunga nokuba i-D-MER ixhaphake kangakanani. Olunye uphando lubonisa ukuba phakathi kwe-5% kunye ne-9% yoomama abancancisayo banokuyifumana le meko. Ayinxulumananga ngokuthe ngqo nokudakumba emva kokuzalwa (PPD) okanye ixhala emva kokuzalwa . Nangona kunjalo, abanye oomama banokufumana i-D-MER kunye ne-PPD okanye ixhala.

Uziva njani ngexesha le-D-MER? (Iimpawu)

Eyona nto uyivayo ngexesha le-D-MER kukuqala ngequbuliso kweengcinga neemvakalelo ezimbi. Ezi zifika ngokukhawuleza kwaye zinyamalale kwisiqingatha somzuzu ukuya kwimizuzu emibini. Okubaluleke kakhulu, ezi mvakalelo ziza kuphela xa amabele akho sele eza kuthotywa. Xa ubisi luqala ukungena, zonke ezo mvakalelo zimbi ziyanyamalala.

Usenokuziva ezi mvakalelo nge-D-MER:

• Ukuziva ulusizi olukhulu nokudana.
• Ukungazithandi , ukuzihlonipha okuphantsi.
• Ukuziva utyhwatyhwa/uloyiko , ngokungathi kukho into ebambeke esiswini, okanye kukho into embi eza kwenzeka.
• Umsindo , usizi, okanye ukungazinzi ngaphandle kwesizathu.
• Ixhala okanye ukucaphuka.

Khumbula, i-D-MER ayinxulumananga nezinye iingxaki zomzimba ezinxulumene nokuncancisa, njengentlungu yeengono okanye ukuminyana kwebele. Nangona kunjalo, ezi mvakalelo zinokuba nzulu kangangokuba abanye oomama banokuziva befuna ukuyeka ukuncancisa okanye ukumpompa.

Kubaluleke kakhulu: Ngamanye amaxesha ezi mpawu zinokuba nzima kakhulu kwaye zikhokelele kwiingcinga zokuzibulala . Ukuba ukhe waba neengcinga zokuzilimaza okanye zokuzilimaza omnye umntu, nceda ufune ingcebiso kagqirha ngokukhawuleza. Iimpawu ze-D-MER zinokuba nzima nangakumbi ukuzilawula koomama abanesifo sokudakumba emva kokubeleka (PPD).

Kutheni oku kusenzeka? (Izizathu ze-D-MER)

Nangona le meko ingekaqondwa ngokupheleleyo, izifundo ezininzi zibonisa ukuba iihomoni zezona zibangela. Ngokukodwa, ibangelwa kukwehla ngequbuliso kwamanqanaba ehomoni ebizwa ngokuba yi-dopamine emzimbeni. I-Dopamine yihomoni enxulunyaniswa neemvakalelo zolonwabo nolwaneliseko. Izifundo ezininzi zibonise ukuba amanqanaba aphantsi e-dopamine anokuchaphazela kakubi iimvakalelo zethu kunye neemvakalelo zethu.

Cinga ngale ndlela: xa uncancisa umntwana wakho, umzimba wakho ukhupha iihomoni ezibizwa ngokuba yi-prolactin (ihomoni ebalulekileyo ekuveliseni ubisi) kunye ne -oxytocin . Xa umntwana wakho encanca (okanye uqala ukupompa), yile homoni ebizwa ngokuba yi-oxytocin ebangela ukuba ubisi luphume emabeleni akho (ukukhupha ubisi/ukuyeka). Le homoni, i-oxytocin, isebenza ngokunciphisa amanqanaba e-dopamine. Oko kuthetha ukuba amanqanaba akho e-dopamine ayehla.

Ngenxa yezizathu abaphandi abangaziqondi ngokupheleleyo, amanqanaba e-dopamine kwabanye oomama ehla ngokukhawuleza kakhulu . Kulapho ke ngequbuliso baziva belusizi kunye nezinye iimvakalelo ezimbi. Oku kubizwa ngokuba yi-D-MER.

Kodwa ezi mvakalelo zimbi zezokwexeshana . Oomama abaninzi baxela ukuba xa amanqanaba akho e-prolactin kunye ne-oxytocin ebuyela esiqhelweni, imeko yakho iya kuzinza kwimizuzu embalwa.

Khumbula, i-D-MER yindlela eyenzeka ngayo emzimbeni, hayi engqondweni. Ayithethi ukuba udandathekile, unomsindo kumntwana wakho, okanye awufuni ukuncancisa. Ukuba ucinga ukuba usenokuba ne-D-MER, kunokuba luncedo kakhulu ukuthetha nogqirha wakho, umbelethisi, okanye umcebisi wobisi.

Ugqirha uyazi njani ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba le yi-D-MER? (Ukuxilongwa)

Ngenxa yokuba akukho phando lungako nge-D-MER, akukho kuxilongwa ngokusemthethweni kwayo okwangoku. Ugqirha wakho uza kuthetha nawe ngeempawu zakho, ukuba zenzeka nini, nokuba zinzima kangakanani. Khumbula, i-D-MER yenzeka kuphela xa uncancisa okanye ukhupha amanzi, kwaye iyaphela emva kwexesha elithile. Inkcazo ecacileyo yeempawu zakho kunye nokuba zenzeka nini kuya kunceda ugqirha wakho aqonde okwenzekayo.

Singenza ntoni ukuba sine-D-MER? (Unyango kunye noLawulo)

Ngenxa yokuba abaphandi bengekayiqondi ngokupheleleyo le meko, akukho 'nyango' luthile lwe-D-MER. Nangona kunjalo, kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokukunceda ulawule iimpawu zakho kwaye ujongane nale meko.

Nazi ezinye zeendlela ezisetyenziswa kakhulu ukulawula iimpawu ze-D-MER:

• Yandisa ukunxibelelana kolusu nomntwana wakho: Ukuba uncancisa, zama ukubamba umntwana wakho kufutshane nawe kangangoko unako. Olu chukumiso lunokunciphisa amanqanaba akho e-cortisol (i-hormone enxulumene noxinzelelo), lunciphise izinga lokubetha kwentliziyo yakho, kwaye lukwenze uzive uzolile. Kanye njengentuthuzelo esiyivayo xa sibambe umntwana omncinci.
• Ukucamngca okanye ukuphefumla nzulu: Eyona nto iphambili kukuzama ukuzola ingqondo. Oku kunciphisa ixhala kunye noxinzelelo. Phefumla nzulu ngempumlo yakho kwaye ukhuphe umoya kancinci ngomlomo wakho. Ukwenza oku imizuzu embalwa ngemini kunokwenza umahluko omkhulu.
• Fumana ezinye iindlela zokuphumla: Fumana i-massage ethambileyo ngaphambi kokuba uncancise, mamela ingoma oyithandayo, okanye ucwilise kwi-tub efudumeleyo. Ezi zinto zinokukunceda uphumle kwaye uhlangabezane ngcono xa i-D-MER ifika.
• Ziphazamise: Xa uziva unesicaphucaphu, zama ukujolisa ingqalelo yakho kwenye into. Mhlawumbi ungatya ukutya okulula, ubukele into ethile kwiTV, okanye ufunde incwadi ngelixa ucinga ngento esengqondweni yakho. Ngokusisiseko, kukugcina ingqondo yakho ixakekile yenye into xa loo mvakalelo imbi ifika.
• Fumana inkxaso: Inkxaso ibaluleke kakhulu kuwe ukuze ukwazi ukumelana ne-D-MER. Isenokuba liqabane lakho, umhlobo osenyongweni, okanye iqela lenkxaso le-D-MER elikwi-intanethi. Fumana abantu abaza kukuphulaphula, bathethe nawe, kwaye bakukhathalele. Kwakhona kukwanamandla amakhulu ukwazi ukuba awuwedwa.

Le meko iza kuhlala ixesha elingakanani?

Oku kuyahluka kumntu nomntu. Kubantu abaninzi, i-D-MER iyaphela kancinci kancinci emva kweenyanga ezintathu. Iya isiba mandundu njengoko umntwana ekhula. Nangona kunjalo, kukho abanye abaye bafumana i-D-MER de bayeke ukuncancisa ngokupheleleyo. Ngoko ke, kunzima ukutsho ukuba uza kuba nayo ixesha elingakanani. Kodwa khumbula, ayisiyonto ehlala ihleli kwiimeko ezininzi.

Ngaba oku kungathintelwa?

Hayi, awunakuyithintela i-D-MER. Kodwa kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba kukho abantu abanokukunceda kwaye le meko ayibangelwanga yinto oyenzileyo. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uthathe uxanduva ngayo.

Ngaba i-D-MER luphawu lokudakumba emva kokubeleka (PPD)?

Hayi, i-D-MER ayilophawu lokuba unesifo sokudakumba emva kokubeletha (PPD) okanye esinye isifo sengqondo emva kokubeletha. Nangona ezinye zeempawu zifana, i-D-MER yenzeka kuphela xa ubisi lwakho luza kungena kwaye luphele ngokukhawuleza. Nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba ube nemeko efana ne-PPD ngelixa une-D-MER. Ukuba iingcinga neemvakalelo ezimbi ozifumanayo zinamandla ngakumbi ngaphandle kokuncancisa, okanye ukuba zibonakala zisiba mandundu imihla ngemihla, nceda uthethe nogqirha wakho.

Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uzikhathalele!

Nangona abanye abantu bengaqondi, i-D-MER yimeko yokwenyani. Ngethamsanqa, idla ngokuba yeyokwexeshana, kwaye kukho iindlela zokukunceda uhlangabezane nayo. Zama ukulawula iimpawu zakho ze-D-MER usebenzisa iindlela ezikhankanyiweyo apha ngasentla. Ngamanye amaxesha, kunokuba luncedo kakhulu ukwazi ukuba unesifo sokwenyani kwaye abanye oomama bahlangabezana nezinto ezifanayo.

I-D-MER ingakwenza ufune ukuyeka ukuncancisa. Ukuba oku kunempembelelo enganyamezelekiyo kwimpilo yakho yengqondo nakwimpilo-ntle yakho, ukutshintshela kwifomyula kungaba lolona khetho lufanelekileyo kuwe nakumntwana wakho. Kulungile. Musa ukuba neentloni ngayo loo nto. Ukuba ukuncancisa akusebenzi kuwe, asilotyala lakho.

Ufanele uye nini ngokuqinisekileyo kugqirha?

Akukho nto imbi ngokucela uncedo. Ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zinamandla kakhulu kwaye kunzima ukuzinyamezela, kunokuba luncedo kakhulu ukuthetha nogqirha wakho okanye ingcali yokuncancisa. Kubalulekile ukuthetha ngokukhululekileyo nangokunyanisekileyo ngeemvakalelo zakho. Kunokuba luncedo nokubhala phantsi iimvakalelo zakho ephepheni uze uzibonise ugqirha wakho. Nceda wazi ukuba kukho abantu abanokukunceda, kwaye awuwedwa.

Ukuba, nangaliphi na ixesha, uneengcinga zokuzilimaza okanye zokuzilimaza omnye umntu, nceda ufune ingcebiso kagqirha ngokukhawuleza.

Izinto ekufuneka uzikhumbule ekhaya

Ukuncancisa akuyonto imnandi kuye wonke umntu. Ukuba ufumana iimvakalelo ezimbi ezifana nomsindo okanye usizi xa unciphisa ubisi lwakho, usenokuba ne-D-MER, okanye i-Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex.

• Awuwedwa. Oku kuyenzeka nakwabanye oomama.
• Asikuko oku okubangela ingxaki. Awenzanga nto imbi.
• Akukho nto "ingalunganga" ngawe. Le yimpendulo yomzimba.
• Xelela ugqirha wakho ngendlela oziva ngayo. Baza kukuxelela iindlela ezilungileyo zokujongana noko ukuvayo.
• Ngamanye amaxesha, ukwazi nje ukuba kukho igama laloo nto uyivayo kunokukunceda uzive ngathi awuwedwa. Ungakhathazeki, lukho uncedo.

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